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So one of our married friends asked us to help him to introduce his wife to the lifestyle he is afraid.
So couples how did you introduced and convinced your wives to be in the lifestyle? |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Firstly he can't "convince" anyone - they'll either be interested in exploring or they won't and he has to accept that if they won't then he has to accept that and leave it there.
The best, and only, thing he can do is sit down with his wife and be open and honest with her about why it interests him, and more importantly why he thinks it "might" be something that would interest her and be something they could explore *together*.
As ever, open and honest communication is the key but as I said above he also has to be prepared to accept that if it's not for her it's not for her and he will have to leave it at that. |
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"I have tried to convince my wife but she is a bbw and not happy with her body so no matter what i say about her being sexy she will never ever let anyone else see her naked  "
We know couples that ask specifically for big girls |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
Passed Beyond Reach |
"Hello guys:
So one of our married friends asked us to help him to introduce his wife to the lifestyle he is afraid.
So couples how did you introduced and convinced your wives to be in the lifestyle?"
Question you need to ask yourself is why do you want to "convince" your wife to join? I have seen where such ventures can lead many times over the years, .
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"Firstly he can't "convince" anyone - they'll either be interested in exploring or they won't and he has to accept that if they won't then he has to accept that and leave it there.
The best, and only, thing he can do is sit down with his wife and be open and honest with her about why it interests him, and more importantly why he thinks it "might" be something that would interest her and be something they could explore *together*.
As ever, open and honest communication is the key but as I said above he also has to be prepared to accept that if it's not for her it's not for her and he will have to leave it at that."
Sounds a bit like convincing to me? |
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"Hello guys:
So one of our married friends asked us to help him to introduce his wife to the lifestyle he is afraid.
So couples how did you introduced and convinced your wives to be in the lifestyle?"
I can’t imagine knowing my husband has gone to another person and asked them to help him convince his wife would go down well at all.
I’d be fuming. So rude.
Swinging should be about the couple both having fun. He should speak to his wife about it if it’s something he wants to try.
On his own. As it’s his relationship.
Crazy  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Talking is key we spoke a lot about trying swinging before we actually got the courage to attend clubs we both absolutely love it now and would never change but both parties need to be happy with it |
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"Talking is key we spoke a lot about trying swinging before we actually got the courage to attend clubs we both absolutely love it now and would never change but both parties need to be happy with it "
Tjhat's why he is excited and afraid at the same time
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"Hello guys:
So one of our married friends asked us to help him to introduce his wife to the lifestyle he is afraid.
So couples how did you introduced and convinced your wives to be in the lifestyle?
I can’t imagine knowing my husband has gone to another person and asked them to help him convince his wife would go down well at all.
I’d be fuming. So rude.
Swinging should be about the couple both having fun. He should speak to his wife about it if it’s something he wants to try.
On his own. As it’s his relationship.
Crazy "
He is afraid how his wife will react |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello guys:
So one of our married friends asked us to help him to introduce his wife to the lifestyle he is afraid.
So couples how did you introduced and convinced your wives to be in the lifestyle?
I can’t imagine knowing my husband has gone to another person and asked them to help him convince his wife would go down well at all.
I’d be fuming. So rude.
Swinging should be about the couple both having fun. He should speak to his wife about it if it’s something he wants to try.
On his own. As it’s his relationship.
Crazy He is afraid how his wife will react"
He should be in this instance |
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"Hello guys:
So one of our married friends asked us to help him to introduce his wife to the lifestyle he is afraid.
So couples how did you introduced and convinced your wives to be in the lifestyle?
I can’t imagine knowing my husband has gone to another person and asked them to help him convince his wife would go down well at all.
I’d be fuming. So rude.
Swinging should be about the couple both having fun. He should speak to his wife about it if it’s something he wants to try.
On his own. As it’s his relationship.
Crazy He is afraid how his wife will react"
To be fair guys are generally afraid to tell their wife most things. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Firstly he can't "convince" anyone - they'll either be interested in exploring or they won't and he has to accept that if they won't then he has to accept that and leave it there.
The best, and only, thing he can do is sit down with his wife and be open and honest with her about why it interests him, and more importantly why he thinks it "might" be something that would interest her and be something they could explore *together*.
As ever, open and honest communication is the key but as I said above he also has to be prepared to accept that if it's not for her it's not for her and he will have to leave it at that.
Sounds a bit like convincing to me?"
Not at all - "convincing" someone would be persuading them to see your view is the right one.
Which is very different from explaining the appeal but allowing the other person to come to their own decision about whether it is right for them, and being prepared to accept that decision regardless of whether it agreed with your own view. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello guys:
So one of our married friends asked us to help him to introduce his wife to the lifestyle he is afraid.
