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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Wondering something here - as a guy whenever I go for a massage it’s pretty much standard that I’ll be offered “extras”. Sometimes I take the plunge sometimes I don’t. But, is it the same for women too? I never hear anything about it but find it hard to believe it’s an exclusive offer only to men. Have any of you ever been offered anything? If so what was your reaction? |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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No. Never heard of anyone I know , male or female, being offered extras with a massage either. Possibly depends on the type of place you visit for a massage.
My last massage was at the spa at the Old Course Hotel in St Andrews, cost a fortune but definitely no 'extras' |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"No. Never heard of anyone I know , male or female, being offered extras with a massage either. Possibly depends on the type of place you visit for a massage.
My last massage was at the spa at the Old Course Hotel in St Andrews, cost a fortune but definitely no 'extras'"
Yeah all the ones I go to are high street Thai places. I suppose country clubs, hotels etc have to stay squeaky clean for the wider reputation. Is it something you’d like to be offered if the situation arose? |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
"No. Never heard of anyone I know , male or female, being offered extras with a massage either. Possibly depends on the type of place you visit for a massage.
My last massage was at the spa at the Old Course Hotel in St Andrews, cost a fortune but definitely no 'extras'
Yeah all the ones I go to are high street Thai places. I suppose country clubs, hotels etc have to stay squeaky clean for the wider reputation. Is it something you’d like to be offered if the situation arose?"
No. Not something that appeals to me at all. |
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I visited one of the better Thai places once (still known for a good massage and extras too) and while waiting in the rather luscious waiting room, I saw a couple, male and female, leave one of the treatment rooms together followed by a gentleman that worked there I ashumed, I wonder what treatment they had received together. |
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In a former life as a PT, I once massaged a lady because she had an oedema that was really painful.
I then did her back and shoulders at which point she reached, pulled my cock out and gave me one hell of a bj.
She was a very hot, married lady and I really wasn't expecting it.
Perhaps women don't need the offer? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No. Never heard of anyone I know , male or female, being offered extras with a massage either. Possibly depends on the type of place you visit for a massage.
My last massage was at the spa at the Old Course Hotel in St Andrews, cost a fortune but definitely no 'extras'
Yeah all the ones I go to are high street Thai places. I suppose country clubs, hotels etc have to stay squeaky clean for the wider reputation. Is it something you’d like to be offered if the situation arose?
No. Not something that appeals to me at all. "
That’s interesting, anything in particular that puts you off? It’s interesting to see the different expectations between male and females, like even though I don’t go for extras all the time, I would at least appreciate the offer (unless of course it was somewhere I wouldn’t expect anything like that, family hotels etc, then I’d be a bit creeped out lol) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never when having a normal massage no.
If seeking a male masseuse for a tantric, sensual, or yoni massage then that's different. Some sort of sexual relief is normally advertised or agreed upfront as part of the service. It's usually fingering. Can be oral or sex too xx |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
"No. Never heard of anyone I know , male or female, being offered extras with a massage either. Possibly depends on the type of place you visit for a massage.
My last massage was at the spa at the Old Course Hotel in St Andrews, cost a fortune but definitely no 'extras'
Yeah all the ones I go to are high street Thai places. I suppose country clubs, hotels etc have to stay squeaky clean for the wider reputation. Is it something you’d like to be offered if the situation arose?
No. Not something that appeals to me at all.
That’s interesting, anything in particular that puts you off? It’s interesting to see the different expectations between male and females, like even though I don’t go for extras all the time, I would at least appreciate the offer (unless of course it was somewhere I wouldn’t expect anything like that, family hotels etc, then I’d be a bit creeped out lol)"
Because I have gone to have a relaxing massage, by a trained professional, nothing else. |
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"Never when having a normal massage no.
If seeking a male masseuse for a tantric, sensual, or yoni massage then that's different. Some sort of sexual relief is normally advertised or agreed upfront as part of the service. It's usually fingering. Can be oral or sex too xx"
Confused as to why a lady on here would need this service.
