FabSwingers.com > Forums > Swingers Chat > Shy do us 1% of decent guys get the shit
Shy do us 1% of decent guys get the shit
Jump to: Newest in thread
 |
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Explain how we are supposed to tell you are not a dickhead by looking at a profile?
Maybe chat instead of straight delete lol I know what you mean tho  "
Maybe there is no conversation to have / not interested... |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
Shangri-la |
On here all we have to go on are profiles, pics and messages.
I don't have the time (or inclination) to enter into an in depth conversation with everyone who sends a "hi" message, so I look at their profile and make a decision about whether there is anything there that sparks my interest. If the profile doesn't stand out in any way whatsoever, & the best they can do in an introductory message is "hi", then I generally move on. That doesn't mean I think they are a dick head, it just means that they haven't captured my interest.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ittycenMan
over a year ago
south west |
"Explain how we are supposed to tell you are not a dickhead by looking at a profile?
Maybe chat instead of straight delete lol I know what you mean tho "
It’s frustrating when a message just gets deleted but when women get literally hundreds of messages per day, there is no way they can be expected to reply in detail to each one. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
I have a couple of points I’d like to make..
1. OP is right in respect to the fact there are genuine nice guys on here that aren’t like the “fancy a fuck” while sending a dickpic type crowd that seem to be a growing faction on here.
2. Moaning about how you’re being overlooked despite being a “nice guy” actually shows that you’re actually not... nobody is entitled to a meet on here and acting like you are but are hard done by actually shows that you’re far from nice.
If you treat people with respect and dignity on here you will get success |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Explain how we are supposed to tell you are not a dickhead by looking at a profile?
Maybe chat instead of straight delete lol I know what you mean tho "
Why should they chat if they know by looking at your profile that they're not interested. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
At a guess I’d say the ability to spell and string a sentence together is a good start 
Then being genuine and Taylor individual messages rather than a numbers game.
I could be wrong?!
(Reads back carefully to check spelling....) |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
been here from the beginning of fab and the pther big site before this so think i can have a say in this lol.... 1% of decent guys is way off id say 70 to 80% of guys are decent but because of sheer numbers and people wanting to go with whom there's some attraction is where no guys success rate plummets..
blaming others for your getting nowhere is another mistake ''those'' so call dickheads are responsible for their own downfalls not others so you guys moaning that others ruin it for you is utter crap you ruin it for yourself ..
swinging is a rejection game its that simple because the numbers of each sex / sexual orientation massively out weight each other..
so those that put the effort in and dont expect it on a plate are the winners those that try clubs and socials come off with the rewards rather than those who think a porn script message or a hi hows you hun is going to get pussy for your dick on a plate.
so guys please stop moaning that other guys ruin it for you because they dont you ruin it for yourselves and alot of us women find it a real turn off |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"been here from the beginning of fab and the pther big site before this so think i can have a say in this lol.... 1% of decent guys is way off id say 70 to 80% of guys are decent but because of sheer numbers and people wanting to go with whom there's some attraction is where no guys success rate plummets..
blaming others for your getting nowhere is another mistake ''those'' so call dickheads are responsible for their own downfalls not others so you guys moaning that others ruin it for you is utter crap you ruin it for yourself ..
swinging is a rejection game its that simple because the numbers of each sex / sexual orientation massively out weight each other..
so those that put the effort in and dont expect it on a plate are the winners those that try clubs and socials come off with the rewards rather than those who think a porn script message or a hi hows you hun is going to get pussy for your dick on a plate.
so guys please stop moaning that other guys ruin it for you because they dont you ruin it for yourselves and alot of us women find it a real turn off "
Exactly this |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Well, they say first impressions matter and I can't realistically see many bothering to go much further on the strength of your post, unfortunately. Even using words like 'dickheads' to describe your competition puts you in a poor light from the word go.
That's friendly advice from someone who isn't competition. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
I can't even tell by looking at someone.
Anyone can turn into what I would think is a dick head at any stage of any relationship.
I had a man, many years ago, slap me across the face during sex because he realised I was submissive.
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I have a couple of points I’d like to make..
1. OP is right in respect to the fact there are genuine nice guys on here that aren’t like the “fancy a fuck” while sending a dickpic type crowd that seem to be a growing faction on here.
2. Moaning about how you’re being overlooked despite being a “nice guy” actually shows that you’re actually not... nobody is entitled to a meet on here and acting like you are but are hard done by actually shows that you’re far from nice.
If you treat people with respect and dignity on here you will get success"
Bashing others to try and make yourself stand out is never a good look and its certainly not something the nice guys we have met before would do.
KJ |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Explain how we are supposed to tell you are not a dickhead by looking at a profile?
