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By *igjohn78 OP Man over a year ago

lincoln

I do enjoy getting out and about and have found a few gay saunas do many straight men go?

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By *mmixtapeCouple over a year ago

middle earth

Why would they?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Never been. But would like to try one.

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By *ikemilfloverMan over a year ago

Birmingham

They are great places to chat and see plenty of stiff cocks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a "Straight" man knowingly went to a "Gay" Sauna, then that man is NOT "Straight".

He is a closet "Bi" or "Gay"!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Try it? What’s the worst that can happen? You see a few cocks. Doesn’t automatically make you gay, bi or anything else - it just means you’ve seen a few cocks.

I wouldn’t have a problem going in one and I’m perfectly straight. Indeed we’ve been in them as a couple. You can’t catch being gay.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do enjoy getting out and about and have found a few gay saunas do many straight men go? "

It's only gay if you swallow

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS over a year ago

stockport

Straight or bi what does it matter. They go to have fun with tgirls on certain days.

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By *entleman JayMan over a year ago

Wakefield

Now I’m confused.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My first time in a gay sauna... I got undressed, put the towel round me, went into the steam room and sat down

Two guys in there started to 'get it on', I left

It wasn't for me at that time, it was a step too far

It did, however, give me an insight into the dynamic of the place, how it works and, moreover, showed me that I did have the strength to act on my curiosity

When they do open, go

You don't need to do anything, just see what goes on, who goes in.

If someone touches you and you don't want the attention, just brush their hand away, if they do it again, tell em to do one

If nothing else, it's that first step into the unknown

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By *igjohn78 OP Man over a year ago

lincoln

I have nothing to lose

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By *harisajidanWoman over a year ago

london

"My first time in a gay sauna... I got undressed, put the towel round me, went into the steam room and sat down

Two guys in there started to 'get it on', I left

It wasn't for me at that time, it was a step too far

It did, however, give me an insight into the dynamic of the place, how it works and, moreover, showed me that I did have the strength to act on my curiosity

When they do open, go

You don't need to do anything, just see what goes on, who goes in.

If someone touches you and you don't want the attention, just brush their hand away, if they do it again, tell em to do one

If nothing else, it's that first step into the unknown "

I find this funny given your username is Bussy.

I’m immature, I know.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

"If a "Straight" man knowingly went to a "Gay" Sauna, then that man is NOT "Straight".

He is a closet "Bi" or "Gay"!!!!!!

So the minute you walk into a gay sauna you’re gay.

I suppose the minute I sit in a lorry I’m a lorry driver

brum brum

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just meeting folk would be good now, don't care where.

We need interaction that's what makes us human.

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By *ewfie02Couple over a year ago

Ayrshire

I have met a few straight men in the saunas. Or they might be just too shy to join in the fun

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By *renzMan over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

Are you curious? Willing to experiment?

Just admit to yourself you are at the very least bi curious.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fab really is the mothership of denial sometimes

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By *ocktoplaywithMan over a year ago

Derby

I really want to go in one and hopefully receive some attention, but not sure if there is one in Derby. Anybody know?

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

"I do enjoy getting out and about and have found a few gay saunas do many straight men go? "

Do many vegetarians go to McDonald's?

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By *ikemilfloverMan over a year ago

Birmingham

Why is everyone so hung up about labels ?

I enjoy fucking a nice pussy, but I’ve been to a few gay saunas where a guy has sucked me off and enjoyed my load.

I just enjoy sex and it’s good to mix it up at times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ha ha No straight man is that desperate for a sauna.

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS over a year ago

stockport

McDonald's do veggie burgers. Lol

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

We frequently discuss what the inside of a gay sauna looks like. Is it actually a sauna. Personally I don't like getting hot and sweaty anyway so can't quite make the connection between a steam room and sex, YMMV.

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

"McDonald's do veggie burgers. Lol"

Without wishing to be rude, and stretching the metaphor to breaking point...

If a vegetarian eats something that is presented as if it were a meat product...

Just as sex is not compulsory in a sauna, you don't have to eat meat in McDonald's. But isn't it the reason most customers go there?

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

"We frequently discuss what the inside of a gay sauna looks like. Is it actually a sauna. Personally I don't like getting hot and sweaty anyway so can't quite make the connection between a steam room and sex, YMMV. "

I've never been to one, but presumably it is a plausible reason for men to be naked together.

Like "massage" is a code for sex-work. (Which annoys my friend, who is an actual massage therapist (sports, reiki etc))

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple over a year ago

Manchester

"Fab really is the mothership of denial sometimes

Totally true. Lol

Some guys also get very prickly if this denial is challenged.

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

I've never been to one, but presumably it is a plausible reason for men to be naked together.

Like "massage" is a code for sex-work. (Which annoys my friend, who is an actual massage therapist (sports, reiki etc))"

Yep I'm sure that's the history of it going back to when homosexuality was illegal, but now theres no need for it to be a sauna couldnt it be a concept brought a bit more upto date.

As I say, if I was gay, I wouldn't want to meet in a sauna because I don't like getting hot and sweaty.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman over a year ago

South

"Why is everyone so hung up about labels ?

I enjoy fucking a nice pussy, but I’ve been to a few gay saunas where a guy has sucked me off and enjoyed my load.

I just enjoy sex and it’s good to mix it up at times."

It’s not about labels it’s about honesty .... if a man has straight on his profile and professes to be straight while having sex with men- what else does he lie about? Truth and honesty is important to me as I’m sure it is to others ... I don’t care what genitalia a person has if you fancy them go for it but lying about it is a big no no for potential friends of mine x

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple over a year ago

Manchester

"Why is everyone so hung up about labels ?

I enjoy fucking a nice pussy, but I’ve been to a few gay saunas where a guy has sucked me off and enjoyed my load.

I just enjoy sex and it’s good to mix it up at times.

I second that. Well said.

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By *otchoc69Man over a year ago

london

I must admit and be true to myself yes I am Bi curious as my profile states I’m only at the oral stage. But you would be so surprised , as the majority of messages I receive or profile views i get are from men that state they are Straight on their profile. Honesty is always the best policy I say. But is shocking how many straight men send me very naughty messages ??

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By *aptainhornpipeMan over a year ago

manchester

It begs the question why would a straight man want to go to a gay sauna.

Gay saunas are places gay and bisexual men go to have sex, that’s the point of them.