Surely, men are queuing round the block to fulfill a woman's needs ?  |
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If I went for a musculoskeletal massage and the therapist tried to touch me anywhere than the area we had discussed prior, I hope they are prepared for a visit from the Police 
I cannot believe for a second that a reputable massage therapist would do anything sexual because its simply not permitted to advertise sexual services of that nature.
I don't generally get massages in spa hotels etc anymore because my medical conditions generally make them go  |
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We found a guy on here with his own massage salon in town. After a few conversations Mark arranged a “special” massage for me.
I have to say we really enjoyed it, so much so we go once a month now lol
Jxx |
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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago
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I guess... -warming huge stereotypes here- there's the presumption that women don't have to pay for it. I would guess an extra is a charged affair.
Also the presumption that men are more sexual than women.
And I guess it's also about the venue people attend?
For the record.... I haven't been offered... and whilst the fantasy excites me ... I wouldn't want to pay for it! |
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"Wondering something here - as a guy whenever I go for a massage it’s pretty much standard that I’ll be offered “extras”. Sometimes I take the plunge sometimes I don’t. But, is it the same for women too? I never hear anything about it but find it hard to believe it’s an exclusive offer only to men. Have any of you ever been offered anything? If so what was your reaction?"
Hell no!!! Total turn off knowing someone is making you cum because you’re paying them ... just no |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In a former life as a PT, I once massaged a lady because she had an oedema that was really painful.
I then did her back and shoulders at which point she reached, pulled my cock out and gave me one hell of a bj.
She was a very hot, married lady and I really wasn't expecting it.
Perhaps women don't need the offer?"
I find that disturbing really. I've massaged on a professional basis in the past and there are strict limits for both therapist and client.
Your client in effect "assaulted" you as you hadn't given consent. Imagine if it had been the other way round?
It's these sort of expectations make it difficult for professionals to work safely. In this case you enjoyed it but equally it could have compromised you and your reputation as a professional. |
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"In a former life as a PT, I once massaged a lady because she had an oedema that was really painful.
I then did her back and shoulders at which point she reached, pulled my cock out and gave me one hell of a bj.
She was a very hot, married lady and I really wasn't expecting it.
Perhaps women don't need the offer?
I find that disturbing really. I've massaged on a professional basis in the past and there are strict limits for both therapist and client.
Your client in effect "assaulted" you as you hadn't given consent. Imagine if it had been the other way round?
It's these sort of expectations make it difficult for professionals to work safely. In this case you enjoyed it but equally it could have compromised you and your reputation as a professional. "
God yes.
I've felt momentarily uncomfortable when a massage therapist has brushed past me when it might be construed that I'm touching their groin. (Like, my hand is there, they brush past) it's an accident, etc, and I'm sure they knew, but... Sheesh, boundaries |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In a former life as a PT, I once massaged a lady because she had an oedema that was really painful.
I then did her back and shoulders at which point she reached, pulled my cock out and gave me one hell of a bj.
She was a very hot, married lady and I really wasn't expecting it.
Perhaps women don't need the offer?
I find that disturbing really. I've massaged on a professional basis in the past and there are strict limits for both therapist and client.
Your client in effect "assaulted" you as you hadn't given consent. Imagine if it had been the other way round?
It's these sort of expectations make it difficult for professionals to work safely. In this case you enjoyed it but equally it could have compromised you and your reputation as a professional. "
So glad you wrote this! I just haven't stopped shaking my head! |
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"I've never been offered extras but I go for a professional massage with a qualified therapist so wouldn't expect it."
Funny you should say that because I went to a professional massage therapist once and she gave me the best 2 hour massage ever. Near the end she said, on a few occasions, “have I covered everywhere” - I didn’t think much of it, when I said “yes” she asked “are you sure” - after a little while the butt cheeks got some attention and she began getting closer and closer to the groin and butthole and boom, there it was! Wasn’t expecting AT ALL, however, she was a stone cold fox so I did not complain lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A professional massage therapist, booked for a relaxation, therapeutic or remedial massage should never offer extras. But you'd be surprised how many clients skirt around the issue in conversation, or start moving their hips or moaning, presumably in the hope of something special. Why they can't just ask, I'll never understand. And I know of several male and female therapists who will oblige - IF AND ONLY IF they're asked. Consent on both sides is everything.
