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So ok a question for the ladies. You are on your first meet with someone who's funking you hard from behind. He then without warning grabs your hair and starts to pull it. Is your reaction Yes Sir or Don't you dare? |
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I would be throughly peed off if he was rough with me.
The only person I am ever remotely sub with is my husband. Anyone else taking liberties will most likely find the session comes to an abrupt end. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So ok a question for the ladies. You are on your first meet with someone who's funking you hard from behind. He then without warning grabs your hair and starts to pull it. Is your reaction Yes Sir or Don't you dare?"
Consent is sexy, without it is assault.
This ain't no 50 shades. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So ok a question for the ladies. You are on your first meet with someone who's funking you hard from behind. He then without warning grabs your hair and starts to pull it. Is your reaction Yes Sir or Don't you dare?"
You understand consent OP? Do you? |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
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"I would be throughly peed off if he was rough with me.
The only person I am ever remotely sub with is my husband. Anyone else taking liberties will most likely find the session comes to an abrupt end."
I don't consider some hair pulling as being dominant, or me submissive.
It's part of sex for me. |
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Definitely "don't you dare", and possibly, if he does not get the hint and insists on going Dom on me, "the exit is over there". As hair pulling is one of my hard limits.
I do normally discuss the "do's" and "don'ts" before a meet, so anything where they go against my wishes/limits is the end of the meet and instant block. Hard limits exist for a reason, and not every single woman is a sub. |
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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago
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"Definitely "don't you dare", and possibly, if he does not get the hint and insists on going Dom on me, "the exit is over there". As hair pulling is one of my hard limits.
I do normally discuss the "do's" and "don'ts" before a meet, so anything where they go against my wishes/limits is the end of the meet and instant block. Hard limits exist for a reason, and not every single woman is a sub. "
Oh yeah this for sure! Funny to see we posted our comments at the same time, I'd say that as a general rule things should be discussed and obviously it depends on the situation, people involved and their personal preferences |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would be throughly peed off if he was rough with me.
The only person I am ever remotely sub with is my husband. Anyone else taking liberties will most likely find the session comes to an abrupt end.
I don't consider some hair pulling as being dominant, or me submissive.
It's part of sex for me."
I have to agree I don't consider hair as a dominant submission act x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I mean I don't think I have done this with asking before, but then again Im not agressive with it.
Run your hand up their back, put your hand in their hair, grab some, flick of a wrist kind of pull.
Do not try to yank her hair out!
Common sense people!
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Odd one this? I was meeting a girl for ages and having lots of bdsm quite rough sex and then saw her profile on another site that it was on her 'like' list. Oddly it had never occurred to me but when asked and tried. She loved it! Now another equally kinky lady I knew absolutely hated it! No accounting for individual lady's tastes? That's why I find them constantly fascinating! Now I ask...  |
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I have had it a few times where its not been agreed but it wasn't hard pulling, however pain is a big no no for me I'm here for pleasure. I get the dom kink side but I play as an equal I want pleasure not pain.
PS; Are balls susceptible to pain |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
OP may be a really nice principled guy who is merely seeking clarification.
But to me the answer to the question is obvious, some women do and some women don't. For a person to pull hair, slap butt, or ch@ke without asking or knowing beforehand it is acceptable (in my books) makes that person a rough sex chancer (of which there are many) or a dangerous dominant (of which there are many).
However, for good or ill, it is fact in the real world, some women find attractive in the moment and arousing, the stereotype of alpha manly male behaviour of being self assured, self confident in taking control in rough sex that pushes towards the boundaries.
In all things education is the key.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often find those who try to pull my hair hard, tend to be offended by me pulling their cock hard...funny that..
So dont you dare...
Consensual and discussion is the key |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I love having my hair pulled but I would be taken aback a bit if it was somome new where there wasnt like a foundation of trust "
Lots of girls like their hair getting pulled but i know what you mean by your comment |
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"I’ve read the whole thing and lots of valid points have been made. However, not one lady has questioned being ‘funked’ hard from behind! "
Hahaha well this made me chuckle....how does it feel getting “funked” not had that before.
