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One bit of advice though is that genuine single ladies are a little like gold dust on here ( although they do exist lol )so be patient and your turn will come lol !!
Another suggestion is too try some clubs out as you often get some very nice single ladies there and its a chance to socialise see if you click without the pressure of playing
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And thanks for the words of wisdom!!
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"We're not all badly behaved "Says she sporting a strap-on that would bring tears to one's eyes | |||
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"ur finding it hard, despite looking like a nice cpl...and its a nice profile... but u have a narrow age range, and dont appear to be interested in clubs or socials.single fems attend these. its rare to find single fems...so upping ur grabbability factor might help, in the ways Ive suggested above. good luck to yas... did I mention I'm actually a hot single female pretending to be a slutty man??" | |||
"We're not all badly behaved
Says she sporting a strap-on that would bring tears to one's eyes "Not your eyes tho so don't worry | |||
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"We are looking for a female not a single one lol what she does with the rest of her week is entirely up to her "I wash my cock..oops, clit, mon-fri | |||
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"Lol when the i'm washing my hair excuse comes out we'll know she's too hairy if it takes all night lmao " fucksakes...now u want a baldy-pied chick...ur soooo not winning this one are ya lol | |||
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"Lol trimmed at least you platted then? Lol" my fanny's in pigtailz..just cant help making it look cute x | |||
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"No we're looking for a lady that may want to meet us occasionally we just don't want 100 one night stands someone we can call when the mood takes us or indeed they could call us "I get you, good luck. Z | |||
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Best of luck | |||
"Take a look at our profile see if you can tell us where we're going wrong as we don't seem to be doing very well on here is there something wrong with us lol " just read this and your profile i cant see owt wrong with it myself - its just a case of patiance i guess - and although not a club goer myself these days; it might be an option but bare in mind its a 70/30 split at club meetings to men vs couples/fems
Good luck in sure you score soon | |||
does that mean technically I'm exhibiting male tendencies then?! X | |||
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"Mainly because I have a huge dislike of having my photo taken (bizarrely one of the few things I'm hideously self conscious about) I take your point though, I'll just have to stock up on wine first "That's a shame because neither of you need to be camera-shy
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confidence is a funny thing!!! I'm usually the outspoken upfront one lol | |||
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will have a look!! | |||
"Can def alter it if that's how it comes across, think we made it specific after getting abit disillusioned with only hearing from people who wanted a one off "Know what you mean, we not particularly into one off's but if comes with a territory of NSA. They why we put "the better we get on, the more chance of a repeat encounter - and we prefer repeat encounters! "
Some people are only into the meet - that meet - you need to find the right person(s) for anything further and that comes with mixing well with them. | |||
Sound words of wisdom ta!!! | |||
"Take a look at our profile see if you can tell us where we're going wrong as we don't seem to be doing very well on here is there something wrong with us lol "Miss! Miss! I spotted something!!! .... You have gone to the trouble of writing a nice profile, but it falls down in one CRUCIAL area which matters A LOT if you are trying to attract single females. Right at the end, you say you are not into giving out intimate pics of yourselves:- If I were are single female (and unlike keenpfucktographer, I regret I am not a slutty blonde posing as a guy) I would immediately have alarm bells ringing!!!!! You're on a swinging site, right? And you're looking for sex, right? And at some point, the elusive single (maybe bi) fem you are looking for is going to see your bedroom tackle, are they not? So why are you not prepared to show some suitable pics in your private gallery??????? Hmmm .... ?????? When inviting a single fem into a couple situation, the fem has to have TRUST in you in every respect. And you have to demonstrate that trust right from the word 'go', and one of the many ways to do that is not giving the feeling to a potential meet that you are hiding something..... May be, wrong, but that was what stuck me looking at your otherwise very good profile... 