Yes, it's totally against industry guidelines and wrought with difficulties. Is it dangerous for the therapist? Fucking hell yes. You may not agree with it, but it happens.
Here on Fab is another story altogether though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A professional massage therapist, booked for a relaxation, therapeutic or remedial massage should never offer extras. But you'd be surprised how many clients skirt around the issue in conversation, or start moving their hips or moaning, presumably in the hope of something special. Why they can't just ask, I'll never understand. And I know of several male and female therapists who will oblige - IF AND ONLY IF they're asked. Consent on both sides is everything.
Yes, it's totally against industry guidelines and wrought with difficulties. Is it dangerous for the therapist? Fucking hell yes. You may not agree with it, but it happens.
Here on Fab is another story altogether though."
I have one or two moves that would dampen the ardour of any client expecting more.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've had a few female masseuses in the usual spas and beauty salons but on one occasion I had a male masseuse and geez, it was a heightened experience.
By the time he had finished with the massage, I was on the verge of exploding with sexual tension.
It has been the basis for several fantasies since, where an extra is slipped in during a back masage. Definitely on the to do list.
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"A professional massage therapist, booked for a relaxation, therapeutic or remedial massage should never offer extras. But you'd be surprised how many clients skirt around the issue in conversation, or start moving their hips or moaning, presumably in the hope of something special. Why they can't just ask, I'll never understand. And I know of several male and female therapists who will oblige - IF AND ONLY IF they're asked. Consent on both sides is everything.
Yes, it's totally against industry guidelines and wrought with difficulties. Is it dangerous for the therapist? Fucking hell yes. You may not agree with it, but it happens.
Here on Fab is another story altogether though.
I have one or two moves that would dampen the ardour of any client expecting more. "
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I am very good at massage and I would love to come and massage ur wives or both of u as a couple or even just single women and yes I will give u a full intimate massage with nice hot oils xxx hope to hear from u soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wondering something here - as a guy whenever I go for a massage it’s pretty much standard that I’ll be offered “extras”. Sometimes I take the plunge sometimes I don’t. But, is it the same for women too? I never hear anything about it but find it hard to believe it’s an exclusive offer only to men. Have any of you ever been offered anything? If so what was your reaction?"
9 months here without a meet, Must've turned turned down a lot of "Extras" Form a queue ladies |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I now only go to a great spa outside Leeds. Definitely not the kind of place where you get extras. I really like the masseuse/client scenario but only had a couple of experiences in a club in a massage room. Once I was getting a massage from a woman and she was massaging around my boobs, that was definitely a turn on but nothing happened for obvious reasons. |
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I was a pro masseur in a hotel when I was younger. There were no extras - I had a few regulars where more than massage happened, but that’s not based on a catalog with price.
Nicer hotels fire people for taking money |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Wondering something here - as a guy whenever I go for a massage it’s pretty much standard that I’ll be offered “extras”. Sometimes I take the plunge sometimes I don’t. But, is it the same for women too? I never hear anything about it but find it hard to believe it’s an exclusive offer only to men. Have any of you ever been offered anything? If so what was your reaction?
9 months here without a meet, Must've turned turned down a lot of "Extras" Form a queue ladies "
That supposed to be some kind of smart arse dig at me or something? In case you didn’t notice there’s been a lockdown or 3 |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Wondering something here - as a guy whenever I go for a massage it’s pretty much standard that I’ll be offered “extras”. Sometimes I take the plunge sometimes I don’t. But, is it the same for women too? I never hear anything about it but find it hard to believe it’s an exclusive offer only to men. Have any of you ever been offered anything? If so what was your reaction?
9 months here without a meet, Must've turned turned down a lot of "Extras" Form a queue ladies
That supposed to be some kind of smart arse dig at me or something? In case you didn’t notice there’s been a lockdown or 3"
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In tantric massage there are usually blissful stops along a journey that has no destination. It is very rare that any more is desired. It's a beautiful experience and stands alone, not a scene from a porn film where the woman, whether masseuse or recpient, is essentially an object. My recipient is the sole focus of my attention, a goddess not a vessel. |
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..thats how we ended up on here 
