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"My fwb and I were in Pandora’s and he recognised a guy he knew, a customer he used to deliver to. The guy asked him what he was doing there! Daft question that! "
How did u find pandoras? I used to visit quest but not tried pandoras |
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"My fwb and I were in Pandora’s and he recognised a guy he knew, a customer he used to deliver to. The guy asked him what he was doing there! Daft question that!
How did u find pandoras? I used to visit quest but not tried pandoras"
Love Pandora’s. It’s very big with lots of playrooms but it’s usually quiet unless an event is on. Fantastic staff. Pm me if you need info. |
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By *uzboxCouple
over a year ago
Northwich |
Yes, in the dark room in Atlantis, a guy I worked with in the past gave her a really good fucking but it was only after when I saw his face I realised who it was. We were still in the shadows so he didn't look like he recognised me |
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Yup, travelled 160 miles away when we 1st started to a club. Turns out our vanilla friends thought that would be a safe distance too 
All good though and for that reason just go where we want to now |
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"Have you ever been in a swingers club and recognised somebody you know from outside the swinging world?  
No but I used to travel to clubs further away so this had less chance of happening "
Same here I live 5 mins from chams and xstasia but never go to them ,but I have been to after party next door in the hotel  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Plenty of clients, yeah. Always in clubs a bit further afield though. A lot of them thinking that if they travel a little, they'd be less likely to bump into anyone they know. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you ever been in a swingers club and recognised somebody you know from outside the swinging world?
No but I used to travel to clubs further away so this had less chance of happening "
Everyone does that. You're less likely to meet someone at the club in your home town because everyone else is at clubs further away.  |
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"Yes ... a family member of the wife.
Bit of a shock for all involved.
Kinda ruined the night out! "
why all there for same thing so discretion and fun carry on , it’s not as if anyone can broadcast it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why do people assume the other person won't blab all over town about who they saw?
Some Swingers are not discreet in the slightest. They happily discuss their sex life - and details of who they fuck - with anyone who will listen. |
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"Met a couple who had previously seen a Lady from his work in a club. He said she never spoke to him again "
Hope I see someone at work in a club as I hate talking to my colleagues at the best of times.....lol. |
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"Met a couple who had previously seen a Lady from his work in a club. He said she never spoke to him again
Hope I see someone at work in a club as I hate talking to my colleagues at the best of times.....lol. "
Same |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to see a couple who lived a few streets away regularly in a club. We spoke agreed that outside of a club we wouldn’t acknowledge each other. Inside the club we would chat happily and the agreement worked (I moved) well.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes! At a gang bang, the lady in question I knew very well as we were at school together. The good thing was I’d always fancied her and unknown to me she had fancied me too. So we fucked... a lot and hooked up to go out to parties etc. Win win!! |
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"Why do people assume the other person won't blab all over town about who they saw?
Some Swingers are not discreet in the slightest. They happily discuss their sex life - and details of who they fuck - with anyone who will listen."
Exactly this...it might be a couple that split up then tell all.
Unfortunately a risk we all take |
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We were recognised by friends of friends when mrs was tied to a bench being spitroasted.
They were 'researching a documentary'(to be fair they weren't playing).
Anyway it got all over the place as they were not discreet.
It was a bit awkward for a bit and we didnt play for ages.
We are not ashamed of our lifestyle but its bloody annoying when you know some 'friends'talk behind their hands rather than just asking.
We have vanilla friends that have asked and we've been happy to tell them as much (or as little) as they want to know. |
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Not in a swingers club, but in Manchester’s gay village there’s a bar called ‘Napoleons’ a well known Tgirl pub/club.
The business I worked for at the time had a very large gay workforce (fashion industry) and I knew quite a few would be in the village, so I used to stay away from the busier bars that catered for the general masses (gay and straight) when I was crossdressed.
