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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth "  | |||
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"Ahh here we go, men being dicks. I don't know anyone who has ever said that a woman cheating is taking control of her life. It's disgusting regardless of the gender. " I agree that cheating is bad regardless of Gender, however I'm just trying to grasp the perception and thoughts on whether is biased or not. | |||
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? " On here... Yes In the real world... Yes | |||
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"Cheating is cheating, dont care who's doing it. Find it abhorrent. J "We agree with this totally. So many excuses used on here. While a few are more understandable than others, most are just total and utter bullshit. And that isn't being judgemental. | |||
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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth " Both scum! Haha. No sexism here | |||
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"The general concept is if a man cheats he's a bastard but if a woman cheats there's always a reason, neglect, unhappy etc. Cheating for both sexes should be seen in the same light "Exactly... I think cheating should be treated with the same discontent, however it doesn't seem to be the case. I'm not judging cause I have cheated in my younger days and I've also been cheated on. I learned my lesson and wouldn't cheat again but I have noticed a slight biased when it comes to cheating. Not a judgement but just an observation. | |||
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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth Both scum! Haha. No sexism here "As are the extra parties who play with the cheaters knowing full well they are cheating. Cheaters are just drama however they will be discovered, they always are. | |||
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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth Both scum! Haha. No sexism here
As are the extra parties who play with the cheaters knowing full well they are cheating. Cheaters are just drama however they will be discovered, they always are. "Definitely! Totally agree xx | |||
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"Consenting adults making their own choices. Whatever the gender or motivation why should they be judged, oh, because conditioning says they should. Perception is a factor too. Couples who swing in here think it's perfectly okay, yet Mr and Mrs Normal would think 'how morally wrong'" This is an argument put up very often. Mr & Mrs Normal might think that it is not normal, however the couple who are on here are being honest to each other-a very important difference. Cheat involves dishonesty, disrespect, an abuse of trust. Is that being judgemental, or is it just factual?? We are not condemning cheaters, they all have their reasons, but how on earth can they say that deceiving their life partners ok?? | |||
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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth Both scum! Haha. No sexism here "Women tend not to moan in the forums about being judged for being married and playing away.... Men on the other hand are constantly in the forums looking forward sympathy..... | |||
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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth Both scum! Haha. No sexism here
Women tend not to moan in the forums about being judged for being married and playing away....
Men on the other hand are constantly in the forums looking forward sympathy....."This is so true. | |||
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"Consenting adults making their own choices. Whatever the gender or motivation why should they be judged, oh, because conditioning says they should. Perception is a factor too. Couples who swing in here think it's perfectly okay, yet Mr and Mrs Normal would think 'how morally wrong' This is an argument put up very often. Mr & Mrs Normal might think that it is not normal, however the couple who are on here are being honest to each other-a very important difference. Cheat involves dishonesty, disrespect, an abuse of trust. Is that being judgemental, or is it just factual?? We are not condemning cheaters, they all have their reasons, but how on earth can they say that deceiving their life partners ok??" Quite right swinging and cheating are separate things as both parties are involved in swinging. | |||
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"Women tend not to moan in the forums about being judged for being married and playing away.... Men on the other hand are constantly in the forums looking forward sympathy....." Again, quite right... think Men moan as they get a hard time from all angles. However I believe Women some how just get the sympathy anyway without the need for moaning. | |||
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"The simple answer is yes and I am taking from personal experience as I was the guilty party. " Appreciate that honesty... do you know why this is the case | |||
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"The simple answer is yes and I am taking from personal experience as I was the guilty party. Appreciate that honesty... do you know why this is the case" People sympathise as they seem to think he must have driven me to being unfaithful by neglect of abuse. I assure you neither is the case he is a wonderful man, I just have a higher sex drive. | |||
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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth Both scum! Haha. No sexism here
Women tend not to moan in the forums about being judged for being married and playing away....
Men on the other hand are constantly in the forums looking forward sympathy....."In the fora women tend to get support for cheating... "ah bless how can he push you to do that?" and men tend to get shot at "cheating is cheating you cheating scum bag".... It is the way... | |||
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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth Both scum! Haha. No sexism here
Women tend not to moan in the forums about being judged for being married and playing away....
Men on the other hand are constantly in the forums looking forward sympathy.....
In the fora women tend to get support for cheating... "ah bless how can he push you to do that?" and men tend to get shot at "cheating is cheating you cheating scum bag".... It is the way... "I offer support to neither gender. Cheating is not right but lots of cheaters on here both men and women. | |||
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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth Both scum! Haha. No sexism here
Women tend not to moan in the forums about being judged for being married and playing away....
Men on the other hand are constantly in the forums looking forward sympathy.....
In the fora women tend to get support for cheating... "ah bless how can he push you to do that?" and men tend to get shot at "cheating is cheating you cheating scum bag".... It is the way...
I offer support to neither gender. Cheating is not right but lots of cheaters on here both men and women. "Same, neither sex is getting support from me haha x | |||
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? On here... Yes In the real world... Yes" Breaking News.. Fab Swingers reflects the real world!!! | |||
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"The simple answer is yes and I am taking from personal experience as I was the guilty party. Appreciate that honesty... do you know why this is the case People sympathise as they seem to think he must have driven me to being unfaithful by neglect of abuse. I assure you neither is the case he is a wonderful man, I just have a higher sex drive. " Completely agree with this and can relate to what you're saying. When I was in college I cheated and she was amazing too and did nothing wrong I just had/have a high sex drive. Also when I was cheated on I'd like to think I was going all I can to keep her happy but it doesn't stop someone who is going to cheat. There's loads of reasons and not to justify cheating but it's something that happens and I guess will continue to happen | |||
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"Is role-playing with your husband about cheating 0n him cheating still?" Yes anything with the thought of cheating is cheating | |||
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"Yes anything with the thought of cheating is cheating "Think I disagree with you on this one. You could think of doing loads of things but as long as it's not acted on then thoughts are just that... | |||
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"Yes anything with the thought of cheating is cheating
Think I disagree with you on this one. You could think of doing loads of things but as long as it's not acted on then thoughts are just that..."Thoughts turn to cheating which is why people cheat..... | |||
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"Yes anything with the thought of cheating is cheating
Think I disagree with you on this one. You could think of doing loads of things but as long as it's not acted on then thoughts are just that..."Just wondered others thoughts thanks. My wife & I currently have an ongoing role play of her having a bf who she gave the name Freddie & when she goes to dress for meeting him always tells me as her husband that she having a night out with the girls. So by doing so in her mind she's cheating 0n me I've been trying get her play with others for real but the roleplay is as far as got so far | |||
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"Yes anything with the thought of cheating is cheating
Think I disagree with you on this one. You could think of doing loads of things but as long as it's not acted on then thoughts are just that...
Just wondered others thoughts thanks.
My wife & I currently have an ongoing role play of her having a bf who she gave the name Freddie & when she goes to dress for meeting him always tells me as her husband that she having a night out with the girls. So by doing so in her mind she's cheating 0n me
I've been trying get her play with others for real but the roleplay is as far as got so far"I don’t think it’s cheating if both of you are in on it
I see cheating as it being deceitful. x | |||
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"Yes anything with the thought of cheating is cheating
Think I disagree with you on this one. You could think of doing loads of things but as long as it's not acted on then thoughts are just that...
Just wondered others thoughts thanks.
