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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
I was nervous but luckily met a very chatty and fun couple .and just had an evening chatting and drinking ..it took me a few visits to actually pluck up the courage to visit the play rooms with a very nice naughty lady |
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"Arrived and after been shown around
then 1 guy who followed us as no one else was there ..as we were about to leave more people came and eventually we stayed for a small room gathering.
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you had a good first time then Eventually |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"Arrived and after been shown around
then 1 guy who followed us as no one else was there ..as we were about to leave more people came and eventually we stayed for a small room gathering.
you had a good first time then Eventually"
As a single bloke by yourself it's easy to just stand about awkwardly in a club if you dont know anyone..and being sociable without being pushy can be a fine balance..so whilst I didn't play on my first visit I met a great couple who I still enjoy having a good chat with when I see them (gave me my first verification), and they introduced me to their friends and I had a great evening ... dont be in too much of a hurry would be my advice... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sat out side Pleasures in Kent like giggling teens, 4 times we nearly drove away, but glad we didn't, really nice social scene and have met some really nice people. Can't wait for it to open again |
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Our first time was last year, unfortunately in between lockdowns so we couldn't visit the playrooms but we met a great couple in the hotel attached. The club itself felt a bit clicky so we sat by ourselves most of the night but we can't wait to go back and arrange drinks first hand xx |
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First club visit was La Chambre in Sheffield with hubby many years ago.
A bit nervous to start with but chatted to some lovely people and ended up in a room with another couple.
Great night and we have been to loads of clubs since. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On our first visit, on the way there i was having a panic attack in the back of the taxi (mrs)...Chameleons Darlaston was the best club. Everyone including the staff were so friendly. Can't wait to go back for a night of pure indulgence and naughtiness....  |
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"Would love to have someone to go with as a friend. Preferably female xyes me to "
I think you will find that women are generally not keen on taking random blokes to clubs.
If you aren't confident enough to go alone, clubs are maybe not for you. |
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"I like to know what you thought when you first went to a swingers club and was it all you wanted
I watch a program the other week on a swingers club
And like to know what happened "
We went to a well known Kent club with another couple a few years ago. Glad we went but it wasn't for us at all and although the club and people were fine, we won't be trying any more. Just not our thing. |
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By *jonesMan
over a year ago
Plymouth |
"Would love to have someone to go with as a friend. Preferably female xyes me to
I think you will find that women are generally not keen on taking random blokes to clubs.
If you aren't confident enough to go alone, clubs are maybe not for you. "
Think a lot of people struggle with that first visit...and then its like a duck to water for many |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would love to have someone to go with as a friend. Preferably female xyes me to
I think you will find that women are generally not keen on taking random blokes to clubs.
If you aren't confident enough to go alone, clubs are maybe not for you.
Think a lot of people struggle with that first visit...and then its like a duck to water for many "
Thankyou. I will definitely be going with hubby, but childcare etc also means I could go more regularly if I had friends to attend with x |
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"Would love to have someone to go with as a friend. Preferably female xyes me to
I think you will find that women are generally not keen on taking random blokes to clubs.
If you aren't confident enough to go alone, clubs are maybe not for you. "
I be happy to go alone just be nice to go in with someone who been b4 |
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I was buzzing the day i first went to a club as i was so excited. Went with a female friend and had a blast. It was everything i had hoped it would be and i felt at home the minute i stepped through the door.x |
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Our first time in a club. Well felt like rabbit in headlights and contemplated gojng through with it. But already organised a meet there which was his first time aswell. All in all a brilliant night and havnt stopped going since. Apart from now obviously. God I can’t wait for them to re-open |
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I was super nervous on my first visit!
Walking in is the most scariest, however once I was in I felt at home! And wished I did it a long time ago.....
