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You are 27 and have 1 blurry pic in a dirty locker room. Not gonna attract the window shoppers . You should be able to be creative with your phone and take decent photos. If you can’t then you won’t have much luck with any meaaage you send regardless of how good you think the message is . |
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"Been trying so long and had no luck "
If you are relying on luck frankly you are a mug. Guys have to make things happen on fab, you have to be incredibly active on the site and your profile needs to market yourself to gain any attention whatsoever. Ask yourself this ! How better is your profile than the tens of thousands of other run of the mill guy profiles on here? Women rule this jungle so sooner you realise the better. Sorry to be so blunt |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't want to try and sound like some sort of twat here.. But you have to give yourself the best possible chance. Have some nice photos.. Write a detailed profile.. Try and show who you are, and what you have to offer. People want to meet somebody because they relate to them.. (mostly!) And when you message people.. put some thought into it..
I';m saying that.. And I get plenty of knock backs.. But it's fine. I don't want to meet everybody who messages me.. So why should they? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"How big is your dick ???
Are you that interested in him you just go straight to that? Wow  Nope, But if over 9 inches he'll do awite,lol"
I’d pass him by just for that.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think he meant he’s looking during the lockdown on his first post.
Bloody hell , is it me or are some of you coming across harsh for no reason.
You clicked his post , if you weren’t going to actually be nice and give him a bit of advice and guidance why write anything else.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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@goodtime ,
Work on your profile a bit more lad , use other people’s profiles to get a guideline of the information you would like to put out there.
Your wants , experience etc etc
Also you’ve also got one photo , add a few more. Do what you fancy but maybe a smart dressed photo , show a bit of your personality or do what you’re comfortable with.
Get on the forums and join the conversations you’re interested in.
Everyone here is interested in having fun but still remember to show respect and all that.
Also keep in mind some people are just sour and rude just like in everyday life so pay them no attention.
I’ve taken my message filter off so if you want to pm for more information give me a shout and I’ll help out if I can |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t think he meant he’s looking during the lockdown on his first post.
Bloody hell , is it me or are some of you coming across harsh for no reason.
You clicked his post , if you weren’t going to actually be nice and give him a bit of advice and guidance why write anything else.
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Exactly what I was going to say.
Another case of forum members bashing a younger bloke, quite common on here sadly.
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"I don’t think he meant he’s looking during the lockdown on his first post.
Bloody hell , is it me or are some of you coming across harsh for no reason.
You clicked his post , if you weren’t going to actually be nice and give him a bit of advice and guidance why write anything else.
Exactly what I was going to say.
Another case of forum members bashing a younger bloke, quite common on here sadly.
Xx
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It needs to change  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !
Runs and hides.....
You are brave....."
you're popularity will sky rocket after that comment,you'll get loads of messages anyway  |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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"I don’t think he meant he’s looking during the lockdown on his first post.
Bloody hell , is it me or are some of you coming across harsh for no reason.
You clicked his post , if you weren’t going to actually be nice and give him a bit of advice and guidance why write anything else.
Exactly what I was going to say.
Another case of forum members bashing a younger bloke, quite common on here sadly.
Xx
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A lot of people on this site need to learn the saying
If you have nothing boce to say dont say anything at all. |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
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"Stop trying! We're in lockdown!"
Have you considered he or anyone who answers you is t looking to meet you at this point of time?
Just wanting a conversation and getting to know you might be enough.
He isnt asking to meet maybe just get an answer to his posts?
Just a thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !
Runs and hides....."
Speaking as 'one of the fat ones'.... I have just as much right to be as picky as anyone, makes no difference if I'm size 6 12 16 or 20 I can still pick who I would and wouldent lime to spend my time with... Such a strange thing for you to say, why would my size dictate how picky I can be?  |
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"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !
Runs and hides.....
Speaking as 'one of the fat ones'.... I have just as much right to be as picky as anyone, makes no difference if I'm size 6 12 16 or 20 I can still pick who I would and wouldent lime to spend my time with... Such a strange thing for you to say, why would my size dictate how picky I can be? "
Because the “fat ones” are his last resorts, at the back of the “que” and wonders why he isn’t getting meets of any sort fat or thin! I’m glad I come u see the fat section then. |
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"I don’t think he meant he’s looking during the lockdown on his first post.
Bloody hell , is it me or are some of you coming across harsh for no reason.