My wife & I currently have an ongoing role play of her having a bf who she gave the name Freddie & when she goes to dress for meeting him always tells me as her husband that she having a night out with the girls. So by doing so in her mind she's cheating 0n me
I've been trying get her play with others for real but the roleplay is as far as got so far"Yep she’s cheating.... | |||
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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth Both scum! Haha. No sexism here
Women tend not to moan in the forums about being judged for being married and playing away....
Men on the other hand are constantly in the forums looking forward sympathy....." | |||
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"Yes anything with the thought of cheating is cheating
Think I disagree with you on this one. You could think of doing loads of things but as long as it's not acted on then thoughts are just that...
Thoughts turn to cheating which is why people cheat..... "All thoughts lead to actions? Really. I guess Ill be looking forward to winning the open and my threesome with thora hird and Lois Lane. | |||
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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth Both scum! Haha. No sexism here
Women tend not to moan in the forums about being judged for being married and playing away....
Men on the other hand are constantly in the forums looking forward sympathy.....
"This does make sense, cheating men on fab do have a habit of seeking some kind of justification for it, not sure I've seen a woman doing the same. | |||
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"Yes anything with the thought of cheating is cheating
Think I disagree with you on this one. You could think of doing loads of things but as long as it's not acted on then thoughts are just that...
Thoughts turn to cheating which is why people cheat.....
All thoughts lead to actions? Really. I guess Ill be looking forward to winning the open and my threesome with thora hird and Lois Lane. "I was meaning in regard to cheating..... | |||
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"Yes anything with the thought of cheating is cheating
Think I disagree with you on this one. You could think of doing loads of things but as long as it's not acted on then thoughts are just that...
Thoughts turn to cheating which is why people cheat.....
All thoughts lead to actions? Really. I guess Ill be looking forward to winning the open and my threesome with thora hird and Lois Lane.
I was meaning in regard to cheating....."Ahh I see. Even then I can speak for myself only but I have many many thoughts that go unfulfilled... And never will. Because I have self control. I am sure there are many other humans who don't succumb to their thoughts. Thankfully. | |||
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? " No way and it shouldn’t be either | |||
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? " For sure. Why ? Because of the very high guy/girl ratio | |||
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"Yes anything with the thought of cheating is cheating
Think I disagree with you on this one. You could think of doing loads of things but as long as it's not acted on then thoughts are just that...
Thoughts turn to cheating which is why people cheat.....
All thoughts lead to actions? Really. I guess Ill be looking forward to winning the open and my threesome with thora hird and Lois Lane.
I was meaning in regard to cheating.....
Ahh I see. Even then I can speak for myself only but I have many many thoughts that go unfulfilled... And never will. Because I have self control. I am sure there are many other humans who don't succumb to their thoughts. Thankfully. "It's mind boggling isn't it. | |||
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? " No it isn't. But people's preferences change over time. I don't want the same things now that I did when I was 22. Who does? How can you expect a partner, who had the same wants and needs as you when you were 22 to have the same wants and needs 20 years later? And frankly if I was in a relationship, and I wasn't getting everything I needed to in the sex department, but all other aspects of my life was awesome... then I would cheat. And it doesn't bother me one iota about being judged on here or in real life. I only have one life and I will live it my way not anyone elses. And if by chance the person I cheat with is also a cheater that's their issue not mine, no gun would be held to their head saying that you will cheat with me or die 
I was in a swinger's relationship for over 10 year's, free to do what ever we needed and yet he still cheated more than twice with people on here, such is life | |||
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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth " | |||
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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth " Very true bud. John | |||
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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth " Get caught, did we? | |||
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"Yes anything with the thought of cheating is cheating
Think I disagree with you on this one. You could think of doing loads of things but as long as it's not acted on then thoughts are just that...
Thoughts turn to cheating which is why people cheat..... "No I have to disagree with you it's being told you can't do something makes people what to do something that includes cheating. | |||
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? No it isn't. But people's preferences change over time. I don't want the same things now that I did when I was 22. Who does? How can you expect a partner, who had the same wants and needs as you when you were 22 to have the same wants and needs 20 years later? And frankly if I was in a relationship, and I wasn't getting everything I needed to in the sex department, but all other aspects of my life was awesome... then I would cheat. And it doesn't bother me one iota about being judged on here or in real life. I only have one life and I will live it my way not anyone elses. And if by chance the person I cheat with is also a cheater that's their issue not mine, no gun would be held to their head saying that you will cheat with me or die
I was in a swinger's relationship for over 10 year's, free to do what ever we needed and yet he still cheated more than twice with people on here, such is life "Natalie, thanks for your honesty and I understand where you're coming from. I have been on both sides of the cheating fence and although I wouldnt cheat now I can empathise with those that do it. When I look back at my cheating, I just think it's a shame I didnt have the courage to be able to communicate my sexual desires, and instead took the cowardly way and lied instead. When I was cheated on, it also made me reflect on what I wasn't doing to satisfy my partner at that the, and made her go elsewhere. In hindsight I guess it comes down to communication, and also why I respect the swinging couples, whether married or not. It must take alot of communication and trust. The basis of any relationship | |||
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"My fella just said with some of my thoughts I should be locked up! lol"Jheeze Louise... they'd bring back the death sentence if they knew my thoughts | |||
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? " Of course, it is different, only men are cheaters, ladies are not cheaters, they are sexy and beautiful. | |||
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"My fella just said with some of my thoughts I should be locked up! lol
Jheeze Louise... they'd bring back the death sentence if they knew my thoughts "Thoughts aren't against the law.... Yet | |||
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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth Both scum! Haha. No sexism here
Women tend not to moan in the forums about being judged for being married and playing away....
Men on the other hand are constantly in the forums looking forward sympathy.....