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"I'll def keep something similar in then, I'd hate to get to a meet with someone thinking its a green light and then have to explain that that's not what we're after
Sound words of wisdom ta!!!"well I still think u both sound really nice and friendly, I suppose whats been said is right...I somewhat back off female profiles and cpls profiles saying they are looking for regular fun and not one offs...that is fair enough..but a bit like asking to get married before uve even met lol | |||
"Take a look at our profile see if you can tell us where we're going wrong as we don't seem to be doing very well on here is there something wrong with us lol
Miss! Miss! I spotted something!!! .... You have gone to the trouble of writing a nice profile, but it falls down in one CRUCIAL area which matters A LOT if you are trying to attract single females.
Right at the end, you say you are not into giving out intimate pics of yourselves:- If I were are single female (and unlike keenpfucktographer, I regret I am not a slutty blonde posing as a guy) I would immediately have alarm bells ringing!!!!!
You're on a swinging site, right? And you're looking for sex, right? And at some point, the elusive single (maybe bi) fem you are looking for is going to see your bedroom tackle, are they not?
So why are you not prepared to show some suitable pics in your private gallery??????? Hmmm .... ??????
When inviting a single fem into a couple situation, the fem has to have TRUST in you in every respect. And you have to demonstrate that trust right from the word 'go', and one of the many ways to do that is not giving the feeling to a potential meet that you are hiding something.....
May be, wrong, but that was what stuck me looking at your otherwise very good profile...
Pork "Good point. We always ask to see body pics of both members of the couple or the single. After all you need to be interested enough to play with them naked! Seen enough guys class themselves as "athletic or slim" when they have beer guts, and they have no muscle definition anywhere. | |||
"Take a look at our profile see if you can tell us where we're going wrong as we don't seem to be doing very well on here is there something wrong with us lol
Miss! Miss! I spotted something!!! .... You have gone to the trouble of writing a nice profile, but it falls down in one CRUCIAL area which matters A LOT if you are trying to attract single females.
Right at the end, you say you are not into giving out intimate pics of yourselves:- If I were are single female (and unlike keenpfucktographer, I regret I am not a slutty blonde posing as a guy) I would immediately have alarm bells ringing!!!!!
You're on a swinging site, right? And you're looking for sex, right? And at some point, the elusive single (maybe bi) fem you are looking for is going to see your bedroom tackle, are they not?
So why are you not prepared to show some suitable pics in your private gallery??????? Hmmm .... ??????
When inviting a single fem into a couple situation, the fem has to have TRUST in you in every respect. And you have to demonstrate that trust right from the word 'go', and one of the many ways to do that is not giving the feeling to a potential meet that you are hiding something.....
May be, wrong, but that was what stuck me looking at your otherwise very good profile...
Pork " good words great advice - note of caution to reader being made her ei guess is "be aware of fakers" and "prove it" etc etc | |||
so, yes, fundamentally it's a sex thing but I guess I'm just not into the pics thing, I also never ask for them cos it just doesn't do it for me I'm afraid I'm all about the person and if we get on rather than what their bits look like | |||
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"It reads as "you need to be this, you need to be that" Its a bit too much about how they need to fit with you - no real give and take. I would remove a fair chunk of the main body, as literally saying "we would like to enjoy nights out and in with you as friends with benefits" would say everything you need to say. " This.... No real call to action or reason why a single girl would meet you. And if you waiting for one to contact you you will wait for a long time, need to speculate to accumulate! Mind you the way some single women on here behave you would think they are all Charlize Theron. Either that or they don't own a mirror. | |||
"Probably because in my mind the only people that get to see me in all my (debatable) glory are those that I'm actually going to bed with.....that along with the fact that there's lots of people who seem to like collecting pics then disappearing (bitter experience) has made me wary of giving it away so, yes, fundamentally it's a sex thing but I guess I'm just not into the pics thing, I also never ask for them cos it just doesn't do it for me I'm afraid I'm all about the person and if we get on rather than what their bits look like "Okay...... well, there are couple of points 'arising' out of that.. 1. We never accept Friend Requests until we have given the other couple a darn good grilling! If there is any - and I do mean ANY - suspicion they are not above board, then they don't get to see MY bits!!!! Ha ha! So be much more demanding when it comes to adding 'Friends' (like we all keep saying in the forums - this AIN'T Facebook!) 2. If you really, genuinely are not into photos - even if just to make sure the face marries up with the body! - then you need to come up with a strategy to get around that one so there is TRUST on both sides. Here's an idea - do you have/have you been to a club near you which you are happy/comfortable with? If yes, how about rewording your profile to explain your position on photos and that ALL initial meets will be at a club on the usual terms? That way you cover a number of stones... You don't have to swap photos, the fem gets to see you under 'club conditions', you are BOTH surrounded by like-minded and - maybe - known people. You can chat at length and, if you hit it off you may have some fun too. If you don't then neither you are the fem have wasted their time as there is likely to be someone more to your/their liking to play with, or at the least you could use the facilities yourselves and go home happy
How does that plan work for you? There is a way round everything, but you have put a very large (imho) obstacle in the way which needs to be addressed if you are going to find the meets you want. The above occurs to me as a way to do that....