So this one night me and my girlfriend at the time who also worked at the same place, went to Naps (as it’s known within our community) and were upstairs (sadly gone now  ) and she went ‘there’s Tony’ with a shocked look on her face Obviously he knew her and no way could she walk past without him seeing her ...so we decided to come out to him.
At first he didn’t recognise me (I was so happy about that  ) then as it dawned on him...well I’m smiling now as I still remember his face changing.
It appears Tony had a thing for the Tgirl community (not sexually) and enjoyed his time around drag and crossdressers. He was really cool about it and afterwards we became great friends.
Unfortunately he died of an aids related illness a few years back, so unfortunately he’s gone now. A sad loss for me and everyone who knew him 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Once walked into a local swingers club and saw 2 guys from work talking to a friend of mine who was dressed and was supposed to meet up with. Needless to say I simply turned around and walked straight back out of the club, just wasn't ready to be outed at work.
A few weeks later I spoke to one of the guys and told him what happened, we ended up dating for a little bit but it was weird as I struggle to deal with affection from men when I'm not dressed as a girl and he didn't grasp that. Was certainly fun though. |
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"Have you ever been in a swingers club and recognised somebody you know from outside the swinging world? "
Yes my sister in law, the hubby's sister. Went through to the hot tub area and she was in the hot tub. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My biggest fear and this is the thing that really puts me off wanting to go to one.
I've been toying with the idea once clubs are back open but will have to see what happens! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyway it got all over the place as they were not discreet."
Attending a club is on my bucket list, but after a friend was recognised and their partner anonymously told of their attendance it's made me very reluctant.
Surely discretion is absolutely paramount in the swinging scene? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Anyway it got all over the place as they were not discreet.
Attending a club is on my bucket list, but after a friend was recognised and their partner anonymously told of their attendance it's made me very reluctant.
Surely discretion is absolutely paramount in the swinging scene?"
Why would you think that Swingers are discreet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why would you think that Swingers are discreet?"
Probably because my own values are such that I don't gossip or brake a confidence... I would expect as swinging is a bit bohemian that fellow swingers would recognise that. |
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Yes. Two fellow commuters, both ladies and gorgeous.
A couple from close by. The female was a cook at the kid's school.
A young lady I worked with, oh wow!
Finally a receptionist at a local NHS facility.
All at Chameleons. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"Have you ever been in a swingers club and recognised somebody you know from outside the swinging world?
Yes my sister in law, the hubby's sister. Went through to the hot tub area and she was in the hot tub. "
Did she know her brother approved of your swinging? How did the situation play out? |
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Yes s few times now one was a lady who was Mrs Brum’s ex boss. The other time was s couple we know of our hobby.
They spent the night trying to avoid eye contact as if we were not there. Until I went over and said hi. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was recognised the first time I went to a club, I didnt know who they were though. Apparently our children attended the same school. Never been to an event since.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you ever been in a swingers club and recognised somebody you know from outside the swinging world? "
When I went to clubs with my ex wife, she once recognised someone from work  |
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We were recognised by someone, at a club, who knew us through work, They then anonymously left notes to our workmates. For a couple of years it caused us a load of grief and a few of our family are still not speaking to us.
G&A |
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I once saw a previous managers car in the carpark of our old local club. Even though we were obviously there for the same reason, we decided to give that night a miss. He was a bit of a creep and loved to gossip.  |
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"We were recognised by someone, at a club, who knew us through work, They then anonymously left notes to our workmates. For a couple of years it caused us a load of grief and a few of our family are still not speaking to us.
G&A"
Omg, that's awful. I expected there to be an unwritten rule, a swingers promise, to keep the lifestyle secretive between fellow swingers. Puts me off going to places like that |
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Travelled to London Rios with fb got into large jacuzzi she looked at me horrified looked where she looked to see our local publicans wife and fellow customer sitting looking at us with the same horrified look. Laughed, they laughed. Had a great evening and never spoke about it again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yep, bumped into someone my gf knows from work on a bi night. He was a bit shocked at first but at the end of the day we're all there for the same reason!  |
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"Have you ever been in a swingers club and recognised somebody you know from outside the swinging world? "
Yes a friends husband, he was alone... we chatted briefly he said his wife knows he attends regular nights...