Maybe chat instead of straight delete lol I know what you mean tho "
You're the pink boxers guy? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
I think there is probably a higher percentage of decent guys than 1%... What shit have you got and how do you know your taking it on behalf the the other 99% |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
"been here from the beginning of fab and the pther big site before this so think i can have a say in this lol.... 1% of decent guys is way off id say 70 to 80% of guys are decent but because of sheer numbers and people wanting to go with whom there's some attraction is where no guys success rate plummets..
blaming others for your getting nowhere is another mistake ''those'' so call dickheads are responsible for their own downfalls not others so you guys moaning that others ruin it for you is utter crap you ruin it for yourself ..
swinging is a rejection game its that simple because the numbers of each sex / sexual orientation massively out weight each other..
so those that put the effort in and dont expect it on a plate are the winners those that try clubs and socials come off with the rewards rather than those who think a porn script message or a hi hows you hun is going to get pussy for your dick on a plate.
so guys please stop moaning that other guys ruin it for you because they dont you ruin it for yourselves and alot of us women find it a real turn off "
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *AYENCouple
over a year ago
Lincolnshire |
"At a guess I’d say the ability to spell and string a sentence together is a good start
Then being genuine and Taylor individual messages rather than a numbers game.
I could be wrong?!
(Reads back carefully to check spelling....) "
tailor not Taylor, which is a surname. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"At a guess I’d say the ability to spell and string a sentence together is a good start
Then being genuine and Taylor individual messages rather than a numbers game.
I could be wrong?!
(Reads back carefully to check spelling....) "
You didn't check well enough |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *rder66Man
over a year ago
Tatooine |
What I can ascertain from my dealing with 'other guys', including from my old account is, most seem to be helpful in giving advice and having a laugh on the forums. I'm sure women get lots of the same type of message:, faf, dic pics, etc...If I send a woman who either doesn't respond, deletes without reaing then, that is her choice. The same choice I have when getting messages or deciding where I want to stick my dick in the first place.
If I have a convo and they change their mind, again, their choice and I respect that. So caling other men on her for your lack of success is a failing on your part and say more about you then the other guys on here. Do you have the same attitide towards your career? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
When I get a message, I first click on the profile and look at pics, if they are ok then I read the profile.
The current status update would put me off alone, whinging status updates don’t do it for me.
If I wasn’t interested in you based on your profile, then I wouldn’t chat with you, because I could be making connections elsewhere. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
Surely if a woman or couple get 100 messages a day from men and 99 of those are from dickheads then it shouldn't be too difficult to make your message stand out as the 'decent' 1%? I'd have thought anyone looking for a decent man would have been beating a path to your door. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *apachinMan
over a year ago
Huddersfield |
Everyone has what they like or kink
Age size colour or sex we advertise ourselves using the median of pictures and videos but are tastes don't change
on line it how respectful are on the approach and the rejection.
Guys in real life are getting worse so I take it couples and girls are getting the brunt online
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Surely if a woman or couple get 100 messages a day from men and 99 of those are from dickheads then it shouldn't be too difficult to make your message stand out as the 'decent' 1%? I'd have thought anyone looking for a decent man would have been beating a path to your door."
I got 186 messages yesterday and only about 6 of them were what I'd consider decent. So yes they did stand out and I thanked them too. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"Surely if a woman or couple get 100 messages a day from men and 99 of those are from dickheads then it shouldn't be too difficult to make your message stand out as the 'decent' 1%? I'd have thought anyone looking for a decent man would have been beating a path to your door.
I got 186 messages yesterday and only about 6 of them were what I'd consider decent. So yes they did stand out and I thanked them too. "
This reflects my experience... I’m polite and friendly in my messages, sometimes I get a reply simply because of that! |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"On here all we have to go on are profiles, pics and messages.
I don't have the time (or inclination) to enter into an in depth conversation with everyone who sends a "hi" message, so I look at their profile and make a decision about whether there is anything there that sparks my interest. If the profile doesn't stand out in any way whatsoever, & the best they can do in an introductory message is "hi", then I generally move on. That doesn't mean I think they are a dick head, it just means that they haven't captured my interest.
"
Very apt. Would add there a lot more than 1% but better marketing may be reqd. |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"I have a couple of points I’d like to make..
1. OP is right in respect to the fact there are genuine nice guys on here that aren’t like the “fancy a fuck” while sending a dickpic type crowd that seem to be a growing faction on here.
2. Moaning about how you’re being overlooked despite being a “nice guy” actually shows that you’re actually not... nobody is entitled to a meet on here and acting like you are but are hard done by actually shows that you’re far from nice.
If you treat people with respect and dignity on here you will get success"
|
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I've chatted with the OP and for what it's worth, he's funny, engaging and respectful. Maybe he's just had a bad day... We've all had them. "
Thank you Aimee yes we've chatted previous on many occasions, had some great chats ,I didn't mean anything personal to any one on here ,just trying to understand it which is one hefty task xxx glad you like the I sent you ,,pinky  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
"I've chatted with the OP and for what it's worth, he's funny, engaging and respectful. Maybe he's just had a bad day... We've all had them.
Thank you Aimee yes we've chatted previous on many occasions, had some great chats ,I didn't mean anything personal to any one on here ,just trying to understand it which is one hefty task xxx glad you like the I sent you ,,pinky "
Back on  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