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" No real call to action or reason why a single girl would meet you. And if you waiting for one to contact you you will wait for a long time, need to speculate to accumulate! Mind you the way some single women on here behave you would think they are all Charlize Theron. Either that or they don't own a mirror. "1st paragraph -
2nd paragraph - PMSL!!!!!!!! But soooo true!!!!
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"Take a look at our profile see if you can tell us where we're going wrong as we don't seem to be doing very well on here is there something wrong with us lol
Miss! Miss! I spotted something!!! .... You have gone to the trouble of writing a nice profile, but it falls down in one CRUCIAL area which matters A LOT if you are trying to attract single females.
Right at the end, you say you are not into giving out intimate pics of yourselves:- If I were are single female (and unlike keenpfucktographer, I regret I am not a slutty blonde posing as a guy) I would immediately have alarm bells ringing!!!!!
You're on a swinging site, right? And you're looking for sex, right? And at some point, the elusive single (maybe bi) fem you are looking for is going to see your bedroom tackle, are they not?
So why are you not prepared to show some suitable pics in your private gallery??????? Hmmm .... ??????
When inviting a single fem into a couple situation, the fem has to have TRUST in you in every respect. And you have to demonstrate that trust right from the word 'go', and one of the many ways to do that is not giving the feeling to a potential meet that you are hiding something.....
May be, wrong, but that was what stuck me looking at your otherwise very good profile...
Pork "See, I'd say the oppositte to that. there are clear face pics and full length clothed pics that are enough to show she has a great figure. The minute someone started asking for more than that then that would be it, we'd just label them a picture collector. I fail to see any reason why anyone needs to see more explicit pictures. | |||
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"Take a look at our profile see if you can tell us where we're going wrong as we don't seem to be doing very well on here is there something wrong with us lol
Miss! Miss! I spotted something!!! .... You have gone to the trouble of writing a nice profile, but it falls down in one CRUCIAL area which matters A LOT if you are trying to attract single females.
Right at the end, you say you are not into giving out intimate pics of yourselves:- If I were are single female (and unlike keenpfucktographer, I regret I am not a slutty blonde posing as a guy) I would immediately have alarm bells ringing!!!!!
You're on a swinging site, right? And you're looking for sex, right? And at some point, the elusive single (maybe bi) fem you are looking for is going to see your bedroom tackle, are they not?
So why are you not prepared to show some suitable pics in your private gallery??????? Hmmm .... ??????
When inviting a single fem into a couple situation, the fem has to have TRUST in you in every respect. And you have to demonstrate that trust right from the word 'go', and one of the many ways to do that is not giving the feeling to a potential meet that you are hiding something.....
May be, wrong, but that was what stuck me looking at your otherwise very good profile...
Pork
See, I'd say the oppositte to that. there are clear face pics and full length clothed pics that are enough to show she has a great figure. The minute someone started asking for more than that then that would be it, we'd just label them a picture collector.