I have seen her twice since and it’s never been mentioned....
I don’t think she knows...not my information to share
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes met an old fem friend in TH whom I’d chatted regularly on here, it wasn’t until I seen her in the flesh I realised who she was, we both thought it was funny and went about our night as per! |
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"Have you ever been in a swingers club and recognised somebody you know from outside the swinging world? "
Our first ever visit, we did go very local tho! Ended up having to tell mutual friends but played down our curiosity to avoid lots of follow questions. Since learned our lesson and never play on our doorstep now. |
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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago
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"Have you ever been in a swingers club and recognised somebody you know from outside the swinging world?
No but I used to travel to clubs further away so this had less chance of happening "
if everyone did that youd be where people you knew were most likley lol
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Yes at kestrels many years ago. My female business bank manager who I had spoken too that morning in the bank then in the afternoon was in the pool with her and playrooms with her hubby ! Was a bit surreal but i didnt get preferential rates haha
( this is Mr by the way)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've only ever had to sack someone once - I'm not a mean boss, she was repeatedly late or didn't turn up.
Six months later I bumped into her and her boyfirend at Chams. It would've been an awkward meeting in Sainsbury's but this was another level. I still managed some of her friends.
We agreed to not tell anyone else we were there but then kept our distance. I still cringe at the thought, ten years later. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Plenty of times a school mates brother at the VA, an old work colleague at Eurekas, a supplier at Le Boudior and my barber when I had hair at Jaydees!
Not once was I embarrassed or avoided them as we were all their for the same reasons |
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"Yep, bumped into someone my gf knows from work on a bi night. He was a bit shocked at first but at the end of the day we're all there for the same reason! "
A bit shocked he practically ran out of the club naked bless him |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you ever been in a swingers club and recognised somebody you know from outside the swinging world?
No but I used to travel to clubs further away so this had less chance of happening "
What if local people you know did the same lol |
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We’ve only seen one person we know, it wasn’t too awkward, just said hi, smiled and moved on. There are plenty of others we’d like to meet, but we tend to keep Fab life seperate, so that will only happen in fantasy land |
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"We’ve only seen one person we know, it wasn’t too awkward, just said hi, smiled and moved on. There are plenty of others we’d like to meet, but we tend to keep Fab life seperate, so that will only happen in fantasy land "
Sounds about right. If you see someone you know, just say Hello. Everyone's in there for similar reasons |
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I (Luke) have seen a lady who worked for the same organisation as me. It was a big place and I didn't know who she was. I had just seen her around.
My partner at the time saw the boyfriend of a young lady she knows who at the time was expecting their first baby.
That same partner was in hospital and was tended to by a nurse we had seen at a club a couple of weeks before. The nurse was being tended to at the club by several men. |
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For me (Mr) it has happened quite a few times over the years.
As I related on another thread, I bumped into a lady in a club that worked in my local supermarket and was also the mother of a young guy I worked with.
On another occasion a couple that I knew from their business and occasionally saw in the local pub, so when they turned up in the club I then knew them from 3 places.
I used to sing a bit of Karaoke many years ago then saw one of the regular Karaoke hosts who I knew quite well in a club. I spoke to all of them and we all knew what we were there for and never any problems.
For Mrs H it has happened twice.
One was a lady who owned a shop directly opposite her office. They had known each other for years so they were both a bit shocked when they bumped into each other in a club.
The other was a local taxi driver who she had also known for years. He was in a club with his GF (not his wife LOL) |
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We bumped into a work colleague at a swinging social which was awkward at first but nothing was ever mentioned at work so it was all good.