So couples how did you introduced and convinced your wives to be in the lifestyle?
I can’t imagine knowing my husband has gone to another person and asked them to help him convince his wife would go down well at all.
I’d be fuming. So rude.
Swinging should be about the couple both having fun. He should speak to his wife about it if it’s something he wants to try.
On his own. As it’s his relationship.
Crazy He is afraid how his wife will react"
He could try and bring the subject up in a neutral way - tell her that he saw a documentary, or that the subject of swinging came up with his mates, or something similar. If she expresses curiosity or interest, they can discuss it more. If she's dismissive or negative, he'll know it's a no-go. |
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"Hello guys:
So one of our married friends asked us to help him to introduce his wife to the lifestyle he is afraid.
So couples how did you introduced and convinced your wives to be in the lifestyle?
I can’t imagine knowing my husband has gone to another person and asked them to help him convince his wife would go down well at all.
I’d be fuming. So rude.
Swinging should be about the couple both having fun. He should speak to his wife about it if it’s something he wants to try.
On his own. As it’s his relationship.
Crazy He is afraid how his wife will react
He could try and bring the subject up in a neutral way - tell her that he saw a documentary, or that the subject of swinging came up with his mates, or something similar. If she expresses curiosity or interest, they can discuss it more. If she's dismissive or negative, he'll know it's a no-go. "
Scared of how his wife will react to something really personal about their sex life so shares it with other people first?
Asking them to help convince her?
He absolutely should be scared because I’d be long gone haha! |
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By *inranWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I have tried to convince my wife but she is a bbw and not happy with her body so no matter what i say about her being sexy she will never ever let anyone else see her naked "
You don't have to be naked to swing. You can be however you are comfortable |
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By *inranWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Hello guys:
So one of our married friends asked us to help him to introduce his wife to the lifestyle he is afraid.
So couples how did you introduced and convinced your wives to be in the lifestyle?"
I would say if you are open and honest about your lifestyle around her then if she is interested she will ask.
No pushing or cajoling but just being authentically you allows people feel safe to ask if they are curious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I simply said to my wife
I would love to see you sick another man's cock
That would be a rather unfortunate turn of events
Hahaha the deep throat went a bit too deep."
Oops
Typo of course
It is great thought when you watch her sucking away |
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"Hello guys:
So one of our married friends asked us to help him to introduce his wife to the lifestyle he is afraid.
So couples how did you introduced and convinced your wives to be in the lifestyle?"
 he's afraid to talk to his wife so he wants you to do it? How on earth do they function as a couple?
You're not going to get involved are you? |
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"Hello guys:
So one of our married friends asked us to help him to introduce his wife to the lifestyle he is afraid.
So couples how did you introduced and convinced your wives to be in the lifestyle?"
I asked a friend of experience to help with their experience and knowledge, to then ask other people’s ideas.  |
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You guy obviously feels that if his wife was to see that close friends are swingers then she might be more relaxed about it. I think a lot of people have this perverted view on swinging and that it’s like a porno when it’s clearly not, it’s about meeting new people and making new friends etc. I suppose he is hoping his wife would be able to see from their friend that it’s not this perverted scene and something that is actually quite sociable and enjoyable.
I don’t think it matters about a guy speaking to friends about it, I bet everyone who has commented on here has shared information with a friend about their sexual relationship with their husband and wife which is exactly the same in my opinion. |
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"You guy obviously feels that if his wife was to see that close friends are swingers then she might be more relaxed about it. I think a lot of people have this perverted view on swinging and that it’s like a porno when it’s clearly not, it’s about meeting new people and making new friends etc. I suppose he is hoping his wife would be able to see from their friend that it’s not this perverted scene and something that is actually quite sociable and enjoyable.
I don’t think it matters about a guy speaking to friends about it, I bet everyone who has commented on here has shared information with a friend about their sexual relationship with their husband and wife which is exactly the same in my opinion. "
I can tell you with 100% honesty that I have never spoken to a friend to try and get them to convince my partner to do anything sexual. |
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"You guy obviously feels that if his wife was to see that close friends are swingers then she might be more relaxed about it. I think a lot of people have this perverted view on swinging and that it’s like a porno when it’s clearly not, it’s about meeting new people and making new friends etc. I suppose he is hoping his wife would be able to see from their friend that it’s not this perverted scene and something that is actually quite sociable and enjoyable.
I don’t think it matters about a guy speaking to friends about it, I bet everyone who has commented on here has shared information with a friend about their sexual relationship with their husband and wife which is exactly the same in my opinion.
I can tell you with 100% honesty that I have never spoken to a friend to try and get them to convince my partner to do anything sexual. "
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