In the fora women tend to get support for cheating... "ah bless how can he push you to do that?" and men tend to get shot at "cheating is cheating you cheating scum bag".... It is the way... "But who gave the support ?   | |||
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"Cheating isn’t acceptable, it doesn’t matter which sex you are ! Just leave if you’re not happy ! " Again, I'm not justifying or making an excuse, but it's not always just that easy(children, finances, etc). When I was cheating, I would make all kind of justifications in my head and what it came down to was how I felt at the time which was selfish, but we live and we learn. In my experience there just seems to be a biased with how cheating is "judged" based on gender. | |||
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"Cheating isn’t acceptable, it doesn’t matter which sex you are ! Just leave if you’re not happy ! Again, I'm not justifying or making an excuse, but it's not always just that easy(children, finances, etc). When I was cheating, I would make all kind of justifications in my head and what it came down to was how I felt at the time which was selfish, but we live and we learn. In my experience there just seems to be a biased with how cheating is "judged" based on gender. " I’m not biased based on gender. But men then give me abuse for not wanting to meet them because they are cheating.... cheating women don’t message me because I’m not bi- then I get told I’m biased. I think looking at forums, men look for more justification than women. So if men are asking for feedback people are going to comment more. There’s never an excuse for it. Ever. Either gender xx | |||
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"I’m not biased based on gender. But men then give me abuse for not wanting to meet them because they are cheating.... cheating women don’t message me because I’m not bi- then I get told I’m biased. I think looking at forums, men look for more justification than women. So if men are asking for feedback people are going to comment more. There’s never an excuse for it. Ever. Either gender xx" I've never really seen Men seeking justifications for it tbh, I must have missed those threads. However I will definitely agree some/alot of Men do complain, moan and seek acceptance through the random topics that get posted. We are fragile creatures at times | |||
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"Cheating is wrong no matter the gender." Absolutely agree | |||
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"Cheating isn’t acceptable, it doesn’t matter which sex you are ! Just leave if you’re not happy ! Again, I'm not justifying or making an excuse, but it's not always just that easy(children, finances, etc). When I was cheating, I would make all kind of justifications in my head and what it came down to was how I felt at the time which was selfish, but we live and we learn. In my experience there just seems to be a biased with how cheating is "judged" based on gender. " If someone who wants to cheat is really concerned about finances children etc, then don't cheat. Simple really. | |||
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"I think there is a double standard here, which is unfair, both genders should be treated equally. I think more people will turn a blind eye to cheating females than men. I've hooked up with plenty of guys off Tinder where I've turned up wearing my rings and the majority fucked me without asking about my relationship situation or if I had permission (some did ask tbf). I'm guessing that if I were a guy meeting women while wearing a ring that more women would ask or be suspicious, or refuse xx" That’s women for you they’re quite hung up about all of that! need to get over it | |||
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"I think there is a double standard here, which is unfair, both genders should be treated equally. I think more people will turn a blind eye to cheating females than men. I've hooked up with plenty of guys off Tinder where I've turned up wearing my rings and the majority fucked me without asking about my relationship situation or if I had permission (some did ask tbf). I'm guessing that if I were a guy meeting women while wearing a ring that more women would ask or be suspicious, or refuse xx" I've always had a ring on my 'wedding' finger. No meet has ever asked if I'm attached (when I've met them on my single profile). | |||
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? No it isn't. But people's preferences change over time. I don't want the same things now that I did when I was 22. Who does? How can you expect a partner, who had the same wants and needs as you when you were 22 to have the same wants and needs 20 years later? And frankly if I was in a relationship, and I wasn't getting everything I needed to in the sex department, but all other aspects of my life was awesome... then I would cheat. And it doesn't bother me one iota about being judged on here or in real life. I only have one life and I will live it my way not anyone elses. And if by chance the person I cheat with is also a cheater that's their issue not mine, no gun would be held to their head saying that you will cheat with me or die
I was in a swinger's relationship for over 10 year's, free to do what ever we needed and yet he still cheated more than twice with people on here, such is life "If two people in a long term relationship aren’t getting what they want then the best thing is to communicate as without it how will they know there is a problem? I find it sad that people cheat in long term relationships. I’ve been cheated on and now will never trust another human being! It hurts people and us wrong. | |||
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? No it isn't. But people's preferences change over time. I don't want the same things now that I did when I was 22. Who does? How can you expect a partner, who had the same wants and needs as you when you were 22 to have the same wants and needs 20 years later? And frankly if I was in a relationship, and I wasn't getting everything I needed to in the sex department, but all other aspects of my life was awesome... then I would cheat. And it doesn't bother me one iota about being judged on here or in real life. I only have one life and I will live it my way not anyone elses. And if by chance the person I cheat with is also a cheater that's their issue not mine, no gun would be held to their head saying that you will cheat with me or die
I was in a swinger's relationship for over 10 year's, free to do what ever we needed and yet he still cheated more than twice with people on here, such is life
If two people in a long term relationship aren’t getting what they want then the best thing is to communicate as without it how will they know there is a problem? I find it sad that people cheat in long term relationships. I’ve been cheated on and now will never trust another human being! It hurts people and us wrong. "It does hurt but talking is easier said than done if it has got to the point where one part feels they can’t communicate with the other hence why affairs happen. In our relationship we talk about everything and anything as communication is vital to a strong long term relationship. | |||
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? " I doubt it its just men on here will literately shag anything that moves in reality attached, shingle, or what ever as long as there is a pulse. | |||
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"I do ponder sometimes that if the main stream press ran a story about Fab, and all those partners that had a inkling their partners may be cheating just deceided to log on and have a quick look at the site. How many profiles would disappear?" Most of the site lol ! | |||
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? I doubt it its just men on here will literately shag anything that moves in reality attached, shingle, or what ever as long as there is a pulse. "Oh but there's the irony...has it not occurred to all those who just can't resist to have a dig and point a finger at males.. (sometimes admittedly with some justification but we aren't allowed to generalise on here are we?) Who is it you think they are shagging? Oh that's right it'll be a woman. So what does that say for the women mr "I'll shag anything with a pulse" has just fucked? | |||
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? I doubt it its just men on here will literately shag anything that moves in reality attached, shingle, or what ever as long as there is a pulse. "Just shingle people getting their rocks off | |||
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? I doubt it its just men on here will literately shag anything that moves in reality attached, shingle, or what ever as long as there is a pulse.
Oh but there's the irony...has it not occurred to all those who just can't resist to have a dig and point a finger at males.. (sometimes admittedly with some justification but we aren't allowed to generalise on here are we?) Who is it you think they are shagging? Oh that's right it'll be a woman. So what does that say for the women mr "I'll shag anything with a pulse" has just fucked? "It says they are a less than desirable character but that’s only my opinion. Men who cheat, women who cheat, the ones they cheat with are all wrong. They wreck lives and will be found out. I know what I’m talking about. | |||
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"Is role-playing with your husband about cheating 0n him cheating still? Yes anything with the thought of cheating is cheating "Of course not , that’s crazy. | |||
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"Use this as a guide..... Woman cheating = taking control of her life Man cheating = the scum of the earth " Cheating is always wrong but on here this seems to be true but its more down to the fact men (not all) are happy to sleep with a woman who cheats because there happy get any action on here were as woman due to more choice can have highier morals than guys. Again just a personal opinion Cream | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends. "Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion | |||
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"If your not happy get out. Can't see the point of cheating it will always end up nasty when your caught." Sounds easy doesn't it. I assure you sometimes it's not as easy as that. | |||
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"If your not happy get out. Can't see the point of cheating it will always end up nasty when your caught. Sounds easy doesn't it. I assure you sometimes it's not as easy as that. " We agree totally that it isn't as easy as that. The simple answer then is don't cheat. Has anyone ever read of someone dying from not getting sex? We haven't. But we have heard of partners committing suicide, and children's lives being fucked up all because someone chose the easy option and cheated. | |||
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"If your not happy get out. Can't see the point of cheating it will always end up nasty when your caught. Sounds easy doesn't it. I assure you sometimes it's not as easy as that. We agree totally that it isn't as easy as that. The simple answer then is don't cheat. Has anyone ever read of someone dying from not getting sex? We haven't. But we have heard of partners committing suicide, and children's lives being fucked up all because someone chose the easy option and cheated." You may not have heard of it but it’s common - not do die because a penis and vagina don’t get together but because of a lack of intimacy which leads to sex. Happens all the time. Also, partners and children can get fucked up by a parent leaving so that option isn’t the golden ticket either | |||
