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How often is too often

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

A genuine question here...

If you have met someone you like on fab, local to you and really click... if you were to meet for naughty fun. How often would you meet them is just the right amount? It is to depends on your work/general life/other commitments of coz...

But would you meet once a week? A couple of times a week or more and don’t come across needy?? What would you think would be the good amount of meet and not get bored of each other too quickly or come across too needy?

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

Twice a month. Too busy to offer more.

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By *luebell888Woman over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Twice a month. Too busy to offer more."

And happy for him to see others when not seeing me.

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By *eavenlyWoman over a year ago

Cheltenham

Its something you'd need to discuss with them, I've had a regular fb & we saw each other twice a week (work & life permitting) while other fb's its been a few times a month, up to the individual & real life I've found.

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By *ustBoWoman over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I think it really depends on the person you meet and how you get on together .Also what are the boundaries that you both want and I don't mean sexually but more how often you both want to meet and respecting each others privacy and knowing that if you are crossing a line that you both have decided on that you would say it especially of it is someone you meet regularly.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not sure I could get bored of that peachy arse but it depends on the individual.

Do you think you would get bored easily with said person? Then maybe not very often.

And if you think you really click then as often as you both can. Knowing that so many men will soon get bored once they've had their pleasure but if he comes back for more then fantastic.

Hope you find a happy medium that works for both of you x

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By *sm265Woman over a year ago

Shangri-la

I'd say it very much depends on what you are looking for. I'm not currently meeting but, in the past, I tried the fwb/FB approach but on both occasions as soon as it became a regular thing feelings got involved & they got territorial, after that I changed things and meets became an occasional thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'd say it very much depends on what you are looking for. I'm not currently meeting but, in the past, I tried the fwb/FB approach but on both occasions as soon as it became a regular thing feelings got involved & they got territorial, after that I changed things and meets became an occasional thing. "

That’s actually a good point, when gets too close, feelings get involved x

Never good when a FB gets territorial x I always say I am never looking for a relationship, just a naughty regular friendship x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As often as we can manage, around all the boring commitments we have, who needs a job

We sometimes go other things too, like going for a walk ...

As long as you’re both happy, then it’s between both of you.

Hippy

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Not sure I could get bored of that peachy arse but it depends on the individual.

Do you think you would get bored easily with said person? Then maybe not very often.

And if you think you really click then as often as you both can. Knowing that so many men will soon get bored once they've had their pleasure but if he comes back for more then fantastic.

Hope you find a happy medium that works for both of you x"

Aww, thanks for the kind comments.

I am just trying to see what is the right balance... from a guy point of view, if you get on with someone and they ask you “so when are you next free...” would it be a “oh wow, she wants more of me” or a “oh gosh, she is needy”? Lol lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

2 or 3 times a month maybe

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"A genuine question here...

You have to work it out between you both OP. The boredom factor could be an issue, watch out for that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Twice a month. Too busy to offer more.

And happy for him to see others when not seeing me.

Of coz x We are swinger and grown adults x the fun of swingers is that we don’t have to be just with one person only if we don’t want to xx

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By *etcplCouple over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

For us, and others it seems, it depends on what we are all wanting to get out of it.

Its hard to introduce someone to the D/s lifestyle if you only get to see them once in a blue moon, however if someone just wants a little kinky play then once a month could be sufficient.

Needy for me isn’t about the frequency of your meets but more about the purpose behind them.

If you are meeting solely to stop them meeting others, or to try and involve them in your life (or vice versa) where it isn’t wanted or desired, then that comes over as more needy thrn meeting twice a week for fun.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if they can keep emotions free and understand im part of a very together couple then as often as we can if the sex is good

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"As often as we can manage, around all the boring commitments we have, who needs a job

We sometimes go other things too, like going for a walk ...

As long as you’re both happy, then it’s between both of you.

Hippy"

In a fantasy world, all covid would be gone, always fun and naughtiness and we can all get paid being on fab, just to chat and tease everyone lol xxxx

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

For me, no more than once a month, I'd make exceptions if there was a party or something we'd both be at, but as for 1-1 meets, no more frequent than that.

I'm done with drama, I'm done with feelings and I'm done with the shit that comes with all of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me, regular, usually means once a week or once every two weeks, due to work and life.

There was one summer in uni where I met a girl every day for about 6 days straight. On one of those days we met up twice. Not sure what happened, we did click and it was really fun, I think we both got bored after so much of each other

. A nice short summer fling which worked for us both.

