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Why is it so difficult to find a straight swop couple
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i have found in the past its almost impossible to find a m/f couple to do a 'straight swop,(and in separate rooms), with me and my male friend. I am a straight female so i am only intrested in the male. But i have found that many couple's want. a bi woman for the female, a bi male for a threesome with both the male and female.or a straight male. so both males can have fun with only the female. So have any couples done a separate room straight swop in the past.? |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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I am sure there are plenty out there, but its a two way street; You may want your thing but the other couple will want theirs.
As the Mrs has no interest in fucking any other men, arranging couple to couple play is more convoluted than playing with a single female.
We have to find those couples where the male partner accepts that he may get a different experience than the female.
But no real complaints so far, we have spoken to a few suitable couples and are happy to wait until we find compatible people instead of compromising. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've found that in nearly every dynamic, MF couples want a bi female. There just seems to be an expectation that any woman wishing to join a couple, either with or without her partner, must somehow be bi and wishing to play with the other woman. |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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As a couple with a bi female, as above she has no interest in other guys for sex. She used to get asked to to meet couples on her own.
In our experience lot on here want to fulfill their MFF desire. Girls have a little play and the real sex starts whe he joins in |
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"I've found that in nearly every dynamic, MF couples want a bi female. There just seems to be an expectation that any woman wishing to join a couple, either with or without her partner, must somehow be bi and wishing to play with the other woman."
OK hands up that's what we like, yes, but.... It absolutely is NOT an expectation.
If potential partners are not into what we are into, we don't play, and vice versa.
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"i have found in the past its almost impossible to find a m/f couple to do a 'straight swop,(and in separate rooms), with me and my male friend. I am a straight female so i am only intrested in the male. But i have found that many couple's want. a bi woman for the female, a bi male for a threesome with both the male and female.or a straight male. so both males can have fun with only the female. So have any couples done a separate room straight swop in the past.?"
me and my fb have the same problem, will be much easier when clubs and parties are allowed
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We have no issue playing straight even though Hannah is bi. The issue for us is the separate rooms part. I think it's common for couples to want to share experiences together. It's certainly true for us.
The more specific you get with your requirements, the harder it will be to find people who want the same thing. That's life, I'm afraid. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
A couple of observations OP - why not search for couples where both halves are listed as straight? Whilst "fab straight" does exist amongst women it's far less prevalent, so if you find a profile where the lady is straight chances are she won't be interested in same sex play.
Also perhaps consider a couples profile with your male friend that details what you are looking for, which may attract others looking for similar.
Finally, how fixed is your "separate rooms" requirement? It may widen your options if "same room" was an option, as a lot of people like to see their partners receiving pleasure even if they're not involved - plus the fact that "separate room" from two singles may be seen as two singles meeting two singles by some. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've found that in nearly every dynamic, MF couples want a bi female. There just seems to be an expectation that any woman wishing to join a couple, either with or without her partner, must somehow be bi and wishing to play with the other woman.
OK hands up that's what we like, yes, but.... It absolutely is NOT an expectation.
If potential partners are not into what we are into, we don't play, and vice versa.
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I'm not implying that people try and force it on you but as a single woman open to joining MF couples, there is always a certain amount of confusion/disbelief about me being straight yet still willing to join them. Single guys looking for couples are never subjected to the same level of cynicism about their sexuality when joining MF couples and are almost never expected to be bi unless that is specifically what the MF couple are.looking for and the single guy has listed himself as bi/curious. |
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We have done straight swap a few times. We have tried same and separate room a good few years ago. The great thing about separate room is the sex you have when you are back home when discussing how it went x |
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Not all couples are attracted to profiles where it's a single male or female suggesting their FB join them. Similarly, even couples profiles where they are not married or living together can be off putting to some couples as they want that togetherness dynamic, which makes it more sexy rather than functional. |
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"I've found that in nearly every dynamic, MF couples want a bi female. There just seems to be an expectation that any woman wishing to join a couple, either with or without her partner, must somehow be bi and wishing to play with the other woman.
OK hands up that's what we like, yes, but.... It absolutely is NOT an expectation.
If potential partners are not into what we are into, we don't play, and vice versa.
I'm not implying that people try and force it on you but as a single woman open to joining MF couples, there is always a certain amount of confusion/disbelief about me being straight yet still willing to join them. Single guys looking for couples are never subjected to the same level of cynicism about their sexuality when joining MF couples and are almost never expected to be bi unless that is specifically what the MF couple are.looking for and the single guy has listed himself as bi/curious."