For me it’s a social place with likeminded people, playing is a bonus
Missing clubs sooo much! It’s a huge part of my life! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On our first visit, on the way there i was having a panic attack in the back of the taxi (mrs)...Chameleons Darlaston was the best club. Everyone including the staff were so friendly. Can't wait to go back for a night of pure indulgence and naughtiness.... "
Chameleons is a great place. People always friendly there and most are happy to chat. Met and had fun with couples and women. Patience is a virtue and dont be pushy either and you'll enjoy it! |
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Our first time to a club was with another couple. Mr was a little dubious about going but I was really excited. We had an amazing time and found our love of being watched. We went the following week and didn't miss a weekend after that life permitting. Can't wait for them to reopen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was very nervous, it was nothing like I had imagined but was lucky to be introduced by a gentleman who made my first experience everything it should have been, I never looked back and couldn’t get enough. It brought my body confidence on leaps and bounds too. Having been to a lot of different places I realise that the wrong co could have been a very different experience. Miss the getting dressed up and the exciting atmosphere of the whole club experience |
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"I was very nervous, it was nothing like I had imagined but was lucky to be introduced by a gentleman who made my first experience everything it should have been, I never looked back and couldn’t get enough. It brought my body confidence on leaps and bounds too. Having been to a lot of different places I realise that the wrong co could have been a very different experience. Miss the getting dressed up and the exciting atmosphere of the whole club experience "
Aaaahhhh that’s good just had a little peek at your photos you do have a fantastic body glad you have confidence now as you do look amazing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like to know what you thought when you first went to a swingers club and was it all you wanted
I watch a program the other week on a swingers club
And like to know what happened "
Nervous, worried someone we know was also attending and excited.
It was all we wanted and more. We booked our next trip shorty after returning to hotel room.
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A male friend took me but didn't tell me where we were going!!
He knew I was beginning to experiment after my divorce and when we arrived I was shocked but game...
I felt like I was on the set of a porn movie but had a wonderful time.
So much so I went back on my own...  |
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"I work next door to one in sunbury
Any one been there "
We have. That was our first visit (and only 1 of 2) to a non fetish club. It was pretty empty, lots of single blokes staring from a bit too close on every visit to the dungeon, but the night ended well right at the death in one of the couples only rooms. |
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By *ucianpoundCouple
over a year ago
Cap d’Agde, France |
We’ve been to about 30 in Europe and Canada.
The best ones have been in France where you usually get lavish buffets, unlimited wine and entry fees of 30-40 euros per couple.
Spanish clubs are great for dancing and play and we’ve never as a couple paid for entry.
Tend to prefer continental clubs to the UK where the emphasis is much more on socialising and having a good time whether that includes sex or not.
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By *murphMan
over a year ago
drogheda |
Was at a couple of clubs in uk best was Adam and Eve in Manchester they made you feel so welcome as a single guy was so nervous and didn’t know what to expect but met a couple who were regulars and really enjoyed it hot tub dark room it was great |
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I couldn’t believe how normal everyone was.
Wasn’t expecting it to be like that at all.
Didn’t find anyone to play with but it made us feel comfortable enough to go back again.
