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Politely saying no - one for the guys
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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..So, im sure this has been done before BUT, I've not seen it so, soz.
I and im sure so many others have no issue saying a polite "no thank you" or "I'm not attracted to you", no matter how long you've been chatting - right?
As of late, I've found its not the case for (some) Men. I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. So I ask why and it turns out they're not into me - now or never have been.
I genuinely have 0 issues with it. But WHY ignore me, when we're quite clearly getting on well? Especially when men are the first to moan about being ignored themselves 
Has this happened to you? Water off a ducks back? Annoying? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"..So, im sure this has been done before BUT, I've not seen it so, soz.
I and im sure so many others have no issue saying a polite "no thank you" or "I'm not attracted to you", no matter how long you've been chatting - right?
As of late, I've found its not the case for (some) Men. I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. So I ask why and it turns out they're not into me - now or never have been.
I genuinely have 0 issues with it. But WHY ignore me, when we're quite clearly getting on well? Especially when men are the first to moan about being ignored themselves
Has this happened to you? Water off a ducks back? Annoying?"
Yep ive had this alot,i ask what the problem is and its cos im not meeting so whats the point in chatting and then on the other hand they're having a moan that no ones chatting with them....i give up.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"..So, im sure this has been done before BUT, I've not seen it so, soz.
I and im sure so many others have no issue saying a polite "no thank you" or "I'm not attracted to you", no matter how long you've been chatting - right?
As of late, I've found its not the case for (some) Men. I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. So I ask why and it turns out they're not into me - now or never have been.
I genuinely have 0 issues with it. But WHY ignore me, when we're quite clearly getting on well? Especially when men are the first to moan about being ignored themselves
Has this happened to you? Water off a ducks back? Annoying?
Yep ive had this alot,i ask what the problem is and its cos im not meeting so whats the point in chatting and then on the other hand they're having a moan that no ones chatting with them....i give up. "
I don't get it. If you're having a good convo, what does it matter if you're attracted or not? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"These so called 'men' are idiots and your better off without them haha
Your gorgeous and deserve better."
Thank you! Thats sweet.
Tbh, whether I am or not, if we're having a good natter, do my looks matter? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"..So, im sure this has been done before BUT, I've not seen it so, soz.
I and im sure so many others have no issue saying a polite "no thank you" or "I'm not attracted to you", no matter how long you've been chatting - right?
As of late, I've found its not the case for (some) Men. I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. So I ask why and it turns out they're not into me - now or never have been.
I genuinely have 0 issues with it. But WHY ignore me, when we're quite clearly getting on well? Especially when men are the first to moan about being ignored themselves
Has this happened to you? Water off a ducks back? Annoying?"
Men don't deal very well with honestly saying stuff like that, so they ghost.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s like guys going to great lengths to arrange a meet and then not showing up .., nuts ..inexplicable
Definitely nuts.
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Often guys arrange a meet when they have a hard on.. then they have a wank, and get scared.. So they ghost |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. "
I dare say that this bit is your problem
Many men aren't here for nice conversations
They want the naughty stuff
They probably see you as 'boring' if you haven't sent a fanny pic by message two
By the time you've finished telling them what your favourite film is, they've messaged another ten women in the hope of a flash of fanny |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"These so called 'men' are idiots and your better off without them haha
Your gorgeous and deserve better."
No
She deserves better because she is a human being and has feelings
Not because she's gorgeous |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"..So, im sure this has been done before BUT, I've not seen it so, soz.
I and im sure so many others have no issue saying a polite "no thank you" or "I'm not attracted to you", no matter how long you've been chatting - right?
As of late, I've found its not the case for (some) Men. I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. So I ask why and it turns out they're not into me - now or never have been.
I genuinely have 0 issues with it. But WHY ignore me, when we're quite clearly getting on well? Especially when men are the first to moan about being ignored themselves
Has this happened to you? Water off a ducks back? Annoying?"
I've had it before, it's annoying but it's the online way so it seems, it's a very sad way to go about things but I just move on rather than even asking why |
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"..So, im sure this has been done before BUT, I've not seen it so, soz.
