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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are just venturing, very hard for the male as he is male lol. Quite hard for the female as so many to choose from and alot don't even bother reading the profile.
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By *ushNWWoman
over a year ago
Salford |
"We play as a couple haven't really spoke about playing alone i (male half) would defo not be up for it due to fact there would be little to no chance for me to play the mrs would have her pick lol"
Yep that’s what happens with us! It’s a shame he’s very good  |
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We are new to the swinging world (joined fab during lockdown) and after setting up our solo profiles, we have noticed it’s much harder for hubby as obviously the site is saturated with single men so competition is much tougher. We are hoping hubby will find some gorgeous women when we are able to visit clubs  |
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"We are new to the swinging world (joined fab during lockdown) and after setting up our solo profiles, we have noticed it’s much harder for hubby as obviously the site is saturated with single men so competition is much tougher. We are hoping hubby will find some gorgeous women when we are able to visit clubs "
Its not any easier in clubs unfortunately it will always be one sided in swinging community always better to be female so when agreeing to play separately the male must be prepared that the female will see alot more action.
Alot of guys do like that though. Iam just not one of them. |
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"How was it for you & what is your view on it? X "
Not for us personally we like to have fun together and share the experience but each to their own, as long as they are both happy with what they do.
Mr C |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My man found a lady friend before I found a gentleman, just because there are more men doesn’t necessarily mean it’s easy to find one that likes what’s on offer and ticks the ladies boxes too. I’ve found it pretty overwhelming at times. I’m hopeful it will be worth the effort in the end x |
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We only started swinging in 2020 - how about that for bad karma. Childcare has become illegal and dangerous! It was hard enough before!
We have always followed the rules religiously but started to chat separately because we think meeting together is impossible. We have controlled jealousy and actually been quite liberated by meeting separately. Not always thinking about what each other is worrying about takes the stress off. |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
"How was it for you & what is your view on it? X
Not for us personally we like to have fun together and share the experience but each to their own, as long as they are both happy with what they do.
Mr C"
We started this journey for the same reason. We like to experience everything together so playing separate for us just wouldn't cut the mustard  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We only play together as we have the best 1 on 1 sex ever ourselves. Swinging for us has always been about the specific activities not possible with just 2 people so MMF, MFFs, MFMF and full on orgies etc.
We have always wondered how do couples who play separately manage the sheer mis match of available options?
I.e. the lady of the couple could literally ride multiple new cocks every single night of the week if she so desired it.
However the solo male of the couple is effectively having to compete with all the other thousands of single (and not so single) males? With the added barrier that many single women won't play with married men even if they clearly have permission.
We know a couple who played separately (pre covid). The lady had as many guys as she could handle both one at a time and also group sessions.
The male half of the couple literally didn't get a single meet with another woman in the same 6 months.
In the end they agreed to play together to meet other couples just so the male actually got some action as well.
Sadly the male half of the couple couldn't handle the inbalance anymore and tried to reign it in but at that stage the genie was well and truly out of the bottle and his wife wasn't prepared to give it up at t bug at point.
They tried to continue but after a few months they separated. They were a lovely couple who were childhood sweethearts together 16 years before they started solo swinging. They also had a young child together so it was very sad to hear that the relationship didn't survive.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We only play together as we have the best 1 on 1 sex ever ourselves. Swinging for us has always been about the specific activities not possible with just 2 people so MMF, MFFs, MFMF and full on orgies etc.
We have always wondered how do couples who play separately manage the sheer mis match of available options?
I.e. the lady of the couple could literally ride multiple new cocks every single night of the week if she so desired it.
However the solo male of the couple is effectively having to compete with all the other thousands of single (and not so single) males? With the added barrier that many single women won't play with married men even if they clearly have permission.
We know a couple who played separately (pre covid). The lady had as many guys as she could handle both one at a time and also group sessions.
The male half of the couple literally didn't get a single meet with another woman in the same 6 months.
In the end they agreed to play together to meet other couples just so the male actually got some action as well.
Sadly the male half of the couple couldn't handle the inbalance anymore and tried to reign it in but at that stage the genie was well and truly out of the bottle and his wife wasn't prepared to give it up at t bug at point.