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"If your not happy get out. Can't see the point of cheating it will always end up nasty when your caught. Sounds easy doesn't it. I assure you sometimes it's not as easy as that. We agree totally that it isn't as easy as that. The simple answer then is don't cheat. Has anyone ever read of someone dying from not getting sex? We haven't. But we have heard of partners committing suicide, and children's lives being fucked up all because someone chose the easy option and cheated. You may not have heard of it but it’s common - not do die because a penis and vagina don’t get together but because of a lack of intimacy which leads to sex. Happens all the time. Also, partners and children can get fucked up by a parent leaving so that option isn’t the golden ticket either" That is a cop out that cheats use. When the dust settles, children learn that honesty is the best policy, not living a lie. Partners are very angry and hurt at first, but again once the dust settles he or she get on with their lives, meets a new partner and gets the love, respect and dignity they deserve. The only person silence benefits is the cheat. | |||
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"If your not happy get out. Can't see the point of cheating it will always end up nasty when your caught. Sounds easy doesn't it. I assure you sometimes it's not as easy as that. We agree totally that it isn't as easy as that. The simple answer then is don't cheat. Has anyone ever read of someone dying from not getting sex? We haven't. But we have heard of partners committing suicide, and children's lives being fucked up all because someone chose the easy option and cheated. You may not have heard of it but it’s common - not do die because a penis and vagina don’t get together but because of a lack of intimacy which leads to sex. Happens all the time. Also, partners and children can get fucked up by a parent leaving so that option isn’t the golden ticket either That is a cop out that cheats use. When the dust settles, children learn that honesty is the best policy, not living a lie. Partners are very angry and hurt at first, but again once the dust settles he or she get on with their lives, meets a new partner and gets the love, respect and dignity they deserve. The only person silence benefits is the cheat. " Thank goodness you know all about everyone’s situation, that must be comforting to know you’re exactly right. You should definitely set up marriage guidance counselling sessions, you’d have everyone sorted in 15 minutes. Or... you’re seeing what’s in your experience but the experiences of others is different? | |||
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"If your not happy get out. Can't see the point of cheating it will always end up nasty when your caught. Sounds easy doesn't it. I assure you sometimes it's not as easy as that. We agree totally that it isn't as easy as that. The simple answer then is don't cheat. Has anyone ever read of someone dying from not getting sex? We haven't. But we have heard of partners committing suicide, and children's lives being fucked up all because someone chose the easy option and cheated. You may not have heard of it but it’s common - not do die because a penis and vagina don’t get together but because of a lack of intimacy which leads to sex. Happens all the time. Also, partners and children can get fucked up by a parent leaving so that option isn’t the golden ticket either That is a cop out that cheats use. When the dust settles, children learn that honesty is the best policy, not living a lie. Partners are very angry and hurt at first, but again once the dust settles he or she get on with their lives, meets a new partner and gets the love, respect and dignity they deserve. The only person silence benefits is the cheat. Thank goodness you know all about everyone’s situation, that must be comforting to know you’re exactly right. You should definitely set up marriage guidance counselling sessions, you’d have everyone sorted in 15 minutes. Or... you’re seeing what’s in your experience but the experiences of others is different?" Well done for exposing yourself and your views. | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion "My comment wasn't aimed at you. It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away" | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
"Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past. End of the day. Each to their own. It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever. You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes. Just different. | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different. "You are wrong. Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on. Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner? We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters. Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest. It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong. | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong."Sorry but that last sentence is contradictory. | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong."Wrong for you. Perhaps others feel differently. | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong.
Wrong for you. Perhaps others feel differently. "Disagree. They may choose to do it, but we all know cheating is wrong. Are you saying cheating is ok? How?? In every walk of life cheating is wrong. People get banned from sports for cheating. Get banned from work for cheating. | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong.
Wrong for you. Perhaps others feel differently.
Disagree.
They may choose to do it, but we all know cheating is wrong.
Are you saying cheating is ok? How??
In every walk of life cheating is wrong. People get banned from sports for cheating. Get banned from work for cheating.
"You're allowed to disagree. Nobody expects everyone to agree on everything. I'm saying I don't believe you're in a position to speak or judge others for everybody. | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong.
Wrong for you. Perhaps others feel differently.
Disagree.
They may choose to do it, but we all know cheating is wrong.
Are you saying cheating is ok? How??
In every walk of life cheating is wrong. People get banned from sports for cheating. Get banned from work for cheating.
You're allowed to disagree. Nobody expects everyone to agree on everything. I'm saying I don't believe you're in a position to speak or judge others for everybody. "It’s up to the individual if they wish to judge. Cheating is bad full stop. Anyone who has been cheated on will know it affects them for ever more. I’ll certainly not trust a man again. I’ll judge because I want to. | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong.
Wrong for you. Perhaps others feel differently.
Disagree.
They may choose to do it, but we all know cheating is wrong.
Are you saying cheating is ok? How??
In every walk of life cheating is wrong. People get banned from sports for cheating. Get banned from work for cheating.
You're allowed to disagree. Nobody expects everyone to agree on everything. I'm saying I don't believe you're in a position to speak or judge others for everybody. "You don't believe? So you don't believe cheating is wrong?? Curious. | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong.
Wrong for you. Perhaps others feel differently.
Disagree.
They may choose to do it, but we all know cheating is wrong.
Are you saying cheating is ok? How??
In every walk of life cheating is wrong. People get banned from sports for cheating. Get banned from work for cheating.
"Right and wrong aren't facts. They are subjective. A lot of people will agree with you that cheating is wrong. That doesn't make it a fact it makes it a popular view | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong.
Wrong for you. Perhaps others feel differently.
Disagree.
They may choose to do it, but we all know cheating is wrong.
Are you saying cheating is ok? How??
In every walk of life cheating is wrong. People get banned from sports for cheating. Get banned from work for cheating.
Right and wrong aren't facts. They are subjective. A lot of people will agree with you that cheating is wrong. That doesn't make it a fact it makes it a popular view"So speaking subjectively, you think cheating is ok? | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong.
Wrong for you. Perhaps others feel differently.
Disagree.
They may choose to do it, but we all know cheating is wrong.
Are you saying cheating is ok? How??
In every walk of life cheating is wrong. People get banned from sports for cheating. Get banned from work for cheating.
Right and wrong aren't facts. They are subjective. A lot of people will agree with you that cheating is wrong. That doesn't make it a fact it makes it a popular view
So speaking subjectively, you think cheating is ok?
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong.
Wrong for you. Perhaps others feel differently.
Disagree.
They may choose to do it, but we all know cheating is wrong.
Are you saying cheating is ok? How??
In every walk of life cheating is wrong. People get banned from sports for cheating. Get banned from work for cheating.
Right and wrong aren't facts. They are subjective. A lot of people will agree with you that cheating is wrong. That doesn't make it a fact it makes it a popular view
So speaking subjectively, you think cheating is ok?
Cheating is not ok in my opinion. However its not my place to look down my nose or judge those that do.
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong.
Wrong for you. Perhaps others feel differently.
Disagree.
They may choose to do it, but we all know cheating is wrong.
Are you saying cheating is ok? How??
In every walk of life cheating is wrong. People get banned from sports for cheating. Get banned from work for cheating.
Right and wrong aren't facts. They are subjective. A lot of people will agree with you that cheating is wrong. That doesn't make it a fact it makes it a popular view
So speaking subjectively, you think cheating is ok?
Cheating is not ok in my opinion. However its not my place to look down my nose or judge those that do.
Well they come on the threads and justify why cheating is ok and usually they blame their partner. They should get out of the relationship if they are not happy. "Do you think perhaps they are permitted to work at their relationships instead of abandoning them in some cases? In my opinion all relationships are unique. Some may be appropriate to come to an end. Some may be better for working at them. Because some people are able to find forgiveness. | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong.
Wrong for you. Perhaps others feel differently.
Disagree.
They may choose to do it, but we all know cheating is wrong.
Are you saying cheating is ok? How??
In every walk of life cheating is wrong. People get banned from sports for cheating. Get banned from work for cheating.
Right and wrong aren't facts. They are subjective. A lot of people will agree with you that cheating is wrong. That doesn't make it a fact it makes it a popular view
So speaking subjectively, you think cheating is ok?