The act of going to a gay sauna doesn’t make you gay

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By *aptainhornpipeMan over a year ago

manchester

But if you have have a bit of a bum and a nosh whilst you are there then that probably would

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By *oveoldercouples99Man over a year ago

Merton

I wonder how many 100's of years it will take society to realise that sexuality labels don't really exist. I believe that humanity is majority bisexual. Another words we can have sex with anyone with no labels. It suits society to put everyone in a box. Marriage, religion, and discrimination is what makes society majority straight.

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By *uicy mushroomMan over a year ago

elephant and Castle

"I do enjoy getting out and about and have found a few gay saunas do many straight men go? "

I'm gonna check one out

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By *hoot45Man over a year ago

Ramsgate

"I wonder how many 100's of years it will take society to realise that sexuality labels don't really exist. I believe that humanity is majority bisexual. Another words we can have sex with anyone with no labels. It suits society to put everyone in a box. Marriage, religion, and discrimination is what makes society majority straight. "

I think Northern Europe is particularly bad - I’ve lived in Italy and Spain and guys are a bit more relaxed about sexuality there.

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By *aptainhornpipeMan over a year ago

manchester

I don’t think this is the case, I think there are a lot

More bisexuals than would like to admit it and that’s fine. But I’m not sure if that would be the majority. Nothing wrong with enjoying the same sex but it’s not everyone’s cup of tea.

I think people who suggest that bi is the majority are looking to justify their own feelings by stating it’s the norm.

When really we should be saying it is normal and is ok even if it’s not for everyone

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By *renzMan over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I don't think anyone disputes that there are many types of sexualities, but they are labelled and are done so for a reason.

I disagree that the majority of humanity is bisexual, I also disagree that the societal reasons are the reasons that make you straight.

I do agree that those same societal reasons are the reasons people don't admit to themselves and others that they are bisexual or gay. But that is a problem, mainly for those that feel they can't admit it. Which in this day and age and especially on fab is quite sad.

I find your argument is always argued by those that are bi. You never find straight people, saying that sexuality is all _hades of grey. It isn't, but probably is for those that are bi or bi curious. But no grey areas for those that are straight.

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By *oveoldercouples99Man over a year ago

Merton

Theory goes that it's a spectrum. With gay and one end and straight at the other. My argument is that the minority of gays that we see is equal and opposite to a minority of straights. And most people are in the middle (bi if you will). But society distorts the distribution to the straight side through marriage, religion, discrimination etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We were once working on a stretch of the M6 all night and decided to go for a sauna before the weekend,ended up unknowingly in a sauna for gay and straight people people,needless to say we didnt stop long.

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By *hoot45Man over a year ago

Ramsgate

"I don’t think this is the case, I think there are a lot

More bisexuals than would like to admit it and that’s fine. But I’m not sure if that would be the majority. Nothing wrong with enjoying the same sex but it’s not everyone’s cup of tea.

I think people who suggest that bi is the majority are looking to justify their own feelings by stating it’s the norm.

When really we should be saying it is normal and is ok even if it’s not for everyone "

I think a lot of men suppress that aspect of their sexuality because of social pressure even in the 21st century. In some circles it’s almost fashionable to be bisexual but if you’re from a working class background it’s much more difficult in my opinion.

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple over a year ago

Manchester

Of course you have perfect right an opinion but there is virtually nothing you say that I agree with.

Most guys being straight has absolutely nothing to do with societal or religious pressure. They are just straight because they are.

Equally labels do matter and indeed are helpful. Otherwise why put them on the outside of a tin of beans? Or are you trying to argue they don't count for anything in the sexual arena?

Once again we must agree to differ.

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

"We were once working on a stretch of the M6 all night and decided to go for a sauna before the weekend,ended up unknowingly in a sauna for gay and straight people people,needless to say we didnt stop long."

Then I think one of your workmates knew exactly what it was beforehand....

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By *aptainhornpipeMan over a year ago

manchester

A lot of men definitely do suppress that side of them, if fab has taught me anything it’s that there is fab straight. But saying that the majority of men are bi seems a bit unlikely.

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By *aptainhornpipeMan over a year ago

manchester

Of course you have perfect right an opinion but there is virtually nothing you say that I agree with.

Most guys being straight has absolutely nothing to do with societal or religious pressure. They are just straight because they are.

Equally labels do matter and indeed are helpful. Otherwise why put them on the outside of a tin of beans? Or are you trying to argue they don't count for anything in the sexual arena?

Once again we must agree to differ."

We label things because we need to be able to differentiate things. So if you fancy a boiled sweet you don’t accidentally pop corned beef in your mouth.

Labels help explicit selection it’s the way we have as a civilisation of allowing us to select our preferences.

An individual may not like the labelling process but the rest of society needs to be able to categorise them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Why is everyone so hung up about labels ?

I enjoy fucking a nice pussy, but I’ve been to a few gay saunas where a guy has sucked me off and enjoyed my load.

I just enjoy sex and it’s good to mix it up at times."

Totally agree.

People seen to have a very back abs white view of sexuality and orientation.

OP if you want to go, then go (once they open). Don’t get too hung up on labels. So long as what you do is with a consenting adult, then who cares?

What I would say is that gay saunas are dying.

They are not what they were 15/ 20 years ago. And it tends to be mostly older married men who go. (At least that’s my experience)

Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

100% agree

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By *aptainhornpipeMan over a year ago

manchester

"Why is everyone so hung up about labels ?

I enjoy fucking a nice pussy, but I’ve been to a few gay saunas where a guy has sucked me off and enjoyed my load.

I just enjoy sex and it’s good to mix it up at times.

Totally agree.

People seen to have a very back abs white view of sexuality and orientation.

OP if you want to go, then go (once they open). Don’t get too hung up on labels. So long as what you do is with a consenting adult, then who cares?

What I would say is that gay saunas are dying.

They are not what they were 15/ 20 years ago. And it tends to be mostly older married men who go. (At least that’s my experience)

Best of luck.

I guess you will accept the label of “consenting adult” then

No one is saying that people can’t be bi or gay but we need to be able to differentiate cos other wise how do we make the selection.

It’s one of the reasons gay saunas exist, or gay bars for that matter. The assumption is that anyone in there is up for it.

So you should know that if your straight and expect sexual advances, unless your ugly like me

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By *ale4MaleMassageMan over a year ago

Kingston upon hull

The 'gay' saunas would close if the 'straight' guys didn't go.