Never done that with anyone else though tbh. Once a week seems regular for me but mainly due to work.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to have a fwb and we used to meet maybe once a week, we both wanted to up the activities but very shortly after doing so she began to have feelings so i called it off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not sure I could get bored of that peachy arse but it depends on the individual.

Do you think you would get bored easily with said person? Then maybe not very often.

And if you think you really click then as often as you both can. Knowing that so many men will soon get bored once they've had their pleasure but if he comes back for more then fantastic.

Hope you find a happy medium that works for both of you x

Aww, thanks for the kind comments.

I can only really speak for myself on that.

I don't think there is anything wrong in asking when can you meet next. Hopefully they will feel the same. Trust your instincts and if it feels right go for it.

I have a couple of friends that I could happily meet up with every week if the logistics allowed and covid aside.

So I don't think you would sound needy. It's more of a compliment. You had a great time and want to do it again.....soon!! Lol

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By *erces LetiferMan over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

I don't think there's any right or wrong answers to this beyond - as often as you both want that you can realistically fit into your lives.

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

The other factor also is not one calling the shots! If you wish to see him each week, ask if he is free and if he is not then so be it. Maybe have a conversation and ask how often you should both meet.

It’s good to talk as Maureen Lipman used to say!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes u right bluebell, keeps the fun in the fun meets...like ur profile and photos. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I don't think there's any right or wrong answers to this beyond - as often as you both want that you can realistically fit into your lives."

True x

I must say you profile and pictures are WOW xx

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By *ffanotdykeCouple over a year ago

Telford

I suppose it all depends on the basis of your relationship with the other person. If you are just f/buddies then twice a month should suffice. If there is a deep emotional commitment then perhaps a number of times a week.

What if you have been married to each other for twenty years or more?

The question is too broad to give a one answer fits all.

G&A

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By *erces LetiferMan over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

"True x

I must say you profile and pictures are WOW xx"

Aw, shucks.

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By *AYENCouple over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Not sure I could get bored of that peachy arse but it depends on the individual.

Do you think you would get bored easily with said person? Then maybe not very often.

And if you think you really click then as often as you both can. Knowing that so many men will soon get bored once they've had their pleasure but if he comes back for more then fantastic.

Hope you find a happy medium that works for both of you x

Aww, thanks for the kind comments.

Asking when they're free next seems like a perfectly reasonable question, they can easily control the answer to suit themselves

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By *uliaChrisCouple over a year ago

westerham

We love being with our fab friends, but I think we used to tend to deliberately hold off having too many frequent organised meetings with specific chums, particularly around each others houses.

We don't want to run the risk of being an imposition or anyone feeling like a meeting has become a routine. Probably once a month absolute maximum for us.

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By *ersey GirlCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

If we really clicked and the sex was good I would meet as often as possible as long as you make time for the other people in your life

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would depend on the distance needed to travel to them. I don't tend to limit to local people so logistically it would be tough to make it weekly.

Ideally every week though, I mean, who wouldn't?

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By *ittleAcornMan over a year ago

visiting the beach

I think it's almost impossible to judge up front.

Maybe it's best to put some loose (long interval) dates in place initially.

See how it goes, have a chat, adjust as required.

Then repeat. The key, as everyone mentions, is making sure you talk honestly about what's going on. If you need more space say so, if you'd love to see them everyday one week, say so (and obviously lusten to the answer).

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By *ad NannaWoman over a year ago

East London

It would depend how busy we both were.

A few years ago I would see my buddy 2-3 times a month.

If I had the energy and time I would see someone every week.

I don't only have one friend usually though.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It all depends on your (and his) situation. A couple of times a month would work for me. If he messaged often or when I showed on line that would be needy territory for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've met my FWB twice weekly for over a year ... And the sex just keeps getting better & better ... And nope not bored yet ...

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By *igboobstCouple over a year ago

barrow

We like to meet our fbs once a month maybe twice depending on what else we have on xxx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i would like twice a week, but local men here do not meet local woman.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Once a week, but that's down to my recovery afterwards rather than having time etc.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In an ideal world, once a week or more. Who lives in an ideal world??

I'd say 1, 2 times a month would be good. With the option of possibly short Notice fun, if you are both free!

Always an option for a quick drink, lunch and catch up between, if you do "Click".

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ideally once or twice a month.

Less than that and I find myself starting to lose interest a bit, but I have too many other things occupying my time to really commit to seeing someone any more than that.

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By *orbidden eastMan over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

That’s a really hard question to answer and I think it would surely depend on how you get along and how much you are into each other

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Once a week would be very nice , and spend the other six days , teasing and suggesting what might happen on the seventh day !!

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