Cheating is not ok in my opinion. However its not my place to look down my nose or judge those that do.
Well they come on the threads and justify why cheating is ok and usually they blame their partner. They should get out of the relationship if they are not happy.
Do you think perhaps they are permitted to work at their relationships instead of abandoning them in some cases? In my opinion all relationships are unique. Some may be appropriate to come to an end. Some may be better for working at them. Because some people are able to find forgiveness. "Of course they should work at it. But when did working at a relationship involve cheating with someone else?? | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong.
Wrong for you. Perhaps others feel differently.
Disagree.
They may choose to do it, but we all know cheating is wrong.
Are you saying cheating is ok? How??
In every walk of life cheating is wrong. People get banned from sports for cheating. Get banned from work for cheating.
Right and wrong aren't facts. They are subjective. A lot of people will agree with you that cheating is wrong. That doesn't make it a fact it makes it a popular view
So speaking subjectively, you think cheating is ok?
Cheating is not ok in my opinion. However its not my place to look down my nose or judge those that do.
Well they come on the threads and justify why cheating is ok and usually they blame their partner. They should get out of the relationship if they are not happy.
Do you think perhaps they are permitted to work at their relationships instead of abandoning them in some cases? In my opinion all relationships are unique. Some may be appropriate to come to an end. Some may be better for working at them. Because some people are able to find forgiveness.
Of course they should work at it.
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? " It’s not less frowned upon, it’s just in general men seem to be able to separate sex from emotion more than women can, and / or they think more with their dick - take your choice. | |||
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? It’s not less frowned upon, it’s just in general men seem to be able to separate sex from emotion more than women can, and / or they think more with their dick - take your choice. " Who do men cheat with? | |||
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"Is it less frowned upon when it's a Woman who is cheating? It’s not less frowned upon, it’s just in general men seem to be able to separate sex from emotion more than women can, and / or they think more with their dick - take your choice. Who do men cheat with? " Not everyone who is cheating are upfront about it. I believe men on sites like this are less likely to be honest about it than women are due to the supply and demand factor - single men are not on demand the same way women are on here, hence the non disclosure. | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong.
Wrong for you. Perhaps others feel differently.
Disagree.
They may choose to do it, but we all know cheating is wrong.
Are you saying cheating is ok? How??
In every walk of life cheating is wrong. People get banned from sports for cheating. Get banned from work for cheating.
Right and wrong aren't facts. They are subjective. A lot of people will agree with you that cheating is wrong. That doesn't make it a fact it makes it a popular view
So speaking subjectively, you think cheating is ok?
Cheating is not ok in my opinion. However its not my place to look down my nose or judge those that do.
Well they come on the threads and justify why cheating is ok and usually they blame their partner. They should get out of the relationship if they are not happy. "We have a regular lady who cheats but is not unhappy ........ Just because someone needs a little extra doesn't make them necessarily unhappy? | |||
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"Ahh here we go, men being dicks. I don't know anyone who has ever said that a woman cheating is taking control of her life. It's disgusting regardless of the gender. "
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"Got to laugh at the irony of a discussion about cheating on a swingers site. Our thoughts are this “what’s it got to do with anyone else when someone makes a decision that is going to define their life, all different circumstances can lead someone to do something that they wouldn’t normally do so who are we to judge”. Driving at 80mph is illegal but people do it, it’s accepted as the norm but if they caused a huge crash we would all judge even though most of us have done the same things ourselves. People in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones " Cheating isn’t swinging and vice versa. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. " So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! | |||
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"But who defines what? Are you the cheating police? It’s the individuals choice and has nothing to do with you. " Swinging is all about trust, well for us it is and cheating is a complete breakdown of that. | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong.
Wrong for you. Perhaps others feel differently.
Disagree.
They may choose to do it, but we all know cheating is wrong.
Are you saying cheating is ok? How??
In every walk of life cheating is wrong. People get banned from sports for cheating. Get banned from work for cheating.
Right and wrong aren't facts. They are subjective. A lot of people will agree with you that cheating is wrong. That doesn't make it a fact it makes it a popular view
So speaking subjectively, you think cheating is ok?
Cheating is not ok in my opinion. However its not my place to look down my nose or judge those that do.
Well they come on the threads and justify why cheating is ok and usually they blame their partner. They should get out of the relationship if they are not happy.
We have a regular lady who cheats but is not unhappy ........
Just because someone needs a little extra doesn't make them necessarily unhappy?"Nice. Would her husband be just as happy with it? Does he get any choice? ? If so great. Everyone is happy. If not, well. .. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! " You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. " I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. " Here it is in a nutshell. Simple but accurate. However there are so many people on places like this who don't live by it. Sad isn't it?? | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. " That's an entirely different set of words and sentiment to "I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest" | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. That's an entirely different set of words and sentiment to "I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest" " It’s an alternative connect and how I have lived my life. However yes I do hope she gets found out as then she will know the consequences of such actions. Please stop repeating my words on here, it’s coming across as bullying. I’m entitled to my opinion as are you. Don’t try to argue with me on the forums. Now go and enjoy the rest of your day. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! " ——— Stayed out of this up to now but that statement is beyond the pale. What on earth is wrong with you wanting a child’s world broken apart like that? How about an alternative scenario where forgiveness and reconciliation play a part? Where the child is none the wiser, and the couple work through their issues and come out stronger? Listen, everyone gets from your many posts on the subject that you are not a fan of cheating. Most people on this thread, including us, are not either. But many people take a nuanced view. Not everyone and not every situation is the same. It is impossible take a simplistic one size fits all view on what is a complex subject. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! ——— Stayed out of this up to now but that statement is beyond the pale. What on earth is wrong with you wanting a child’s world broken apart like that? How about an alternative scenario where forgiveness and reconciliation play a part? Where the child is none the wiser, and the couple work through their issues and come out stronger? Listen, everyone gets from your many posts on the subject that you are not a fan of cheating. Most people on this thread, including us, are not either. But many people take a nuanced view. Not everyone and not every situation is the same. It is impossible take a simplistic one size fits all view on what is a complex subject. " Thank you for your input. I make no bones of the fact I don’t agree with cheating. I’m allowed my opinion. I said I hope she gets found out as she has decided to take that route sneaking about behind husband back and being dishonest and maybe my words were not clear about the kid, I would not want any kid to go through heartache but probably they will when it comes out and cheaters get found out eventually no matter how discrete they are. I don’t apologise for having an opinion but I am sorry if my words regarding the kid were taken out of context. Cheating is wrong no matter what is going on in the relationship. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. That's an entirely different set of words and sentiment to "I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest" It’s an alternative connect and how I have lived my life. However yes I do hope she gets found out as then she will know the consequences of such actions. Please stop repeating my words on here, it’s coming across as bullying. I’m entitled to my opinion as are you. Don’t try to argue with me on the forums. Now go and enjoy the rest of your day." I'm sorry you feel it is bullying. It really isn't. Ts a public forum and you just made a statement and I am exploring it as is the purpose of the fora. I am surprised that you would wish a child's family to be broken up as most mothers I have met would not wish that on a child. That is all I'm positing in response to your post. | |||
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"Shouldn't be frowned upon at all. That's virtue signalling and incredibly arrogant. Accept it or POLITELY decline to meet if it offends.
Not really virtue signalling really it’s just asking for people’s opinion
My comment wasn't aimed at you.
It was aimed at the self righteous who like to rant at those who "play away"
Anyone calling a married man or woman a cheat has clearly suffered from being cheated on in the past.
