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Personality or looks?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I’ve been on and off this site for a cpl of years and I’ve noticed that there those who choose looks and those who choose personality..
So I put to the forum, what would you choose
Personality or
Looks?
It would be interesting to see the spread pardon the pun!
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By *WillowxWoman
over a year ago
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Hmm... personality.. But I think there has to be some attraction..
If someone can engage me with wit or conversation then I'm all ears! But for me there would have to be some form of attraction.. But that could be different in anyone.. The smile, twinkly eyes etc.. I'm not looking for the perfect man or woman physically. |
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For fab it’s all about looks but I do like to get a good vibe from the guys I meet, it sounds so shallow as well but the reality is fab is a sex site and you want to be meeting people you’re attracted too !!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yes, as it is predominantly a sex site looks would be more important than personality which is kinda clear now it’s put on the table. clearly I’ve been thinking about this all wrong... I should try tinder for personality |
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"Yes, as it is predominantly a sex site looks would be more important than personality which is kinda clear now it’s put on the table. clearly I’ve been thinking about this all wrong... I should try tinder for personality "
Tinder is just the same people pretending they want to take you out once before they fuck you haha xx |
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It will always be looks as I am here predominantly for a sexual meet and I suspect it’s my look that’s attractive to them as well. It’s nice if they’re interesting and intelligent as well. But if a hot guy, woman, couple or even Tgirl contacted for a sexual meet then I’ll enjoy their body over their mind.  |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
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Both.
I can afford at this stage on my life to be as fussy as I can be.
People worth meeting come once a year or so, but it doesn’t matter. And I am quite halpy atm with my gorgeous FWBs, having met them all on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looks - how can u be sexually attracted to a personality. let's be honest......"
"Demisexual people only feel sexually attracted to someone when they have an emotional bond with the person. They can be gay, straight, bisexual, or pansexual, and may have any gender identity. The prefix “demi” means half — which can refer to being halfway between sexual and asexual." |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looks - how can u be sexually attracted to a personality. let's be honest......"
Easily. Doesn't matter what someone looks like, if I dont have anything in common with them or can't have a conversation with them that isn't about sex, I'm not interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looks give you whiplash, but personality is the neck brace!
A pretty face overrides almost every other physical attribute for me, and by that I mean if the lady is pretty, I couldn't care less if she a B-cup or K-cup, or size 10 or 28++++. And if that pretty face has lovely eyes, and a bright smile, so much the better.
But having to choose between the two, the personality gets me, and its for very simple reasons. Communication is the essence of great sex, and aligned or great personalities enhance communication and thus, increase the chance of the sex being greater still. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In honestly, more looks. I'm not looking for a relationship, just sex, so I need physical attraction to jump into bed with a near strangers.
However, they need to have a decent personality too, if I can't engage with them and be comfortable in their company then I won't meet. I have no time for disrespectful people either. If we really get on I might then consider FWB xx |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Personality for me - I have to like someone to find them sexually attractive and they grow more attractive the more I get to know them. There's not a particular aesthetic I like but once I like talking to someone they are a modern day Aphrodite/Adonis to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the situation doesn’t it. I’m currently looking for a new partner so both would be a high priority. If it’s something more casual then looks would win that battle. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Seems to be quiet a mixed bag, for me it has to be both attributes, of course I love sexy hot women, but if there is no conversation going on then it kills the passion for me..
I do find intelligence hot though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here and the vanilla world, the same applies. You are drawn by looks.
You don't see a personality from across the bar and decide to go and speak. You have to be attracted first then you speak to see if you like the person to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personality and height ????
Is height important? I don’t know if it is.. "
It is, its part of attraction. I'm not attracted to men that aren't taller than I am |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer to find the person I’m fucking attractive in some way and usually this is physical if I’m window shopping on Fab.
PoF is different, I like a kind face and a an attractive personality.
Not sure why it’s different on either platforms but it is!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personality and height ????
Is height important? I don’t know if it is..
It is, its part of attraction. I'm not attracted to men that aren't taller than I am"
Fair enough! |
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"Personality and height ????
Is height important? I don’t know if it is..
It is, its part of attraction. I'm not attracted to men that aren't taller than I am
Fair enough! "
5ft9 gal I get this vibe! Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All depends.....you can't fuck a personality. But you probably won't want to fuck someone again if they don't have one.....AND....some people who look like a bag of spanners can charm/laugh you into bed.