I and im sure so many others have no issue saying a polite "no thank you" or "I'm not attracted to you", no matter how long you've been chatting - right?
As of late, I've found its not the case for (some) Men. I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. So I ask why and it turns out they're not into me - now or never have been.
I genuinely have 0 issues with it. But WHY ignore me, when we're quite clearly getting on well? Especially when men are the first to moan about being ignored themselves
Has this happened to you? Water off a ducks back? Annoying?"
Some guys contact me or other Tgirls ‘as we are the next best thing’ on here. It’s ensuring you discover their motivations as early as possible, especially if they’ve put themselves down as straight on their profiles.
It’s not an issue for me, I’m still looking for the right one to spend time with, so it’s water of a ducks back for me |
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"These so called 'men' are idiots and your better off without them haha
Your gorgeous and deserve better.
No
She deserves better because she is a human being and has feelings
Not because she's gorgeous"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get this a lot at the minute and I feel like I’m being treated as a second choice, that they are just chatting to me but waiting for a better offer to come in.
Most of the time I laugh it off but i can find myself wondering whether it is true and that I’m not a first choice xx
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It’s like guys going to great lengths to arrange a meet and then not showing up .., nuts ..inexplicable
Definitely nuts.
Often guys arrange a meet when they have a hard on.. then they have a wank, and get scared.. So they ghost"
Oh god.
Tbh, not even talking about meeting. But this is just.. wow  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored.
I dare say that this bit is your problem
Many men aren't here for nice conversations
They want the naughty stuff
They probably see you as 'boring' if you haven't sent a fanny pic by message two
By the time you've finished telling them what your favourite film is, they've messaged another ten women in the hope of a flash of fanny "
I mean, it's not like I don't have provocative pics or vids. And when I not really any flirting I mean, it's not ott " I can't wait to suck your dick"
But I see your point |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s like guys going to great lengths to arrange a meet and then not showing up .., nuts ..inexplicable
Definitely nuts.
Often guys arrange a meet when they have a hard on.. then they have a wank, and get scared.. So they ghost"
My hubby tells me the exact same thing, that men plan in the short term when they’re horny x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"you seem to have very positive veri's.Perhaps the one's who stop chatting are the one's who get caught by their wifes and throw their laptops in the bin. "
Perhaps.
Thanks - I'm quote proud of my lovely veris - shows I can hold a convo
Oh wait.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored.
I dare say that this bit is your problem
Many men aren't here for nice conversations
They want the naughty stuff
They probably see you as 'boring' if you haven't sent a fanny pic by message two
By the time you've finished telling them what your favourite film is, they've messaged another ten women in the hope of a flash of fanny "
Sounds about right apart from the bit about it being the OP’s problem. People need to treat each other a bit more humanely and not like pieces of meat.
Imho could be power. Its always said said on here women have all the power, if blokes can claw a bit of that back then why wouldnt they?! |
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"..So, im sure this has been done before BUT, I've not seen it so, soz.
I and im sure so many others have no issue saying a polite "no thank you" or "I'm not attracted to you", no matter how long you've been chatting - right?
As of late, I've found its not the case for (some) Men. I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. So I ask why and it turns out they're not into me - now or never have been.
I genuinely have 0 issues with it. But WHY ignore me, when we're quite clearly getting on well? Especially when men are the first to moan about being ignored themselves
Has this happened to you? Water off a ducks back? Annoying?"
I’ll be completely honest I think for some people they start conversation expecting to get something in return. When the don’t think it’s going anywhere they give up and most don’t have respect for the other party.
I personally will talk to anyone as long as they show respect 
What I will say though is they are clearly mad for not wanting to talk to that pretty face  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I get this a lot at the minute and I feel like I’m being treated as a second choice, that they are just chatting to me but waiting for a better offer to come in.
Most of the time I laugh it off but i can find myself wondering whether it is true and that I’m not a first choice xx
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Completely know what you mean. Does make me question myself but only when they don't want to talk, period.
If we get get on well, do my looks matter? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored.
