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Confused at the “do you top” question
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, I’m kind of confused about guys who ask me if I top as well?
I mean, my profile seems quite self explanatory but also, (not that you have to have a certain look for a girl like me, to be a top... like you have beautiful cis women who enjoy pegging their men)
I don’t think I look like that kind of girl who likes to top? I don’t know, Maybe I’m wrong?
Thankfully I don’t get asked too many times and when I do I always politely decline. Still, fucks me up from time to time lol
Anyway, confession time, I’ve never ever topped anyone in my life. And I have no interest in it!
Now, girls like me, do you get asked that question? And how do you take the question?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, I’m kind of confused about guys who ask me if I top as well?
I mean, my profile seems quite self explanatory but also, (not that you have to have a certain look for a girl like me, to be a top... like you have beautiful cis women who enjoy pegging their men)
I don’t think I look like that kind of girl who likes to top? I don’t know, Maybe I’m wrong?
Thankfully I don’t get asked too many times and when I do I always politely decline. Still, fucks me up from time to time lol
Anyway, confession time, I’ve never ever topped anyone in my life. And I have no interest in it!
Now, girls like me, do you get asked that question? And how do you take the question?
If anyone wants to give their 2cents , please do! "
Everyone is guilty of wanting what they can't have. It maybe how some of the straight Men feel when you message them...
Fab is a funny old World, but if you search hard enough there is someone out there who will like what you like, then everyone's happy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"So, I’m kind of confused about guys who ask me if I top as well?
I mean, my profile seems quite self explanatory but also, (not that you have to have a certain look for a girl like me, to be a top... like you have beautiful cis women who enjoy pegging their men)
I don’t think I look like that kind of girl who likes to top? I don’t know, Maybe I’m wrong?
Thankfully I don’t get asked too many times and when I do I always politely decline. Still, fucks me up from time to time lol
Anyway, confession time, I’ve never ever topped anyone in my life. And I have no interest in it!
Now, girls like me, do you get asked that question? And how do you take the question?
If anyone wants to give their 2cents , please do!
Everyone is guilty of wanting what they can't have. It maybe how some of the straight Men feel when you message them...
Fab is a funny old World, but if you search hard enough there is someone out there who will like what you like, then everyone's happy."
I usually never have a problem and I’d say majority do fit what I’m after. Just kind of hate being asked if I top. (It’s like the 2-5% out of 100s)
As I mean, my profile speaks for itself and I don’t think it says anywhere that I might be into being active lol
Probably was just me ranting  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally I wouldn't say how someone looks necessarily dictates if they are top or bottom. I've known very feminine tv to switch x"
True, hence why I said as well some Cis women might be really into pegging.. but doesn’t mean they are butch women who like to peg.
Guess was a rant on the fact that my profile doesn’t say anything about me liking to top. (And I repeat, never in my life I’ve topped anyone  ) |
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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago
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"Personally I wouldn't say how someone looks necessarily dictates if they are top or bottom. I've known very feminine tv to switch x
True, hence why I said as well some Cis women might be really into pegging.. but doesn’t mean they are butch women who like to peg.
Guess was a rant on the fact that my profile doesn’t say anything about me liking to top. (And I repeat, never in my life I’ve topped anyone )"
I get that. Mine says I'm not a Domme but 20% ask if I will Dom them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally I wouldn't say how someone looks necessarily dictates if they are top or bottom. I've known very feminine tv to switch x
True, hence why I said as well some Cis women might be really into pegging.. but doesn’t mean they are butch women who like to peg.
Guess was a rant on the fact that my profile doesn’t say anything about me liking to top. (And I repeat, never in my life I’ve topped anyone )
I get that. Mine says I'm not a Domme but 20% ask if I will Dom them"
Exactly!! Thanks for understanding what I’m on about
If it’s not in ur nature as well, being a dominatrix will be crap. Like awkward and all. I could never have a dominatrix type of personality, as I know I don’t have it in me. But I’ve been asked if I could humiliate... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Maybe just add a line of text onto your profile saying you don’t top.
You’ll also know those asking haven’t read your profile then too. "
Yes I think I might have to add that detail tho as I said I rarely get asked thankfully
Just triggers my dysphoria haha
I’m interested to hear more opinions from tgirls and cis girls who get asked to peg. Does this happen often to y’all??! |
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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
"Maybe just add a line of text onto your profile saying you don’t top.