I fail to see any reason why anyone needs to see more explicit pictures."Thanks personally its a huge turn off for me to see anyone's bits before I even know if we get on!!! | |||
"Ok - here goes ! Others have said so much in a complimentary way - let's play the devils advocate ! You have had no meets or verifications so for all intents any prospective meet takes a risk to start with ! Then your requirements - jeez ! Nothing wrong with knowing exactly what you want , but and it's a big but ....... Do you honestly think there are single girls just waiting for a couple who want what you specify ? It's just too specific - and although we have plenty of single girls we play with , and indeed socialise with , what you seem to want is a nice idea but in reality quite possibly unrealistic ! She needs to be into rock climbing , eating out and socialising with you , sitting in a corner engaging in strange behaviour lol etc ..... So there you go - you seem like a great looking couple but your requirements are too specific but we wish you luck anyway ! "She doesn't actually have to be into all that at all, just would rather be able to talk about things other than sex and I'd personally rather get down and dirty so to speak with someone I liked as well as wanted to fuck!!! I'll def have a tweak tho cos I don't want people running for the hills either | |||
"See, I'd say the oppositte to that. there are clear face pics and full length clothed pics that are enough to show she has a great figure. The minute someone started asking for more than that then that would be it, we'd just label them a picture collector. I fail to see any reason why anyone needs to see more explicit pictures." 2wheels - the reason I said that is that (thru bitter experience like most!) we look for some consistency in the photos. There are also no photos at all in the OP's private gallery. One thing I notice in a lot of single fems profiles is that there are some very good, and quite numerous photos within their private galls. The OP asked what they were doing wrong, which usually translates to 'what obstacle have I put in my way which I can't see', hence that was the one thing which leapt off the page at me. Quite understand your POV - we all look at profiles in different ways, but as the OP is asking specifically for single fems to join them as a couple, the trust issue is a very big consideration. Neither of us is right or wrong - we just view the same profile differently, which is exactly what everyone else viewing it will do. | |||
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"See, I'd say the oppositte to that. there are clear face pics and full length clothed pics that are enough to show she has a great figure. The minute someone started asking for more than that then that would be it, we'd just label them a picture collector. I fail to see any reason why anyone needs to see more explicit pictures. 2wheels - the reason I said that is that (thru bitter experience like most!) we look for some consistency in the photos. There are also no photos at all in the OP's private gallery. One thing I notice in a lot of single fems profiles is that there are some very good, and quite numerous photos within their private galls. The OP asked what they were doing wrong, which usually translates to 'what obstacle have I put in my way which I can't see', hence that was the one thing which leapt off the page at me. Quite understand your POV - we all look at profiles in different ways, but as the OP is asking specifically for single fems to join them as a couple, the trust issue is a very big consideration. Neither of us is right or wrong - we just view the same profile differently, which is exactly what everyone else viewing it will do. "I still don't get it. You can verify whether someone is genuine in so many ways, phone, cam, verifications, even gut instinct. I still fail to see how having a private gallery makes someone more likely to be genuine? | |||
"ellen has a great pussy and nick has a fantastic cock wonder what I'll do with this £20 i received anonymously and unrelated to this thread..." Weirdo lmao xx | |||
"ellen has a great pussy and nick has a fantastic cock wonder what I'll do with this £20 i received anonymously and unrelated to this thread... Weirdo lmao xx " Buy me a drink?!.....xx | |||
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"I'm a single female but I would be put off by your profile sorry. I'm on here for my fun, not to meet the demands of a couple who require a play thing. If I met you both in a club I would play with you and probably get on really well with you as I wouldn't have read your profile. You're both very sexy. But nope, that little lot would have me running for the hills. "That's why getting the profile right is important, because we most def don't want a "plaything"!!!! Think the club option is going to be the way forward | |||
"I'm a single female but I would be put off by your profile sorry. I'm on here for my fun, not to meet the demands of a couple who require a play thing. If I met you both in a club I would play with you and probably get on really well with you as I wouldn't have read your profile. You're both very sexy. But nope, that little lot would have me running for the hills. "This.... We have managed to find single girls just by saying what we will do for them, never making any claims about ourselves that we are the worlds best looking couple but we always guarantee a good laugh and a god night out (and in). Remember that self praise is no praise at all. | |||
"I'm a single female but I would be put off by your profile sorry. I'm on here for my fun, not to meet the demands of a couple who require a play thing. If I met you both in a club I would play with you and probably get on really well with you as I wouldn't have read your profile. You're both very sexy. But nope, that little lot would have me running for the hills.