All depends on where you are in life |
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It's quite easy really.
Looks are great but we're all attracted to different looks.
However, for me, its a person's personality that makes them attractive. Ugly personalities make ugly people.
Photos aren't always an accurate representation of what someone really looks like as they don't generally capture personality. Not everyone takes a good picture either. Your personality affects how people see you.
I identify as demisexual and it's personality for me and being able to stimulate the mind with things like full sentences, having things in common, a connection.
We're all different though. And that's OK
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personality and height ????
Is height important? I don’t know if it is..
It is, its part of attraction. I'm not attracted to men that aren't taller than I am
Fair enough!
5ft9 gal I get this vibe! Haha "
An inch makes all the difference as I wish I was 6ft, but alas 5ft 11 is all I can manage  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"....you can't fuck a personality. "
Actually, you can... I've fucked women who were not immediately attractive to me, but once I got to know them they were absolutely amazing.
I once had a particular sports car that for most people, wasn't attractive. In terms of driving experience and satisfaction, it was unrivalled. People can be like that too! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Another question which falls under this category..
If a super hot guy/girl hit on you but had the worst personality would you still go through with the meet? |
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"Another question which falls under this category..
If a super hot guy/girl hit on you but had the worst personality would you still go through with the meet? "
Yeah.
I’m not here to date them.
As long as they aren’t an arsehole and like what I like in bed absolutely.
I don’t believe communication helps with a good fuck If you just want a one time good fuck haha!
Communication is for relationships haha xx |
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For us anyways we like to be able to get along and chat before meeting but ultimately if there isn't an attraction of some sort it won't really work. Exchanging pics fairly early on in the conversation is best so noone gets their time wasted |
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"Another question which falls under this category..
If a super hot guy/girl hit on you but had the worst personality would you still go through with the meet? "
No , done this a few times in my early days and I really didn't like it . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always say chemistry and laughter above everything else.
However once had a threesome with some guy at a club and didn't know his name.
Oh yes and the sex was good. |
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It's definitely got to be a combination of both. Personally is by far the presiding factor when it comes to attraction for me though. It doesn't matter how classically beautiful they are, I'f there is no connection nothing going to happen..... |
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By *rder66Man
over a year ago
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The initial atrtraction will be on looks, but if you can't connect with someone then the attraction goes. For me, I need a connection of physical attraction, metal attraction and emotional connection. |
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"So I’ve been on and off this site for a cpl of years and I’ve noticed that there those who choose looks and those who choose personality..
So I put to the forum, what would you choose
Personality or
Looks?
It would be interesting to see the spread pardon the pun!
Yes I have a face for radio "
Can't we have both |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer long term fabs so for me personality is really important. I won't fuck a douchebag.
But I wouldn't engage in the conversation in the first place if there was no attraction physically. So I'm going to be fussy and say I require both lol |
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By *louWoman
over a year ago
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I think it’s about looks to begin with, I need to be attracted to get as far as having a conversation with someone. Although they would need to have a decent personality too or it would never get past first few messages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personality for me. The worst meet I ever had was with the most attractive woman - pert everything, but no joy, no passion and no fun.
A zest for life is a bigger turn on. |
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Personality over looks but that doesn’t mean looks aren’t important. Fab is an odd little world of men desperate for sex and the subsequent verification. Women are essentially the winning lottery ticket to most men and can understandably afford to be much pickier. A number of ladies on here may physically be rated as a 3-4 in the outside world but on fab they get to experience guys who they may not get a look in with in a bar etc... and ultimately that’s one of the glorious things with Fab, if it helps a small % of women increase their confidence in this way then power to them.
I wouldn’t fuck somebody I thought was a dickhead, equally somebody has to physically be an approximation of what I like. Otherwise aren’t I just using them as a hole?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have to be attracted to someone to contact them and then see what personality is like...you can't judge someone's personality just by a naked picture |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looks come after personality in my opinion. I like having a connection with a woman first. Id rather laugh with a woman who has great personality than be sad with a woman who looks stunning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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deffo Looks first then over a couple of messages to see if an idiot or not..
Personality comes into play if you want to have fun with that person more than once or as a regular
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