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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Curious what people's preferences are
If you're a single women meeting a guy, assuming you've already had a social meet, what would you expect from the night?
Do you prefer to be taken out for food/drinks first? Do you meet just for the sex or does it feel more like a date? Do you prefer to stay the whole night or go home after the fun? |
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"Curious what people's preferences are
If you're a single women meeting a guy, assuming you've already had a social meet, what would you expect from the night?
Do you prefer to be taken out for food/drinks first? Do you meet just for the sex or does it feel more like a date? Do you prefer to stay the whole night or go home after the fun?"
I've really only met single men in my years here and we decide what we want beforehand.
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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago
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If it is a first meet after a social then it will vary according to what we have discussed.
Usually its a club meet or occasionally a hotel. I generally only do an all nighter with someone I've established a connection with, think only once has a first meet resulted in me staying over & that was with a couple.
I don't expect to be wined or dined, it's not a date. Sometimes we meet for a drink or coffee first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldent go out for food or drinks with a fab meet past meeting for a coffee social first to make sure we're both happy to continue. For me my meets from here are not dates.... On occasion iv formed a bond with somone I met for a meet and it's got to the point we like each others company as friends as well as sex partners so sometimes we will meet for lunch or whatnot but as a whole I wouldent expect or want to sit through a meal with someone I don't know |
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"I wouldent go out for food or drinks with a fab meet past meeting for a coffee social first to make sure we're both happy to continue. For me my meets from here are not dates.... On occasion iv formed a bond with somone I met for a meet and it's got to the point we like each others company as friends as well as sex partners so sometimes we will meet for lunch or whatnot but as a whole I wouldent expect or want to sit through a meal with someone I don't know "
This.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldent go out for food or drinks with a fab meet past meeting for a coffee social first to make sure we're both happy to continue. For me my meets from here are not dates.... On occasion iv formed a bond with somone I met for a meet and it's got to the point we like each others company as friends as well as sex partners so sometimes we will meet for lunch or whatnot but as a whole I wouldent expect or want to sit through a meal with someone I don't know "
I agree. Well said! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm married but play alone. I always prefer the first date to be half social and half sex. I like to chat and chill, maybe get something to eat and drink. But then sex xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm married but play alone. I always prefer the first date to be half social and half sex. I like to chat and chill, maybe get something to eat and drink. But then sex xx"
Drinks then sex is all good   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would meet at my place or theirs for sex....
Sitting through a meal takes away from the time would could be having sex.....
Sleeping over is a big no no......
I really don’t like idea of someone sleeping over the first time.... Then they might think it’s perfectly acceptable going forward and start coming over with overnight bags..... |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
As others have said.
If I arrange to meet someone from this site or others, usually after a previous social where we would have met for a coffee or such, we would have discussed what next. Usually by message or text if we have got on. Then it would be meeting for sex, not going for a meal. Very often time can be short. If we have met several times I have taken girls out for a meal, but not had sex after. Personally I think going for a meal etc is more boyfriend/girlfriend. Not what I'm here for. But for many I know they think the opposite. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to eat or have a drink and chat, then back to accomm or hotel, and I do like to spend the night.
I like it to be a date - and that doesn't mean with any expectation about who's paying the bill - I like the social aspect.
It's a date with no particular expectation of a 2nd date. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As others have said.
If I arrange to meet someone from this site or others, usually after a previous social where we would have met for a coffee or such, we would have discussed what next. Usually by message or text if we have got on. Then it would be meeting for sex, not going for a meal. Very often time can be short. If we have met several times I have taken girls out for a meal, but not had sex after. Personally I think going for a meal etc is more boyfriend/girlfriend. Not what I'm here for. But for many I know they think the opposite. "
You're doing it in the wrong order...sex first, food afterwards  |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
"As others have said.
If I arrange to meet someone from this site or others, usually after a previous social where we would have met for a coffee or such, we would have discussed what next. Usually by message or text if we have got on. Then it would be meeting for sex, not going for a meal. Very often time can be short. If we have met several times I have taken girls out for a meal, but not had sex after. Personally I think going for a meal etc is more boyfriend/girlfriend. Not what I'm here for. But for many I know they think the opposite.
You're doing it in the wrong order...sex first, food afterwards "
I'd already had the sex! At previous meets. The meal would have been as friends. Then meets again for just sex.
A bit like a sandwich.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have found most women want to meet.fkr drinks or dinner.
Mind you the cynic in me often aks myself if it's just a free meal they want.
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Why assume you're paying for it? |
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"I have found most women want to meet.fkr drinks or dinner.
Mind you the cynic in me often aks myself if it's just a free meal they want.
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Only if you are daft enough to pay the bill. Any cost involved i always go half wherever we go. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Assuming we have already met for a casual social such as a coffee, I would probably favour an evening "date" of a drink in a nice bar somewhere then off to a hotel for a few hours. I wouldn't spend the night. With people I'm more familiar with then dinner or even getting straight to it, depending on time constraints and mood  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like a social first to see how we get on and then the next time would be fun.
