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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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This is my first ever thread I've made so sorry if it's not how it's done lol...
Basically I was wondering if anyone would mind taking a look at my profile and telling me truthfully if I came across as being like I think I'm superior or full of myself or something? I know that sounds a bit weird but over the last few days I've received a few messages off different women who I've never spoken to or anything basically being like well your boobs arnt even that nice mine are way bigger or you don't have a good body actually and it's left me a bit like these women feel like ive picked on them somehow and they are retaliating and I'd never want to make anyone think that that was how I was being... Probably doenst make much sense what I'm trying to say but that's the best I can word it lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve always thought your profile is good and your pictures are beautiful and well taken.
I also specifically remember how kind you were to me last year when I first started on here.
If somebody has gone out of their way to criticise you or your profile, then I would block them and wouldn’t even waste your time giving it another thought x |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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I couldn’t see anything in either your profile or photos that would warrant any abusive messages about your appearance.
There were a few bits on your profile I would consider rewording to make it a bit of an easier read, but nothing that would alter the tone or content.
It is possible that the messages you were sent may not have been from women, but who knows.
People can take delight from negging - possibly to try and get you to send other photos to prove a point? - or otherwise trying to put people down.
Ultimately though, if people are mean just laugh it off and block them. After all they are the ones who spent their time writing you a negative message. I wouldn’t waste my tome on them. |
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Ughhhh jealousy and putting others down to make yourself feel better are both horrible traits in anyone.
Your profile is concise and speaks of experience and not wanting to be messed around yet is also friendly and informative saying what you want, who and what you are as a person and what you are looking for.
Your pictures show clearly enough what you look like and don't appear to be altering what you look like either and the use of filters is there to tidy up backgrounds and give a little privacy publicly (needed on here and social media in general)
There are some profiles which seemingly invite criticism or come across as confrontational but yours isn't one of them OP.
Block and carry on as you are and you also come across as friendly and inclusive on the forums too, just a pisser you're so far away  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks guys... Normally I wouldn't even think twice about the odd bad message I just block and delete but it was just having so many come through so close together that was written in a way they was like I had said something they found offensive and made them lash out at me for it so thought I would check it wasn't me lol  |
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By *1011Woman
over a year ago
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Reads great to me, I sometimes feel like mine reads a little demanding but then the amount of messages I receive that offer cash etc I felt it necessary to just be more specific. Even then iv had some very abusive messages but from men.
I wouldn't worry, I think you have a great profile and a fantastic body! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks guys... Normally I wouldn't even think twice about the odd bad message I just block and delete but it was just having so many come through so close together that was written in a way they was like I had said something they found offensive and made them lash out at me for it so thought I would check it wasn't me lol "
Sounds like you turned someone down and they are pissed off. Ignore it.
Take it as a weird compliment. The worse the insults, the more jealous they are. Xx
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I think it's fine. Your pics are beautiful, and no, you do not come across as arrogant.
I cannot believe anyone - let alone women - would stoop so low as to send vile messages like that. It can only be jealousy. Hell, I'm jealous & wish I looked like you!
Block the bitches & move on xx |
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
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No.. it just comes across as a woman that is not taking any shit from anyone and let's face, there are plenty of people that still just don't get that just because it's a sex site, doesn't mean it should be part of your 1st message introduction. Your pics look amazing and I would say.. overall.. a very great profile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It does come across as quite direct but I totally appreciate that. As a woman I've received so many rude massages and you have to put your guard up a bit to protect yourself.
It makes total sense and comes across as a good profile. If people don't like it they can scroll on by.
I adapted my filters and get far fewer messages now and more fitting what I've been looking for.
Don't take it personally if someone is rude on here, it's easiest just to block xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’d agree with all the comments above.
I think you make it very clear what you are looking for and you look lovely in your pics.
People are always going to hate, so just continue being you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is my first ever thread I've made so sorry if it's not how it's done lol...
Basically I was wondering if anyone would mind taking a look at my profile and telling me truthfully if I came across as being like I think I'm superior or full of myself or something? I know that sounds a bit weird but over the last few days I've received a few messages off different women who I've never spoken to or anything basically being like well your boobs arnt even that nice mine are way bigger or you don't have a good body actually and it's left me a bit like these women feel like ive picked on them somehow and they are retaliating and I'd never want to make anyone think that that was how I was being... Probably doenst make much sense what I'm trying to say but that's the best I can word it lol"
Just my opinion (fem) but it reads as though you're very defensive. It's not warm, welcoming, fun or particularly sexy. I also think it says more about what's not good for you, what you don't like or want rather than what you do. It would be off-putting to me.
