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over a year ago
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It’s an interesting one and part of modern life I guess.
How do people define ghosting?
A few times I’ve been chatting to people and have sent a message which has never been replied to, so not wanting to be pushy I’ve left it as assumed they aren’t interested.
But I’ve then been messaged a week or so later to ask why I ghosted them. This has been from a few different people and not a one off. |
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over a year ago
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I've been ghosted... twice (on previous profiles)
One hurt a bit, and didn't understand it but we'd only met socially once but lots of flirty chats before and after. Took me by surprise.
The second time, was by an FWB, and totally out the blue. Given she knew my views on ghosting (which she shared) and all that we had between us, it shocked me, and to say it hurt like hell is an understatement. Ending things I could have handled, moved on from and accepted... the ghosting was like pouring acid into an open wound. never got to know why she had to be so cruel, but yes, it changed my opinion of her greatly. |
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"I think it happens to both genders equally.
Women do it just as much as men. "
I ghost by accident on here. I will swap a few messages and then they get lost in the inbox and I forget about them.
Ghosting before a meet is just rude and annoying but I’m now at the stage I assume they will cancel or not show until I actually see them in the flesh.
After a meet...can make me feel like shit |
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"It’s an interesting one and part of modern life I guess.
How do people define ghosting?
A few times I’ve been chatting to people and have sent a message which has never been replied to, so not wanting to be pushy I’ve left it as assumed they aren’t interested.
But I’ve then been messaged a week or so later to ask why I ghosted them. This has been from a few different people and not a one off. "
My opinion is that you have to have actually met the person for them to ghost you. It's like a lot of words though, people will us them liberally and inappropriately. Narcissist is another that people like to throw about |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s an interesting one and part of modern life I guess.
How do people define ghosting?
A few times I’ve been chatting to people and have sent a message which has never been replied to, so not wanting to be pushy I’ve left it as assumed they aren’t interested.
But I’ve then been messaged a week or so later to ask why I ghosted them. This has been from a few different people and not a one off. "
I wouldn’t class not replying to one message ghosting. How could you have ghosted them if you sent the last message too lol
I’d say maybe if you had sent a few messages over the space of a few days, had no reply but could see they had been online and read your messages. That would be ghosting I think.
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"Being dumb here but what's ghosting? "
The practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication.
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"Being dumb here but what's ghosting? "
My understanding is that if you have a relationship with someone that you reasonably expect to continue and they suddenly stop all communication and seem to disappear then you've been ghosted |
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For clarity, ghosting for me doesn't apply if it's just been conversation on here. There can be lots of reasons for that, and sometimes messages can just get lost.
For me, it's with people you've met, communicate with on other channels and, especially hard, if you've shared intimacy with them. And then one day, it stops, suddenly, without explanation. (in one instance, I changed her name in my phone to Casper, even though it wasn't a friendly thing to do.) |
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"For clarity, ghosting for me doesn't apply if it's just been conversation on here. There can be lots of reasons for that, and sometimes messages can just get lost.
For me, it's with people you've met, communicate with on other channels and, especially hard, if you've shared intimacy with them. And then one day, it stops, suddenly, without explanation. (in one instance, I changed her name in my phone to Casper, even though it wasn't a friendly thing to do.)"
yes exactly this ...... |
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