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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all
Do any couples have any advice on cuckold Hotwife meets? We are finding it difficult to find good guys. A lot seem interested but find guys sometimes hard to chat to or don’t seem to want to put in the effort?
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"Hi all
Do any couples have any advice on cuckold Hotwife meets? We are finding it difficult to find good guys. A lot seem interested but find guys sometimes hard to chat to or don’t seem to want to put in the effort?
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When the clubs reopen go to some Hotwife nights. You can explore and experiment what you want. Once you know, you ask in here for exactly what you want 
Ps. You are GORGEOUS!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get where you’re coming from, it’s actually not so different when you’re the guy looking for the hotwife and cuck. There’s some good advice being offered.
Alternatively put your age limit up a couple of years and drop me a line ?? |
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i am a bull with the intellectual capacity and emotional maturity sharing a wife – she remains her husband’s wife because she chooses to and the desire of other males to change that isn’t allowed
i will Listen more than you speak; try to understand motivations and needs Choose actions which benefit them the most; balance their individual needs as hotwife and cuckold so both get fair outcomes though being supported to make sexual selections outside the marriage is very empowering for wives
don’t have a problem attracting women and want to try being a bull for a couple but I’m only average in cock size |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all
Do any couples have any advice on cuckold Hotwife meets? We are finding it difficult to find good guys. A lot seem interested but find guys sometimes hard to chat to or don’t seem to want to put in the effort?
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Patience and be prepared for lots of messages saying they are bulls etc but fail on so many fronts |
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By *iclassyCouple
over a year ago
Manchester |
You will get many many messages from guys saying they are experienced "bulls".The reality we find is sadly different. Tend to find now the old fashioned way of drawing a guys attention when in a bar or out in public works pre lockdown of course.. |
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"Just finding it hard for guys to put in any effort, I’m sure we’ll get there haha"
I was in a hot wife relationship with a couple for over 6 years. In that time we made over 35 x 60 minute videos for her husband to watch. We became great friends and had a great laugh. In prepared to put the effort in for the right people  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi we are the same most men on here seem like pigs so disrespectful always calling names dont know why they think that's attractive and they all talk the part but rarely show up what we have decided now is after lock down to meet as friends and go from there that way we get a pint out of it weather he shows up or not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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for every 500 men that contact you 499 will be a total waste of time ..well thats how it feels anyway ... we found it got easier when we stopped looking for a bull and just found assertive guys ...the bull tag seems to attract the bull ''shitter's'' and you'll find it very hard to get a regular they really are gold dust they will tell you they want regular thou ... |
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By *lexLucyCouple
over a year ago
London |
Finding a REAL Bull for cucks is very hard. Most guys think that cuck means fucking the wife and that's it. It's almost as if the husband doesn't exist. In fact many guys will ask to fuck the wife without the husband present and send him videos. All these guys want is pussy and they should contact single women. A REAL bull enjoys the 3 way dynamic and dedicates time and effort in that direction. Physical stimulation for the wife and mental for the husband (with bi bulls it's physical for both). Real bulls are extremely rare. We have been lucky but also we are patient and don't say yes to any pussy pounder that comes our way. The problem in this kind of dynamic is that men are full of false ideas about it. Each person is different, each cpl is different but a cuck relationship/meet is not about a geezer emptying his balls on a woman who happens to be married and off he goes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Finding a REAL Bull for cucks is very hard. Most guys think that cuck means fucking the wife and that's it. It's almost as if the husband doesn't exist. In fact many guys will ask to fuck the wife without the husband present and send him videos. All these guys want is pussy and they should contact single women. A REAL bull enjoys the 3 way dynamic and dedicates time and effort in that direction. Physical stimulation for the wife and mental for the husband (with bi bulls it's physical for both). Real bulls are extremely rare. We have been lucky but also we are patient and don't say yes to any pussy pounder that comes our way. The problem in this kind of dynamic is that men are full of false ideas about it. Each person is different, each cpl is different but a cuck relationship/meet is not about a geezer emptying his balls on a woman who happens to be married and off he goes."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We agree men for some reason think if you talk dominant and waffle a load of rubbish that makes them a bull because they have seen way too much porn when in fact a bull is very respectful and friendly this is the difference between boys and men |
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"Finding a REAL Bull for cucks is very hard. Most guys think that cuck means fucking the wife and that's it. It's almost as if the husband doesn't exist. In fact many guys will ask to fuck the wife without the husband present and send him videos. All these guys want is pussy and they should contact single women. A REAL bull enjoys the 3 way dynamic and dedicates time and effort in that direction. Physical stimulation for the wife and mental for the husband (with bi bulls it's physical for both). Real bulls are extremely rare. We have been lucky but also we are patient and don't say yes to any pussy pounder that comes our way. The problem in this kind of dynamic is that men are full of false ideas about it. Each person is different, each cpl is different but a cuck relationship/meet is not about a geezer emptying his balls on a woman who happens to be married and off he goes."
