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What turny ou off in the first meet?
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over a year ago
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"Any surprises that turn you off during the first meet?
And how did you react?"
Yes. Every sentence being a swear word. Massive turn off unfortunately for me.. |
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over a year ago
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"Any surprises that turn you off during the first meet?
And how did you react?"
She had a beard and turned out to be a chap called Graham a kwikfit tyre fitter from Accrington. Most disconcerting
Still I got staff discount on 2 new radials for the motor and my oil checked.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any surprises that turn you off during the first meet?
And how did you react?
Yes. Every sentence being a swear word. Massive turn off unfortunately for me.."
Perhaps the person had Tourette’s? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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He flashed his dick at me with a cock ring on, I didn't know he had it on, strange because I didn't know I dont like them until I was actually faced with one. Seems daft tbh. Anyway it was for nothing because he couldn't stand to attention |
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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago
Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk |
Lack of eye contact acting like a meerkat because they are constantly looking to see who is about.
As others have said not being like their pictures as they are old pictures or filtered.
If I don't feel comfortable with whomever it is as I have to feel comfortable with people for anything to happen
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being a smoker when profile says non smoker, photos from like over a decade ago and lied about there age, and but harsh but I've been totally put off by there voice and the way they sound lol |
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I met a lady once at her house and it was an absolute tip. Unclean and everything was covered in dog hairs. I did the natural thing and made my excuses and left. No excuse for that especially when she new I was coming around, major turn off |
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Having chatted about everything and how we like to play slow and more sensuous.
They thinking it was a race to the finish line!!
And catching Di's pussy with a sharp fingernail making her bleed!!
Her amazing gushing!! Sorry pissing!!
Haha. Xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Very first meet was a no show, hubby was assaulted by a random piss head... Piss head was man handled to the floor and restrained by hubby till the police arrived... Laugh at it now... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When folk say they " make thier excuses" what exactly do you say thats convincing and doesnt sound like you are bullshitting? Curious as love to know incase i need to ever use said excuses  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I visited someone years ago.
Turned up and he had a grey vest on. It should have been white. The track bottoms were bottoming out. As he walked they dragged on the floor covered in dirt , hair and well anything that stuck to them.
The four walls we all shelved and lined with books except for the gaps where the cats were sitting apart from the dozen or so that were round my legs, on the sofa, on the back of the sofa, everywhere.
I went to use the loo and it had not seen bleach or a loo brush for i estimate more years than i had been alive. Though it took me a while to work my way pas all the cat litter trays that had not been emptied since the loo was last cleaned.
I left. |
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"I visited someone years ago.
Turned up and he had a grey vest on. It should have been white. The track bottoms were bottoming out. As he walked they dragged on the floor covered in dirt , hair and well anything that stuck to them.
The four walls we all shelved and lined with books except for the gaps where the cats were sitting apart from the dozen or so that were round my legs, on the sofa, on the back of the sofa, everywhere.
I went to use the loo and it had not seen bleach or a loo brush for i estimate more years than i had been alive. Though it took me a while to work my way pas all the cat litter trays that had not been emptied since the loo was last cleaned.
What a story!
I left."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I visited someone years ago.
Turned up and he had a grey vest on. It should have been white. The track bottoms were bottoming out. As he walked they dragged on the floor covered in dirt , hair and well anything that stuck to them.
The four walls we all shelved and lined with books except for the gaps where the cats were sitting apart from the dozen or so that were round my legs, on the sofa, on the back of the sofa, everywhere.
I went to use the loo and it had not seen bleach or a loo brush for i estimate more years than i had been alive. Though it took me a while to work my way pas all the cat litter trays that had not been emptied since the loo was last cleaned.
I left."
And the winner is..... |
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"When folk say they " make thier excuses" what exactly do you say thats convincing and doesnt sound like you are bullshitting? Curious as love to know incase i need to ever use said excuses "
When I was part of a couple on here our way of leaving was starting an argument amongst ourselves..my final words were always"he's a fucking dick I'm off home" then storming off to the car.
He didn't want to have a confrontation 
Now I'd just say that I'm leaving, and I'd get up and leave |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looking at least 20yrs older than photos and 5`7 when supposed to be 6`4
I learnt my lesson...live pics or cam before a meet & get them to stand in a door frame... A good way to judge height...most door frames are 6.5ft |
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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago
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"I visited someone years ago.