This....
We have managed to find single girls just by saying what we will do for them, never making any claims about ourselves that we are the worlds best looking couple but we always guarantee a good laugh and a god night out (and in).
Remember that self praise is no praise at all."Well self praise is not something you'd hear from me!!!! I'm having a mini meltdown at the thought of being semi naked in a club let alone anything else | |||
"I'm a single female but I would be put off by your profile sorry. I'm on here for my fun, not to meet the demands of a couple who require a play thing. If I met you both in a club I would play with you and probably get on really well with you as I wouldn't have read your profile. You're both very sexy. But nope, that little lot would have me running for the hills.
This....
We have managed to find single girls just by saying what we will do for them, never making any claims about ourselves that we are the worlds best looking couple but we always guarantee a good laugh and a god night out (and in).
Remember that self praise is no praise at all.
Well self praise is not something you'd hear from me!!!! I'm having a mini meltdown at the thought of being semi naked in a club let alone anything else "Perfectly normal, the first time Mrs D went to one she bolted a bottle of red wine so quickly she virtually ended up falling asleep hence stopping our first chance of the ffm threesome that was on offer... luckily the lady involved came back the week after and we got it on then! btw just buy some nice lingerie and then you won't feel as naked! | |||
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"See, I'd say the oppositte to that. there are clear face pics and full length clothed pics that are enough to show she has a great figure. The minute someone started asking for more than that then that would be it, we'd just label them a picture collector. I fail to see any reason why anyone needs to see more explicit pictures." Guess you missed our response earlier.. Explicit? No BUT Clothes can and do hide a multitude of sins. We always ask to see body pics of both members of the couple or the single - although we're not after explicit pics. After all you need to be interested enough to play with them naked! So you need to see them at least semi naked. Seen enough guys class themselves as "athletic or slim" when they have beer guts, and they have no muscle definition anywhere. A semi naked pic would highlight that, whereas a clothed one wouldn't. All you need to show is a beach shorts and a bikini photo from holiday - doesn't need to be nude. | |||
"I'm sorry if I my post was a bit 'bang on' I'm having a bad day! However, I do think you should go to a club. At least there you can chat away in the bar area fully clothed and maybe then you can find someone who you can have fun with. The post above was right, get some nice undies that you feel good in, you have a great figure. Spend time getting ready till you feel good and enjoy it. You never know, you may even hit it off with a couple. Often the thought of a club is much scarier than the deed!" Thanks I'll try!!!! | |||
"I know you don't want to play with a couple but meeting one there socially might be a good idea just so you have someone to talk to.. a lot of couples end up sitting there like Billy No Mates and that just adds to the stress levels!" I agree, we are meeting a couple later just to see how it all goes...hate being a novice, it's all very baffling!!!! | |||
"I'm sorry if I my post was a bit 'bang on' I'm having a bad day! However, I do think you should go to a club. At least there you can chat away in the bar area fully clothed and maybe then you can find someone who you can have fun with. The post above was right, get some nice undies that you feel good in, you have a great figure. Spend time getting ready till you feel good and enjoy it. You never know, you may even hit it off with a couple. Often the thought of a club is much scarier than the deed!" The whole thing is less scarier than we thought it would be; after the first time we thought the sky would fall and the earth would crack asunder... however, it was more 'what is all the fuss about' lol Bit of a hobby for us now, like stamp collecting or cross-stitch. | |||
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"I'm sorry if I my post was a bit 'bang on' I'm having a bad day! However, I do think you should go to a club. At least there you can chat away in the bar area fully clothed and maybe then you can find someone who you can have fun with. The post above was right, get some nice undies that you feel good in, you have a great figure. Spend time getting ready till you feel good and enjoy it. You never know, you may even hit it off with a couple. Often the thought of a club is much scarier than the deed! Thanks I'll try!!!! "Go to a club, play on your own together, have an enjoyable time together.. chat/dance with others (you dont necessarily have to play with anyone else - we didn't play with others until we felt comfortable with the idea and our surroundings). 3 years down the line, we know what we like, what we dont, whats clubs suit us, what dont. The type of couples and single we like to play with, the type we dont. Type of questions to ask others etc.. Don't enjoy a club, try another - find somewhere you like to go and have fun together first and foremost. Dont be THAT couple thats sits alone in a corner, looking fecked off and bored - thats a sure sign to keep away. The couples to know are the ones having fun, who are being open and social to others. | |||
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"I'm sorry if I my post was a bit 'bang on' I'm having a bad day! However, I do think you should go to a club. At least there you can chat away in the bar area fully clothed and maybe then you can find someone who you can have fun with. The post above was right, get some nice undies that you feel good in, you have a great figure. Spend time getting ready till you feel good and enjoy it. You never know, you may even hit it off with a couple. Often the thought of a club is much scarier than the deed! Thanks I'll try!!!!
