Hi all, I guess I’m using the forum to see if there are any dominant (bi men, couples or women) who are currently seeking subs or have found Doms on here. I’m interested as So far the majority of Doms I’ve seen on here are straight men.
Would love to chat to anyone who is either a Dom looking or has had success finding them on here. I have some experiences to share from meets off a different site, but keen to get the knack for finding them on here! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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In my experience on here it's usually been something that has come out naturally overthe course of chatting to people, rather than being something you can look for as such.
Think there's a number of reasons for that - firstly the site is more aimed at Swinging than D/s so the majority of people aren't looking for that here, although they do exist. Secondly a lot of women won't "advertise" their interest openly because they would be swamped with offers or people thinking that's all they are looking for.
Lastly, D/s covers such a broad spectrum of dynamics that simply saying "I'm a submissive looking for a Dom/me" (or vice versa) doesn't even scratch the surface of what that actually means.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm guessing you're looking to include sex with you kink ergo the bi guy?
There are lots of Dom/Dommes on here. A lot of people seem to down play their kink interests etc which can make it hard to find people.
But yeah there are people out there  |
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Thanks. I wasn’t expecting such a thoughtful response. I think you have a point about the advertising of it. Also the point about it being a swinging site rather than a BDSM site is a good one, but I’m hoping to find someone who is looking at have a sub as a weekend hobby rather than 24/7 which specialist sites seem to attract. But thanks again for the feedback it is helpful. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks. I wasn’t expecting such a thoughtful response. I think you have a point about the advertising of it. Also the point about it being a swinging site rather than a BDSM site is a good one, but I’m hoping to find someone who is looking at have a sub as a weekend hobby rather than 24/7 which specialist sites seem to attract. But thanks again for the feedback it is helpful."
Its all about finding someone you're compatible with! The major kink site isn't a "dating" but there are loads of personals groups etc, I'd suggest looking up events in your area, getting along to things virtually in the first place and then irl when rules allow and see how it goes
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By *emini ManMan
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There and to the left a bit |
"Thanks. I wasn’t expecting such a thoughtful response. I think you have a point about the advertising of it. Also the point about it being a swinging site rather than a BDSM site is a good one, but I’m hoping to find someone who is looking at have a sub as a weekend hobby rather than 24/7 which specialist sites seem to attract. But thanks again for the feedback it is helpful.
Its all about finding someone you're compatible with! The major kink site isn't a "dating" but there are loads of personals groups etc, I'd suggest looking up events in your area, getting along to things virtually in the first place and then irl when rules allow and see how it goes
Hope this helps "
Spot on - not saying you do OP, but there does seem to be a vibe that because it's D/s it's somehow "different" from normal meets or even relationships - it really isn't and likewise approaching people and getting to know them is no different.
The key really is compatability and having a like mind as to what D/s means - beyond that it comes down to all the usual "norms" of attraction, connection and chemistry. |
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An important dynamic of a sub and dom is that trust and its very rsre you will click with someone so much of the bat that you can jump straight into the dynamic without taking time to form that trust |
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