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By *oveoldercouples99Man over a year ago

Merton

"The 'gay' saunas would close if the 'straight' guys didn't go. "

100% agree

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By *imon_hydeMan over a year ago

Stockport

I was very nervous on my first visit (Pennine Sauna) but with a helping hand I was soon into the swing of things x

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By *mma_EvansTV/TS over a year ago

Colchester

"It's only gay if you swallow

This ^^ and kissing too xx

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By *LAchillesMan over a year ago

Aylesbury

Sometimes you can’t move for straight men in a gay sauna.

All welcome, a bad attitude is not.

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple over a year ago

Manchester

"Sometimes you can’t move for straight men in a gay sauna.

All welcome, a bad attitude is not."

Straight?

Yea. Of course they are.

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By *LAchillesMan over a year ago

Aylesbury

"Sometimes you can’t move for straight men in a gay sauna.

All welcome, a bad attitude is not.

Straight?

Yea. Of course they are.

That’s what they say. Who am I or you to judge?

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

I hate it when supermarkets label tins.

Maybe it's baked beans, maybe it's soup, but people shouldn't discriminate, it's all food.

Seriously, you are confusing a label, which is useful in providing information, with being prejudiced against a group.

If a man self-describes as straight, I'll believe him. But if a straight man is looking to have sex with other men, he should think about changing his label.

Unless he is deliberately misrepresenting himself as straight, to deceive people. As sadly many are

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just dont get why a straight man would have any interest in a gay sauna!! Begs the question are you straight.!!

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By *asmeenTV/TS over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Why would they? "

For fun

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

"Just dont get why a straight man would have any interest in a gay sauna!! Begs the question are you straight.!!"

Every time I see a straight guy comment on a thread about gay subjects I always question their sexuality. As it ‘begs the question’ why did you see gay sauna and think, that’s interesting I’ll take a look.

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By *oveoldercouples99Man over a year ago

Merton

I hate it when supermarkets label tins.

Maybe it's baked beans, maybe it's soup, but people shouldn't discriminate, it's all food.

Seriously, you are confusing a label, which is useful in providing information, with being prejudiced against a group.

If a man self-describes as straight, I'll believe him. But if a straight man is looking to have sex with other men, he should think about changing his label.

Unless he is deliberately misrepresenting himself as straight, to deceive people. As sadly many are "

My point exactly. Don't look at this on an individual basis, but at a societal level. Imagine how different the world would be if everyone could be open about their sexuality.

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By *oveoldercouples99Man over a year ago

Merton

"If a "Straight" man knowingly went to a "Gay" Sauna, then that man is NOT "Straight".

He is a closet "Bi" or "Gay"!!!!!!

If a gay or bi man goes to a straight swingers club, is he straight?

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

"If a "Straight" man knowingly went to a "Gay" Sauna, then that man is NOT "Straight".

He is a closet "Bi" or "Gay"!!!!!!

If a gay or bi man goes to a straight swingers club, is he straight?

No such thing as a straight swingers club, as that chap in the Glory hole discovered a couple of weeks ago.

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By *renzMan over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

"Just dont get why a straight man would have any interest in a gay sauna!! Begs the question are you straight.!!

The topic was about straight men going into a gay sauna.

They don't.

It seems the bi community have a problem with those of us are straight. All this rubbish about straight men sucking cock or playing with cock, they don't. Bi or more to the point bi curious will. I don't think it's a problem with those that are bi curious, just the fact many of them seem not to admit it, to themselves or others. There are no grey areas, shades or spectrums of being straight. Your either straight or not. There does seem to be various spectrums of being bi. Bi curious, orally bi, etc. If you are curious, what's the problem with admitting it? This seems to be where the confusion comes in. For whatever reason people cannot admit it, least of all to themselves.

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By *oveoldercouples99Man over a year ago

Merton

"Just dont get why a straight man would have any interest in a gay sauna!! Begs the question are you straight.!!

The topic was about straight men going into a gay sauna.

They don't.

Problem is nobody knows how many (millions I think) married men like cock.

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By *renzMan over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

"Just dont get why a straight man would have any interest in a gay sauna!! Begs the question are you straight.!!

The topic was about straight men going into a gay sauna.

They don't.

Problem is nobody knows how many (millions I think) married men like cock. "

But surely that makes them bi at the very least?

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By *oveoldercouples99Man over a year ago

Merton

"Just dont get why a straight man would have any interest in a gay sauna!! Begs the question are you straight.!!

The topic was about straight men going into a gay sauna.

They don't.

Problem is nobody knows how many (millions I think) married men like cock.

But surely that makes them bi at the very least? "

Precisely millions of people.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

"Just dont get why a straight man would have any interest in a gay sauna!! Begs the question are you straight.!!

The topic was about straight men going into a gay sauna.

They don't.

The Op actually asked a question. You and a few others on here seem to be more interested in the sex part

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By *renzMan over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

"Just dont get why a straight man would have any interest in a gay sauna!! Begs the question are you straight.!!

The topic was about straight men going into a gay sauna.

They don't.

Problem is nobody knows how many (millions I think) married men like cock.

But surely that makes them bi at the very least?

Precisely millions of people. "

Worldwide I wouldn't disagree. In this country I doubt very much it runs into millions.

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By *exyMPCouple over a year ago

SOUTHEND-ON-SEA

"If a "Straight" man knowingly went to a "Gay" Sauna, then that man is NOT "Straight".

He is a closet "Bi" or "Gay"!!!!!!

So the minute you walk into a gay

sauna you’re gay.

I suppose the minute I sit in a lorry I’m a lorry driver

brum brum "

Love it, nice response.

We liked the guy who said "I'm perfectly straight"....well, we are "perfectly bi", so ner

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By *oveoldercouples99Man over a year ago

Merton

"Just dont get why a straight man would have any interest in a gay sauna!! Begs the question are you straight.!!

The topic was about straight men going into a gay sauna.

They don't.

Problem is nobody knows how many (millions I think) married men like cock.

But surely that makes them bi at the very least?

Precisely millions of people.

Worldwide I wouldn't disagree. In this country I doubt very much it runs into millions."

Having seen both sides fabswingers and fabguys and having been to gay saunas, Naturist clubs and swinging clubs. It's just so clear. I believe there are millions of bi men and women in this country.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess from my point of view, why would a straight man want to visit a gay sauna??

Go to the local David Lloyd or hotel sauna.

Specifically seeking out a sauna for gay people means you might not be straight haha!

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By *konCouple over a year ago

cardiff

Is an oxymoron ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Is an oxymoron ?"

Is a gay person in a straight sauna an oxymoron? Nope. So the same applies.