Go to a club, play on your own together, have an enjoyable time together.. chat/dance with others (you dont necessarily have to play with anyone else - we didn't play with others until we felt comfortable with the idea and our surroundings).
3 years down the line, we know what we like, what we dont, whats clubs suit us, what dont. The type of couples and single we like to play with, the type we dont. Type of questions to ask others etc..
Don't enjoy a club, try another - find somewhere you like to go and have fun together first and foremost.
Dont be THAT couple thats sits alone in a corner, looking fecked off and bored - thats a sure sign to keep away. The couples to know are the ones having fun, who are being open and social to others.
"That's what the plan is, I'll still be a gibbering wreck tho | |||
"Just have a great time with it all. You'll be club/forum/swinging/sex regulars this time next year & you'll wonder what all the fuss was about! (Be warned though, all the above are addictive and infringe on normal life) "Lol I'll remind you of that when I'm all traumatised after the first visit...either that or I'll be locked up for excessive swinging | |||
"I'm sorry if I my post was a bit 'bang on' I'm having a bad day! However, I do think you should go to a club. At least there you can chat away in the bar area fully clothed and maybe then you can find someone who you can have fun with. The post above was right, get some nice undies that you feel good in, you have a great figure. Spend time getting ready till you feel good and enjoy it. You never know, you may even hit it off with a couple. Often the thought of a club is much scarier than the deed! Thanks I'll try!!!!
Go to a club, play on your own together, have an enjoyable time together.. chat/dance with others (you dont necessarily have to play with anyone else - we didn't play with others until we felt comfortable with the idea and our surroundings).
3 years down the line, we know what we like, what we dont, whats clubs suit us, what dont. The type of couples and single we like to play with, the type we dont. Type of questions to ask others etc..
Don't enjoy a club, try another - find somewhere you like to go and have fun together first and foremost.
Dont be THAT couple thats sits alone in a corner, looking fecked off and bored - thats a sure sign to keep away. The couples to know are the ones having fun, who are being open and social to others.
"These two posts are bang on the money! Your profile is great, maybe you could explain that you are looking for a female "friends with benefits", rather than, as it sounds now, a possible third person in your relationship? Also, open it up to attached ladies too, many only play with their partners, but some play singly too. Other than that, have fun, keep the faith, and, as others have said, try the socials and club scene, it really will make a big big difference. | |||
"Just have a great time with it all. You'll be club/forum/swinging/sex regulars this time next year & you'll wonder what all the fuss was about! (Be warned though, all the above are addictive and infringe on normal life)
Lol I'll remind you of that when I'm all traumatised after the first visit...either that or I'll be locked up for excessive swinging "lol the latter the latter!! | |||
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"See, I'd say the oppositte to that. there are clear face pics and full length clothed pics that are enough to show she has a great figure. The minute someone started asking for more than that then that would be it, we'd just label them a picture collector. I fail to see any reason why anyone needs to see more explicit pictures. 2wheels - the reason I said that is that (thru bitter experience like most!) we look for some consistency in the photos. There are also no photos at all in the OP's private gallery. One thing I notice in a lot of single fems profiles is that there are some very good, and quite numerous photos within their private galls. The OP asked what they were doing wrong, which usually translates to 'what obstacle have I put in my way which I can't see', hence that was the one thing which leapt off the page at me. Quite understand your POV - we all look at profiles in different ways, but as the OP is asking specifically for single fems to join them as a couple, the trust issue is a very big consideration. Neither of us is right or wrong - we just view the same profile differently, which is exactly what everyone else viewing it will do.