I dare say that this bit is your problem
Many men aren't here for nice conversations
They want the naughty stuff
They probably see you as 'boring' if you haven't sent a fanny pic by message two
By the time you've finished telling them what your favourite film is, they've messaged another ten women in the hope of a flash of fanny
Sounds about right apart from the bit about it being the OP’s problem. People need to treat each other a bit more humanely and not like pieces of meat.
Imho could be power. Its always said said on here women have all the power, if blokes can claw a bit of that back then why wouldnt they?! "
Thanks. Appreciate your input |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"..So, im sure this has been done before BUT, I've not seen it so, soz.
I and im sure so many others have no issue saying a polite "no thank you" or "I'm not attracted to you", no matter how long you've been chatting - right?
As of late, I've found its not the case for (some) Men. I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. So I ask why and it turns out they're not into me - now or never have been.
I genuinely have 0 issues with it. But WHY ignore me, when we're quite clearly getting on well? Especially when men are the first to moan about being ignored themselves
Has this happened to you? Water off a ducks back? Annoying?
I’ll be completely honest I think for some people they start conversation expecting to get something in return. When the don’t think it’s going anywhere they give up and most don’t have respect for the other party.
I personally will talk to anyone as long as they show respect
What I will say though is they are clearly mad for not wanting to talk to that pretty face "
Haha thanks
The point i was trying make is my looks are irrelevant  if we chat well, why do you need to be attracted to me to talk to me
But again. Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored.
I dare say that this bit is your problem
Many men aren't here for nice conversations
They want the naughty stuff
They probably see you as 'boring' if you haven't sent a fanny pic by message two
By the time you've finished telling them what your favourite film is, they've messaged another ten women in the hope of a flash of fanny
Sounds about right apart from the bit about it being the OP’s problem. People need to treat each other a bit more humanely and not like pieces of meat.
Imho could be power. Its always said said on here women have all the power, if blokes can claw a bit of that back then why wouldnt they?! "
OK, my wording could have been better, so for 'your problem' read 'the issue' |
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"..So, im sure this has been done before BUT, I've not seen it so, soz.
I and im sure so many others have no issue saying a polite "no thank you" or "I'm not attracted to you", no matter how long you've been chatting - right?
As of late, I've found its not the case for (some) Men. I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. So I ask why and it turns out they're not into me - now or never have been.
I genuinely have 0 issues with it. But WHY ignore me, when we're quite clearly getting on well? Especially when men are the first to moan about being ignored themselves
Has this happened to you? Water off a ducks back? Annoying?
I’ll be completely honest I think for some people they start conversation expecting to get something in return. When the don’t think it’s going anywhere they give up and most don’t have respect for the other party.
I personally will talk to anyone as long as they show respect
What I will say though is they are clearly mad for not wanting to talk to that pretty face
Haha thanks
The point i was trying make is my looks are irrelevant if we chat well, why do you need to be attracted to me to talk to me
But again. Thank you "
That’s what I was trying to say you don’t. But if the conversation got to the point they felt it was never going to benefit them then some people may give up.
Everyone’s different and some questions we will just never know the answer to |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've had it from the other side. Women I've talked to for months have cut me dead. No fall out, no arguments. Just won't speak anymore. No explanation. Yes it niggles away at me."
Sorry to hear that! A polite "sorry not interested" is better then ignoring you.
Then comes the question I mentioned - so happy to converse til you're not attracted to me anymore.
Can't people be friends? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"..So, im sure this has been done before BUT, I've not seen it so, soz.
I and im sure so many others have no issue saying a polite "no thank you" or "I'm not attracted to you", no matter how long you've been chatting - right?
As of late, I've found its not the case for (some) Men. I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. So I ask why and it turns out they're not into me - now or never have been.
I genuinely have 0 issues with it. But WHY ignore me, when we're quite clearly getting on well? Especially when men are the first to moan about being ignored themselves
Has this happened to you? Water off a ducks back? Annoying?
I’ll be completely honest I think for some people they start conversation expecting to get something in return. When the don’t think it’s going anywhere they give up and most don’t have respect for the other party.