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By *itty9899Man over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Is an oxymoron ?"

I think I meet him once.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

Straight men in gay bars next ..

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By *renzMan over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

"Just dont get why a straight man would have any interest in a gay sauna!! Begs the question are you straight.!!

The topic was about straight men going into a gay sauna.

They don't.

Problem is nobody knows how many (millions I think) married men like cock.

But surely that makes them bi at the very least?

Precisely millions of people.

Worldwide I wouldn't disagree. In this country I doubt very much it runs into millions.

Having seen both sides fabswingers and fabguys and having been to gay saunas, Naturist clubs and swinging clubs. It's just so clear. I believe there are millions of bi men and women in this country. "

Again I don't disagree with you, I'm sure there are. Many of the females on here seem to be bi and probably as many men, you see many in the couples profiles that are. I just don't agree with your sweeping statement that millions of married men want cock.

If there are, why hide behind the straight label, when they so obviously aren't. It's not a problem for those that are straight, just a problem for those that can't admit it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If a "Straight" man knowingly went to a "Gay" Sauna, then that man is NOT "Straight".

He is a closet "Bi" or "Gay"!!!!!!

There are lots of basically heterosexual men who have curiosities. It doesn’t mean they have to leap to a whole new sexual identity.

Wouldn’t it be better and happier - for everyone - if men across the board could explore anything they chose without this kind of inane “Gotcha!”

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I guess from my point of view, why would a straight man want to visit a gay sauna??

Go to the local David Lloyd or hotel sauna.

Specifically seeking out a sauna for gay people means you might not be straight haha!"

Haha! Gotcha!

This kind of attitude does no one any good.

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By *oveoldercouples99Man over a year ago

Merton

"Just dont get why a straight man would have any interest in a gay sauna!! Begs the question are you straight.!!

The topic was about straight men going into a gay sauna.

They don't.

Problem is nobody knows how many (millions I think) married men like cock.

But surely that makes them bi at the very least?

Precisely millions of people.

Worldwide I wouldn't disagree. In this country I doubt very much it runs into millions.

Having seen both sides fabswingers and fabguys and having been to gay saunas, Naturist clubs and swinging clubs. It's just so clear. I believe there are millions of bi men and women in this country.

If there are, why hide behind the straight label, when they so obviously aren't. It's not a problem for those that are straight, just a problem for those that can't admit it."

Seems like we are going in circles. As I said previously societal pressure, marriage, religion, discrimination, not wanting to divorce, money, children, "straight conventional society"

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By *elpful and caringMan over a year ago

Scarborough

Perhaps they are all gay men in straight Saunas?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just dont get why a straight man would have any interest in a gay sauna!! Begs the question are you straight.!!

The topic was about straight men going into a gay sauna.

They don't.

Problem is nobody knows how many (millions I think) married men like cock.

But surely that makes them bi at the very least?

Precisely millions of people.

Worldwide I wouldn't disagree. In this country I doubt very much it runs into millions.

Having seen both sides fabswingers and fabguys and having been to gay saunas, Naturist clubs and swinging clubs. It's just so clear. I believe there are millions of bi men and women in this country.

If there are, why hide behind the straight label, when they so obviously aren't. It's not a problem for those that are straight, just a problem for those that can't admit it.

Seems like we are going in circles. As I said previously societal pressure, marriage, religion, discrimination, not wanting to divorce, money, children, "straight conventional society" "

Absolutely. Men face pressures to appear straight at all times and this idea that they are hiding or just can’t admit it puts the blame onto the men themselves for this.

But yah! Gotcha!

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By *renzMan over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

"Just dont get why a straight man would have any interest in a gay sauna!! Begs the question are you straight.!!

The topic was about straight men going into a gay sauna.

They don't.

Problem is nobody knows how many (millions I think) married men like cock.

But surely that makes them bi at the very least?

Precisely millions of people.

Worldwide I wouldn't disagree. In this country I doubt very much it runs into millions.

Having seen both sides fabswingers and fabguys and having been to gay saunas, Naturist clubs and swinging clubs. It's just so clear. I believe there are millions of bi men and women in this country.

If there are, why hide behind the straight label, when they so obviously aren't. It's not a problem for those that are straight, just a problem for those that can't admit it.

Seems like we are going in circles. As I said previously societal pressure, marriage, religion, discrimination, not wanting to divorce, money, children, "straight conventional society" "

Definitely circles. All of the above are reasons for not admitting they are bi. Certainly not reasons for being straight, which is where we came in.

I guess we can agree to disagree, which is what a discussion can be about.

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

"If a "Straight" man knowingly went to a "Gay" Sauna, then that man is NOT "Straight".

He is a closet "Bi" or "Gay"!!!!!!

So the minute you walk into a gay

sauna you’re gay.

I suppose the minute I sit in a lorry I’m a lorry driver

brum brum

Love it, nice response.

We liked the guy who said "I'm perfectly straight"....well, we are "perfectly bi", so ner

The moment you walk into a shop and start browsing, you are a potential customer (or buy-curious).

But if I saw someone sitting in a driving seat of a truck, I'd assume that they were a truck driver, even if the engine wasn't running.

Also as someone who has a cat C driving license (unarticulated HGV) am I a truck driver, even if I haven't driven one recently?

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By *raraymondoMan over a year ago

Glasgow

There’s Tropics in Portsmouth, I’ve been a couple of times and had fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Try it? What’s the worst that can happen? You see a few cocks. Doesn’t automatically make you gay, bi or anything else - it just means you’ve seen a few cocks.

I wouldn’t have a problem going in one and I’m perfectly straight. Indeed we’ve been in them as a couple. You can’t catch being gay....."

Brilliant

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"If a "Straight" man knowingly went to a "Gay" Sauna, then that man is NOT "Straight".

He is a closet "Bi" or "Gay"!!!!!!

How have you arrived at that conclusion? And why are you shouting.?

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"Just dont get why a straight man would have any interest in a gay sauna!! Begs the question are you straight.!!

The topic was about straight men going into a gay sauna.

They don't.

Problem is nobody knows how many (millions I think) married men like cock.

But surely that makes them bi at the very least? "

Do you think they are allowed to change? Over time?

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By *lorious hole bs16Man over a year ago

Bristol

To answer the question OP, from my experience over many years, a lot of married (hetero)men use gay saunas, esp Middle aged and older, bit on the side with few complications..

You do get a few chatty guys, but often little talk is involved, therefore you never know what persuasion the guys are,it is purely an opportunity to release without awkward exchanges etc.

