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over a year ago
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"Has swinging boosted your confidence or not?"
Not personally, but then I like to think of myself as a confident individual anyway.
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"It has boosted my confidence in so much as I have made the greatest friends ever.
It has destroyed my confidence in relationships and love."
I didn't quite word that right.
Swinging at it's core, in it's most natural form actually showed me how beautiful it can be, 2 people so comfortable, secure and in love that are able to share it with others and extend that beauty. Sublime.
Cheats, liars, chancers, abusers, those on the victim hunt, those who will do or say anything to get in the underwear of another person. That has destroyed my confidence in relationships and love. |
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"It's made me stop caring about being naked in front of others. Weird how we're taught to be embarassed from an early age."
I would agree. Threesomes, groups and gangbangs especially don't necessarily need confidence, more an ability to be relaxed in front of others (well, perhaps not too relaxed). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely xx  "
I honestly didn't think anyone would want me before I joined here and some other sites. I know it sounds cheap and shallow, but in honesty going through some guys (and girls) did wonders for my confidence, especially pleasant, attractive ones that I know could have met others but chose me.
It has really released the slut in me though, which was always there but I never had enough confidence to do hook-ups, ONS, clubs, porn etc.
Although the sex is the main motivator I've always been very sociable too, and I like making friends on here. Fab is my favourite place for making contacts Xx |
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"Absolutely xx
I honestly didn't think anyone would want me before I joined here and some other sites. I know it sounds cheap and shallow, but in honesty going through some guys (and girls) did wonders for my confidence, especially pleasant, attractive ones that I know could have met others but chose me.
It has really released the slut in me though, which was always there but I never had enough confidence to do hook-ups, ONS, clubs, porn etc.
Although the sex is the main motivator I've always been very sociable too, and I like making friends on here. Fab is my favourite place for making contacts Xx"
Thank you for sharing |
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"It has boosted my confidence in so much as I have made the greatest friends ever.
It has destroyed my confidence in relationships and love.
I didn't quite word that right.
Swinging at it's core, in it's most natural form actually showed me how beautiful it can be, 2 people so comfortable, secure and in love that are able to share it with others and extend that beauty. Sublime.
Cheats, liars, chancers, abusers, those on the victim hunt, those who will do or say anything to get in the underwear of another person. That has destroyed my confidence in relationships and love."
That makes more sense. I sincerely believe that's how we are ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, it has. Its probably made even more body confident than I was.
Like Princess Peach, its destroyed any confidence when it comes to relationships when you see the amount of cheats, liars etc. on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My ex started my journey into confidence at 47.. It was interesting and surprising to see myself through his eyes
Then i met my current DD - i can't even describe how he makes me feel and the confidence that he's given me.. The utter belief in my capabilities and who i am. I genuinely believe i only got my last two promotions due to his utter belief in me and his confidence coaching. I wish you could all experience it, he is pretty fucking amazing 
That in turn has led to an acceptance of my body, my skin, my shape and at times a little bit of love for myself too |
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"My ex started my journey into confidence at 47.. It was interesting and surprising to see myself through his eyes
Then i met my current DD - i can't even describe how he makes me feel and the confidence that he's given me.. The utter belief in my capabilities and who i am. I genuinely believe i only got my last two promotions due to his utter belief in me and his confidence coaching. I wish you could all experience it, he is pretty fucking amazing
That in turn has led to an acceptance of my body, my skin, my shape and at times a little bit of love for myself too "
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"Yes, it has. Its probably made even more body confident than I was.
Like Princess Peach, its destroyed any confidence when it comes to relationships when you see the amount of cheats, liars etc. on here. "
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When I was a single guy yes. As someone a little socially awkward it pushed me right out of I my comfort zone. From there grew and developed my social skills, then my success grew and thus my confidence grew. Having said that as a single guy it's not for the faint hearted and it's hard work. I would suspect depending on you character it could easily have the opposite effect. |
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"It has boosted my confidence in so much as I have made the greatest friends ever.