They tried to continue but after a few months they separated. They were a lovely couple who were childhood sweethearts together 16 years before they started solo swinging. They also had a young child together so it was very sad to hear that the relationship didn't survive.
KJ Mr"
Every relationship is different. Before covid I guess I met every couple of months a single guy. We have couple profile also which we met couples with and also met single guys for mfm. In 12 months he has 2 solo meets with couples. Everyone needs are different I guess, he's happy as long as I am and having fun. We talk all the time but doesn't bother him the imbalance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We only play together as we have the best 1 on 1 sex ever ourselves. Swinging for us has always been about the specific activities not possible with just 2 people so MMF, MFFs, MFMF and full on orgies etc.
We have always wondered how do couples who play separately manage the sheer mis match of available options?
I.e. the lady of the couple could literally ride multiple new cocks every single night of the week if she so desired it.
However the solo male of the couple is effectively having to compete with all the other thousands of single (and not so single) males? With the added barrier that many single women won't play with married men even if they clearly have permission.
We know a couple who played separately (pre covid). The lady had as many guys as she could handle both one at a time and also group sessions.
The male half of the couple literally didn't get a single meet with another woman in the same 6 months.
In the end they agreed to play together to meet other couples just so the male actually got some action as well.
Sadly the male half of the couple couldn't handle the inbalance anymore and tried to reign it in but at that stage the genie was well and truly out of the bottle and his wife wasn't prepared to give it up at t bug at point.
They tried to continue but after a few months they separated. They were a lovely couple who were childhood sweethearts together 16 years before they started solo swinging. They also had a young child together so it was very sad to hear that the relationship didn't survive.
KJ Mr
Every relationship is different. Before covid I guess I met every couple of months a single guy. We have couple profile also which we met couples with and also met single guys for mfm. In 12 months he has 2 solo meets with couples. Everyone needs are different I guess, he's happy as long as I am and having fun. We talk all the time but doesn't bother him the imbalance. "
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"How was it for you & what is your view on it? X
Not for us personally we like to have fun together and share the experience but each to their own, as long as they are both happy with what they do.
Mr C"
Definitely the same for us our enjoyment comes from seeing each other having fun.
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For us with couples we have met before and become friends with it can be great.
Both because easier to arrange, and knowing your other half is having fun. We are very open and honest with each other, which is a huge part of this.
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By *inranWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
Yes hubby and I rarely ever play together.
We have always however been poly from the start so it's not ever been an issue really.
For us it's not really a turn on to think of the other playing type thing. Logistically it's easier but we both like to develop different dynamics and have different tastes. |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
I met a lady at a kink event we started dating and she said she would like to try swinging. We had a couples profile on here and had a few visits to a club. We agreed we wouldn't play single with other singles but she did play with couples, I didnt enjoy it at all , we would be chatting to another couple and this would often come up in the conversation..and I would suddenly become invisible...
In the end we parted company amicably...I learnt a lot about myself, and swinging relationships from the experience.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The wife has the choice if she wants to play solo, she hasn't for a couple of years but it's her choice.
I personally have no desire to play solo which again is my choice. |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"Am intrigued, kink event? "
Hi lots at different venues ... xtasia in West Brom is a swingers club as well as hosting kink events , on their webpage they have (or used to) a calendar for the swinging or kink events . There is obviously fetli£e that posts lots of events ..
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By *rMrsB.Couple
over a year ago
Barnsley |
We both originally played together only but as our experiences have moved on a little we are both now happy to play alone. As said several times it’s not as easy for the male half of us but even though I have lots of offers... nothing much really happens. We’d like to meet a couple to play separate with. MrsB x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We both originally played together only but as our experiences have moved on a little we are both now happy to play alone. As said several times it’s not as easy for the male half of us but even though I have lots of offers... nothing much really happens. We’d like to meet a couple to play separate with. MrsB x"
I, N do better on a certain dating app whilst M gets plenty of attention here |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
We have a couple profile and our own singles
It's tough getting 4 way attraction and availability as a couple, so we decided to try to meet alone.
Jack has had a few good meets, to be honest it's rare I find anyone I'd want to meet, when covid is all over.