I personally will talk to anyone as long as they show respect
What I will say though is they are clearly mad for not wanting to talk to that pretty face
Haha thanks
The point i was trying make is my looks are irrelevant if we chat well, why do you need to be attracted to me to talk to me
But again. Thank you
That’s what I was trying to say you don’t. But if the conversation got to the point they felt it was never going to benefit them then some people may give up.
Everyone’s different and some questions we will just never know the answer to "
The unknown mystery eh |
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"These so called 'men' are idiots and your better off without them haha
Your gorgeous and deserve better.
No
She deserves better because she is a human being and has feelings
Not because she's gorgeous"
Okay well don't pick me apart haha
I was just trying to be nice!
I don't know the lady yet but I'm happy to chat and get to know her. |
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"I've had it from the other side. Women I've talked to for months have cut me dead. No fall out, no arguments. Just won't speak anymore. No explanation. Yes it niggles away at me.
Sorry to hear that! A polite "sorry not interested" is better then ignoring you.
Then comes the question I mentioned - so happy to converse til you're not attracted to me anymore.
Can't people be friends? "
See you're actually very attractive so I would be interested in getting to know you.Even if I were aware that nothing would happen between us I'd like to think I'm not so shallow that we couldn't be friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s like guys going to great lengths to arrange a meet and then not showing up .., nuts ..inexplicable
Definitely nuts.
Often guys arrange a meet when they have a hard on.. then they have a wank, and get scared.. So they ghost
Oh god.
Tbh, not even talking about meeting. But this is just.. wow "
Obvious. I don't include myself in any of this.. I just know men. Of course I'd carry on chatting to you.. etc etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't think it a man thing. It has happened to me too. Maybe I just bored them tears in the end!! But most likely they just connected someone else. Either way I wouldn't take it personal... It can be annoying as chat was nice but you have park it, enjoy it for what it was... Plenty of fish in the sea |
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By *P994Man
over a year ago
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In the harsh reality a lot of people mainly men ain’t here for any social aspect. IMO if the person they’re talking ain’t down for the physical side or they assess the person again and think they ain’t for me they’ll just dip out rather than have the bottle to say it’s lovely chatting but I ain’t attracted to you so I’m happy to chat but nothings gonna happen. They’ll just be like I’m gonna leave this here and so be it, no skin off my nose. It’s not nice but how it is so you’re better off just chatting with the decent folk who like a natter |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Quite a high percentage on here want contact, are passing the time in conversation, whether or not it is explicit. But beyond that they are not interested, probably because they have no expectation of meeting with a woman, or are in circumstances where that would be problematic. It's not personal to any one woman, it's just that they are not serious about swinging. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I think maybe they get distracted by somebody else and start having a different conversation and then feel more engaged in the new one, until once again they start a new conversation with somebody else.
I don't really know I'm just putting it forward as a theory. |
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"..So, im sure this has been done before BUT, I've not seen it so, soz.
I and im sure so many others have no issue saying a polite "no thank you" or "I'm not attracted to you", no matter how long you've been chatting - right?
As of late, I've found its not the case for (some) Men. I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. So I ask why and it turns out they're not into me - now or never have been.
I genuinely have 0 issues with it. But WHY ignore me, when we're quite clearly getting on well? Especially when men are the first to moan about being ignored themselves
Has this happened to you? Water off a ducks back? Annoying?"
None of the above. It's a pretend world, a fantasy room. Links are tenuous at best and in covid times even more so.
I've seen lots of these threads started by men. The responses have been (predictably) somewhat different. I don't think I've ever seen one of those with a response of "you're gorgeous you deserve better"..... Just saying.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Trouble the guys think once you have replied then they are going to get a fuck that night!
We enjoy a good conversation to get to know people to see if we have a connection.
If you don't plY their games they just sulk or start to pester you. |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
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"Trouble the guys think once you have replied then they are going to get a fuck that night!
We enjoy a good conversation to get to know people to see if we have a connection.
If you don't plY their games they just sulk or start to pester you."
I suspect that it's a minority of guys that are like that....it may still be a lot simply because there are so many guys ... |
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"..So, im sure this has been done before BUT, I've not seen it so, soz.
I and im sure so many others have no issue saying a polite "no thank you" or "I'm not attracted to you", no matter how long you've been chatting - right?
