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over a year ago
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Hi all
I consider myself to be straight. I do not fancy men, but have given few blow jobs...
Im thinking of trying anal, now what would be better, a lady with a strapon (I far prefer women) or a man...or maybe both lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Find a partner to introduce you to it gradually. Fingers and small toys first. Going straight to a strap-on may put you off something you'd otherwise enjoy.
Alternatively, condition yourself with fingers and toys of gradually increasing size first, then look for the right person. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all
I consider myself to be straight. I do not fancy men, but have given few blow jobs...
Im thinking of trying anal, now what would be better, a lady with a strapon (I far prefer women) or a man...or maybe both lol
helllpppp "
Gay deal with it and enjoy life |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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glenlivy
Im not confused...
I wouldnt kiss a man,
I dont feel affection to a man
I dnt want to put my dick in a man
I wouldnt want to stroke a man
all about perception i think |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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glenlivy
Im not confused...
I wouldnt kiss a man,
I dont feel affection to a man
I dnt want to put my dick in a man
I wouldnt want to stroke a man
all about perception i think |
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over a year ago
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"I don't get how you can be straight and give blow jobs?"
I think he means sexually straight. There is no option to specify orally bi, fully bi or whatever.
If I was a virgin and gave someone a BJ I'd still consider myself a virgin.
What does it really matter how anyone labels himself as long as they are honest and clear about what they do and don't want? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't get how you can be straight and give blow jobs?
I think he means sexually straight. There is no option to specify orally bi, fully bi or whatever.
If I was a virgin and gave someone a BJ I'd still consider myself a virgin.
What does it really matter how anyone labels himself as long as they are honest and clear about what they do and don't want?"
I think there are a lot of sad people who just want to point fingers and throw stones.
I find it quite a prejudice actually |
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over a year ago
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I don't get how trying to help you understand something is being judgmental. You admitted to facts, you are also interested in woman so you can't be classified as gay, but bi. You are what you are no one is here to judge you. |
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"I don't get how trying to help you understand something is being judgmental. You admitted to facts, you are also interested in woman so you can't be classified as gay, but bi. You are what you are no one is here to judge you."
you did
nevermind
it doesnt answer my question anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"glenlivy
Im not confused...
I wouldnt kiss a man,
I dont feel affection to a man
I dnt want to put my dick in a man
I wouldnt want to stroke a man
all about perception i think"
. I am not here to judge you but do think there is some confusion as I give oral to a woman and am considered bi so is it not the same for a man ? Maybe I am the one that's confused but if you want to do anything with a man or woman then I feel that's up to you would you not consider yourself as bi? Just asking please don't take offence x |
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"I don't get how trying to help you understand something is being judgmental. You admitted to facts, you are also interested in woman so you can't be classified as gay, but bi. You are what you are no one is here to judge you."
He asked for info about a first time anal experience, not for help understanding his sexuality.
Someone who isn't sexually attracted to men isn't bi, in my book, even if he will suck the odd cock when the moment is right.
Why should anyone else care anyway, unless they're interested in shagging him?
Trying to tell someone else who and what they are, when you don't even know them, is judgmental. |
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over a year ago
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I think its easy to label people.
To me bisexuality is when you are happy with one gender as you are with another.
hasnt this thread gone in an odd direction lol |
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I guess it depends on if you need physical attraction to have sex or just a sense of sexual arousal.
The act of a blow job for example, it can feel amazing even if you don't know who is giving it to you! You are getting one in a dark room and its amazing... If you find out its a guy doing it, does that suddenly mean its not amazing?
Does not mean suddenly you are gay and fancy men, it just means you enjoy amazing blow jobs!!
The OP might just get aroused by the act of what he is doing, not by who he is doing it to!
Sometimes sex can be great just cos its great sex, irrespective of physical attraction. |
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"I don't get how trying to help you understand something is being judgmental. You admitted to facts, you are also interested in woman so you can't be classified as gay, but bi. You are what you are no one is here to judge you.
He asked for info about a first time anal experience, not for help understanding his sexuality.
Someone who isn't sexually attracted to men isn't bi, in my book, even if he will suck the odd cock when the moment is right.
Why should anyone else care anyway, unless they're interested in shagging him?