Turned up and he had a grey vest on. It should have been white. The track bottoms were bottoming out. As he walked they dragged on the floor covered in dirt , hair and well anything that stuck to them.
The four walls we all shelved and lined with books except for the gaps where the cats were sitting apart from the dozen or so that were round my legs, on the sofa, on the back of the sofa, everywhere.
I went to use the loo and it had not seen bleach or a loo brush for i estimate more years than i had been alive. Though it took me a while to work my way pas all the cat litter trays that had not been emptied since the loo was last cleaned.
I left."
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Why |
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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago
Nr Brighton 1 till 5pm areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat |
Yuk Smelly private parts.
Unwashed/proper wiped bum.
White tar on teeth.
Dog poo on living room floor(honest)
Stale unwashed clothes.
Sorry people(any piercings anywhere "bar ears". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Bad hygiene.
A mid morning meet up where; within minutes of meeting, they're talking about dinner and having me there overnight.
Saying you don't have to fancy the person much; if at all, to have sex.
This all happened in one meeting for me, princess Sarah. I couldn't wait to get out of there. |
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Asking what will I be wearing or telling me to wear heels etc.
Also drinking more than one or 2 alcoholic drinks, particularly when I'm driving so can't.
Smoking.
Bad breath!!!!!!! So COMMON!
Dirty houses.
Overhead lighting, especially with a bare bulb(no lamps)
Wearing scruffy trackie bottoms.
Mentioning they can't actually use horrible nasty condoms because they are too tight/uncomfortable and they can't stay hard.. |
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"Bad hygiene.
A mid morning meet up where; within minutes of meeting, they're talking about dinner and having me there overnight.
Saying you don't have to fancy the person much; if at all, to have sex.
This all happened in one meeting for me, princess Sarah. I couldn't wait to get out of there."
What an ordeal! |
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"Asking what will I be wearing or telling me to wear heels etc.
Also drinking more than one or 2 alcoholic drinks, particularly when I'm driving so can't.
Smoking.
Bad breath!!!!!!! So COMMON!
Dirty houses.
Overhead lighting, especially with a bare bulb(no lamps)
Wearing scruffy trackie bottoms.
Mentioning they can't actually use horrible nasty condoms because they are too tight/uncomfortable and they can't stay hard.. "
Wow! That is a long list! |
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Big hype and no delivery and ok with what I wasnt into and bam started it as soon as possible and I am not going to be in a position where I'm not really respected or anything else. Plus sending a older picture and u are no where near the same as you are in the picture |
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Looking nothing like their photos
Smelly/not having made any effort
Granny underwear, especially if there are skid marks visible
Beard/loads of facial hair even though they said they were clean shaven
Loads of pubic hair, particularly if it is grey
Clear indication they have taken something for "courage", be it alcohol or drugs
Swearing, name calling and/or hair pulling
Insisting to do things we agreed were not going to happen on first meet (anal, for ex.) |
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"Looking nothing like their photos
Smelly/not having made any effort
Granny underwear, especially if there are skid marks visible
Beard/loads of facial hair even though they said they were clean shaven
Loads of pubic hair, particularly if it is grey
Clear indication they have taken something for "courage", be it alcohol or drugs
Swearing, name calling and/or hair pulling
Insisting to do things we agreed were not going to happen on first meet (anal, for ex.)"
thank you for sharing |
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I felt really bad at the time but i went to a ladies house and it turned out she had really bad Psorasis (bit of a skin condition for anyone unaware) and it just put me off to the extent I couldnt go through with it, she was lovely as well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Went to a woman's house for a meet . When I got there she let me in took me in the kitchen to get a drink where I found her hubby and 3 of his mates playing cards , hubby turned round and tells me to hurry up as they have got a takeaway being delivered in half an hour. |
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The person being d*unk and not being able to go five mins without having to go to the bathroom to do a line.
I have no issues with drugs just a time just simply a more suitable time and place for them.
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"The person being d*unk and not being able to go five mins without having to go to the bathroom to do a line.
I have no issues with drugs just a time just simply a more suitable time and place for them.