End of the day. Each to their own.
It's arrogant and self righteous for them to judge someone. If they don't like it. Its their perogative to say "no thanks. I don't like cheaters" it's NOT their right to judge you whatsoever.
You're not a leper for doing something someone else dislikes.
Just different.
You are wrong.
Not everyone who dislikes a cheat has been cheated on.
Are you saying it is ok in any walk of life that one half of a partnership makes a decision without a blatant disregard for the other partner?
We all know it isn't. Even the cheaters.
Anyone can do what they want, but even they know that what they are doing is wrong, selfish, disrespectful and dishonest.
It isn't being judgemental, it is wrong.
Wrong for you. Perhaps others feel differently.
Disagree.
They may choose to do it, but we all know cheating is wrong.
Are you saying cheating is ok? How??
In every walk of life cheating is wrong. People get banned from sports for cheating. Get banned from work for cheating.
Right and wrong aren't facts. They are subjective. A lot of people will agree with you that cheating is wrong. That doesn't make it a fact it makes it a popular view
So speaking subjectively, you think cheating is ok?
Cheating is not ok in my opinion. However its not my place to look down my nose or judge those that do.
Well they come on the threads and justify why cheating is ok and usually they blame their partner. They should get out of the relationship if they are not happy.
We have a regular lady who cheats but is not unhappy ........
Just because someone needs a little extra doesn't make them necessarily unhappy?
Nice.
Would her husband be just as happy with it?
Does he get any choice? ?
If so great. Everyone is happy.
If not, well. .."Unfortunately life is simply not as black and white as that ... Her hubby has multiple affairs so who is anyone else to judge others? Especially judging couples through whatever reason are happy in their own was despite both cheating | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. That's an entirely different set of words and sentiment to "I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest" It’s an alternative connect and how I have lived my life. However yes I do hope she gets found out as then she will know the consequences of such actions. Please stop repeating my words on here, it’s coming across as bullying. I’m entitled to my opinion as are you. Don’t try to argue with me on the forums. Now go and enjoy the rest of your day. I'm sorry you feel it is bullying. It really isn't. Ts a public forum and you just made a statement and I am exploring it as is the purpose of the fora. I am surprised that you would wish a child's family to be broken up as most mothers I have met would not wish that on a child. That is all I'm positing in response to your post. " You were repeating everything I had said. When a man or woman cheats on their partner they need to think long and hard before they do it as usually a family will be broken up and not just their family. These people who have kids who cheat really have disrespect for their situation and it’s not teaching honesty to any kid as it affects them in the long run. As I say we are all entitled to our opinions on this subject but at the end of the day cheating is wrong. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. That's an entirely different set of words and sentiment to "I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest" It’s an alternative connect and how I have lived my life. However yes I do hope she gets found out as then she will know the consequences of such actions. Please stop repeating my words on here, it’s coming across as bullying. I’m entitled to my opinion as are you. Don’t try to argue with me on the forums. Now go and enjoy the rest of your day. I'm sorry you feel it is bullying. It really isn't. Ts a public forum and you just made a statement and I am exploring it as is the purpose of the fora. I am surprised that you would wish a child's family to be broken up as most mothers I have met would not wish that on a child. That is all I'm positing in response to your post. You were repeating everything I had said. When a man or woman cheats on their partner they need to think long and hard before they do it as usually a family will be broken up and not just their family. These people who have kids who cheat really have disrespect for their situation and it’s not teaching honesty to any kid as it affects them in the long run. As I say we are all entitled to our opinions on this subject but at the end of the day cheating is wrong. " Others simply should not judge it's never clear cut. It could be argued that swinging couples in certain situations also affect their children . My friends children were bullied at school and leading to self harming when their swinging relationship became known throughout the school. Their is dangers and consequences in many things . Let's not judge but there ate potential out times in all our sex lives | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. That's an entirely different set of words and sentiment to "I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest" It’s an alternative connect and how I have lived my life. However yes I do hope she gets found out as then she will know the consequences of such actions. Please stop repeating my words on here, it’s coming across as bullying. I’m entitled to my opinion as are you. Don’t try to argue with me on the forums. Now go and enjoy the rest of your day. I'm sorry you feel it is bullying. It really isn't. Ts a public forum and you just made a statement and I am exploring it as is the purpose of the fora. I am surprised that you would wish a child's family to be broken up as most mothers I have met would not wish that on a child. That is all I'm positing in response to your post. You were repeating everything I had said. When a man or woman cheats on their partner they need to think long and hard before they do it as usually a family will be broken up and not just their family. These people who have kids who cheat really have disrespect for their situation and it’s not teaching honesty to any kid as it affects them in the long run. As I say we are all entitled to our opinions on this subject but at the end of the day cheating is wrong. Others simply should not judge it's never clear cut. It could be argued that swinging couples in certain situations also affect their children . My friends children were bullied at school and leading to self harming when their swinging relationship became known throughout the school. Their is dangers and consequences in many things . Let's not judge but there ate potential out times in all our sex lives " A different discussion and may be worth opening a new thread. However saying that it takes nothing away from how wrong cheating is. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. That's an entirely different set of words and sentiment to "I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest" It’s an alternative connect and how I have lived my life. However yes I do hope she gets found out as then she will know the consequences of such actions. Please stop repeating my words on here, it’s coming across as bullying. I’m entitled to my opinion as are you. Don’t try to argue with me on the forums. Now go and enjoy the rest of your day. I'm sorry you feel it is bullying. It really isn't. Ts a public forum and you just made a statement and I am exploring it as is the purpose of the fora. I am surprised that you would wish a child's family to be broken up as most mothers I have met would not wish that on a child. That is all I'm positing in response to your post. You were repeating everything I had said. When a man or woman cheats on their partner they need to think long and hard before they do it as usually a family will be broken up and not just their family. These people who have kids who cheat really have disrespect for their situation and it’s not teaching honesty to any kid as it affects them in the long run. As I say we are all entitled to our opinions on this subject but at the end of the day cheating is wrong. Others simply should not judge it's never clear cut. It could be argued that swinging couples in certain situations also affect their children . My friends children were bullied at school and leading to self harming when their swinging relationship became known throughout the school. Their is dangers and consequences in many things . Let's not judge but there ate potential out times in all our sex lives " Completely different situation but your friends took a risk swinging with children in school. As I said earlier ‘if you are going to do something, think about the consequences and then decide if you can handle the consequences then do it, if not stay away from it’. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. That's an entirely different set of words and sentiment to "I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest" It’s an alternative connect and how I have lived my life. However yes I do hope she gets found out as then she will know the consequences of such actions. Please stop repeating my words on here, it’s coming across as bullying. I’m entitled to my opinion as are you. Don’t try to argue with me on the forums. Now go and enjoy the rest of your day. I'm sorry you feel it is bullying. It really isn't. Ts a public forum and you just made a statement and I am exploring it as is the purpose of the fora. I am surprised that you would wish a child's family to be broken up as most mothers I have met would not wish that on a child. That is all I'm positing in response to your post. You were repeating everything I had said. When a man or woman cheats on their partner they need to think long and hard before they do it as usually a family will be broken up and not just their family. These people who have kids who cheat really have disrespect for their situation and it’s not teaching honesty to any kid as it affects them in the long run. As I say we are all entitled to our opinions on this subject but at the end of the day cheating is wrong. Others simply should not judge it's never clear cut. It could be argued that swinging couples in certain situations also affect their children . My friends children were bullied at school and leading to self harming when their swinging relationship became known throughout the school. Their is dangers and consequences in many things . Let's not judge but there ate potential out times in all our sex lives A different discussion and may be worth opening a new thread. However saying that it takes nothing away from how wrong cheating is. " Thats a very simplistic way to look at things . Different sutsituations lead to a different point of view , it's not always wrong. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. That's an entirely different set of words and sentiment to "I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest" It’s an alternative connect and how I have lived my life. However yes I do hope she gets found out as then she will know the consequences of such actions. Please stop repeating my words on here, it’s coming across as bullying. I’m entitled to my opinion as are you. Don’t try to argue with me on the forums. Now go and enjoy the rest of your day. I'm sorry you feel it is bullying. It really isn't. Ts a public forum and you just made a statement and I am exploring it as is the purpose of the fora. I am surprised that you would wish a child's family to be broken up as most mothers I have met would not wish that on a child. That is all I'm positing in response to your post. You were repeating everything I had said. When a man or woman cheats on their partner they need to think long and hard before they do it as usually a family will be broken up and not just their family. These people who have kids who cheat really have disrespect for their situation and it’s not teaching honesty to any kid as it affects them in the long run. As I say we are all entitled to our opinions on this subject but at the end of the day cheating is wrong. Others simply should not judge it's never clear cut. It could be argued that swinging couples in certain situations also affect their children . My friends children were bullied at school and leading to self harming when their swinging relationship became known throughout the school. Their is dangers and consequences in many things . Let's not judge but there ate potential out times in all our sex lives A different discussion and may be worth opening a new thread. However saying that it takes nothing away from how wrong cheating is. " You could equally claim swinging in wrong !! It depends on who's eyes you are looking through and it's more wrong to judge | |||
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"Exactly! it's very easy to pass comment on others , we are all swinging and it's best not to look too deeply into who you meet otherwise there would be no fun at all ......" It’s no fun if a cheated husband comes knocking on your door..... | |||
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"Exactly! it's very easy to pass comment on others , we are all swinging and it's best not to look too deeply into who you meet otherwise there would be no fun at all ...... It’s no fun if a cheated husband comes knocking on your door..... "That simply wouldn't happen. I wont elaborate but that is not an issue | |||
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"Exactly! it's very easy to pass comment on others , we are all swinging and it's best not to look too deeply into who you meet otherwise there would be no fun at all ...... It’s no fun if a cheated husband comes knocking on your door.....
That simply wouldn't happen. I wont elaborate but that is not an issue "Believe me there are ways of catching out cheaters. It’s no fun got all concerned. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. That's an entirely different set of words and sentiment to "I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest" It’s an alternative connect and how I have lived my life. However yes I do hope she gets found out as then she will know the consequences of such actions. Please stop repeating my words on here, it’s coming across as bullying. I’m entitled to my opinion as are you. Don’t try to argue with me on the forums. Now go and enjoy the rest of your day. I'm sorry you feel it is bullying. It really isn't. Ts a public forum and you just made a statement and I am exploring it as is the purpose of the fora. I am surprised that you would wish a child's family to be broken up as most mothers I have met would not wish that on a child. That is all I'm positing in response to your post. You were repeating everything I had said. When a man or woman cheats on their partner they need to think long and hard before they do it as usually a family will be broken up and not just their family. These people who have kids who cheat really have disrespect for their situation and it’s not teaching honesty to any kid as it affects them in the long run. As I say we are all entitled to our opinions on this subject but at the end of the day cheating is wrong. Others simply should not judge it's never clear cut. It could be argued that swinging couples in certain situations also affect their children . My friends children were bullied at school and leading to self harming when their swinging relationship became known throughout the school. Their is dangers and consequences in many things . Let's not judge but there ate potential out times in all our sex lives A different discussion and may be worth opening a new thread. However saying that it takes nothing away from how wrong cheating is. You could equally claim swinging in wrong !! It depends on who's eyes you are looking through and it's more wrong to judge "It depends on whether you are lying to your partner or not. We have been in this lifestyle 10 years and regularly attend clubs. We wonder just how many couples have had their children persecuted at school due to what their parents do privately. We haven't met any. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. That's an entirely different set of words and sentiment to "I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest" It’s an alternative connect and how I have lived my life. However yes I do hope she gets found out as then she will know the consequences of such actions. Please stop repeating my words on here, it’s coming across as bullying. I’m entitled to my opinion as are you. Don’t try to argue with me on the forums. Now go and enjoy the rest of your day. I'm sorry you feel it is bullying. It really isn't. Ts a public forum and you just made a statement and I am exploring it as is the purpose of the fora. I am surprised that you would wish a child's family to be broken up as most mothers I have met would not wish that on a child. That is all I'm positing in response to your post. You were repeating everything I had said. When a man or woman cheats on their partner they need to think long and hard before they do it as usually a family will be broken up and not just their family. These people who have kids who cheat really have disrespect for their situation and it’s not teaching honesty to any kid as it affects them in the long run. As I say we are all entitled to our opinions on this subject but at the end of the day cheating is wrong. Others simply should not judge it's never clear cut. It could be argued that swinging couples in certain situations also affect their children . My friends children were bullied at school and leading to self harming when their swinging relationship became known throughout the school. Their is dangers and consequences in many things . Let's not judge but there ate potential out times in all our sex lives A different discussion and may be worth opening a new thread. However saying that it takes nothing away from how wrong cheating is. You could equally claim swinging in wrong !! It depends on who's eyes you are looking through and it's more wrong to judge
It depends on whether you are lying to your partner or not.
We have been in this lifestyle 10 years and regularly attend clubs.
We wonder just how many couples have had their children persecuted at school due to what their parents do privately.
We haven't met any."Equally it's not really the sort of information you share with strangers whilst in the process of doing the very thing (swinging) that your kids have been given a hard time for you doing. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. That's an entirely different set of words and sentiment to "I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest" It’s an alternative connect and how I have lived my life. However yes I do hope she gets found out as then she will know the consequences of such actions. Please stop repeating my words on here, it’s coming across as bullying. I’m entitled to my opinion as are you. Don’t try to argue with me on the forums. Now go and enjoy the rest of your day. I'm sorry you feel it is bullying. It really isn't. Ts a public forum and you just made a statement and I am exploring it as is the purpose of the fora. I am surprised that you would wish a child's family to be broken up as most mothers I have met would not wish that on a child. That is all I'm positing in response to your post. You were repeating everything I had said. When a man or woman cheats on their partner they need to think long and hard before they do it as usually a family will be broken up and not just their family. These people who have kids who cheat really have disrespect for their situation and it’s not teaching honesty to any kid as it affects them in the long run. As I say we are all entitled to our opinions on this subject but at the end of the day cheating is wrong. Others simply should not judge it's never clear cut. It could be argued that swinging couples in certain situations also affect their children . My friends children were bullied at school and leading to self harming when their swinging relationship became known throughout the school. Their is dangers and consequences in many things . Let's not judge but there ate potential out times in all our sex lives A different discussion and may be worth opening a new thread. However saying that it takes nothing away from how wrong cheating is. You could equally claim swinging in wrong !! It depends on who's eyes you are looking through and it's more wrong to judge
It depends on whether you are lying to your partner or not.
We have been in this lifestyle 10 years and regularly attend clubs.
We wonder just how many couples have had their children persecuted at school due to what their parents do privately.
We haven't met any.