Don’t disagree with most of what you are saying tbh but often on fab you get folk with a lack of clarity on there profiles and also a bit of innocent ignorance. For example Some couples refer to themselves as Hot Wife dynamic when in reality they are Stag Vixen or Cuckhold. And visa versa is often true. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
It's frustrating from both sides.
Couples who are looking to explore cuckolding get bombarded by guys who think the are bulls and genuine guys who understand cuckolding and who try approach genuine couples will often have their messages lost in the barrage of crap that couples have to deal with.
I'm not sure what the solution is.
I would suggest that couples block single guys, keep an eye on the forums, review verifications and contact the guys they think may be a match for them.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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and an experienced bull is only experienced with the couple hes with ...when meeting a new couple that all goes out the window and the experience counts for nothing as every cuckold couple is so very different ...
lost count with messages saying im an experienced bull so i know ...?? then they tell you what your going to do lol no no no |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"and an experienced bull is only experienced with the couple hes with ...when meeting a new couple that all goes out the window and the experience counts for nothing as every cuckold couple is so very different ...
lost count with messages saying im an experienced bull so i know ...?? then they tell you what your going to do lol no no no"
What I mean by experienced bull is one who understands the cuckold dynamic and will take the time to get know you both and find out what is it you both enjoy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We agree men for some reason think if you talk dominant and waffle a load of rubbish that makes them a bull because they have seen way too much porn when in fact a bull is very respectful and friendly this is the difference between boys and men"
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"We agree men for some reason think if you talk dominant and waffle a load of rubbish that makes them a bull because they have seen way too much porn when in fact a bull is very respectful and friendly this is the difference between boys and men "
Agree and will often spend more time finding out what the cuck is into to ensure they are well suited. |
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I think from personal experience, you'll be able to identify a new bull from their communication.
As you've probably worked out by now, the cuckold scene has so many different needs, walks and elements. Everyone is totally different and we all have our own limits and passions.
Clearly someone who will take the time to speak to you both, to identify what you both seek and would be willing to see if they would fit with your current requirements.
The club scene is a perhaps a better chance to socialize with folks and potential candidates in a neutral location. Have fun! |
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By *iclassyCouple
over a year ago
Manchester |
"for every 500 men that contact you 499 will be a total waste of time ..well thats how it feels anyway ... we found it got easier when we stopped looking for a bull and just found assertive guys ...the bull tag seems to attract the bull ''shitter's'' and you'll find it very hard to get a regular they really are gold dust they
will tell you they want regular thou ..."
Totally agree with this. |
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Hi OP and hopefully my little piece of advice will help you with your goal of getting that cuckold relationship you both want.
It can seem hard to find the right bull for your relationship as it’s definitely a 3 way relationship with 3 different sets of feelings/desires/needs that all have to have aligned in the relationship.
It’s amazing how many so called bulls forget that communication and being able to adapt the 3 way relationship have them fail so badly.
As a bull then I tend to use my trusted 3 way bull/cuck/wife relationship triangle method plus also make sure all communication and understanding of each of your feelings are open/ honest/respected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can borrow my hubby well verified clean and funny guy but as he is outside your age range you won’t be interested lol
Hope you find what you are looking for |
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Think the club approach would be a better solution. There are plenty of excellent clubs on the Manchester side of the hills, or if you seek something further afield the club's in Leeds (Quest especially) would be a good consideration |
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"Might have to try clubs when they really open, think I’d be nervous though."
Clubs really are not as scary as you think. If you set limits before hand and pick the right night and speak to those who catch your eye. Could always treat it as a social and exchange details to meet at another time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Might have to try clubs when they really open, think I’d be nervous though.
