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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dominant sexually, though equally happy being neutral if people aren't into that side of things.
I'm laid back socially, which contrasts with my dominant side. But I've noticed the contrast with subs too - they tend to be quite outgoing and fiery socially. |
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Personally I like to switch it up. Variety is the spice of life and all that.
Either way I'm very much into kink, although I do tend to lean more towards dominant than submissive. Maybe I've just never come across anyone who can make me behave myself though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you dominate or submissive ? "
Dominant but as in like taking control. Like to be the one dishing out the pleasure...
Depends what the situation calls for so can be DOMINANT in other ways, getting well into Bondage & Toys (Especially Fuck Machines) but do think a lot about someone greedy just doing their thing on me... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dominant. I tried playing non dominant vanilla but found I was just being coy and finding new ways to instruct my partner. You can take the man away from dominance but.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In Kink mode I'm pretty much solidly submissive, neutral if that's not what we're doing......I have switched on a handful of occasions for very specific scenes, it was fun but it's never going to be my happy place ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think for most people its relative. With the right person a normally dominant personality can become submissive and the reverse is also true. It's a spectrum and many things influence where you place in the spectrum.
For me, I think most people slot somewhere in the middle.
I'm also a bit weird about people calling themselves Doms or domme. And I mean no disrespect to anyone here. I'm not judging anyone from either side of the kneel. I'm just a pictureless egg on a forum.
My opinion of my dominance is irrelevant. It's how others perceive me thats important regards dominance. I might feel like the ultimate dom but if no one else thinks I am then I'm not am I?
Also If I behave differently to appear more dominant then I'm not a dominant. If I need to deepen my voice or speak more slowly or shout at people to make me look more bad ass then I am putting too much effort in the wrong places
And that's perfectly fine. Not everyone can be a dominant. It's more than sexual. Its being a leader too. A strong presence in everyday life. It's a fuck tonne of responsibility too. Being a top is just as good. Do your thang in the bedroom and dont worry about labels.
Like I said not trying to be disrespectful to anyone. I'm just riding my insomnia wave |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think for most people its relative. With the right person a normally dominant personality can become submissive and the reverse is also true. It's a spectrum and many things influence where you place in the spectrum.
For me, I think most people slot somewhere in the middle.
I'm also a bit weird about people calling themselves Doms or domme. And I mean no disrespect to anyone here. I'm not judging anyone from either side of the kneel. I'm just a pictureless egg on a forum.
My opinion of my dominance is irrelevant. It's how others perceive me thats important regards dominance. I might feel like the ultimate dom but if no one else thinks I am then I'm not am I?
Also If I behave differently to appear more dominant then I'm not a dominant. If I need to deepen my voice or speak more slowly or shout at people to make me look more bad ass then I am putting too much effort in the wrong places
And that's perfectly fine. Not everyone can be a dominant. It's more than sexual. Its being a leader too. A strong presence in everyday life. It's a fuck tonne of responsibility too. Being a top is just as good. Do your thang in the bedroom and dont worry about labels.
Like I said not trying to be disrespectful to anyone. I'm just riding my insomnia wave"
Pretty much this with a few other insignificant caveats and addendum. Good insight |
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