Oh and answering OP question -it wouldn’t end well  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A lot of people struggle to pull hair safely and think you just grab the end and yank."
I know that a lot of people struggle to pull hair safely and don't understand the meaning of it. That's guys who think that they know it all and think that makes them macho kinda doms .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I’d just melt into it like a good little sub 
But that sort of thing really does it for me with the right guy! "
Will you marry me?
We can drink red wine, have orgies, raise kittens and watch Disney for the rest of our lives!
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"So ok a question for the ladies. You are on your first meet with someone who's funking you hard from behind. He then without warning grabs your hair and starts to pull it. Is your reaction Yes Sir or Don't you dare?"
Omg yes...pull it harder!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's a big no no for me, my hair is not to be touched or pulled but I always make this clear early on so if it was tried after that conversation, he'd swiftly get a smack in the face and a knee to the balls. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a big no no for me, my hair is not to be touched or pulled but I always make this clear early on so if it was tried after that conversation, he'd swiftly get a smack in the face and a knee to the balls. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, Sir!
Though only my Master Mowgliboy gets to do this to me these days.
Unless he’s there to direct any men and women fucking to pull my hair just how I like it of course |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It wouldn't go down well with me at all. Nor would smacking/spanking. I tend to have a social/chat beforehand about what I'm into. And find out what they're into. See if we're compatible |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As long as it wasn't a violent tug that nearly breaks my neck I would be more than happy.
No Sir though."
This.
I'm going to assume you understand consent and that things like this need to be discussed ahead of trying it randomly.
Dominance is an attitude to me, not an act, so simply pulling my hair is not going to get 'yes Sir' out of me. |
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"So ok a question for the ladies. You are on your first meet with someone who's funking you hard from behind. He then without warning grabs your hair and starts to pull it. Is your reaction Yes Sir or Don't you dare?
You understand consent OP? Do you?"
I certainly do. This is a general genuine discussion about the scenario, not me finding out if I could get away with abuse. Apologies if it came across that way. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"This is why a meet is prearranged and the activities agreed to before hand xx"
Exactly. I wouldnt dare try that unless it was something we had discussed beforehand and she liked a guy doing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I’d just melt into it like a good little sub
But that sort of thing really does it for me with the right guy!
Will you marry me?
We can drink red wine, have orgies, raise kittens and watch Disney for the rest of our lives!
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A marriage proposal?! Oh my I’m flattered! That’s an offer hard to say no to  |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I wouldn't call him sir in any situation . But with the right person hair pulling (not yanking) can be hot. But in saying that on a first meet I don't know as it hasn't ever happened. I suppose it would depend on the person if I didn't like it though I'd have no issue telling them I didn't and vis versa. |
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"So ok a question for the ladies. You are on your first meet with someone who's funking you hard from behind. He then without warning grabs your hair and starts to pull it. Is your reaction Yes Sir or Don't you dare?"
1) If by “funking you hard from behind” you mean “jackhammering you painfully” like most men seem to, then I’d have already told him to stop.
2) Pulling my hair at all is a no-no except from someone I really trust. Doing it “without warning” at all, never mind on a first meet, would get a swift backwards kick.
3) Sir? On a first meet? Not a chance in hell. If I thought the man was someone who would expect to be called Sir on a first meet, I wouldn’t be meeting him.
If this happened to me on a first meet, I’d be leaving as soon as possible and blocking the consent-violating creep as soon as I got home. |
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By *ikkiHbiWoman
over a year ago
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When i first met with my fwb there was no planning bus as we were going through the foreplay he just put it out in open and said
If I do anything you don't like or enjoy give it a chance and if its not for you just say and we'll stop, I won't be offended
Was a little bit weary after that as wasn't sure what to expect but glad I gave the stuff a chance as it opened alot of new avenues of pleasure and excitement for me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it would be stupid and disrespectful and bloody well out of order unless it was pre discussed
You can normally check boundaries with chat and gentle exploration but not jumping in with both feet
Surely you get a feeling for what's acceptable through chat and play |
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