Tabitha xx |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
Nothing wrong with your profile that I can see. I'd say these types of message speak way more about the sender than they do about you, sounds like they are probably jealous and insecure & that putting others down somehow makes them feel superior. It's a bit like bullies in the school playground. Just block them & forget about it.
Could it be in response to something from the forums maybe? I once got targeted by a woman, who I'd never spoken to before, because she didn't like that a male she clearly felt territorial about had replied to something I posted in the lounge. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is my first ever thread I've made so sorry if it's not how it's done lol...
Basically I was wondering if anyone would mind taking a look at my profile and telling me truthfully if I came across as being like I think I'm superior or full of myself or something? I know that sounds a bit weird but over the last few days I've received a few messages off different women who I've never spoken to or anything basically being like well your boobs arnt even that nice mine are way bigger or you don't have a good body actually and it's left me a bit like these women feel like ive picked on them somehow and they are retaliating and I'd never want to make anyone think that that was how I was being... Probably doenst make much sense what I'm trying to say but that's the best I can word it lol
Just my opinion (fem) but it reads as though you're very defensive. It's not warm, welcoming, fun or particularly sexy. I also think it says more about what's not good for you, what you don't like or want rather than what you do. It would be off-putting to me.
Tabitha xx"
Worth saying that none of this would prompt us to send you an abusive message! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with your profile that I can see. I'd say these types of message speak way more about the sender than they do about you, sounds like they are probably jealous and insecure & that putting others down somehow makes them feel superior. It's a bit like bullies in the school playground. Just block them & forget about it.
Could it be in response to something from the forums maybe? I once got targeted by a woman, who I'd never spoken to before, because she didn't like that a male she clearly felt territorial about had replied to something I posted in the lounge. "
Maybe... I do post a bit in the forums but I don't think I've ever posted anything that would come across as 'I think I'm hotter than you don't you all wish you looked like me' (I'd hope not anyway) but I guess that's a definite possibility that that might be the case... Just seems strange so many people seem angry with me about something for it to be nothing lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"This is my first ever thread I've made so sorry if it's not how it's done lol...
Basically I was wondering if anyone would mind taking a look at my profile and telling me truthfully if I came across as being like I think I'm superior or full of myself or something? I know that sounds a bit weird but over the last few days I've received a few messages off different women who I've never spoken to or anything basically being like well your boobs arnt even that nice mine are way bigger or you don't have a good body actually and it's left me a bit like these women feel like ive picked on them somehow and they are retaliating and I'd never want to make anyone think that that was how I was being... Probably doenst make much sense what I'm trying to say but that's the best I can word it lol
Just my opinion (fem) but it reads as though you're very defensive. It's not warm, welcoming, fun or particularly sexy. I also think it says more about what's not good for you, what you don't like or want rather than what you do. It would be off-putting to me.
Tabitha xx
Worth saying that none of this would prompt us to send you an abusive message! "
Thankyou for the feedback |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It is fine i would just remove the last bit as it sounds defensive and you don't need to be. It's a perfectly reasonable boundary that needs no defence or explanation. Be you. "
I added that last bit after a guy asked for my Snapchat and I said no and he turned nasty so I blocked him, so he found me on Instagram and asked for my snap and was abusive till I blocked him... Then he found me on messanger and messaged me till I blocked him so he commented on all my public Facebook posts and kept leaving cry laughing reacts untill I blocked him so he sent screenshots of my fab profile to my mum on messanger... It shouldent need to be said but unfortunately it does |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile is great in our opinion.
Sadly there are a number of bitter guys on fab who can't take rejection who then decide to resign up as a single women with the purpose of sending spiteful comments to other genuine, verified single women accounts. I guess the logic is they feel that if you think the abuse is coming from another women it will cut a little deeper.
As one poster said block the account and don't give them a 2nd thought as they simply aren't worth it x
KJ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is fine i would just remove the last bit as it sounds defensive and you don't need to be. It's a perfectly reasonable boundary that needs no defence or explanation. Be you.