I still don't get it. You can verify whether someone is genuine in so many ways, phone, cam, verifications, even gut instinct. I still fail to see how having a private gallery makes someone more likely to be genuine?"It's one of a number of things which all add up to make a picture (no pun intended - honest guv!) of someone. It's overcoming the trust issue which is important for what the OP is looking for. Like you, I was on the scene a single guy for sometime and it's not the same for blokes going into a couple situation as most of us can handle ourselves well. If the OP had been looking for single guys, I probably wouldn't even be commenting! Lol! | |||
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"you are coming across far better on here than you do on your profile btw! I think we would meet you looking at the responses on here if you wanted full play with other couples. btw... why is it single girls only?" Honestly, it's because I'm not entirely sure that I'd want another bloke, I'm def into the ffm thing but, as I've said, we are very much novices and we haven't really thought beyond that we are meeting couples on a social basis at the min to try and pick their brains mainly lol and because I'm honest to a fault I wouldn't lead any couples on by making them think it's a possibility if it wasn't!! Does that make any sense?! X | |||
"We are also absolutely prepared to verify who we are!!!! Might be naive but we've spoken to people on here who've had intimate pics but haven't necessarily been genuine, so how do you ever really know?! "Well Ellen & Nick, simply put quite happy to verify by webcam prior to meet on your profile. You don't have to get naked etc., but it will allow you to see whom you might be meeting and vice versa even if it's just for a few minutes. There's certainly a few single ladies that have that on thier profiles. As for private pics, well you don't need to have everything on show, if the only way a lady would get involved with you is because they see u both naked, they don't sound like the right person for you. But maybe a couple of private or public pics in bikini etc would help. Personally from everything you've said I still think that Xtasia or Atlantis clubs will be the best place for you to meet what you want, though you'd be very very lucky if that happened on a single visit. | |||
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"We are also absolutely prepared to verify who we are!!!! Might be naive but we've spoken to people on here who've had intimate pics but haven't necessarily been genuine, so how do you ever really know?!
Well Ellen & Nick, simply put quite happy to verify by webcam prior to meet on your profile. You don't have to get naked etc., but it will allow you to see whom you might be meeting and vice versa even if it's just for a few minutes. There's certainly a few single ladies that have that on thier profiles. As for private pics, well you don't need to have everything on show, if the only way a lady would get involved with you is because they see u both naked, they don't sound like the right person for you. But maybe a couple of private or public pics in bikini etc would help.
Personally from everything you've said I still think that Xtasia or Atlantis clubs will be the best place for you to meet what you want, though you'd be very very lucky if that happened on a single visit. " | |||
"you are coming across far better on here than you do on your profile btw! I think we would meet you looking at the responses on here if you wanted full play with other couples. btw... why is it single girls only? Honestly, it's because I'm not entirely sure that I'd want another bloke, I'm def into the ffm thing but, as I've said, we are very much novices and we haven't really thought beyond that we are meeting couples on a social basis at the min to try and pick their brains mainly lol and because I'm honest to a fault I wouldn't lead any couples on by making them think it's a possibility if it wasn't!! Does that make any sense?! X"There are couples who play soft, or happy to play just girl-girl (where either the guys watch on, or are involved only with their partners), if you are not into playing/or are selective with how you play with guys. But trust us.. get to know them a bit first, sometimes the guys (of couples) say one thing and mean another! | |||
"Well that isn't a bad answer... far too many couples though want another girl just to please the guy in the relationship who would also be too insecure to have another guy involved in their play. That is VERY common." That's been asked of us before...and always results in Nick wetting himself laughing!!!! That's cos I'm very much the instigator and he'd readily tell you that I could never be talked into or persuaded to do anything to please him if it wasn't something I enjoyed | |||
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"you are coming across far better on here than you do on your profile btw! I think we would meet you looking at the responses on here if you wanted full play with other couples. btw... why is it single girls only? Honestly, it's because I'm not entirely sure that I'd want another bloke, I'm def into the ffm thing but, as I've said, we are very much novices and we haven't really thought beyond that we are meeting couples on a social basis at the min to try and pick their brains mainly lol and because I'm honest to a fault I wouldn't lead any couples on by making them think it's a possibility if it wasn't!! Does that make any sense?! X
There are couples who play soft, or happy to play just girl-girl (where either the guys watch on, or are involved only with their partners), if you are not into playing/or are selective with how you play with guys.