You’ll also know those asking haven’t read your profile then too.
Yes I think I might have to add that detail tho as I said I rarely get asked thankfully
Just triggers my dysphoria haha
I’m interested to hear more opinions from tgirls and cis girls who get asked to peg. Does this happen often to y’all??!"
All the time get asked to peg. People don't read profile and are forever hopeful. Don't take it to heart. They just know what they want so ask you without any regard to your wants |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe just add a line of text onto your profile saying you don’t top.
You’ll also know those asking haven’t read your profile then too.
Yes I think I might have to add that detail tho as I said I rarely get asked thankfully
Just triggers my dysphoria haha
I’m interested to hear more opinions from tgirls and cis girls who get asked to peg. Does this happen often to y’all??!
All the time get asked to peg. People don't read profile and are forever hopeful. Don't take it to heart. They just know what they want so ask you without any regard to your wants"
Tbh I think it's more down to the fact you state that you don't do it. It you didn't put that you don't come or that you don't top respectively, then I reckon you wouldn't get half as much people asking for it.
The people that ask for it tend get the kick out of being the first to get you to do what you said you never would... if that makes sense  |
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My besties have it on their profiles that they don't. They're all very feminine.
They get asked loads and it gives them the heebie-jeebies with a slice of frustration, especially when someone seems cool and then the dude drops it in like a grenade going off.
When we've spoken they said it alters their perception of the guy, the image that's building in their head and they can't get past it so it's a hard no to meeting them from that point on. |
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"My besties have it on their profiles that they don't. They're all very feminine.
They get asked loads and it gives them the heebie-jeebies with a slice of frustration, especially when someone seems cool and then the dude drops it in like a grenade going off.
When we've spoken they said it alters their perception of the guy, the image that's building in their head and they can't get past it so it's a hard no to meeting them from that point on. "
My besties are TVs btw, might make things a little clearer.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My besties have it on their profiles that they don't. They're all very feminine.
They get asked loads and it gives them the heebie-jeebies with a slice of frustration, especially when someone seems cool and then the dude drops it in like a grenade going off.
When we've spoken they said it alters their perception of the guy, the image that's building in their head and they can't get past it so it's a hard no to meeting them from that point on. "
I totally get the “the dude drops it in like a granate going off” and I get turned off
A few times I’ve noticed that when they ask and I explain I never topped and never will want to, they just say “good, cos I would never. Only asked to make sure that u don’t top cos I’m not into it”
But I’m not totally buying it lol
Topping in my head, is an act so masculine and active that it’s just on another world from my femininity and being a girl. Hence why the two just don’t go together for me and I’m super reluctant |
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"My besties have it on their profiles that they don't. They're all very feminine.
They get asked loads and it gives them the heebie-jeebies with a slice of frustration, especially when someone seems cool and then the dude drops it in like a grenade going off.
When we've spoken they said it alters their perception of the guy, the image that's building in their head and they can't get past it so it's a hard no to meeting them from that point on.
I totally get the “the dude drops it in like a granate going off” and I get turned off
A few times I’ve noticed that when they ask and I explain I never topped and never will want to, they just say “good, cos I would never. Only asked to make sure that u don’t top cos I’m not into it”
But I’m not totally buying it lol
Topping in my head, is an act so masculine and active that it’s just on another world from my femininity and being a girl. Hence why the two just don’t go together for me and I’m super reluctant "
Absolutely exactly that. The big strong man makes them feel extra girly etc.
And no, don't buy that big ole pile of donkey dung about 'just checking' coz it ain't fucking true. They're testing the water yeah... coz they want a cock up their arse not the other way round. I've spent so much time with my girls that I've heard it all and seen an awful lot! I think a lot of people don't understand the mindset and how easily it can be thrown off.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"My besties have it on their profiles that they don't. They're all very feminine.
They get asked loads and it gives them the heebie-jeebies with a slice of frustration, especially when someone seems cool and then the dude drops it in like a grenade going off.
When we've spoken they said it alters their perception of the guy, the image that's building in their head and they can't get past it so it's a hard no to meeting them from that point on.
I totally get the “the dude drops it in like a granate going off” and I get turned off
A few times I’ve noticed that when they ask and I explain I never topped and never will want to, they just say “good, cos I would never. Only asked to make sure that u don’t top cos I’m not into it”
But I’m not totally buying it lol
Topping in my head, is an act so masculine and active that it’s just on another world from my femininity and being a girl. Hence why the two just don’t go together for me and I’m super reluctant
Absolutely exactly that. The big strong man makes them feel extra girly etc.
