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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So this morning we have been called picky.
Basically a guy has asked us to meet today and admitted he is cheating. Fair play for him to admit that to us first but it's not our thing.
We said thanks but we don't want to help anyone cheat on a partner.
He then respond saying everyone in this site is too picky.
So without starting the Conversation of abundance of single men etc etc it does ask the question how many people actually know what swinging is or what the lifestyle is about.
If people want casual sex that fine we all entitled to make our own decisions in life but is cheating on people really the impression or reputation our community has or deserves? |
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Well firstly he shouldn't be asking to meet as it's still against site rules.
The reputation swinging has isn't something any of us can control. Anything that's not within accepted norms is going to be viewed with suspicion.
Your impression of swinging is different to mine because I see very little evidence of community so if the people within in it have varying ideas of what it's about what chance does everyone else have  |
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We also don't meet anyone who is cheating, it's not for us.
We know we are very picky about who we invit to join us but isn't that the point? We are not here to be a service to people, we are here for our fun and to share that with people we want to.
Be picky!! We both agree we've had so much success with meets because of how picky we are. |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
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Is it picky or a choice?
Some will not entertain meeting married, others will. Same with all the other choices available to us all. Some singles won't meet couples, others will.
I don't see fab as a community, or swinging for that matter, more of a group of people with similar but varied interests. Too many variables to be a community. |
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Lifestyle of swinging is about as accurate a phrase as you will get (ie not very!) with so many variations of meaning as to be almost redundant. Doubly so when the "community" is all on-line.
However like most Alt lifestyles, the only thing that *really* binds them is informed consent. With swinging, when someone is cheating you can argue informed consent is broken, as not all parties impacted are aware and give permission. Either way, don't accept or describe yourself as 'picky' for having a code you live by!  |
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I was told I was too picky last night as a bloke decided I had to see his cock as he was good looking and too good for this place. He said I was on the wrong site if I didn’t want to meet immediately for sex as I should be on a dating site ....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Silly thing to say. Why should anyone meet a stranger at the drop of a hat just because they want to? Sounds like sour grapes to me. And ofcourse it's currently not allowed anyway. Prat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m extremely picky.
It’s my choice.
And I will remain picky even if to the dislike of most of the people that message me.
People often forget we might be on the site for the same sort of reason but that isn’t reason enough to need to appreciate any offer given. |
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Think everyone is in agreement.
We don't meet singles for play on first meet as we don't want to be embroiled in domestic dramas and neither of us would like the other cheating on them. It obviously limits our meets but a rule we stick with. We don't care if it's thought of as picky, but are with you 100% |
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