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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there a way to solve the ladies getting 100s of messages they don't want and genuine guys having boxes full of yellow ignored messages? "
Basically just follow the site rules!!
No reply means no thank you
Forget and move on.
Best of luck op.
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One of the principles of Quality Activities is "act only on things that are within your own control".
Trying to answer the question:
1. People can block messages from coming in if they want to - but it's their profiles/decisions, not yours.
2. The sender can only control whether or not to send, try make the title sound interesting or have an attractive avatar photo. The rest is beyond the sender's control. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there a way to solve the ladies getting 100s of messages they don't want and genuine guys having boxes full of yellow ignored messages?
Basically just follow the site rules!!
No reply means no thank you
Forget and move on.
Best of luck op.
T"
also sometimes just don’t have enough time to check every single message, I’ve got like 2360 unread messages. I’d spend the whole day every day checking out every single one and replying lol
So I guess, i just get to see who catches my eye or has a good first line in the preview. Sometimes I check more when I’m bored or got more time.
Don’t take it personally, if the girl opened the messages and checked ur profile but didn’t reply back, then she’s not interested. If she didn’t open and didn’t check ur profile, maybe ur message got lost In the sea of other messages lol |
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"Is there a way to solve the ladies getting 100s of messages they don't want and genuine guys having boxes full of yellow ignored messages? "
If people read profiles and only sent messages if they fit what was looked for then possible this would be reduced yes.
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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When I'm going through messages I look at the sender's profile before I open the message. If the profile doesn't match what I'm looking for or capture my interest then I may not even open the message.
I keep my message filters quite tight to try to limit the messages I get. If it was possible to filter out all the "hi", "how u doing?" messages that'd be great. |
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As somebody once said if you can’t handle the heat get out of the kitchen. Of course it is frustrating but it is a fact that women and for that matter attractive TV,s are going to get hundreds of messages and have to ignore most of them. The Robert the Bruce approach to life is the only way forward on this and similar sites |
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By *odgerMan
over a year ago
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"When I'm going through messages I look at the sender's profile before I open the message. If the profile doesn't match what I'm looking for or capture my interest then I may not even open the message.
I keep my message filters quite tight to try to limit the messages I get. If it was possible to filter out all the "hi", "how u doing?" messages that'd be great. "
But the filters are that tight that you've not got any veris  |
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"When I'm going through messages I look at the sender's profile before I open the message. If the profile doesn't match what I'm looking for or capture my interest then I may not even open the message.
I keep my message filters quite tight to try to limit the messages I get. If it was possible to filter out all the "hi", "how u doing?" messages that'd be great.
But the filters are that tight that you've not got any veris "
What have filters got to do with veris? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there a way to solve the ladies getting 100s of messages they don't want and genuine guys having boxes full of yellow ignored messages? "
This did bother me when I 1st joined Fab (few years ago) however I learned quick that I'm not everyone's cup of tea.
Also, I found lowering my expectations reduced disappointment because it's their prerogative how they handle their profile.
Having a decent profile helps (he says with a very vague profile himself lol). I tend to speak with old friends, have a perv and Fab all the sexy pics I like, and have a laugh in the Forums. |
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"Is there a way to solve the ladies getting 100s of messages they don't want and genuine guys having boxes full of yellow ignored messages? "
Honestly--those who post pics get more messages. Those who don't set filters get far too many messages.
If you want to be seen, read profiles, go for the low key women, and respect what they want (ie--if profile says what she is lookign for, don't message if you're outside of that).
I DO post a few pics, don't set filters, and have a very managable number of messages. Those who complain about having too many tend to not set filters, in my opinion.
Not saying that those who post a lot of pics are only attention seekers, but yes---those are the ones who get a lot of attention. If you want a response, go for others. |
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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"When I'm going through messages I look at the sender's profile before I open the message. If the profile doesn't match what I'm looking for or capture my interest then I may not even open the message.
I keep my message filters quite tight to try to limit the messages I get. If it was possible to filter out all the "hi", "how u doing?" messages that'd be great.
But the filters are that tight that you've not got any veris "
Not sure what veris have to do with anything here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It works both ways anyone can put on filters so they only get messages from people the would potentially interest them and also limit the amount they get.
Also if people only message those they genuinely thought they might have a match with that would solve a lot of the issues rather than just having a scattergun approach. |
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I know a lot of folk say if read and you don't get a reply not interested, but I would say a polite no thank you, delete or block is not interested.
I read most my messages (ocd on the yellow I think) but wouldn't want to be holding 5+ conversations at once (esp when meets are hindered) so if I like you I save that message and hotlist you for later.
Also I sometimes don't delete a message if I haven't enough info to make a decision either way - ie face pic
Know its disheartening though, as many have said just got to accepts its the nature of the site, I've accepted an encyclopedic knowledge of cock shapes    |
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