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Regular meet or one off, what's better?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So we wondered if anyone else is looking for long term friendships rather than one off sex, we tend to think it gets better with time, what is everyone else's view, the excitement of one off sex or regular? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Both fill different needs.
My wife prefers one off meets but I like getting to really know people.
So the correct answer is what ever you yourself prefer |
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"Both fill different needs.
My wife prefers one off meets but I like getting to really know people.
So the correct answer is what ever you yourself prefer"
I think this sums it up well, it’s another personal preference I think |
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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago
shropshire |
"I go into every meeting with the mindset it’s a one off... If it becomes more , I’m happy...
If it doesn’t, I’m fine with that also...."
Yeah I agree...
Nice to make friend along the way makes it more fun more laughs banter
BUT its also nice to have that one off when its something you want to cross off the ill try that once list lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I much prefer regular...the sex defo gets better...I also like overnights...no wham-bam...lots of men on here seem to want wham-bam it seems. Not for me though |
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One-offs have their place, and we all know that buzz of meeting someone new, for that first time........but I feel like my name is just being ticked off a list. I much prefer repeat meets with likeminded people, which is how I have built up a nice circle of regular friends  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think regular is good,the more you get to know somebody,the better the connection,and that equals better sex.
However there's a very small risk that feelings could develop,and if one party is not for that,it can make things awkward.
At least with one off's you dont have that risk,and sometimes that's why it's better meeting a couple,as it will always only be no strings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But how can determine if someone will become a regular playmate?
I’ve had horrible first meets , that have turned into long term playmates and I’ve had in my mind great first meets that I never heard from again.... |
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"So we wondered if anyone else is looking for long term friendships rather than one off sex, we tend to think it gets better with time, what is everyone else's view, the excitement of one off sex or regular? "
I have always preferred to not do too many repeat meets. I've made the odd exception but rarely |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the one off.
I've had nice one night stands with people that have worked out as we knew each other but random Fab one-offs have had a bit too much tension in the room, I've found. Satiating but not satisfying.
A regular fuck is ideal though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If (we) are going to meet anyone from Fab, it will hope be more than just a one off with a stranger and never see them again,hopefully.
I am more into some sort of connection )whatever that is) Than a quick sex craving fix, if that makes sense.
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"Definitely regular, trust builds & its more fun having sex with a good friend. You can learn what works (& what doesn't) & I like overnight stays too"
Sex with a good friend - love that description. It is more fun pushing each other’s boundaries when you know someone well too |
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Definitely regular as it gets better with a connection. But to get to regular, you first have to meet and see if there is a connection or not. In the process, it becomes either a one-off or a regular. The experimentation to find out is part of the process.
Profiles asking for a regular thing when you don’t even know the person yet is like asking to walk before you can crawl. |
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"Definitely regular, trust builds & its more fun having sex with a good friend. You can learn what works (& what doesn't) & I like overnight stays too"
Exactly this ^^
Love to anticipate the meet with a regular friend (when I can find one!!)
Excitement can always be introduced by adding others to the mix together with ones buddy now & then...... |
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Remember every regular was a one off ( or at least a first) at some point, so you have to know what you want from the play, is the intention only to see them once or is the intention to make them a regular partner....... no point planning them to be a regular partner if they are shit and you don’t click in the way you both hoped |
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A bit of both for us as wife has found a couple of guys she really enjoys having fun with at club and feels safe going of alone to rooms with them ,would like to find a regular couple to have fun with instead of one off meets myself as I enjoy having the husband watching |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we wondered if anyone else is looking for long term friendships rather than one off sex, we tend to think it gets better with time, what is everyone else's view, the excitement of one off sex or regular? "
I'd take either atm  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If we find cpls we click with then regular meets will be fine. If we decided to meet guys for 3somes or more on the future then it will be one offs as some guys can get pushy and want more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We like a bit of both, random one off meets are really horny, but we do enjoy regular meets with people we class as friends first and foremost. Theres definitely benefits to both situations  |
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By *.L.0460.Woman
over a year ago
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When I first joined Fab, I restricted myself to one-offs & refused the possibility of repeat invites.
On hindsight, I think I was protecting myself from facing rejection.
Nowadays I'm a little more confident & rejection wouldn't hurt my feelings or my self esteem, so I would like to find someone regular. It's actually not that easy though!!
One day I'd like to find someone that I could have a bit of a connection with & enjoy a little company outside the bedroom as well as in it occasionally!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I first joined Fab, I restricted myself to one-offs & refused the possibility of repeat invites.
On hindsight, I think I was protecting myself from facing rejection.
Nowadays I'm a little more confident & rejection wouldn't hurt my feelings or my self esteem, so I would like to find someone regular. It's actually not that easy though!!
One day I'd like to find someone that I could have a bit of a connection with & enjoy a little company outside the bedroom as well as in it occasionally!!
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Me too |
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"So we wondered if anyone else is looking for long term friendships rather than one off sex, we tend to think it gets better with time, what is everyone else's view, the excitement of one off sex or regular? "
Long term only for us. No interest in one offs. |
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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield |
A regular friend with benefits would be nice (applications on a postcard...) but I have to admit I do enjoy the thrill of meeting someone new at a club, which often tends to be a one-off or very occasional thing. I've always enjoyed the 'sex with strangers' side of one-offs. |
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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago
Kingston upon Thames |
One offs have been great in both Madrid and Surrey ... but we have a regular Spanish "lover" for me ... that offers something else itself. It is all about different experiences on different nights. x Anne |
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