You clicked his post , if you weren’t going to actually be nice and give him a bit of advice and guidance why write anything else.
Exactly what I was going to say.
Another case of forum members bashing a younger bloke, quite common on here sadly.
Xx
A lot of people on this site need to learn the saying
If you have nothing boce to say dont say anything at all."
Unfortunately there are too many self righteous hypocrites on this site.
Swingers open minded about sex?
Don't make me laugh.
Some on here deliberately go out their way to make others feel shit and kink shame. |
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"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !
Runs and hides.....
Speaking as 'one of the fat ones'.... I have just as much right to be as picky as anyone, makes no difference if I'm size 6 12 16 or 20 I can still pick who I would and wouldent lime to spend my time with... Such a strange thing for you to say, why would my size dictate how picky I can be?
Because the “fat ones” are his last resorts, at the back of the “que” and wonders why he isn’t getting meets of any sort fat or thin! I’m glad I come u see the fat section then. "
Glad I come Under the “fat” section then, that should say |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !
Runs and hides.....
Speaking as 'one of the fat ones'.... I have just as much right to be as picky as anyone, makes no difference if I'm size 6 12 16 or 20 I can still pick who I would and wouldent lime to spend my time with... Such a strange thing for you to say, why would my size dictate how picky I can be? "
You're really not fat btw. You look incredible from your profile. What makes you think you are fat ? Have some more confidence in yourself You're incredible |
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"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !
Runs and hides.....
Speaking as 'one of the fat ones'.... I have just as much right to be as picky as anyone, makes no difference if I'm size 6 12 16 or 20 I can still pick who I would and wouldent lime to spend my time with... Such a strange thing for you to say, why would my size dictate how picky I can be?
Because the “fat ones” are his last resorts, at the back of the “que” and wonders why he isn’t getting meets of any sort fat or thin! I’m glad I come u see the fat section then. "
Nahhhhh those ones who through no fault of their own (sic) who don't get meets from even the "fat ones" then move even further down the list to the very last resort and turn to us TV's
I feel honoured at that hahahaa |
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"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !
Runs and hides.....
Speaking as 'one of the fat ones'.... I have just as much right to be as picky as anyone, makes no difference if I'm size 6 12 16 or 20 I can still pick who I would and wouldent lime to spend my time with... Such a strange thing for you to say, why would my size dictate how picky I can be?
Because the “fat ones” are his last resorts, at the back of the “que” and wonders why he isn’t getting meets of any sort fat or thin! I’m glad I come u see the fat section then.
Nahhhhh those ones who through no fault of their own (sic) who don't get meets from even the "fat ones" then move even further down the list to the very last resort and turn to us TV's
I feel honoured at that hahahaa"
Then you should tell them u ain’t no holler back girrrrl and pity about their loss! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"@goodtime ,
Work on your profile a bit more lad , use other people’s profiles to get a guideline of the information you would like to put out there.
Your wants , experience etc etc
Also you’ve also got one photo , add a few more. Do what you fancy but maybe a smart dressed photo , show a bit of your personality or do what you’re comfortable with.
Get on the forums and join the conversations you’re interested in.
Everyone here is interested in having fun but still remember to show respect and all that.
Also keep in mind some people are just sour and rude just like in everyday life so pay them no attention.
I’ve taken my message filter off so if you want to pm for more information give me a shout and I’ll help out if I can"
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"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !
Runs and hides.....
Speaking as 'one of the fat ones'.... I have just as much right to be as picky as anyone, makes no difference if I'm size 6 12 16 or 20 I can still pick who I would and wouldent lime to spend my time with... Such a strange thing for you to say, why would my size dictate how picky I can be?
Because the “fat ones” are his last resorts, at the back of the “que” and wonders why he isn’t getting meets of any sort fat or thin! I’m glad I come u see the fat section then.
Nahhhhh those ones who through no fault of their own (sic) who don't get meets from even the "fat ones" then move even further down the list to the very last resort and turn to us TV's
I feel honoured at that hahahaa
Then you should tell them u ain’t no holler back girrrrl and pity about their loss! "
I'm never going to holla back unless they have boobs and a vagina  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The ratio is way out to start with so they have the choice and will be very picky, even the fat ones !
Runs and hides.....
Speaking as 'one of the fat ones'.... I have just as much right to be as picky as anyone, makes no difference if I'm size 6 12 16 or 20 I can still pick who I would and wouldent lime to spend my time with... Such a strange thing for you to say, why would my size dictate how picky I can be?