Clubs really are not as scary as you think. If you set limits before hand and pick the right night and speak to those who catch your eye. Could always treat it as a social and exchange details to meet at another time."
Sorry to sound really stupid, but im asking genuinely.. is it really not scarey and imtimidating for either male or female to go to somewhere with alot of swingers, and you are naked walking around with a hard wet cock without even having attention? Or the female being naked/lingerie with mens hard cocks staring at them lol?
Id feel massively awkward entering and having to strip naked and walk into a club with fellow swingers and going to start a convo lol. |
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Nothing hotter for a hotwife than being gangbanged in our boxing ring. And nothing hotter for hubby than sitting at ringside while his dear lady is pinned on the ropes taking several rounds of pounding from our squad. Ding Ding Ding!
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"Might have to try clubs when they really open, think I’d be nervous though.
Clubs really are not as scary as you think. If you set limits before hand and pick the right night and speak to those who catch your eye. Could always treat it as a social and exchange details to meet at another time.
Sorry to sound really stupid, but im asking genuinely.. is it really not scarey and imtimidating for either male or female to go to somewhere with alot of swingers, and you are naked walking around with a hard wet cock without even having attention? Or the female being naked/lingerie with mens hard cocks staring at them lol?
Id feel massively awkward entering and having to strip naked and walk into a club with fellow swingers and going to start a convo lol."
The club's I have been to don't strip you at the door, all allowed boxers and you have a towel. That many people there so don't really walk around errect. Stareing will get you no where. Got to be good with body language, if that's saying fuck of just wish them a good evening and carry on. main thing is don't go expecting anything other than a relaxed evening and chat to other males aswell, just like a normal club |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all
Do any couples have any advice on cuckold Hotwife meets? We are finding it difficult to find good guys. A lot seem interested but find guys sometimes hard to chat to or don’t seem to want to put in the effort?
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Wow, I'd put the effort in |
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"Don’t most clubs allow fully clothed? "
They do in some areas for females and couples mainly, most will show you round ect once you arrive if you mention your new and that's normally done fully clothed. Regardless of what area of the club. |
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I have a little bit of practical advice from my own experience of trying out cuckolding with a trusted play partner in the past.
What we did was first of all make sure that there was enough detail and it was clear on our profile what we were looking for (likely scenarios, personal preferences, how vetting process goes - meeting for a no-expectations coffee first, that sort of thing).
We then received loads and loads of messages and realised that we have to have a systematic approach to narrowing the influx down to actual probabilities. We did it in a few ways - by keeping those that seemed like potential matches and communicated in a human way (either mentioning our names in their messages indicating they read our profile or by showing good manners) and getting rid of other messages.
We then set up video calls with the shortlist of potential matches for brief verification process with a few questions that were important to us. Those that presented themselves for video calls and seemed OK we then arranged to have a coffee or drink with, having an idea to proceed further if it works out - but still with no obligation. When meeting for this drink, the purpose is not only to find out chemistry but also get an understanding of what the person is like, what is their understanding, manners and do they seem like they are safe and understand consent well.
So from initial hundred of messages we narrowed it down to about ten and met two in the end, proceeding to have a scene with one of them. We realised that it can be done either over longer period of time or shorter,our was a shorter time frame so we had to spend more time in one go for all the vetting and setting it up.
Bear in mind (if you haven't done it before) that the lady of the house has to be prepared to take an active role especially when making a decision whether to take the person back for a scene, checking that they have condoms and stopping at a shop if necessary on the way, leading the situation once home such as when to have drinks, where to sit, when to go to the bedroom, tell cuck what to do etc.
Of course, it depends on the third person and own partner and what both are like and so on. But it is good to discuss with own partner the likely scenarios and agree on the course of action or even code words or signs for "all is good", "we need to stop" etc.
One of the fun moments during preparation is making the cuck get some new lingerie for example or getting him to "prepare" the lady for the other man - all depends on individual preferences of course.
What we have also learned is that just because someone thinks that they have relevant experience it doesn't mean that it will go in some perfect scenario and that it can be an uncertain experience with some unexpected moments. So funnily enough we have personally discovered that cuckolding in particular didn't do much for us and even our third man was not as experienced in it as he hoped to be - it was still a lovely scene because he was a lovely and gracious person and that ultimately mattered the most to create a positive experience. Just my two cents.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve found that it is all about meeting the right people and finding the chemistry.