As of late, I've found its not the case for (some) Men. I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. So I ask why and it turns out they're not into me - now or never have been.
I genuinely have 0 issues with it. But WHY ignore me, when we're quite clearly getting on well? Especially when men are the first to moan about being ignored themselves
Has this happened to you? Water off a ducks back? Annoying?
Yep ive had this alot,i ask what the problem is and its cos im not meeting so whats the point in chatting and then on the other hand they're having a moan that no ones chatting with them....i give up.
I don't get it. If you're having a good convo, what does it matter if you're attracted or not?"
That’s because they came onto Fab to find someone to have sex with not a life friend. I’m sorry if that sounds blunt but that the top and bottom of it.
Before I get put up against the wall and shot, I’ve got many Fab friends who I never have sex with. I was on the phone to one last night for over an hour.
Some men are not on Fab to collect friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get this a lot at the minute and I feel like I’m being treated as a second choice, that they are just chatting to me but waiting for a better offer to come in.
Most of the time I laugh it off but i can find myself wondering whether it is true and that I’m not a first choice xx
Completely know what you mean. Does make me question myself but only when they don't want to talk, period.
If we get get on well, do my looks matter? "
You are beautiful and your pics are lovely. I think it’s highly likely just the way most (not all) guys are x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think maybe they get distracted by somebody else and start having a different conversation and then feel more engaged in the new one, until once again they start a new conversation with somebody else.
I don't really know I'm just putting it forward as a theory."
I asked my hubby about this. And I think somebody else kind of said it above too.
At the minute, circumstances mean a lot of the guys on here are new/not regulars and treat it kind of like window shopping/free porn.
He says that when they are horny, men crave instant interaction. It doesn’t even have to be explicit. If he has his cock in his hand and you’re talking to him, that’s enough to get him off.
After that a lot just aren’t interested, until the next time they’re horny, probably in a couple of weeks.
I have no idea if what he tells me is correct, but it would explain the kind of repetitive cycle of conversations I get with the same people...
Chat. Ghost. 2 weeks later... ‘sorry hun I had some kind of generic time consuming event happen, I’m horny do you fancy chatting’
Way of the world. Certainly on here. Sometimes it hurts a bit, sometimes it doesn’t. Depends on my frame of mind x
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"I think maybe they get distracted by somebody else and start having a different conversation and then feel more engaged in the new one, until once again they start a new conversation with somebody else.
I don't really know I'm just putting it forward as a theory.
I asked my hubby about this. And I think somebody else kind of said it above too.
At the minute, circumstances mean a lot of the guys on here are new/not regulars and treat it kind of like window shopping/free porn.
He says that when they are horny, men crave instant interaction. It doesn’t even have to be explicit. If he has his cock in his hand and you’re talking to him, that’s enough to get him off.
After that a lot just aren’t interested, until the next time they’re horny, probably in a couple of weeks.
I have no idea if what he tells me is correct, but it would explain the kind of repetitive cycle of conversations I get with the same people...
Chat. Ghost. 2 weeks later... ‘sorry hun I had some kind of generic time consuming event happen, I’m horny do you fancy chatting’
Way of the world. Certainly on here. Sometimes it hurts a bit, sometimes it doesn’t. Depends on my frame of mind x
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Perhaps its like a pub full of strangers (a pub?).. You stop have a chat with someone nice, then you go to the bar, and have a chat with someone else, then you go to the loo (washing hands of course) and have a chat with someone else....and then they've left so you talk to someone else... What does the fab book of rules have to say on the matter.? |
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over a year ago
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"I think maybe they get distracted by somebody else and start having a different conversation and then feel more engaged in the new one, until once again they start a new conversation with somebody else.
I don't really know I'm just putting it forward as a theory.
I asked my hubby about this. And I think somebody else kind of said it above too.
At the minute, circumstances mean a lot of the guys on here are new/not regulars and treat it kind of like window shopping/free porn.
He says that when they are horny, men crave instant interaction. It doesn’t even have to be explicit. If he has his cock in his hand and you’re talking to him, that’s enough to get him off.