As a few people have said, Go for it and remember your in charge, perhaps simply observe on yr maiden visit, familiarise yrself with the building & the various options.

Enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just dont get why a straight man would have any interest in a gay sauna!! Begs the question are you straight.!!

brilliant! Thou protest too much! Almost like they need everyone to have a label just to ensure theirs is highlighted as "straight".

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By *eedsmale36Man over a year ago

Leeds

"I do enjoy getting out and about and have found a few gay saunas do many straight men go? "

You know what they say John, suck one cock get labelled “cocksucker”

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By *irtylittletramp100TV/TS over a year ago

Notts

"If a "Straight" man knowingly went to a "Gay" Sauna, then that man is NOT "Straight".

He is a closet "Bi" or "Gay"!!!!!!

So the minute you walk into a gay sauna you’re gay.

I suppose the minute I sit in a lorry I’m a lorry driver

brum brum "

thats right, i only have to put on a surgeons mask and pick up a scalpel and im ready to do open heart surgery .... or they could be a undercover journalist?

im not sure a man letting another man suck his cock is gay? isnt the sucker gay? and the other guy just getting to dump his load? lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do enjoy getting out and about and have found a few gay saunas do many straight men go?

You know what they say John, suck one cock get labelled “cocksucker”

Better do two just to be safe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What’s not one thing must be t’other...

According to some on his thread.

A journalist and writer on male sexuality called Mark Simpson (who coined the term metrosexual) is interesting on this. Lots of people, even those who should know better but don’t, seem very keen to “question” straight men’s sexuality. Like they were going to take them down to the police station.

Is it any wonder that men who are even mildly curious about cock hide behind the straight label given the amount of judgement they get. Even among the supposedly more tolerant communities in here. Yes it would be nice if people were (or could be) more honest, but I’d it any surprise that they’re often not?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never been to one, but presumably it is a plausible reason for men to be naked together.

Like "massage" is a code for sex-work. (Which annoys my friend, who is an actual massage therapist (sports, reiki etc))"

The use of 'massage therapist' as a euphemism for sex annoys me too. Same as if someone's a nurse. Some people get confused and make things uncomfortable for the person doing their job. Yes, I'm one of the above.

As for the 'gay' sauna. No problem if it's just a sauna. But I think you're suggesting it exists for men to have sex. In which case I'm not sure why a genuinely straight guy would go?

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

Are there just women gay saunas

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By *aulupforitMan over a year ago

Corbridge

"The 'gay' saunas would close if the 'straight' guys didn't go. "

More like the married guys it would close

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By *eedsmale36Man over a year ago

Leeds

"Are there just women gay saunas"

It’s called the WI in August

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By *aulupforitMan over a year ago

Corbridge

"Are there just women gay saunas"

I have never heard of or seen one so I could not tell you.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Some bi/gay saunas have been known to have a lot of straight guys, where they may have gym membership and use the showers, sauna etc to refresh themselves. The typical exclusions are women (not always) and anyone hostile to other types of clientele.

Like swinging venues, many have their sexual activities in more private rooms so as long as someone doesn't stumble into 1, they may not see much that's sexual

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

"I guess from my point of view, why would a straight man want to visit a gay sauna??

Go to the local David Lloyd or hotel sauna.

Specifically seeking out a sauna for gay people means you might not be straight haha!"

Maybe the location, opening hours, price, convenience etc? Straight, bi and gay people are friends with each other. Ghettos are something from a bygone age. So called gay bars have bi, gay and straight people in them - many of us here visit them for a good night out, that's inclusive. A lot of women feel more comfortable surrounded by mostly gay men in a pub ir club, as we're not hassled in the same way as other places.

Facilities and convenience are probably important to most people and no always means no, whether in the swinging or bi/gay world.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are there just women gay saunas"

The Turkish communities have hammams. Sauna spas with an old world approach, different to the western gay scene. They have lady days. They have men days.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have nothing to lose "

Virginity with a man perhaps.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Wouldn’t think so

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By *ooneyCouple over a year ago

Chester

"Fab really is the mothership of denial sometimes

that made me laugh

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I consider myself as bi playful. I don’t find guys attractive but I love cock play and cock fun.

A sauna seems like the ideal place for this!! I’m definitely up for visiting one, when safe to do so.

Does anyone know of a sauna in Essex? Preferably near to Colchester??

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By *urboTongue21Man over a year ago

Walsall

I have seen plenty of male on male activity in adult cinemas...each to their own but I can never figure out if those guys are gay, bi or what. I am sure some just regard it as relief and fun and don't care who gives them that.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Anyone who goes to Bristol Gardens Health Spa here in Brighton knows that all the men are straight while there are women about and they're hopeful. But when those women disappear many of them seem to come out as bi...

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By *oveoldercouples99Man over a year ago

Merton

"Anyone who goes to Bristol Gardens Health Spa here in Brighton knows that all the men are straight while there are women about and they're hopeful. But when those women disappear many of them seem to come out as bi..."

That's what I've seen at most clubs. Eureka, kestrels. When there are no or few women about the men play with each other.

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By *irtylittletramp100TV/TS over a year ago

Notts

That's what I've seen at most clubs. Eureka, kestrels. When there are no or few women about the men play with each other. "

in the navy.... they want you they want you....

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

I've been to couple, basically because I'm a naturist who likes to go to spas naked. That's perfectly normal in big chunks of mainland Europe, but over here there aren't many places to do that and gay saunas fit the bill. I can cope with guys sucking each other off near me if I can get a good steam without having to put a towel round me. Luke

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By *anther81Man over a year ago

Drogheda

I kind of blame gay saunas for turning me Bi. Not a lot can do about it now. Having said that I don’t really agree with the label thing anyway. There are girls I would not be with equally there are guys I would never go near. Think a lot can be attitude, mood, what you like etc. Not necessarily the binary girl/guy.

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman over a year ago

lancashire

"I do enjoy getting out and about and have found a few gay saunas do many straight men go? "

I have no idea...but get your self in there...you may just enjoy it...and maybe discover your more than 'straight'...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do enjoy getting out and about and have found a few gay saunas do many straight men go?

Do many vegetarians go to McDonald's?