A few months later we were recognised in our pics, and the lowlife decided to tell lots of people connected to my work so everyone knows about our personal life, caused a lot of problems and pissed us off big time, hopefully karma will reap its rewards on this oxygen thief one day.
However we were more determined than ever to not let the wanker spoil our lifestyle and now everyone at work is jealous and think I’m a legend.
It appears the wankers intentions backfired and now everyone thinks he has the morals of an alley cat so all’s well that ends well. |
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Would just add that it has happened the other way around as well.
We were at a car auction here in Germany a couple of years ago and a guy said hello to us.
I thought his face was familiar, turned out he was fucking Mrs H in a club a couple of weeks earlier. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't go to the local club because it's too local for my liking I only go a little further afield but I have seen people I know go into the club near me |
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I bumped into a guy who knows my parents in a local gay sauna, he was visibly shocked as he recognised me and so did I !
Im openly gay so didn’t really bother me, but he didn’t stop to chat and very quickly moved on lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never been, but high on my list of things to do once lockdown ends and its possible.
A concern wouldn't be so much being recognised (we would all be there for the same reasons and lifestyle after all) but with a lack of discretion by the third party. I've heard some stories that aren't nice. |
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"I don't go to the local club because it's too local for my liking I only go a little further afield but I have seen people I know go into the club near me "
Everyone says and does this though haha! So everyone ends up at the same events anyway ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people assume the other person won't blab all over town about who they saw?
Some Swingers are not discreet in the slightest. They happily discuss their sex life - and details of who they fuck - with anyone who will listen."
Agree. Somw do not respect discretion |
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I was at a 7 man gangbang (she was a greedy girl) except we were stuck at 6 man because one guy was running late and kept calling with updates.
After about 20 mins, she said "fuck it, I'm gagging" and, well, we all got down to it.
When the tardy type arrived, we were about 30 mins in and I was balls deep, taking her from behind. We were having fun in their lounge, so when the hall door opened and my old boss from 20 years ago walked in, we locked eyes. I didn't flinch, didn't miss a beat, I ploughed on as the case might be.
Number 7, boss man, was very awkward, apologised to everyone, sort of got undressed, sort of had a drink, then he was gone.
Haven't seen him since, thankfully! |
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By *ammy38Man
over a year ago
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I bumped into my manager and her husband at a house party. After an initial awkward moment we all laughed and by the end of the evening I so’s my boss with her husband, amazing night. Kept it completely professional cone now day morning. |
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"I don't go to the local club because it's too local for my liking I only go a little further afield but I have seen people I know go into the club near me "
Strangely enough that can actually work against you.
Imagine if your next door neighbour thinks the same and you both turn up at a club 50 miles away. |
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"I don't go to the local club because it's too local for my liking I only go a little further afield but I have seen people I know go into the club near me
Strangely enough that can actually work against you.
Imagine if your next door neighbour thinks the same and you both turn up at a club 50 miles away. "
It could but it hasn't happened yet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's never happened to me but I go to my local clubs so I presume anyone I know will be travelling hundreds of miles to clubs lol.
Seems daft as everybody is there for the same reason. |
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I've not personally, but I was told the story by a regular couple who used The Clink in Newport when it was going, about a mature couple with whom I had played with the lady of the couple. Apparently hubby and an assembled group were watching her having a good seeing to by a big black guy at The Clink when their kid's walked in and saw them! |
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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago
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I think so...I honestly don't know though daft as it sounds. I think I recognised a girl I know from work, didn't say hello or anything as we were a bit shy and not really approaching people on the night. If it was we've never spoken about it since.
Ultimately everyone's there for same reason so no need for any issue if so, if you want to play, play, if not be discreet with each other's 'dirty little secret' after |
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I have met a work colleague with his wife at Chameleons. Just said hi in the jacuzzi area as they were both quite busy meeting and socialising with others.
Another time I bumped into a high school class mate with her husband in Chams. That was a lovely social quick catch up |
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