And no, don't buy that big ole pile of donkey dung about 'just checking' coz it ain't fucking true. They're testing the water yeah... coz they want a cock up their arse not the other way round. I've spent so much time with my girls that I've heard it all and seen an awful lot! I think a lot of people don't understand the mindset and how easily it can be thrown off.
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Haha totally, I know they do say it to test the water and when you are firm on no, they back track. I guess it might work sometimes!
Surprising to know that there are a lot who are into/curious in getting pegged by cis women! Didn’t expect that number and thought it was quite a niche thing lolol |
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"My besties have it on their profiles that they don't. They're all very feminine.
They get asked loads and it gives them the heebie-jeebies with a slice of frustration, especially when someone seems cool and then the dude drops it in like a grenade going off.
When we've spoken they said it alters their perception of the guy, the image that's building in their head and they can't get past it so it's a hard no to meeting them from that point on.
I totally get the “the dude drops it in like a granate going off” and I get turned off
A few times I’ve noticed that when they ask and I explain I never topped and never will want to, they just say “good, cos I would never. Only asked to make sure that u don’t top cos I’m not into it”
But I’m not totally buying it lol
Topping in my head, is an act so masculine and active that it’s just on another world from my femininity and being a girl. Hence why the two just don’t go together for me and I’m super reluctant
Absolutely exactly that. The big strong man makes them feel extra girly etc.
And no, don't buy that big ole pile of donkey dung about 'just checking' coz it ain't fucking true. They're testing the water yeah... coz they want a cock up their arse not the other way round. I've spent so much time with my girls that I've heard it all and seen an awful lot! I think a lot of people don't understand the mindset and how easily it can be thrown off.
Haha totally, I know they do say it to test the water and when you are firm on no, they back track. I guess it might work sometimes!
Surprising to know that there are a lot who are into/curious in getting pegged by cis women! Didn’t expect that number and thought it was quite a niche thing lolol "
I get asked less than my TV buddies. That's probably partly because I hardly ever read my messages unless I'm angry and need to unleash some rage on an unsuspecting profile non reader or crude mofo.
They do get asked a fair amount tho, and it's "nope, game over" and the block button gets hit quicker than a vindaloo makes ya fart. Oh, and if anyones unsure to how long that takes..... you're still fucking eating when you start blowing smoke rings out ya balloon knot |
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My besties are TVs btw, might make things a little clearer. visions of u whispering to the flat screens in Currys now
Fuck, they got me on CCTV?  well at least it's another TV to make friends with "
I could do with nicking myself one, my bedroom one has declared itself kaput so I'm watching telly on my phone when I'm in bed now. Just ain't the same. 
How about that white noise tho, a great show. Not much happens but you know what you're getting with it. |
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My besties are TVs btw, might make things a little clearer. visions of u whispering to the flat screens in Currys now
Fuck, they got me on CCTV? well at least it's another TV to make friends with
I could do with nicking myself one, my bedroom one has declared itself kaput so I'm watching telly on my phone when I'm in bed now. Just ain't the same.
How about that white noise tho, a great show. Not much happens but you know what you're getting with it."
careful with that all the crazy kids are on that (mine) sends u right off to sleep |
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My besties are TVs btw, might make things a little clearer. visions of u whispering to the flat screens in Currys now
Fuck, they got me on CCTV? well at least it's another TV to make friends with
I could do with nicking myself one, my bedroom one has declared itself kaput so I'm watching telly on my phone when I'm in bed now. Just ain't the same.
How about that white noise tho, a great show. Not much happens but you know what you're getting with it. careful with that all the crazy kids are on that (mine) sends u right off to sleep"
Gotta watch out for the polterghoooooooosts |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My besties are TVs btw, might make things a little clearer. visions of u whispering to the flat screens in Currys now
Fuck, they got me on CCTV? well at least it's another TV to make friends with
I could do with nicking myself one, my bedroom one has declared itself kaput so I'm watching telly on my phone when I'm in bed now. Just ain't the same.
How about that white noise tho, a great show. Not much happens but you know what you're getting with it. careful with that all the crazy kids are on that (mine) sends u right off to sleep
Gotta watch out for the polterghoooooooosts"
glad I ain't got a Tele at work now u sayin that  |
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