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Not nice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mr Playful here. When I was playing alone, I once met a couple for their first mmf threesome. She was great, but he'd had a bit to drink beforehand and drank more as we went, until he was completely hammered and at times offensive.
Added to that he twice stopped things in full flow to go for a smoke (and drink) break, to his wife's annoyance.
After they left my hotel room, they returned ten minutes later and he collapsed d*unk on my bed. Eventually got him out of there while his wife was profusely apologetic.
On the other hand I finally got to give a double vaginal. So it wasn't all bad news lol. |
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"The person being d*unk and not being able to go five mins without having to go to the bathroom to do a line.
I have no issues with drugs just a time just simply a more suitable time and place for them.
Not nice"
Was not at all, sharp exit was made |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t like feeling uncomfortable in any situation. On fab it’s called meets but it tends to be on peoples terms. I’m intrigued by fab but not sure I like it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any surprises that turn you off during the first meet?
And how did you react?"
Bad breath, Nothing worse than leaning in then instantly regretting, It's a shame some people don't have the courtesy to be prepared |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Arrogance especially going on and on about how great they are and how much they've played, and trying one up mansship over J"
Yes that’s happened a couple of times |
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Blokes getting naked but leaving their socks on - why oh why - socks in naked body bundles look awful.
SMOKING - claiming to be non smokers then we turn up and the first thing one of them (normally the bloke) lights up - or starts vaping YUK. If you list as non smokers - please be non smokers  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any surprises that turn you off during the first meet?
And how did you react?
Yes. Every sentence being a swear word. Massive turn off unfortunately for me.."
I also find swearing every other word a turnoff along with casual racism or conversations of an overwhelming political nature that lean toward a right wing or nationalist viewpoint. It can all get a bit uncomfortable and normally exposes a person’s inability to hold an interesting or intelligent conversation which is a huge turn off.
Other turn offs are filthy cluttered homes or people that are prepared to have visitors in their home while their children are asleep.
Nothing worse that being interrupted by a toddler walking blearily eyed into a bedroom while you’re playing..... it has happened in the past and I’m still mortified by this.
I made my excuses and got out of there pretty sharpish, vowing to never return. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I once went to a meet and asked to quickly use the loo. As I walked in I was met by an overwhelming smell of poo, and yes, there was a massive unflushed poop in the toilet! I told them what was in the toilet, jumped in my car car and headed off home! |
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"Not looking like their photos, poor personal hygiene, no sense of humour & being pushing on a no expectations social...can't take a polite no thanks in public wouldn't risk meeting in private!"
Thanks for sharing |
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Definitely not looking like their photos or being a lot older than they made out to be. It has happened to me once and I was pretty blunt with her and told her she was a fraud  that first meet pretty much ended before it started that was one bad one amongst plenty of very good ones. I always thought i was good with due diligence until that meet. |
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"Flips flops..
That is funny "
I don't know why but they just make me cringe when I see a fella wearing them. Especially if being worn out of context. I've had 2 meets where filp flops was their choice of footwear  lol |
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"Flips flops..
Never come to Cornwall then  it's the locals footwear all year round! It's guys that mainly wear them all winter though "
See this is what I mean by the wearing of flip flops out of context..beach that's fine, in the summer during day time that is tolerable, in the evening your starting to push it a bit, in the pub and you've starting crossing the line, in club then you so far over that line there's no coming back lol |
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"Flips flops..
Never come to Cornwall then it's the locals footwear all year round! It's guys that mainly wear them all winter though
See this is what I mean by the wearing of flip flops out of context..beach that's fine, in the summer during day time that is tolerable, in the evening your starting to push it a bit, in the pub and you've starting crossing the line, in club then you so far over that line there's no coming back lol "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One guy who we met for a social said he was trying Fab as he didn’t really want to pay for a prostitute!!!!!
Made my blood boil and cut the social short |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Bad hygiene.
A mid morning meet up where; within minutes of meeting, they're talking about dinner and having me there overnight.
Saying you don't have to fancy the person much; if at all, to have sex.
This all happened in one meeting for me, princess Sarah. I couldn't wait to get out of there.
What an ordeal!"
