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By *lappy OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester |
Just curious because we all know the make to female ratio is heavily weighted against males but do any of you ladies make the first move and message a guy first and if so what do you say ???? thanks |
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By *rs RavensongWoman
over a year ago
Cheltenham, Gloucestershire |
I do. I would usually comment on an update they've posted, their photos if they have some particularly sexy ones in their gallery, or the text in their profile...whatever it was that captured my interest enough to message in the first place.
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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
I do for a variety of reasons. But a positive reason is if they have made me smile with their profile/status/forum thread. Pics tend not to catch my interest. But a genuine pic, with a great smile or arty are more appealing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just curious because we all know the make to female ratio is heavily weighted against males but do any of you ladies make the first move and message a guy first and if so what do you say ???? thanks "
I did few times...  |
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I have but it is very rare. Usually it is a bland one liner and no personality behind the message, or ability to make conversation. No idea what to do with that but be polite and the conversation dies. So boring. |
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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
"I have but it is very rare. Usually it is a bland one liner and no personality behind the message, or ability to make conversation. No idea what to do with that but be polite and the conversation dies. So boring. "
I'd like to think not all are so bland! |
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"I do. Usually if there is something on their status that has amused me, or they have posted something on the forum that has interested me."
same if there is humour in there and it tickles my fancy,then yep message
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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago
Milton keynes |
Yeah they do.. its always a welcoming when us guys gets a message first. I always feel flattered when I get message first but then I always feel the same when I get a message back lol
It does wonders to our self confidence. Doesn't even have to be a message.. it could be one of those inspirational quotes. Someone that I talk to regularly (not on this platform mind) did this and to be honest.. it made my day |
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"Just curious because we all know the make to female ratio is heavily weighted against males but do any of you ladies make the first move and message a guy first and if so what do you say ???? thanks "
I can comfirm i have received messages first from ladies. In addition, females from couples profile have also message me.  |
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"I do....generally off the back of a nice pic, profile or curiosity from things they’ve said in the forum. "
I'm the same and usually wink or fab a pic first to show interest. I wouldn't just send first message to everybody and anybody. Since I have a fair amount of people blocked through my settings I tend to be the first messager like 90% of the time. |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
Brighton |
In our experience yes they do but it is the genuine swingers rather than the “instagram crowd” ie those just wanting their pics fabbed.
Over the years some very nice ladies have messaged us (though being honest about 95% of our adventures have been with people we met first at a party or club rather than through a swinger website. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do message first if I stumble across a profile that interests me. I usually just say that I enjoyed their profile and mention things we have in common or something similar.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, was a very flattered chappy too after she gave me a very nice compliment too..she then threw her toys out of the pram over a nothing comment I made..I wonder if she will read this..haha x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a message from women once, told me to duck my head back in during a forum chat. How disappointing was that!!!"
Lol the same but twice....telling me not to join in any forums she was on....lol |
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"Just curious because we all know the make to female ratio is heavily weighted against males but do any of you ladies make the first move and message a guy first and if so what do you say ???? thanks "
I prefer to, usually acknowledging a well crafted profile and inviting further conversation, assuming they want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a message from women once, told me to duck my head back in during a forum chat. How disappointing was that!!!
Lol the same but twice....telling me not to join in any forums she was on....lol"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Damn it which sarcastic answer do I use... screw it I’ll do both!
Sure they do OP! I mean tbh I’m surprised you’re not as sick as the rest of us are with unimaginative one line messages and unsolicited clit pics....
I’d try holding your breath. One should be along shortly.
Glad I got that out of my system. No seriously I’m sure it does happen, but I can’t say it’s ever happened to me... yet. Fair play to those women who do. |
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And I just messaged with what interested me about their profile/status/forum post.
