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Male doms are rare too.
Most people who call themselves doms are not really. They are tops. A dom is always a top but a top isn't always a dom.
There are a lot of women who are tops too but they don't feel the need to publicise it.
Supply and demand says that you are less likely to find exactly what you are looking for. Being on the submissive side of the kneel can be very frustrating but you need to keep looking and not let the frustration get the better of you
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"Male doms are rare too.
Most people who call themselves doms are not really. They are tops. A dom is always a top but a top isn't always a dom.
There are a lot of women who are tops too but they don't feel the need to publicise it.
Supply and demand says that you are less likely to find exactly what you are looking for. Being on the submissive side of the kneel can be very frustrating but you need to keep looking and not let the frustration get the better of you
I hope it works out for you OP."
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What you seek is better sought on other sites that are dedicated for that particular style of kink.
They won’t be here necessarily to find a Dom/sub they are probably here to fulfil other aspects of their lives.
But they are here and I hope you find what you seek |
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"What you seek is better sought on other sites that are dedicated for that particular style of kink.
They won’t be here necessarily to find a Dom/sub they are probably here to fulfil other aspects of their lives.
Thanks.
But they are here and I hope you find what you seek "
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I wouldnt say Femdoms are rare, just on a site like this, they choose to keep it quiet, or maybe use this site for more sexual meets.
There really arent any decent dedicated Femdom sites, the popular one isnt really made for meeting, just exchanging kinks. Think FAB if it was just the forums. Im not saying you wont find someone there, but youve got just as much chance on FB  |
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Dommes are people, with their own tastes.
A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!
(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)
I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.
It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it! |
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"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.
A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!
(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)
I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.
It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!"
This is it, it’s the same as anything else really. There’s such an abundance of men who enjoy being dominated and vice versa, it’s not solely a reason to match with someone, it’s only the very bare minimum. It has to be a much deeper connection really |
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"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.
A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!
(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)
I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.
It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!
This is it, it’s the same as anything else really. There’s such an abundance of men who enjoy being dominated and vice versa, it’s not solely a reason to match with someone, it’s only the very bare minimum. It has to be a much deeper connection really "
Worded far better than my attempt! |
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"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.
A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!
(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)
I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.
It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!"
True... And a true sub will do what she asks, not his to do list. |
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"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.
A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!
(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)
I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.
It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!
This is it, it’s the same as anything else really. There’s such an abundance of men who enjoy being dominated and vice versa, it’s not solely a reason to match with someone, it’s only the very bare minimum. It has to be a much deeper connection really "
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"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.
A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!
(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)
I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.
It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!
This is it, it’s the same as anything else really. There’s such an abundance of men who enjoy being dominated and vice versa, it’s not solely a reason to match with someone, it’s only the very bare minimum. It has to be a much deeper connection really
Worded far better than my attempt!"
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"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.
A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!
(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)
I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.
It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!"
Exactly this! |
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"Where are the dominant woman....?
Best suited finding them another site
They are here too, I will wait, patiently.
You'll be waiting a long time.
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It will worth it. I do have some experience in the past an. It's not only that . The difficulty is first meet. It's a swing site. Should I say that I also speak Italian, french, I understand Spanish, speak a few words in German and Russian, that I went to university? It will help? |
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"Where are the dominant woman....?
Best suited finding them another site
They are here too, I will wait, patiently.
You'll be waiting a long time.
It will worth it. I do have some experience in the past an. It's not only that . The difficulty is first meet. It's a swing site. Should I say that I also speak Italian, french, I understand Spanish, speak a few words in German and Russian, that I went to university? It will help?"
I wouldn't have thought so, unless they're multi lingual too.
You really need to put the effort in. I never go looking for a sub. |
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"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.
A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!
(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)
I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.
It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!"
This.
Not to mention too many sub men are whiny and annoying |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.
A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!
(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)
I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.
It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!
This.
Not to mention too many sub men are whiny and annoying "
I find 'sub' men who have contacted me quite selfish. And just want me to do things to them. I am naturally a dominant woman but that doesn't mean any 'sub's man will do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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submissive and dominant can mean so many things most of which have zero to do with kink or bdsm ... its really down to the person looking and what they want ..not some pigeon hole |
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"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.
A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!
(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)
I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.
It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!
This.
Not to mention too many sub men are whiny and annoying
I find 'sub' men who have contacted me quite selfish. And just want me to do things to them. I am naturally a dominant woman but that doesn't mean any 'sub's man will do."
A sub should do what you like, your pleasure is his pleasure/ reward. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Dommes are people, with their own tastes.
A Domme isn't likely to want to meet a man purely because he’s submissive and wants what she likes to do. That’s where most subs confuse a Dominant woman with a Pro Domme, who is a professional, and doesn’t need to like and be interested in the sub, because she’s being paid!
(I think I'm using the terms correctly, but might be wrong!)
I’m a Dominant woman, but men approach me all the time, assuming I’ll want to Dominate them just because it’s their fantasy. We need to like and fancy a man in order to want to play with him.