Because the “fat ones” are his last resorts, at the back of the “que” and wonders why he isn’t getting meets of any sort fat or thin! I’m glad I come u see the fat section then.
Nahhhhh those ones who through no fault of their own (sic) who don't get meets from even the "fat ones" then move even further down the list to the very last resort and turn to us TV's
I feel honoured at that hahahaa
Then you should tell them u ain’t no holler back girrrrl and pity about their loss!
I'm never going to holla back unless they have boobs and a vagina "
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"I don’t think he meant he’s looking during the lockdown on his first post.
Bloody hell , is it me or are some of you coming across harsh for no reason.
You clicked his post , if you weren’t going to actually be nice and give him a bit of advice and guidance why write anything else.
Exactly what I was going to say.
Another case of forum members bashing a younger bloke, quite common on here sadly.
Xx
A lot of people on this site need to learn the saying
If you have nothing boce to say dont say anything at all."
I agree. There are a few forum users at the moment who seem to be going out of their way to be as sarcastic and unpleasant as they can when replying to threads. It’s unnecessary and unkind.
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"Been trying so long and had no luck "
Although this doesn’t apply to you, some usernames just turn your stomach. Names like Pussy Destroyer or Pussy Smasher. Eurgh!
A good tip though is when you send a message to someone, as well as making it interesting, try and make sure you’ve used punctuation. There’s nothing worse than getting a string of words without so much as a full stop. Re-read your message before you send it.
Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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1. There is a pandemic and some people aren't meeting.
2. You need to show what you can offer, look at other profiles and get an idea for pics
3. Women are visual creatures you need to entice us in.
Enjoy the forums and get to know people and hopefully when the clubs open up you will have a few ladies to meet with  |
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"I don’t think he meant he’s looking during the lockdown on his first post.
Bloody hell , is it me or are some of you coming across harsh for no reason.
You clicked his post , if you weren’t going to actually be nice and give him a bit of advice and guidance why write anything else.
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Top stuff mate |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been trying so long and had no luck
Although this doesn’t apply to you, some usernames just turn your stomach. Names like Pussy Destroyer or Pussy Smasher. Eurgh!
A good tip though is when you send a message to someone, as well as making it interesting, try and make sure you’ve used punctuation. There’s nothing worse than getting a string of words without so much as a full stop. Re-read your message before you send it.
Good luck!"
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Targeted high levels of effort are more inclined to get better results, when things are supportive of meeting healthily. This is against a huge level of competition from the huge volumes of single men and others, exacerbated by new users joining for almost a year and everyone having priorities on their health, income, families and overall chaos around.
Look for all the tip posts in the forum, including for profiles, how to message and get to know people, which are the topics that often hold people away from the results that they could maybe achieve |
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"Been trying so long and had no luck
If you are relying on luck frankly you are a mug. Guys have to make things happen on fab, you have to be incredibly active on the site and your profile needs to market yourself to gain any attention whatsoever. Ask yourself this ! How better is your profile than the tens of thousands of other run of the mill guy profiles on here? Women rule this jungle so sooner you realise the better. Sorry to be so blunt"
Pretty much spot on. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
Up on them there hills |
"Been trying so long and had no luck "
Have a pair of cuff links with a picture of Yoda that says.
“Do, or do not: there is no try.”
Old mentor of mine once said, “you never try to jump between two buildings, you do it or fall.”
Try, gives you permission to fail.
Think attitude sometimes has a lot to play in this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Start with the basic understanding that 95% of people on here have no intention of meeting anyone. They are largely fantasists, keyboard wankers and attention seekers. Then factor in that as a guy you are massively outnumbered. Organise your profile as best you can and then the magic ingredient, stay online !!!!!!! A reality that is massively overlooked. Online profiles get looked at. |
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"ladies ...
pissing myself laughing here
That's just what I was going to day
Pair of twats
Any idea why they found it funny? I honestly have no idea "
Sadly some people (usually the same ones) spend their time on the forums belittling other users for their own entertainment.
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"ladies ...
pissing myself laughing here
That's just what I was going to day
Pair of twats
Any idea why they found it funny? I honestly have no idea
Sadly some people (usually the same ones) spend their time on the forums belittling other users for their own entertainment.
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Pity they don't realise it just backfires  |
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