Must do ..no chicken in their food..lol

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By *rHotNottsMan over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I've been to couple, basically because I'm a naturist who likes to go to spas naked. That's perfectly normal in big chunks of mainland Europe, but over here there aren't many places to do that and gay saunas fit the bill. I can cope with guys sucking each other off near me if I can get a good steam without having to put a towel round me. Luke"

I”m a member of a gym in Lagos Nigeria , it’s totally normal to be naked in the sauna after a workout

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some men like to have a "secret life". They don't think it's the same sort of cheating if it's with another man rather than a woman. Someone even created a category, MSM, so that such men don't have to label themselves bisexual. I've been with men, sometimes been fucked by them, who say their wives/girlfriends don't know they're having sex with men.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do enjoy getting out and about and have found a few gay saunas do many straight men go? "

Makes no sense

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

"If a "Straight" man knowingly went to a "Gay" Sauna, then that man is NOT "Straight".

He is a closet "Bi" or "Gay"!!!!!!

So the minute you walk into a gay sauna you’re gay.

I suppose the minute I sit in a lorry I’m a lorry driver

brum brum

thats right, i only have to put on a surgeons mask and pick up a scalpel and im ready to do open heart surgery .... or they could be a undercover journalist?

im not sure a man letting another man suck his cock is gay? isnt the sucker gay? and the other guy just getting to dump his load? lol

You are Bill Clinton and I claim my five pounds.

So by the same logic that a mouth is a mouth, then an arse is an arse. As long as the "straight" man doesn't touch the gay (or bi) man's cock, he is still straight?

The proper terms are Top and bottom for gay men who want to mirror a heterosexual style relationship, with the top being the "masculine" one penetrating the "feminine" one.

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple over a year ago

Manchester

"I do enjoy getting out and about and have found a few gay saunas do many straight men go?

Makes no sense "

I agree. Gay and bi guys quite naturally look to be respected but this widespread belief that straight guys are up for gay sex invites ridicule instead.

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

"I kind of blame gay saunas for turning me Bi. Not a lot can do about it now. Having said that I don’t really agree with the label thing anyway. There are girls I would not be with equally there are guys I would never go near. Think a lot can be attitude, mood, what you like etc. Not necessarily the binary girl/guy."

You weren't 'turned' just discovered something that was always part of you.

Though your comment about not agreeing with the label, because you are not shagging everything that moves?

That's not sexuality, that's promiscuity.

There's plenty of monogamous relationships between homosexual people, heterosexual people and even bi-sexual people who have chosen a significant other.

I know some men (of any sexual orientation) will shag anything that moves but doesn't move fast enough.

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By *irtylittletramp100TV/TS over a year ago

Notts

"If a "Straight" man knowingly went to a "Gay" Sauna, then that man is NOT "Straight".

He is a closet "Bi" or "Gay"!!!!!!

So the minute you walk into a gay sauna you’re gay.

I suppose the minute I sit in a lorry I’m a lorry driver

brum brum

thats right, i only have to put on a surgeons mask and pick up a scalpel and im ready to do open heart surgery .... or they could be a undercover journalist?

im not sure a man letting another man suck his cock is gay? isnt the sucker gay? and the other guy just getting to dump his load? lol

You are Bill Clinton and I claim my five pounds.

So by the same logic that a mouth is a mouth, then an arse is an arse. As long as the "straight" man doesn't touch the gay (or bi) man's cock, he is still straight?

The proper terms are Top and bottom for gay men who want to mirror a heterosexual style relationship, with the top being the "masculine" one penetrating the "feminine" one.

well everyone knows anal sex is just wrong lol who bums women? its obvious that you are suppose to use the pussy but if you are going to screw a females bum then so what if you do a mans? sooo homophobic! lol

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By *un biguyMan over a year ago

belfast

Bored now

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By *aulupforitMan over a year ago

Corbridge

"Bored now "

And?

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By *oveoldercouples99Man over a year ago

Merton

What people fail to realise is swinging is all about bisexuality. MFM, FMF etc there is always two people of the same gender in a threesome. Take a MFM threesome the men can see each others cocks and are not turned off by it. Doesn't matter if they don't touch each other, it's still a bi scenario.

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple over a year ago

Manchester

"What people fail to realise is swinging is all about bisexuality. MFM, FMF etc there is always two people of the same gender in a threesome. Take a MFM threesome the men can see each others cocks and are not turned off by it. Doesn't matter if they don't touch each other, it's still a bi scenario. "

Well I suppose that is one theory

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ocht behave

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By *dam_TinaCouple over a year ago

Hampshire

Utter utter utter utter bollocks.

I also disagree strongly.

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

Men can see each others cocks and even if they don't touch must be bi? Oooookkkkkkay then. I never knew that.

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By *cooby5555Man over a year ago

galway

Went to a few had no intention of playing and didn't even though it was on offer did enjoy watching to the point my cock was rock hard and leaking precum which rarely happens but still didn't want to play

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By *itzimadCouple over a year ago

harwich

my gay friend say's if it wasn't for straight men he would have no sex life lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Went to a few had no intention of playing and didn't even though it was on offer did enjoy watching to the point my cock was rock hard and leaking precum which rarely happens but still didn't want to play "

Yeah in my 20s way way before I transitioned and even started playing with guts. I used to pop into a local gay sauna after my physio session twice a month. Simply it was 5 pounds entry fee each time and I was only there 30 minutes ish for sauna and steam to help my treatment .

It was far cheaper than spunking 50 quid for a membership to the david Lloyd or other big brand centre .

Never had a problem with the guys as made it clear I wasn’t there for that . Some interesting chats I had in there with guys about life in general , and seeing people play didn’t phase me in slightest . Though I think I only ever saw a handful of people actually play in the steam room.

The place had different rooms that guys would go into from the sauna .

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By *loria JamesTV/TS over a year ago

Durham

"If a "Straight" man knowingly went to a "Gay" Sauna, then that man is NOT "Straight".

He is a closet "Bi" or "Gay"!!!!!!

So the minute you walk into a gay sauna you’re gay.

I suppose the minute I sit in a lorry I’m a lorry driver

brum brum "

I think if you took HGV lessons it would make you at least HGV curious.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A blow job is a blow job at the end of the day. No different to trying a glory hole. Doesn't make you gay just makes you happy! M

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By *tephTV67TV/TS over a year ago

Cheshire

You should get out more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We REALLY need a face palm emoji in these forums

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By *otchoc69Man over a year ago

london

"To answer the question OP, from my experience over many years, a lot of married (hetero)men use gay saunas, esp Middle aged and older, bit on the side with few complications..

You do get a few chatty guys, but often little talk is involved, therefore you never know what persuasion the guys are,it is purely an opportunity to release without awkward exchanges etc.