Tell me about it |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
I arrived for my first meet with a stunning lady who asked me if I would be up for a threesome with her daughter!
I politely declined, and we then embarked on an all-nighter, bareback, that replicated almost every position in the Kama Sutra! |
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"I arrived for my first meet with a stunning lady who asked me if I would be up for a threesome with her daughter!
I politely declined, and we then embarked on an all-nighter, bareback, that replicated almost every position in the Kama Sutra!"
wow |
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By *avessMan
over a year ago
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Old classic of using VERY favourable angles and filters which made for a big surprise!
Also, met up for a drink with one woman and she just answered everything with 1 syllabal answers, wanted to catch up with some friends, invited me along but then I just got completely ignore. Not fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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too many turn off to list from first meets after all it the first meet where you find out more verbally and visually and physically a whole host of things can go wrong just as in any other scenario in life
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"too many turn off to list from first meets after all it the first meet where you find out more verbally and visually and physically a whole host of things can go wrong just as in any other scenario in life
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"Claimed to be a non smoker but stunk of smoke! Total turn off 
I did question him about it.... his logic was that as he "only" smoked about 10 a day that made him "virtually" a non smoker! He was honestly shocked when I pointed out that I could smell it on him!!! "
He is funny lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Using foul language unnecessarily.
Not articulate
Turning up without making any effort
And not looking like the one in the pics sent. Lol
We had one meeting like that where the pair was looking much older than the sent pic . |
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"Using foul language unnecessarily.
Not articulate
Turning up without making any effort
And not looking like the one in the pics sent. Lol
We had one meeting like that where the pair was looking much older than the sent pic . "
I had a similar experience with pics..It was not nice |
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"too many turn off to list from first meets after all it the first meet where you find out more verbally and visually and physically a whole host of things can go wrong just as in any other scenario in life
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Not looking like their pics, lying about height, being really awkward/ quiet, insisting on taking things further on a social.
Sometimes there’s no particular reason, the guy is nice enough but there is no attraction there.
Dee |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not looking anything like the pics on their profile.
Saying they are a none smoker then putting their pack of fags on the table as soon as you meet up.
Their loss. "
why would someone claim to be a none smoker thats just odd if you smoke you smoke why try to hide that |
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"Not looking anything like the pics on their profile.
Saying they are a none smoker then putting their pack of fags on the table as soon as you meet up.
Their loss. why would someone claim to be a none smoker thats just odd if you smoke you smoke why try to hide that "
Why would thgey indeed! |
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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago
Newry Down |
Lack of hygiene; excessive smell of alcohol; a 'rushed' attitude to the meet; presumption of bareback without negotiation; couple profile that turns out to be single male; rudeness or a sence of entitlement; straight profile that turns out to be false; pics that are way out of date; inability to interact articulately. |
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"Not looking like their pics, lying about height, being really awkward/ quiet, insisting on taking things further on a social.
Sometimes there’s no particular reason, the guy is nice enough but there is no attraction there.
Dee"
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By *eachcplCouple
over a year ago
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Just found another thing to put you off. Guy with 225 verifications wondered why we were not interested in meeting him. Don't know what others think but that's more than enough to put us off. |
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"Any surprises that turn you off during the first meet?
And how did you react?
I can’t speak for others but there was one time when I turned up......that seemed to be a turn off for her "
Unfortunately it’s a true story! |
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"Just found another thing to put you off. Guy with 225 verifications wondered why we were not interested in meeting him. Don't know what others think but that's more than enough to put us off. "
Why would that put you off? He might have attended lots of socials precovid |
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"Just found another thing to put you off. Guy with 225 verifications wondered why we were not interested in meeting him. Don't know what others think but that's more than enough to put us off. "
My old account had 200 but they were from saying hi in a club. Said I was polite and respectful. Didn’t play with them. Please don’t judge people by the amount of veris  |
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"Just found another thing to put you off. Guy with 225 verifications wondered why we were not interested in meeting him. Don't know what others think but that's more than enough to put us off.
My old account had 200 but they were from saying hi in a club. Said I was polite and respectful. Didn’t play with them. Please don’t judge people by the amount of veris "
Exactly. My old profile had over 100 veris but I'd only played with about 10 of them.
I used to attend a lot of social events where there was no play |
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