Trying to tell someone else who and what they are, when you don't even know them, is judgmental."
Thank you.
I think thats a really decent comment.
Not because you re defending me; but because of your thoughtfulness into understanding the situation |
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"I guess it depends on if you need physical attraction to have sex or just a sense of sexual arousal.
The act of a blow job for example, it can feel amazing even if you don't know who is giving it to you! You are getting one in a dark room and its amazing... If you find out its a guy doing it, does that suddenly mean its not amazing?
Does not mean suddenly you are gay and fancy men, it just means you enjoy amazing blow jobs!!
The OP might just get aroused by the act of what he is doing, not by who he is doing it to!
Sometimes sex can be great just cos its great sex, irrespective of physical attraction."
damn right |
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"I guess it depends on if you need physical attraction to have sex or just a sense of sexual arousal.
The act of a blow job for example, it can feel amazing even if you don't know who is giving it to you! You are getting one in a dark room and its amazing... If you find out its a guy doing it, does that suddenly mean its not amazing?
Does not mean suddenly you are gay and fancy men, it just means you enjoy amazing blow jobs!!
The OP might just get aroused by the act of what he is doing, not by who he is doing it to!
Sometimes sex can be great just cos its great sex, irrespective of physical attraction."
 I agree totally. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree with Kinky. From personal experience:
Try small toys and fingers. Work your way up to a cock and at all times use plenty of lube. Poppers help relax you if you need it.
Do think you need to re-examine your perception of your sexuality tho. Just my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't see why his sexuality is relevant. He wants advice on anal. It's a pretty straightforward request. His sexuality is nothing to do with it."
Actually he initially wanted to know which was better, a lady with a strapon or a guy. He put his sexuality out there for us to comment on in his first sentence. Thats the problem with the internet, it allows anyone to have an opinion. |
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On the subject of lube, some can sting when used for anal. The membranes in there are sensitive. Choose carefully and try new ones with caution.
I usually use Pasante Light Lube. It's the one my partners have had fewest problems with.
Use condoms on toys to keep them clean and prevent them from picking up any smell.
Be very careful what you put up there. If it doesn't have a flared base it could get lost. During orgasm the contractions can pull toys inside, leading to uncomfortable trips to A&E! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't see why his sexuality is relevant. He wants advice on anal. It's a pretty straightforward request. His sexuality is nothing to do with it.
Actually he initially wanted to know which was better, a lady with a strapon or a guy. He put his sexuality out there for us to comment on in his first sentence. Thats the problem with the internet, it allows anyone to have an opinion. "
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"I can't see why his sexuality is relevant. He wants advice on anal. It's a pretty straightforward request. His sexuality is nothing to do with it.
Actually he initially wanted to know which was better, a lady with a strapon or a guy. He put his sexuality out there for us to comment on in his first sentence. Thats the problem with the internet, it allows anyone to have an opinion. "
I read that as a technical enquiry, ie is there likely to be any advantage of one over the other? A practical question since nobody could advise him which he would prefer emotionally or in terms of attraction.
He did mention how he perceives himself sexually, yes, but I don't think he was asking about that and it doesn't seem to matter much, to me at least. |
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"Hi all
I consider myself to be straight. I do not fancy men, but have given few blow jobs...
Im thinking of trying anal, now what would be better, a lady with a strapon (I far prefer women) or a man...or maybe both lol
helllpppp "
You sound bi curious to me :s Or just curious for anal?
I'd start off with lots of lube and fingering your anus (while using a condom on your finger), make sure you relax, you don't want to tear anything.
You'd need to train it a lot too. Butt plugs, lube, lube, lube. Don't go straight for didos or your girl with a strap-on, will be too sore you'd not enjoy it.
I'm not an expert though :s So have a read up on it online.
I hope this helps xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Guess, Bi or straight should be on your relationship taste, not sexual preferences. Bi fun is my sex fun, I don't want a boyfriend...
How many bi women are married..... |
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Isn't it about how you see yourself? Mrs D has had lots of sexual experiences with other girls but still says she is not bisexual. Mainly because she would always choose to play with a man before a woman.
I have had lots of cocks waving around my face but never felt the need to touch one, suppose that makes me straight. However if I did (for instance if it turned D on) would that then make me bisexual?
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