Social meets I find important and getting hubby to be 100% as well as Mrs.
If good it can be fantastic and guys love to see their wife being the centre of attention and getting what they know she loves.
Getting there takes time but we’ll worth it x |
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By *lexLucyCouple
over a year ago
London |
"We agree men for some reason think if you talk dominant and waffle a load of rubbish that makes them a bull because they have seen way too much porn when in fact a bull is very respectful and friendly this is the difference between boys and men Agree and will often spend more time finding out what the cuck is into to ensure they are well suited. "
Totally agree with both assertions |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all
Do any couples have any advice on cuckold Hotwife meets? We are finding it difficult to find good guys. A lot seem interested but find guys sometimes hard to chat to or don’t seem to want to put in the effort?
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Don't give up there are plenty of good guys on here who would love to join in the fun with yous  |
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"Hi all
Do any couples have any advice on cuckold Hotwife meets? We are finding it difficult to find good guys. A lot seem interested but find guys sometimes hard to chat to or don’t seem to want to put in the effort?
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Gutted three months too old!!!!! |
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"Hi all
Do any couples have any advice on cuckold Hotwife meets? We are finding it difficult to find good guys. A lot seem interested but find guys sometimes hard to chat to or don’t seem to want to put in the effort?
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"Finding a REAL Bull for cucks is very hard. Most guys think that cuck means fucking the wife and that's it. It's almost as if the husband doesn't exist. In fact many guys will ask to fuck the wife without the husband present and send him videos. All these guys want is pussy and they should contact single women. A REAL bull enjoys the 3 way dynamic and dedicates time and effort in that direction. Physical stimulation for the wife and mental for the husband (with bi bulls it's physical for both). Real bulls are extremely rare. We have been lucky but also we are patient and don't say yes to any pussy pounder that comes our way. The problem in this kind of dynamic is that men are full of false ideas about it. Each person is different, each cpl is different but a cuck relationship/meet is not about a geezer emptying his balls on a woman who happens to be married and off he goes."
Agree totally
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"Finding a REAL Bull for cucks is very hard. Most guys think that cuck means fucking the wife and that's it. It's almost as if the husband doesn't exist. In fact many guys will ask to fuck the wife without the husband present and send him videos. All these guys want is pussy and they should contact single women. A REAL bull enjoys the 3 way dynamic and dedicates time and effort in that direction. Physical stimulation for the wife and mental for the husband (with bi bulls it's physical for both). Real bulls are extremely rare. We have been lucky but also we are patient and don't say yes to any pussy pounder that comes our way. The problem in this kind of dynamic is that men are full of false ideas about it. Each person is different, each cpl is different but a cuck relationship/meet is not about a geezer emptying his balls on a woman who happens to be married and off he goes."
Totally agree with that, for us cuckolding is about the hotwife having additional sexual experiences whilst the cuck hubby provides a stable supportive home life.
Bulls need to understand the loving dynamic of a cuckold couple for things to work properly in a three way relationship. |
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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago
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We seem to be between hotwife and stag/vixen ... there are moments and scenes when George is only watching or just out of eyesight; other times he is an active participant before, during and after group play ... there is plenty of subtle variation. Often down to mood, environs and the men involved. x Anne |
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"We seem to be between hotwife and stag/vixen ... there are moments and scenes when George is only watching or just out of eyesight; other times he is an active participant before, during and after group play ... there is plenty of subtle variation. Often down to mood, environs and the men involved. x Anne "
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"I might feel nervous walking around in lingerie but hopefully I’d get some attention  "
Everyone there is in the same boat you are, either a towel or undies so what's to be nervous about? Are you that way on holiday at hotel pool?
All the club's we have been to if you say no thanks then people won't push their luck as they would be asked to leave. So nothing would happen without your approval of said act being ok.
Go with an open mind and chat to the people there on the night, expect nothing and you may be pleasantly surprised by what you find. There may be someone you click with on your first visit but it could take several. Enjoy what is in the club you visit be it a sauna or hot tub ect lock a room and enjoy each other, anyone else you might invite into you dynamic is then a bonus
If you would like to chat privately feel free to message. |
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