Either at mine or theirs.
I’ve had one guy who stayed over but purely because he lived over an hour and half away and we had spent most of the night enjoying each other. I think we crashed out around 4am.
I’m not into meeting guys for meals out.
Fab is purely for fun, not dates |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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So going with we've met for a social, it's gone well blah blah.
I'd rather not go for food beforehand, it will make me feel a bit sleepy and I want to be bringing my A game to their cock, not tiredly slurping at it. I wouldn't mind drinks or a walk first, something to build the tension a bit. Food can happen in the interval/after we're both spent. I don't really have any expectations - some form of sexual contact, kissing, laughter? That would be about it.
As far as staying the whole night, I'd like that but I'd have to be able to put up with them as a person. I wouldn't mind a few hours to be honest, as long as I didn't feel like a hole after it and we were both happy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have found most women want to meet.fkr drinks or dinner.
Mind you the cynic in me often aks myself if it's just a free meal they want.
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No way my friend.... it’s all about safety for women.. lol |
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If I am arranging to meet we would already be friends, I like the whole shebang, drinks, dinner, dancing. Holding hands and kissing throughout, then I am ready to rip his clothes off as soon as we get to the hotel |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s interesting to see that for the most part, a coffee/drinks is considered enough of a ‘social’.
I wouldn’t really be onboard with anything more involved than that; as someone mentioned, it’s not a date. |
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Swinging and dating are very different! Meeting for a date will involve drinks, meal and then maybe sex or maybe not. But a swinging meet is only for sex so if we like each other enough for sex then go for it. If not go home |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a guy I would prefer a hi hello introduction social perhaps a coffee in a neutral place and if it goes well a second meet as a social followed by sex
The social can be either a drink or dinner this just gives either person a chance to say no without being in a compromising situation |
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"Curious what people's preferences are
If you're a single women meeting a guy, assuming you've already had a social meet, what would you expect from the night?
Do you prefer to be taken out for food/drinks first? Do you meet just for the sex or does it feel more like a date? Do you prefer to stay the whole night or go home after the fun?"
All and equally nothing from above.
It simply comes down to each person I meet. Sometimes I'll be invited for food and on to an event/club/home. Sometimes just a few hours for sex and home to shower and sleep. Even done 2 nights in a hotel together
It varies depending on many factors affecting both parties. |
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By *n080971Man
over a year ago
Billericay |
A coffee or a glass of something makes for a nice starter and adds to the sexual tension of what may follow but beyond that I prefer meets to be about mutual sexual enjoyment then a return to real life. Obviously with a few laughs and some conversation during. I’m not really a social swinger. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Good question. There's no hard and fast rule for me. I always meet for a social first, to check I fancy them, but assuming I do the second meet would normally be at their place. I do like to start off with a glass of wine or two and a good chat, but not dinner. I'm usually naked by the time a third glass is poured |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good question. There's no hard and fast rule for me. I always meet for a social first, to check I fancy them, but assuming I do the second meet would normally be at their place. I do like to start off with a glass of wine or two and a good chat, but not dinner. I'm usually naked by the time a third glass is poured "
Three glasses of wine? Hard maintenance  |
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When I book a hotel its usually for 2 nights (I like getting away). Whoever I'm meeting can choose if they want to stay the full time with me but I would hope dinner/drinks as well as sex would happen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I book a hotel its usually for 2 nights (I like getting away). Whoever I'm meeting can choose if they want to stay the full time with me but I would hope dinner/drinks as well as sex would happen."
Let’s book a week then |
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"When I book a hotel its usually for 2 nights (I like getting away). Whoever I'm meeting can choose if they want to stay the full time with me but I would hope dinner/drinks as well as sex would happen.
Let’s book a week then "
No-one is that brave |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I book a hotel its usually for 2 nights (I like getting away). Whoever I'm meeting can choose if they want to stay the full time with me but I would hope dinner/drinks as well as sex would happen.
Let’s book a week then
No-one is that brave "
After a few drinks .... game on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good question. There's no hard and fast rule for me. I always meet for a social first, to check I fancy them, but assuming I do the second meet would normally be at their place. I do like to start off with a glass of wine or two and a good chat, but not dinner. I'm usually naked by the time a third glass is poured
Three glasses of wine? Hard maintenance "
What can I say. You've got to work hard to get me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been on some lovely meets, where we’ve had dinner and drinks, we enjoyed each other’s company.
I found it relaxed me and it made the sex even better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good question. There's no hard and fast rule for me. I always meet for a social first, to check I fancy them, but assuming I do the second meet would normally be at their place. I do like to start off with a glass of wine or two and a good chat, but not dinner. I'm usually naked by the time a third glass is poured
Three glasses of wine? Hard maintenance
What can I say. You've got to work hard to get me "
Candles and dinner |
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I love dinner and a couple of drinks but there’s no hard rule , it would depend on circumstances, I often host at home but out is nice too.