But trust us.. get to know them a bit first, sometimes the guys (of couples) say one thing and mean another!"I'll bear that in mind as well!!!!! I'm not averse to being watched or having others in the room, it's purely the sex with another man that I'm unsure of | |||
"I think you will be fine then, stop panicking! "And breathe........ok, I'll try lol | |||
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"I'm having a mini meltdown at the thought of being semi naked in a club let alone anything else "And that's just Nick!!! God knows what Ellen is thinking... | |||
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"I think you will be fine then, stop panicking!
And breathe........ok, I'll try lol "should at this point we all mention we have a chant for newbies? ELLEN GET UR KIT OFF ELLEN GET UR KIT OFF ELLEN GET UR KIT OFF ELLEN GET UR KIT OFF ELLEN GET UR KIT OFF  | |||
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"I'm having a mini meltdown at the thought of being semi naked in a club let alone anything else
And that's just Nick!!! God knows what Ellen is thinking..."We know what WE are all thinking!
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"I like you both, and I've only read your profile, so sure others will too. Generally, if you're limited in what you want and like it's better to be clear about this, and you are - this is my opinion, and how I prefer to be. You could perhaps add a slightly wider selection of photos - realise you don't want to swap those that are 'too' explicit before meeting, but it may be a deal clincher, for the right person. Some people won't know where you live: realise ignorance isn't an excuse, but if you perhaps state which area you're interested in, this could clarify it for those in the near vicinity, such as saying 'Stoke to Birmingham', whatever you're looking at really. Good luck!" Thanks appreciate that!! | |||
"I'm not entirely convinced on the newbie chant......I fear evil is afoot lol xx " What ARE you suggesting?????? And there's us, a shy retiring bunch too..... tut tut tut........
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"I'm not entirely convinced on the newbie chant......I fear evil is afoot lol xx What ARE you suggesting?????? And there's us, a shy retiring bunch too..... tut tut tut........
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"I'm not entirely convinced on the newbie chant......I fear evil is afoot lol xx What ARE you suggesting?????? And there's us, a shy retiring bunch too..... tut tut tut........
There's a bolt of lightening with your name on I'm sure "Have to tell it to take it's place in the queue with all the others.....
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"And there is the new profile be prepared for very iffy pics of nick and Ellen to follow x" Much better | |||
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"I'm a single female but I would be put off by your profile sorry. I'm on here for my fun, not to meet the demands of a couple who require a play thing. If I met you both in a club I would play with you and probably get on really well with you as I wouldn't have read your profile. You're both very sexy. But nope, that little lot would have me running for the hills. "Couldn't have said it better myself... People are here to have their own fun and not necessarily feel like a film extra in someone 's fantasy. That is where the turn off comes in. Try and come across as relaxed, realistic and uninhibited and the flood gates of hot blooded women will open and if that doesn't work, I will go to Sweden somewhere and get you some 6'5"" amazons myself!! | |||
thanks for the advice, we have changed it now, many thanks to our fab friend for re wording it x | |||
"Have you Guys thought of trying soft swing with a couple? You will get a lot more responses." Wouldn't necessarily agree with that. Maybe it's something to do with the London/SE area, but couples looking for or with an interest in Soft Swing are in the minority we have found......? Certainly they could add it so it's an 'either/or' situation so the door is left open for both full and soft though...
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