Still to play with others, but may be best to arrange to meet a couple there
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I went to my first club about 18 or so years ago. I was living in West London and the club was in Northampton. I'd found out about it through a contact mag. First visit was just social and a few drinks with lots of chatting. Next Saturday I went back and played a couple of times, after that I was there about 3 times a month for about 8 months  |
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Our first time was going to be quest but we found an old friend on here, which was a surprise, and she told us to come to Asylum in Rotherham. We arrived and after struggling to find the way in we were greeted by a warm red and black decor and rock music olayin. Ok not to bad a start as we both love rock and metal. Then we we greeted by the sight of a medical/ dental chair and the sounds of screaming echoing from upstairs. We both stopped dead thinking " what the fuck have we walked into" but continued in into the bar, slaps and screams still coming from the top of the stairs. Got to the bar and spotted the open fire blazing away and a few groups standing around . Some serious fetish gear on show and A few beautiful, topless girls just laughing together. We were introduced to some of the regulars and within 10 minutes we felt like we were home. Everyone was so open and welcoming. The fact that there was not a mobile e in sight was so refreshing and we rediscovered the lost art of conversation. The atmosphere was amazing and so seductive. Rhiannon and I decided to go play together even though we didn't know the etiquette. So we played in a room as passion took us over and didn't close the door. Later we send done to the bar again and one of the customers came and thanked us for the show. He had been watching, even making eye contact with rhi as I was going down on her but was so respectful he didn't even attempt to come into the room. Rhiannon and I aren't into BDSM at all and Asylum was a very junk orientated club but we were so at home and comfortable there that it became our weekly night out. We had our first mmfs there and our first 6 way. We really will miss it not covid has forced it to close |
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Our first time was Pandoras in Leeds, I was nervous going in but mrs wasn't lol. After about 30 mins we were comfortable and had a great night. We found we liked things we didnt know we liked before and loved going since..(until covid ) can't wait to go back and even try new ones |
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First time we went to a localish club we had talked about it for a while, We had been to a work colleagues birthday party not far away and we’re pretty tipsy. I pretty much dared mrs fun to go and to my shock she said ok.
We booked a taxi and got it to drop us off a bit further down the road out of embarrassment which went down like a lead balloon with mrs fun because she had heels on. We sobered up immediately on the journey there and never been so nervous in our lives.
However we got in had a couple of drinks and walked round pretty much watching what was going on in the various play rooms. It was such a turn of for us both and even though we didn’t play with anyone it pretty much opened a new door to our lives. We went back the next Saturday we loved it that much and have never looked back. |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
"I like to know what you thought when you first went to a swingers club and was it all you wanted
I watch a program the other week on a swingers club
And like to know what happened
We went to a well known Kent club with another couple a few years ago. Glad we went but it wasn't for us at all and although the club and people were fine, we won't be trying any more. Just not our thing."
I went to Eurekas on a hot summer's day with a fwb to meet another f from fab. There were caravans everywhere, some old dears were walking from their car to the entrance totally naked except for a towel on their arm with their packed lunch. Another old bloke sat on a bench and was eating a bbq hot dog in the nude. It was all very pleasant. Maybe a bit like going to Butlins, with some of the patrons akin to your aunt and uncle when you were a teenager as your parents had to work during the summer holidays. You know the sort of aunt and uncle you're not that familiar with as they moved to somewhere like Clacton or Yarmouth years go. The aunt and uncle try to ensure you have a good time but you just feel a tad out of place. In the evening your aunt and uncle ask if you fancy a cheeky wine to help you get into the party vibe. You accept and try to get shit faced and make the most of it. Then the DJ plays Peter Andre Mysterious Girl and the aunt and uncle think, right, let's have it large! They leap off their seats and uncle or Bazza as he likes to be called, unbuttons his shirt entirely and starts to mimic Peter Andre in the music video, sans six pack, sans rhythm, sans coordination... But you can't knock his enthusiasm. Aunt Janine meanwhile starts to grind her arse against Bazza. She gives his nob a cheeky grab and winks in my general direction whilst waving for me to get up and dance. Meanwhile another chap who also resembles an uncle comes up to Bazza and high fives him. Bazza whispers into Janine's ear who then spins around to greet uncle Paul from down the road in Maidstone. Suspecting this is all heading in a certain direction I head to the bar in search of a stiff drink. I go deaf as Hit Me Baby One More Time blasts out from the speaker. I grab my double smirnoff and find that the trio have disappeared. I'm not sure whether I'm relieved or horrified ar this point.
Anyway, not sure where this is going... This is not a factual account but is inspired by real events. The names and identities of the persons involved have been changed to ensure their privacy.