It has destroyed my confidence in relationships and love.
I didn't quite word that right.
Swinging at it's core, in it's most natural form actually showed me how beautiful it can be, 2 people so comfortable, secure and in love that are able to share it with others and extend that beauty. Sublime.
Cheats, liars, chancers, abusers, those on the victim hunt, those who will do or say anything to get in the underwear of another person. That has destroyed my confidence in relationships and love."
^^ this
Being able to flirt with others and be flirted to are wonderful experiences.
The feelings of desire are strong and impactful. All confidence boosters and general self worth improvements. |
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Both boosted and damaged in different ways. Occasionally makes me feel great, but sometimes feel really undesirable. Lockdown hasn't helped and now pretty worried about meeting, particularly in clubs where things have traditionally been a lot more successful than getting interest on here. |
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I'm in an interesting position. My experiences in the kink community have bolstered my confidence, but my experiences with swinging have brought me rather back down to Earth.
I guess being a very tall, very stern-looking, very non-monogamous single guy is a pretty small niche. |
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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago
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Yes and no. It has boosted it in the sense that I've met and played with some very attractive women at clubs, in private and in public (I love an audience!). That's always going to make a guy feel good.
But at the same time its impossible not to notice that I'm often the least 'manly' or 'masculine' guy there. I love being naked but at the same time it highlights even more that I'm pretty skinny. Even when I've been the one playing with other guys watching, I've still been award that they are visibly more stocky, well built, muscular, 'typically masculine' or whatever else.
Even when it's not been an issue, I'm still very self conscious of it. I'd say it is very much a double-edged sword. |
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"Yes and no. It has boosted it in the sense that I've met and played with some very attractive women at clubs, in private and in public (I love an audience!). That's always going to make a guy feel good.
But at the same time its impossible not to notice that I'm often the least 'manly' or 'masculine' guy there. I love being naked but at the same time it highlights even more that I'm pretty skinny. Even when I've been the one playing with other guys watching, I've still been award that they are visibly more stocky, well built, muscular, 'typically masculine' or whatever else.
Even when it's not been an issue, I'm still very self conscious of it. I'd say it is very much a double-edged sword."
Totally get that! I'm short and bald, which isn't something too many women favour. We all have elements of our appearance we don't like and will naturally see them as unattractive to others too. For me it's certainly true to say I had more interest and opportunity when I was part of a couple, but although we may not think it pretty much everyone else is in the same boat to one degree or another - with the possible exception of those who come across as loving themselves and arrogant, who by default instantly become unattractive in some way by default of that alone. This can be a brutal place in some respects, but I doubt anyone intends us to feel we're 'inferior' in any way. It's just human nature to pick faults with ourselves and assume the worst sometimes. Definitely true to say getting a little interest and/or attention can make all the difference. |
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"Has swinging boosted your confidence or not?"
In a way yes. In a club scenario I’m a different person compared to a vanilla club. But even then I’d never make the first move. But if I’m having fun then I have no inhibitions. I can be watched and filmed and I wouldn’t even notice lol
On a meet, it’s similar, it’s usually the woman that has to make the first move  |
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"Has swinging boosted your confidence or not?
In a way yes. In a club scenario I’m a different person compared to a vanilla club. But even then I’d never make the first move. But if I’m having fun then I have no inhibitions. I can be watched and filmed and I wouldn’t even notice lol
On a meet, it’s similar, it’s usually the woman that has to make the first move "
You are on the right track |
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"Has swinging boosted your confidence or not?
In a way yes. In a club scenario I’m a different person compared to a vanilla club. But even then I’d never make the first move. But if I’m having fun then I have no inhibitions. I can be watched and filmed and I wouldn’t even notice lol
On a meet, it’s similar, it’s usually the woman that has to make the first move "
You are on the right track |
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