Equally it's not really the sort of information you share with strangers whilst in the process of doing the very thing (swinging) that your kids have been given a hard time for you doing. "Absolutely terrible and not really the nature of swinging. However if I had children in school I would think twice about swinging in case this happened. Easy to say I know but part of being a parent is protecting your children and there are some vile people about. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. That's an entirely different set of words and sentiment to "I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest" It’s an alternative connect and how I have lived my life. However yes I do hope she gets found out as then she will know the consequences of such actions. Please stop repeating my words on here, it’s coming across as bullying. I’m entitled to my opinion as are you. Don’t try to argue with me on the forums. Now go and enjoy the rest of your day. I'm sorry you feel it is bullying. It really isn't. Ts a public forum and you just made a statement and I am exploring it as is the purpose of the fora. I am surprised that you would wish a child's family to be broken up as most mothers I have met would not wish that on a child. That is all I'm positing in response to your post. You were repeating everything I had said. When a man or woman cheats on their partner they need to think long and hard before they do it as usually a family will be broken up and not just their family. These people who have kids who cheat really have disrespect for their situation and it’s not teaching honesty to any kid as it affects them in the long run. As I say we are all entitled to our opinions on this subject but at the end of the day cheating is wrong. Others simply should not judge it's never clear cut. It could be argued that swinging couples in certain situations also affect their children . My friends children were bullied at school and leading to self harming when their swinging relationship became known throughout the school. Their is dangers and consequences in many things . Let's not judge but there ate potential out times in all our sex lives A different discussion and may be worth opening a new thread. However saying that it takes nothing away from how wrong cheating is. You could equally claim swinging in wrong !! It depends on who's eyes you are looking through and it's more wrong to judge
It depends on whether you are lying to your partner or not.
We have been in this lifestyle 10 years and regularly attend clubs.
We wonder just how many couples have had their children persecuted at school due to what their parents do privately.
We haven't met any.
Equally it's not really the sort of information you share with strangers whilst in the process of doing the very thing (swinging) that your kids have been given a hard time for you doing. "Still don't get what this has to do with cheating partners. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. That's an entirely different set of words and sentiment to "I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest" It’s an alternative connect and how I have lived my life. However yes I do hope she gets found out as then she will know the consequences of such actions. Please stop repeating my words on here, it’s coming across as bullying. I’m entitled to my opinion as are you. Don’t try to argue with me on the forums. Now go and enjoy the rest of your day. I'm sorry you feel it is bullying. It really isn't. Ts a public forum and you just made a statement and I am exploring it as is the purpose of the fora. I am surprised that you would wish a child's family to be broken up as most mothers I have met would not wish that on a child. That is all I'm positing in response to your post. You were repeating everything I had said. When a man or woman cheats on their partner they need to think long and hard before they do it as usually a family will be broken up and not just their family. These people who have kids who cheat really have disrespect for their situation and it’s not teaching honesty to any kid as it affects them in the long run. As I say we are all entitled to our opinions on this subject but at the end of the day cheating is wrong. Others simply should not judge it's never clear cut. It could be argued that swinging couples in certain situations also affect their children . My friends children were bullied at school and leading to self harming when their swinging relationship became known throughout the school. Their is dangers and consequences in many things . Let's not judge but there ate potential out times in all our sex lives A different discussion and may be worth opening a new thread. However saying that it takes nothing away from how wrong cheating is. You could equally claim swinging in wrong !! It depends on who's eyes you are looking through and it's more wrong to judge
It depends on whether you are lying to your partner or not.
We have been in this lifestyle 10 years and regularly attend clubs.
We wonder just how many couples have had their children persecuted at school due to what their parents do privately.
We haven't met any.
Equally it's not really the sort of information you share with strangers whilst in the process of doing the very thing (swinging) that your kids have been given a hard time for you doing.
Absolutely terrible and not really the nature of swinging. However if I had children in school I would think twice about swinging in case this happened. Easy to say I know but part of being a parent is protecting your children and there are some vile people about. "It is easy to keep your private life private. Lots of parents on here manage to do it just fine. | |||
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"It’s an interesting question this one, obviously cheating is a terrible thing. But so is being unhappy or trapped in a relationship. We certainly wouldn’t condone trying to break people up, or encouraging somebody to cheat. However if somebody as a grown adult is on here and has decided to go down that route, then we wouldn’t judge. We wouldn’t do it ourselves, but we wouldn’t judge. Previously we were absolutely against it, then we met a lady, got chatting and got on amazingly. We had a meet with her and before anything happened she explained she was married, her husband was never around and didn’t pay her attention, she had a kid so didn’t want to mess with that. So this was her bit of fun on the side while keeping her house whole. The way she explained it gave a great insight, and maybe changed our view a bit We won’t get caught in drama, we won’t lie and any decisions about what anybody does sexually are absolutely with them. But if somebody wants to cheat that’s their decision. So you’re obviously not bothered about her husband and the hurt you could cause to him because you are providing an opportunity for the lady to cheat. She will get found out and you will have drama then when he comes knocking on your door! It never ends happy when the cheaters are discovered. I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest and the access rights, divorce etc will be dragged through the courts. Nice eh! NOT! You hope she gets caught out and breaks up the family and the child gets dragged into it....? You're lovely. I’ve always said this and guided my niece and nephew with this advice. ‘If you are going to do something bad then expect the consequences, that way you think your actions through and if you’re happy with the consequences then do it, if not then stay away from it’. That's an entirely different set of words and sentiment to "I hope she gets found out and her world is disrupted and the kid will be affected because his mum is not honest" It’s an alternative connect and how I have lived my life. However yes I do hope she gets found out as then she will know the consequences of such actions. Please stop repeating my words on here, it’s coming across as bullying. I’m entitled to my opinion as are you. Don’t try to argue with me on the forums. Now go and enjoy the rest of your day. I'm sorry you feel it is bullying. It really isn't. Ts a public forum and you just made a statement and I am exploring it as is the purpose of the fora. I am surprised that you would wish a child's family to be broken up as most mothers I have met would not wish that on a child. That is all I'm positing in response to your post. You were repeating everything I had said. When a man or woman cheats on their partner they need to think long and hard before they do it as usually a family will be broken up and not just their family. These people who have kids who cheat really have disrespect for their situation and it’s not teaching honesty to any kid as it affects them in the long run. As I say we are all entitled to our opinions on this subject but at the end of the day cheating is wrong. Others simply should not judge it's never clear cut. It could be argued that swinging couples in certain situations also affect their children . My friends children were bullied at school and leading to self harming when their swinging relationship became known throughout the school. Their is dangers and consequences in many things . Let's not judge but there ate potential out times in all our sex lives A different discussion and may be worth opening a new thread. However saying that it takes nothing away from how wrong cheating is. You could equally claim swinging in wrong !! It depends on who's eyes you are looking through and it's more wrong to judge
It depends on whether you are lying to your partner or not.
We have been in this lifestyle 10 years and regularly attend clubs.
We wonder just how many couples have had their children persecuted at school due to what their parents do privately.
We haven't met any.
Equally it's not really the sort of information you share with strangers whilst in the process of doing the very thing (swinging) that your kids have been given a hard time for you doing.
Absolutely terrible and not really the nature of swinging. However if I had children in school I would think twice about swinging in case this happened. Easy to say I know but part of being a parent is protecting your children and there are some vile people about.
It is easy to keep your private life private.
Lots of parents on here manage to do it just fine."I assumed swingers keep their activities private. Let’s face it how would kids especially in junior school know what swinging is, or indeed young teens. So how is it getting gossiped about in schools? I’m baffled. | |||
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