As a few people have said, Go for it and remember your in charge, perhaps simply observe on yr maiden visit, familiarise yrself with the building & the various options.

Enjoy."

I totally agree with you 100% on this

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By *hoot45Man over a year ago

Ramsgate

There’s such a wide spectrum of sexuality that it’s difficult to label people, although we do because it’s neat and tidy. No one is going to be made gay or bisexual or heterosexual by being exposed to that particular set of behaviours in my opinion. On a lighter note, as the father of one of my friends said after serving in the Navy: “there were a lot of homosexuals on my ship, but I wasn’t into that and it left a very nasty taste in my mouth” oh yes, mister?

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By *ny1localMan over a year ago

READING

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By *hoot45Man over a year ago

Ramsgate

Our whole lives are bi scenarios unless we live in enclosed orders of nuns or monks lol

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple over a year ago

Manchester

Our whole lives are bi scenarios unless we live in enclosed orders of nuns or monks lol "

Sorry but that comparison only holds water if the scenario is sexual. I buy a few onions from the bloke at the grocers. I am only buying veg.

Don't over complicate stuff and seek a sexual nuance where in reality none exists in virtually all realms of live.

Only a bi guy could fantasize that every contact with another bloke seethes with unspoken bisexual tensions. Lol

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By *hoot45Man over a year ago

Ramsgate

Our whole lives are bi scenarios unless we live in enclosed orders of nuns or monks lol

Sorry but that comparison only holds water if the scenario is sexual. I buy a few onions from the bloke at the grocers. I am only buying veg.

Don't over complicate stuff and seek a sexual nuance where in reality none exists in virtually all realms of live.

Only a bi guy could fantasize that every contact with another bloke seethes with unspoken bisexual tensions. Lol"

Oh dear - wash my keyboard with soap and water! Doesn’t take much to rattle some peoples cages does it? Lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont have a problem with anyone gay bi or whatever. What i do have a problem with is guys who say they arw straight yet are bi at the very least but would never admit they suck cock. No one cares nowadays if you are gay or bi so why not just tell the truth as liveing in the closet and lieing all your life is very sad in my opinion

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By *hoot45Man over a year ago

Ramsgate

"I dont have a problem with anyone gay bi or whatever. What i do have a problem with is guys who say they arw straight yet are bi at the very least but would never admit they suck cock. No one cares nowadays if you are gay or bi so why not just tell the truth as liveing in the closet and lieing all your life is very sad in my opinion

I agree but I’m not so sure about the no one cares bit

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

'No one cares nowadays'

Spoken like someone completely unaffected and unaware

From Stonewall / YouGov ...

One in five LGBT people have experienced a hate crime or incident because of their sexual orientation and/or gender identity in the last 12 months

Two in five trans people have experienced a hate crime or incident because of their gender identity in the last 12 months

Four in five anti-LGBT hate crimes and incidents go unreported, with younger LGBT people particularly reluctant to go to the police

In addition, BBC and local news media reporting a rise in reports of crimes against LGBT people in both 2020 and, to date, in 2021

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

'No one cares nowadays'

Spoken like someone completely unaffected and unaware

From Stonewall / YouGov ...

One in five LGBT people have experienced a hate crime or incident because of their sexual orientation and/or gender identity in the last 12 months

Two in five trans people have experienced a hate crime or incident because of their gender identity in the last 12 months

Four in five anti-LGBT hate crimes and incidents go unreported, with younger LGBT people particularly reluctant to go to the police

In addition, BBC and local news media reporting a rise in reports of crimes against LGBT people in both 2020 and, to date, in 2021"

Oh and the male bi-phobia on here at times is almost tangible

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By *hoot45Man over a year ago

Ramsgate

'No one cares nowadays'

Spoken like someone completely unaffected and unaware

From Stonewall / YouGov ...

One in five LGBT people have experienced a hate crime or incident because of their sexual orientation and/or gender identity in the last 12 months

Two in five trans people have experienced a hate crime or incident because of their gender identity in the last 12 months

Four in five anti-LGBT hate crimes and incidents go unreported, with younger LGBT people particularly reluctant to go to the police

In addition, BBC and local news media reporting a rise in reports of crimes against LGBT people in both 2020 and, to date, in 2021"

Well said! There are certain parts of our society where it’s still taboo.

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

Our whole lives are bi scenarios unless we live in enclosed orders of nuns or monks lol "

Yeah... No they aren't. I can put petrol in my car, buy my shopping and not get into a bi sexual scenario. Im pretty sure Im not the only one.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I don't agree about the no-one cares. There's still a long way to go. In my many years around Chesterfield, I've never seen 2 men being affectionate in public there, despite there being gay, bi, curious guys there. I don't think most people would cause a problem but there would probably be some clear signs of disapproval made evident. If you're up for it, we can organise a research demonstration. My gay female friends generally have no problems in Chesterfield but occasionally get negative feedback. It's easy for apparent straight men to throw these comments out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Our whole lives are bi scenarios unless we live in enclosed orders of nuns or monks lol

Yeah... No they aren't. I can put petrol in my car, buy my shopping and not get into a bi sexual scenario. Im pretty sure Im not the only one. "

Be careful not to say 'fill me up' when you're going for petrol

You might get something you weren't bargaining for

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By *aulupforitMan over a year ago

Corbridge

Be what you are

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By *hades Of GreyMan over a year ago

Leeds

I do enjoy getting out and about and have found a few gay saunas do many straight men go?"

The clue is in the title 'Gay Sauna'. That said, many bisexual and bi-curious men do attend.

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By *igjohn78 OP Man over a year ago

lincoln

I did think that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As some have said, being naked is quite normal/natural in many countries, whether in saunas, massages, swimming, beaches etc. It's so normal people don't bat an eyelid or sexualise it. In the UK we generally have somewhat immature Victorian and 'nudge, nudge, wink, wink' attitudes as we find nudity a bit embarrassing.

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By *orkspoonMan over a year ago

nearby

To answer an early question, yes there are usually saunas and steam rooms, but lots of play areas as well. If you've been, chameleons would give you an idea of the typical vibe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being a tad stupid and naive but how do you know if it’s a gay sauna? Is it called the

rooms?

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By *irtylittletramp100TV/TS over a year ago

Notts

Utter utter utter utter bollocks.

I also disagree strongly."

I get his point to some extent, showing an ankle was once considered sexy! Young men were told to tie their pyjamas tight lol ..... it's just modern society has moved the bar... a long way lol having sex mfm, being near another man's hard spunking cock... that is a sexual and there's 2 men present...!