After that a lot just aren’t interested, until the next time they’re horny, probably in a couple of weeks.
I have no idea if what he tells me is correct, but it would explain the kind of repetitive cycle of conversations I get with the same people...
Chat. Ghost. 2 weeks later... ‘sorry hun I had some kind of generic time consuming event happen, I’m horny do you fancy chatting’
Way of the world. Certainly on here. Sometimes it hurts a bit, sometimes it doesn’t. Depends on my frame of mind x
Perhaps its like a pub full of strangers (a pub?).. You stop have a chat with someone nice, then you go to the bar, and have a chat with someone else, then you go to the loo (washing hands of course) and have a chat with someone else....and then they've left so you talk to someone else... What does the fab book of rules have to say on the matter.? "
Lol it has been a while and things may have moved on, but last time I was in a pub I never saw a guy with his cock in his hand move between 3 different strangers |
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over a year ago
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"..So, im sure this has been done before BUT, I've not seen it so, soz.
I and im sure so many others have no issue saying a polite "no thank you" or "I'm not attracted to you", no matter how long you've been chatting - right?
As of late, I've found its not the case for (some) Men. I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. So I ask why and it turns out they're not into me - now or never have been.
I genuinely have 0 issues with it. But WHY ignore me, when we're quite clearly getting on well? Especially when men are the first to moan about being ignored themselves
Has this happened to you? Water off a ducks back? Annoying?"
Welcome to Fab... it's not just (some) Men that do this but I've also experienced it with Women and Couples too. It's the nature of being on a "Sex Site"
Everyone is here for different reasons and although its perceived as a sex site many are here for other reasons. I think this is never taken into account and our selfish needs take over. We are all guilty of it in some way so I wouldnt take it too badly.
Theres been times that I've sent a detailed introductory message with face pics and get ignored, then other times ive been really brief and got a response so it really does depend and there's no right or wrong. |
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"..So, im sure this has been done before BUT, I've not seen it so, soz.
I and im sure so many others have no issue saying a polite "no thank you" or "I'm not attracted to you", no matter how long you've been chatting - right?
As of late, I've found its not the case for (some) Men. I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. So I ask why and it turns out they're not into me - now or never have been.
I genuinely have 0 issues with it. But WHY ignore me, when we're quite clearly getting on well? Especially when men are the first to moan about being ignored themselves
Has this happened to you? Water off a ducks back? Annoying?"
I imagine these men are just keeping you as a ‘Plan b’. Women and couples do it too, I’ve had it done to me, it’s not nice when you realise what they have done, but you can’t take it too much to heart. Either discuss it with them, or block them because they missed their chance with you  |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
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"..So, im sure this has been done before BUT, I've not seen it so, soz.
I and im sure so many others have no issue saying a polite "no thank you" or "I'm not attracted to you", no matter how long you've been chatting - right?
As of late, I've found its not the case for (some) Men. I've been engaging in conversations with different men and there's not really been any flirting just good conversation - then - ignored. So I ask why and it turns out they're not into me - now or never have been.
I genuinely have 0 issues with it. But WHY ignore me, when we're quite clearly getting on well? Especially when men are the first to moan about being ignored themselves
Has this happened to you? Water off a ducks back? Annoying?"
. Sorry to read this has happened to you.It could be the conversation wasn’t going the way they hoped it would, It could be that the conversation has run it’s course. |
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I was just reading another thread on here and thought something similar to this.
I tend not to chat too much on here, especially at the moment, as I like the escape of being in a club and compartmentalise that part of my life to clubs.
I’ve had many visits, sometimes (rarely) with no play but great laughs and conversation and debate.
There have also been other visits where planets have aligned and I’ve enjoyed the company of multiple plays in the course of one afternoon and evening - up to 5 separate ‘encounters’.
Now these ladies were all different in looks, age, shape etc, but all had something attractive about them which engaged past the initial lust.
I wouldn’t say that I’m model or pornstar material, but I would say that I do look after myself and approachable. In day to day life not overly confident, but in my parallel universe the sense of freedom enables me to have that confidence.
You are generally aware if the mutual attraction is there or developing.
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