I added that last bit after a guy asked for my Snapchat and I said no and he turned nasty so I blocked him, so he found me on Instagram and asked for my snap and was abusive till I blocked him... Then he found me on messanger and messaged me till I blocked him so he commented on all my public Facebook posts and kept leaving cry laughing reacts untill I blocked him so he sent screenshots of my fab profile to my mum on messanger... It shouldent need to be said but unfortunately it does "
I'd have screenshot everything
and went to straight the police with that as the evidence against him is clear as day. In the present climate that shit is seriously been cracked down on hard.
Maybe a stint on the sex offenders register alongside the Peados will cause the guy to think twice before abusing women again.
KJ |
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"It is fine i would just remove the last bit as it sounds defensive and you don't need to be. It's a perfectly reasonable boundary that needs no defence or explanation. Be you.
I added that last bit after a guy asked for my Snapchat and I said no and he turned nasty so I blocked him, so he found me on Instagram and asked for my snap and was abusive till I blocked him... Then he found me on messanger and messaged me till I blocked him so he commented on all my public Facebook posts and kept leaving cry laughing reacts untill I blocked him so he sent screenshots of my fab profile to my mum on messanger... It shouldent need to be said but unfortunately it does "
I'm sorry that happened to you. Must be scary to be stalked like that. Make your Facebook page unable to be searched by search engines in your settings so it can't happen again. There are some entitled men out there who won't take no for an answer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is my first ever thread I've made so sorry if it's not how it's done lol...
Basically I was wondering if anyone would mind taking a look at my profile and telling me truthfully if I came across as being like I think I'm superior or full of myself or something? I know that sounds a bit weird but over the last few days I've received a few messages off different women who I've never spoken to or anything basically being like well your boobs arnt even that nice mine are way bigger or you don't have a good body actually and it's left me a bit like these women feel like ive picked on them somehow and they are retaliating and I'd never want to make anyone think that that was how I was being... Probably doenst make much sense what I'm trying to say but that's the best I can word it lol"
Jealousy is a bitch and that is what they are. Block and ignore |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It is fine i would just remove the last bit as it sounds defensive and you don't need to be. It's a perfectly reasonable boundary that needs no defence or explanation. Be you.
I added that last bit after a guy asked for my Snapchat and I said no and he turned nasty so I blocked him, so he found me on Instagram and asked for my snap and was abusive till I blocked him... Then he found me on messanger and messaged me till I blocked him so he commented on all my public Facebook posts and kept leaving cry laughing reacts untill I blocked him so he sent screenshots of my fab profile to my mum on messanger... It shouldent need to be said but unfortunately it does "
That’s illegal and should be reported to the police x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It is fine i would just remove the last bit as it sounds defensive and you don't need to be. It's a perfectly reasonable boundary that needs no defence or explanation. Be you.
I added that last bit after a guy asked for my Snapchat and I said no and he turned nasty so I blocked him, so he found me on Instagram and asked for my snap and was abusive till I blocked him... Then he found me on messanger and messaged me till I blocked him so he commented on all my public Facebook posts and kept leaving cry laughing reacts untill I blocked him so he sent screenshots of my fab profile to my mum on messanger... It shouldent need to be said but unfortunately it does
That’s illegal and should be reported to the police x"
Apparantly not as it was all public and on a site which I put it on its only illegal if he sent pictures that I hadn't shared publicly... Jokes on him tho coz my mum is well aware am I wierdo and she is long since over despering with me for my free spirited nature and he still doenst have my Snapchat |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"This is my first ever thread I've made so sorry if it's not how it's done lol...
Basically I was wondering if anyone would mind taking a look at my profile and telling me truthfully if I came across as being like I think I'm superior or full of myself or something? I know that sounds a bit weird but over the last few days I've received a few messages off different women who I've never spoken to or anything basically being like well your boobs arnt even that nice mine are way bigger or you don't have a good body actually and it's left me a bit like these women feel like ive picked on them somehow and they are retaliating and I'd never want to make anyone think that that was how I was being... Probably doenst make much sense what I'm trying to say but that's the best I can word it lol"
Is their validation important to you? If so, why? Who runs your profile? You or them? Why do you feel the need to question yourself? Why do you feel the need to validate their perspective?
Self loathing narcissists are everywhere, just laugh at them because otherwise they will chew you up and thrive on you being their meal.  |
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