Fair point hadn't really thought about it like that. You're getting deep into psychosexual, genetic, societal et. factors way beyond my understanding lol.
We do however try not to look confused or disbelieving during meets. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Although I am bi (always have been) there are other factors at play.
Many of our swing friends agree seeing the other people even if playing separately is a huge turn on.
I’ve played straight (not a fan, try anything once) but it’s still nice to be in a pile of bodies (I just have to be careful who I touch and how)
On a separate note you said you and your male friend (not judging) I know for us as a couple we only play with actual couples. The dynamic is different, our friends seem to be of a similar mind. This may hamper your endeavours also.
There are lots of straight couples hopefully you will find the fun you are looking for x |
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Although I'm bi we are actually looking for men for MFM.
Would consider a full swap with another couple but for me personally I'd prefer a couple not FWB couple, as there would be a different dynamic. Additionally swapping rooms isn't what we are looking for either, it's a joint experience for us as a couple. If we were to decide on different rooms I think we'd more likely find individuals rather than a couple as it would be easier for us to find someone we want to meet. |
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There is lots of choice out there for everyone.
Bunny is bi, but it's not essential.
However, as someone has already said the more specific you are in your play requirements the more challenging it is to arrange something with a compatible partner or partners.
We can play straight, bi fem or even fly solo if the people we meet only want to have fun with one of us.
But we are same room, so that would limit us meeting with those who prefer separate play and duck is not bi so that would limit those wanting a bi-male.
The most difficult thing is getting people to be honest about what they want. We've had times were ladies claim to be bi, but when it comes to the ladies having fun basically are not up for it.
Or the opposite and actually both the other couple just want bunny.
This tends to be off-putting when play has started. Where as if they said so beforehand we may have decided to go that way. |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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As above ^^^^. But we have to distinguish between FWBs and the context and FBs. We will not meet FBs because they are primarily blokes using ladies as a door opener.
We would only meet couples that are in a relationship and where the male is not more interested in getting in someone else's pants than is own partner. |
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I have struggled with this too on our couple profile
Many do want bi fems only and I'm straight and then of the ones who happily play straight, you have to factor in 4 way attraction and availability.
This is one of the reasons we now have our own single profiles too.
If we want to meet together, we go to a club (pre covid). |
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I'm bi (fem) but can play straight. We won't play seperate rooms as seeing the live play is half the fun for us.
We won't play with fb/fwb couples. As others have said it's the dynamic of a real couple. We did meet a fb couple - unknown to us at the time. She would't play during the meet, although we were told she would. It was the single males way of "upping his chances to play". We left pretty quickly.
Get youself a couples account, clearly say your fb's. That way you may find couples, looking for couples, rather than your single lady profile. |
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"We have no issue playing straight even though Hannah is bi. The issue for us is the separate rooms part. I think it's common for couples to want to share experiences together. It's certainly true for us.
The more specific you get with your requirements, the harder it will be to find people who want the same thing. That's life, I'm afraid. "
That's it in a nutshell basically, scarlet is bi and loved playing with both parties. We did however not push this if it wasn't their bag as they say, but prefered same room play non the less to see and hear each other having fun. This may be your biggest stumbling block as I think there are a lot of couples in this mindset. It may also make them feel safer to play in same room, maybe once you get to know a couple after a few meets you could talk and see how they felt after trust was gained?
This being said there are couples out there who do like seperate room swapping, good luck in your search for the right couple for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Although I'm bi I can play straight and not feel left out.... we go with the flow and never put pressure on anyone to do things they dont want to...its all about fun"
This^^^ |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have no issue playing straight even though Hannah is bi. The issue for us is the separate rooms part. I think it's common for couples to want to share experiences together. It's certainly true for us.
The more specific you get with your requirements, the harder it will be to find people who want the same thing. That's life, I'm afraid. "
Same here. We want same room fun so we can watch each other play and get turned on by seeing each other visually. Seperate room fun is not what jenny wants and niether do i. |
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When myself and my FWB can start meeting as a couple, I’d be willing to straight swap even though my preference is to play with the woman as well. Though I find it hard to find couples where I’m attracted to the man. But definitely not separate rooms, I’d rather just meet solo. We want to share the experience, and I’d hate to be in a different room from him. It would ruin the whole thing. |
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