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By *ornucopiaMan over a year ago

Bexley

Just as sex is not compulsory in a sauna, you don't have to eat meat in McDonald's. But isn't it the reason most customers go there?

I go to McDonalds because I can get what I want* without having to wait too long.

By the sound of it, gay saunas provide similarly rapid results!

* Mainly vegetarian, as it happens.

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By *ornucopiaMan over a year ago

Bexley

I would have thought it is flippin' obvious why many men are coy or downright untruthful about what they get up to.

It is because they simply don't want to miss out on ANY possibility of nookie but they've noticed that a proportion of couples and single women state that they don't want to have anything to do with men who play with other men and therefore, by admitting to it they would ruin their chances.

Add to that the inescapable fact that unless you specifically say that you are straighter than an arrow, you will get bombarded with offers to suck your cock. Such offers most likely won't come from women!

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By *igjohn78 OP Man over a year ago

lincoln

Love it you might want to read my verification.

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

How is this thread still going lol seems a fairly simple issue?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I do enjoy getting out and about and have found a few gay saunas do many straight men go? "

Duh, they just pop in to buy Kellogs?

They are NOT STRAIGHT if they got for cock fun!

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"How is this thread still going lol seems a fairly simple issue? "

It's a quiet news day

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple over a year ago

Manchester

"I would have thought it is flippin' obvious why many men are coy or downright untruthful about what they get up to.

Totally agree with all you say except the straighter than an arrow bit.

Even then you will still get bombarded with blowjob offers from blokes.

Didn't you know that there is no such thing as straight after 6 pints of lager? Didn't you know it's only a label? Didn't you know it's only a hole so nobody cares?

On and on the nonsense goes.

For many bi and gay guys the fantasy of getting all hot and sweaty with a straight guy overcomes all common sense.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I still find it sad that folk lie in 2021. I personelly think that theres still a misguided knowledge that if you admit you are bi-sexual that you are not as masculine, that and if they admit it they would be talked about by others and shunned by many wonen who only want a "real" man. Sad times

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By *irtylittletramp100TV/TS over a year ago

Notts

"I still find it sad that folk lie in 2021. I personelly think that theres still a misguided knowledge that if you admit you are bi-sexual that you are not as masculine, that and if they admit it they would be talked about by others and shunned by many wonen who only want a "real" man. Sad times"

it is sad, and the women that shun and then complain women are not treated equal ! fact is if you have someone elses spunk in your mouth or up your hole, you will be treated like a bitch, no matter what your genitals are lol think its just a primal dominance thing

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By *aria_dreamgirlTV/TS over a year ago

stockport

So why don't you mention that you like tgirls in your profile? Are you ashamed to admit that you like us?

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By *partharmonyCouple over a year ago

Ruislip

I have been because I like a good sauna and steam. I like to use spas au naturel like they do in certain parts of continental Europe. Gay saunas are about the only places in the country where you can use a spa with your kit off, and they are quite good value.

All I have to do is put up with guys sucking each other off in the corner. I can cope with that. Luke

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By *ackformore100Man over a year ago

Tin town

"I have been because I like a good sauna and steam. I like to use spas au naturel like they do in certain parts of continental Europe. Gay saunas are about the only places in the country where you can use a spa with your kit off, and they are quite good value.

All I have to do is put up with guys sucking each other off in the corner. I can cope with that. Luke"

Doesn't it get very sticky?

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By *hades Of GreyMan over a year ago

Leeds

The opposite is also true, there are many couples who are looking for a bisexual man, and many couples who don't care if you're Bi or not. In my experience the number of liaisons I've had by admitting I'm Bi far outweighs the liaisons I've lost. As for the intolerant ones, it's their loss!

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By *irldnCouple over a year ago

Brighton

Surely if a man who self identifies as straight knowingly goes to a gay sauna that at very least makes him bi-curious?

Regards the OP - I suspect many couples with a straight male would happily meet a bi guy. But that would be on the understanding no bi male action is going to happen. They likely feel the need to emphasise that point strongly and in many cases just find it easier to say they won’t meet bi/curious guys to avoid any difficult moments. I doubt it is any misbelief that the bi guy cannot control himself and will pounce! Just better being up front.

Have no doubt at all that more guys are bi/curious then will openly admit it.

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By *irldnCouple over a year ago

Brighton

Lol just realised realised that wasn’t to OP to this thread doh!

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By *irldnCouple over a year ago

Brighton

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My hubby thought he was straight until a guy sucked his cock in a mixed sauna

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can’t wait to visit a sauna.... see what the fuss is about.... will be nice to relax and not have to worry.... can’t be undressed at the gym!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Are there just women gay saunas"

Some years ago there was one in London's Covent Garden and there was one here in Brighton for a while, but these were special nights in an otherwise men's saunas. The concept never really took off, which I thought was a shame.

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By *irtylittletramp100TV/TS over a year ago

Notts

"My hubby thought he was straight until a guy sucked his cock in a mixed sauna "

he is straight, just likes emptying his balls lol

i think the line is kissing or actually looking and thinking, id like to fuck them or be fucked by them!

guys with a hard on who take advantage of a hot hole... is a bit like a hungry dog eating a veggie burger... hes still a carnivore but it was there and he ate it lol

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple over a year ago

Manchester

"My hubby thought he was straight until a guy sucked his cock in a mixed sauna

he is straight, just likes emptying his balls lol

i think the line is kissing or actually looking and thinking, id like to fuck them or be fucked by them!

guys with a hard on who take advantage of a hot hole... is a bit like a hungry dog eating a veggie burger... hes still a carnivore but it was there and he ate it lol"

Lol. I like the veggie burger line. Funny.

But it doesn't work like that in real life. A hole is not just a hole. It never is.

Ever.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My hubby thought he was straight until a guy sucked his cock in a mixed sauna

he is straight, just likes emptying his balls lol

i think the line is kissing or actually looking and thinking, id like to fuck them or be fucked by them!

guys with a hard on who take advantage of a hot hole... is a bit like a hungry dog eating a veggie burger... hes still a carnivore but it was there and he ate it lol

Lol. I like the veggie burger line. Funny.

But it doesn't work like that in real life. A hole is not just a hole. It never is.

Ever."

I have to admit... it's probably time I came out. I had a veggie burger once and thought it was OK. I'd maybe do it again if I was really hungry... does this make me veggie- curious? Embarrassing, I know hope you all don't think anything less of me

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