However there’s always a social of sort prior in order to ascertain if there will be any play |
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"Curious what people's preferences are
If you're a single women meeting a guy, assuming you've already had a social meet, what would you expect from the night?
Do you prefer to be taken out for food/drinks first? Do you meet just for the sex or does it feel more like a date? Do you prefer to stay the whole night or go home after the fun?"
Probably a question for another thread but is a single meeting another single really classed as swinging? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You're doing it in the wrong order...sex first, food afterwards
Fuck first, as Dan Savage always says x"
Agree. Nothing worse than fucking with a belly full of food. Food definately after. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good question. There's no hard and fast rule for me. I always meet for a social first, to check I fancy them, but assuming I do the second meet would normally be at their place. I do like to start off with a glass of wine or two and a good chat, but not dinner. I'm usually naked by the time a third glass is poured
Three glasses of wine? Hard maintenance
What can I say. You've got to work hard to get me
Candles and dinner "
With you I'd definitely have dinner x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely depends on the guy. If he seems cool and interesting, definitely some dinner and drinks beforehand. If he’s gorgeous but not much going on upstairs it would be straight to the bedroom.
Win win either way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good question. There's no hard and fast rule for me. I always meet for a social first, to check I fancy them, but assuming I do the second meet would normally be at their place. I do like to start off with a glass of wine or two and a good chat, but not dinner. I'm usually naked by the time a third glass is poured
Three glasses of wine? Hard maintenance
What can I say. You've got to work hard to get me
Candles and dinner
With you I'd definitely have dinner x"
and three glasses of wine |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Good question. There's no hard and fast rule for me. I always meet for a social first, to check I fancy them, but assuming I do the second meet would normally be at their place. I do like to start off with a glass of wine or two and a good chat, but not dinner. I'm usually naked by the time a third glass is poured
Three glasses of wine? Hard maintenance
What can I say. You've got to work hard to get me "
You might have missed the sarcasm |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"Definitely depends on the guy. If he seems cool and interesting, definitely some dinner and drinks beforehand. If he’s gorgeous but not much going on upstairs it would be straight to the bedroom.
Win win either way"
I'll bang ya but don't want to listen to ya. I like this approach. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always do an initial social meet which is coffee or a drink.
But after that, I like to keep it simple - meet for sex and then go our separate ways. No dinner, no hanging around afterwards, no overnights. Just an hour or two of mutual fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I’ve been on some lovely meets, where we’ve had dinner and drinks, we enjoyed each other’s company.
I found it relaxed me and it made the sex even better. "
Exactly this  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Before joining here, it was abit different chatting women up. Talking over phone then you just get comfortable. Then you get some women who just want the pleasure and not the greeting as I like to call it |
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"I always do an initial social meet which is coffee or a drink.
But after that, I like to keep it simple - meet for sex and then go our separate ways. No dinner, no hanging around afterwards, no overnights. Just an hour or two of mutual fun. "
Yep that’s it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always do an initial social meet which is coffee or a drink.
But after that, I like to keep it simple - meet for sex and then go our separate ways. No dinner, no hanging around afterwards, no overnights. Just an hour or two of mutual fun.
Yep that’s it "
Great response |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think from male perspective the build up and seeing the woman arrive is part of the massive thrill... Where that happens is less important but seeing the woman's body and dress choice is so hot |
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I'd prefer meet for a social, if it's a play meet then play.
But unless it's been offered, discussed or suggested. Falling asleep or assuming you're staying runs the risk of outstaying your welcome and the other person not knowing how to turf you out! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never "expect" to be taken anywhere but sometimes we might go for a drink first and generally there is food after (and no the bill doesn't all land on him) I like the social side too, I'm not in to fuck and go's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wouldent go out for food or drinks with a fab meet past meeting for a coffee social first to make sure we're both happy to continue. For me my meets from here are not dates.... On occasion iv formed a bond with somone I met for a meet and it's got to the point we like each others company as friends as well as sex partners so sometimes we will meet for lunch or whatnot but as a whole I wouldent expect or want to sit through a meal with someone I don't know "
True. A meal= committment. After a social meeting just for sex is a far more straight forward approach. |
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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago
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Single here. I do meet quite a few (at least was before COVID LOL). I spend a long time talking to someone I eventually sleep with and do a social (coffee mostly) before meeting - just to make sure everyone's gen, make sure he looks and sounds what he did online and allay many blokes' fears that the girl is a fake. Then meet mostly at mine for sex. No dinners hate them. After sex I prefer overnight meets but some guys don't want to stay overnight. Morning sex is amazing in most cases when that happens. |
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"I like to eat or have a drink and chat, then back to accomm or hotel, and I do like to spend the night.
I like it to be a date - and that doesn't mean with any expectation about who's paying the bill - I like the social aspect.
It's a date with no particular expectation of a 2nd date."
Girl after my own heart, and if all goes well on the first meet, and we do have that WOW factor, second meet could be somewhere like Tortworth Manor in your neck of the woods, or The Hundred House Hotel near Telford which actually has four poster beds, and love swings in all the superior rooms. |
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