It’s not a niche enough kink that women need to be grateful just to find a bloke who’s into it!
This.
Not to mention too many sub men are whiny and annoying
I find 'sub' men who have contacted me quite selfish. And just want me to do things to them. I am naturally a dominant woman but that doesn't mean any 'sub's man will do."
More fool them, mutal agreed and beneficial kinks and boundaries are essential. |
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When it comes down to it, the only thing most subs want to ‘serve’ is their own need to feel submissive and used. So the Domme is essentially serving the sub, most of the time.
There’s a reason most Dommes turn out to be professionals. It’s hard work. It requires imagination, planning, equipment, expertise, and most of all, constant vigilance to ensure a sub’s safety and comfort. A sub gets to lose all sense of self and volition, follow orders, and be a vessel. The Domme has to mastermind the entire operation, plus aftercare, whilst also keeping alert and in character.
Ergo, most of us need to like/fancy/respect/love you a HELL of a lot in order to Dominate you.
Either hire a professional and tell Her exactly what you want, or, tell your partner about your desire to be submissive. Do it early enough in the relationship, and she might even fall in love with D/s as she falls in love with you. |
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"A sub should do what you like, your pleasure is his pleasure/ reward."
Kind of. There is a balance to be found.
Let's say Dominant A decides that she wants you to wear her collar. She likes the cut of your jib. She just wants you to clean her boots tho. That's all. She gets off on seeing you lick the dust of her favourite Nike Airs. You were kinda hoping she would fuck your brains out and make you clean up the cum that drips from her onto the floor.
You have found your dominant but it's unfulfilling. It doesn't mean you are not submissive. Nor does it mean she's not a dominant. You have just got the wrong dynamic. You got nothing from doing the thing she wants from you.
Now if you are a little foot subbie, cleaning her shoes might bring you close to ecstacy. It might be heaven.
Not every person with a dominant personality is a Dominant. And not every Dominant is looking for sex.
Like LLL said, doing a good scene requires a lot of preparation, concentration and aftercare. (Paraphraseing)
That effort isn't just thrown around.
Finding a dominant that matches your kink might be hard here (as was stated above by quite a few peoole)
Finding a switch might be easier but still hard.
My advice is still to go look at websites that cater for that aspect of kink. Go find yourself a munch or a club night and stop being passive. Go be part of the community you want to part of. Stay here by all means. Be part of this community too. But atm you are looking for a pin in a field of haystacks
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"A sub should do what you like, your pleasure is his pleasure/ reward.
Kind of. There is a balance to be found.
Let's say Dominant A decides that she wants you to wear her collar. She likes the cut of your jib. She just wants you to clean her boots tho. That's all. She gets off on seeing you lick the dust of her favourite Nike Airs. You were kinda hoping she would fuck your brains out and make you clean up the cum that drips from her onto the floor.
You have found your dominant but it's unfulfilling. It doesn't mean you are not submissive. Nor does it mean she's not a dominant. You have just got the wrong dynamic. You got nothing from doing the thing she wants from you.
Now if you are a little foot subbie, cleaning her shoes might bring you close to ecstacy. It might be heaven.
Not every person with a dominant personality is a Dominant. And not every Dominant is looking for sex.
Like LLL said, doing a good scene requires a lot of preparation, concentration and aftercare. (Paraphraseing)
That effort isn't just thrown around.
Finding a dominant that matches your kink might be hard here (as was stated above by quite a few peoole)
Finding a switch might be easier but still hard.
My advice is still to go look at websites that cater for that aspect of kink. Go find yourself a munch or a club night and stop being passive. Go be part of the community you want to part of. Stay here by all means. Be part of this community too. But atm you are looking for a pin in a field of haystacks
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"A sub should do what you like, your pleasure is his pleasure/ reward.
Kind of. There is a balance to be found.
Let's say Dominant A decides that she wants you to wear her collar. She likes the cut of your jib. She just wants you to clean her boots tho. That's all. She gets off on seeing you lick the dust of her favourite Nike Airs. You were kinda hoping she would fuck your brains out and make you clean up the cum that drips from her onto the floor.
You have found your dominant but it's unfulfilling. It doesn't mean you are not submissive. Nor does it mean she's not a dominant. You have just got the wrong dynamic. You got nothing from doing the thing she wants from you.
Now if you are a little foot subbie, cleaning her shoes might bring you close to ecstacy. It might be heaven.
Not every person with a dominant personality is a Dominant. And not every Dominant is looking for sex.
Like LLL said, doing a good scene requires a lot of preparation, concentration and aftercare. (Paraphraseing)
That effort isn't just thrown around.
Finding a dominant that matches your kink might be hard here (as was stated above by quite a few peoole)
Finding a switch might be easier but still hard.
My advice is still to go look at websites that cater for that aspect of kink. Go find yourself a munch or a club night and stop being passive. Go be part of the community you want to part of. Stay here by all means. Be part of this community too. But atm you are looking for a pin in a field of haystacks
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