I do enjoy hearing about his meets though! |
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By *wo4morexCouple
over a year ago
birmingham |
"Would it not be good to find a couple that as a couple you can okay alone with. Play with each others partner... I think that makes sense?  "
we haven’t played alone yet but meeting a couple and then maybe having solo meets afterwards is something we would consider |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
Passed Beyond Reach |
"How was it for you & what is your view on it? X "
We as singles and couples, most defiantly this couple find we are in a much better place to enjoy what we enjoy without venturing outside the relationship.
We'd rather meet socially with others, if thing do go further is a bonus not the mission. FWB rather than meet for sex. Rules us out of most of the site  |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
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"How was it for you & what is your view on it? X "
We as singles and couples, most defiantly this couple find we are in a much better place to enjoy what we enjoy without venturing outside the relationship.
We'd rather meet socially with others, if thing do go further is a bonus not the mission. FWB rather than meet for sex. Rules us out of most of the site |
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We met as singles on here so it’s always been part of our adventure during swinging, the thrill of a solo and going back to your partner to talk about it during sex or the build up to sex is amazing! We know it’s not for everyone but for us we absolute love it as much as doing it together |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How was it for you & what is your view on it? X "
I am here as a single guy
I do have another half though
We play separately more than we play together, because we found it very rare that we both found the same guy attractive
If we did find someone, it was even rarer that the guy found both of us attractive
When we play together, we also have a very specific play in mind and, again, this rules a lot of guys out
Neither of us meet regularly and it isn't a big part of our lives at all, but it is nice to know that if I am going to meet someone, I can do so worry & guilt free |
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By *tue555Man
over a year ago
Passed Beyond Reach |
It is an interesting conundrum, we are the opposite, I am very happy with my partner and not looking elsewhere, she is the same so not looking for males but does have an interest elsewhere from time to time.
Couples may invite a guy playing solo, but very rarely do ladies playing solo want to meet a couple or a specific female partner, as with sole females.
So why we tend to meet with friends, socially, nice meal, if it ends up in room bonus, if not good time had anyway |
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"For us with couples we have met before and become friends with it can be great.
Both because easier to arrange, and knowing your other half is having fun. We are very open and honest with each other, which is a huge part of this.
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We have adopted a similar approach to this, we have played separately with couples we have got to know well and we both love that dynamic. Not sure we would develop it any further than that though...... |
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It can be very exciting, and create some very good friendships once a mutual bond of trust has built up. Apart from one or two exceptions it usually involves meeting both partners first, and more often than not on the first meet, inviting both back to your home, or if it's a pub or outdoor meet, him noting the my car reg number. Then the guy can be sure in his own mind that his partner is with a safe guy to play with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are a couple that have been swinging together 5 years and occasionally do meet separately too if it suits us both at the time. It is something we both like from time to time and as the female half is something I find a turn on for my husband to do and want more of let's say its as much as a thrill for me for him to meet separately as it is for him to share me separately xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mrs M often plays alone.
I don't play with others so it works perfectly well for us. "
We are the same, I either play with hubby involved or alone, although I like it more when he is there.
He doesn't play alone and this works well for us. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm married but always play alone. Works for us, especially me 
Honestly and communication are key xx"
Hope he has tea cooked and run you a bath for when you come in |
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Hannah has been with a woman a couple of times since we met. They were wonderful experiences for her and I was very happy for her to have them. I find it very exciting knowing she did that and is still free to. We both hope it's not the last time she gets intimate with a woman without involvement from me.
When it comes to mixing the sexes, we would only do that together. We want that kind of experience to be shared. Luke |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We're new to the scene and we only like the thought of playing as a couple. We aren't keen on K (Female half) playing solo with someone else without me present. |
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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago
harwich |
when we started swinging it was a rule that we were always together but as time went on we realised sometimes our taste in partners wasn't always the same and one of us would be taking one for the team so we relaxed that rule down to we always knew where each other were this was solely playing at clubs and parties we had a large group of friends so the other partner was never left alone some times we would watch
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are a couple and come as a pair. Not even worth trying to arrange as single Male as people then think it’s a fake profile even though we are photo verified. |
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