To sum up 8/10...I liked sunbathing naked and they played Justin Bieber.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Went on my own to Club29 in Leicester. Was very nervous and full of trepidation. Arrived at the same time as one of the clubs regulars who showed me round introduced me to people etc. Had a good night and just wish I'd stayed longer and not been as shy as I was.
Next time going to go for it more than I did before |
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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
It can all be very nervy the 1st time.
I worked at one back in 1988 (yes I'm that old) and I still get nervous going to a new one. Relax enjoy the view and go with no expectations that anything will happen or that you will be involved if it does. This applies to single guys, couples is a whole different ball game. I've been to clubs as single guy and part of a couple. |
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Club FA in Los Angeles 11 years ago. It's like a bigger version of Libs where the dance floor is where the socials happen. Played with 3 couples: a girl-next-door blonde; a sexy, petite Latina ala Eva Longoria; and a Lindsay Lohan look-a-like who was wearing a Laker girl cheering uniform!
"Lindsay" and bf went back to the hotel with us, and met again the next night before we left for San Diego.
We were very lucky to have met exceptional couples when we started, our 1st ever was a private meet with a WWF wrestler (non-star) and gf. So we kept looking for more similar experiences. |
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A long time ago, it wasn’t a swingers but a fetish club and I went alone. Dressed at home ordered a taxi (even though it was only a 15 minute walk away) and stepped into this new world of freaks and geeks .
I was on my own for some time, walking around looking at the games some people were playing with each other in public. Bondage, spankings etc..
Then a guy approached me as I was looking at a massive cross (or I should say crucifix) and asked if I wanted to be tied to it. Next thing I know I had said yes and I was strapped to this thing feeling helpless and embarrassed, also turned on. But nobody laughed or commented nastily, quite the opposite I got a few couples touching me up, after I indicated it was fine (I was gagged as well).
After that I got talking to a few people and had a great night (no sex, but that didn’t matter). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We went to Cupid’s first. Shitting ourselves and could only go during the day. Blown away by how nice the staff were and how friendly the other customers were. Massively positive first experience even if we didn’t do anything other than play together |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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a mixture of excitement and trepidation. My first MMF. Agreed to meet a couple at VA. We met in the car park and chatted there for a while which settled my nerves. The next three hours surpassed all my expectations and was a huge eye opener into the scene. Took me sometime to process the events of that evening! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got invited to a party at one just before lockdown. It was my first time going and guy friend came with me as he wanted to experience a club too. We had a great time and definitely want to try different clubs when they reopen |
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Was my (mr’s) idea to go one when we were on holiday in Salou. I figured no one would no us so zero risk.
We had great fun, didn’t play with anyone else just enjoyed being watched. At one point we stopped and looked up to find four couples stood round watching us play. Was a very hot night. |
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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago
harwich |
thats like going to a pub and saying it wasnt anygood so your never going to another clubs vary from proper full on nightclubs with djs and dance floor(va0 to suana clubs(kestrals) with the usual health club facilities to naturist places(eureekas) dont give up till youve tried some others |
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My first club visit was a genuine anti-climax. I couldn’t believe I could park right outside the front door, but I turned the engine off, counted to three, and almost ran to the door before I talked myself out of it. There weren’t many people in, but the bar staff were chatty enough, and I did get talking to one couple at the bar. Overall, I will always remember it as feeling like a Sunday afternoon in a working men’s club, as opposed to what I imagined a Friday night in a swingers’ club might be..... |
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We had a tour and went to bar, i went to get drinks at the bar and before i was back. the mrs was chatting to a cpl, they were confident enough to just ask us to play and 30min later we were all in a room and no issues
The next visit we were expecting the same, but not as easy at all.... |
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"Asylum in rotherham was my first club fully dressed up as Tammy was very nervous but got talking to people and was soon at ease. "
Not sure if we met you there . That place was one of a kind and will be missed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Asylum in rotherham was my first club fully dressed up as Tammy was very nervous but got talking to people and was soon at ease.
Not sure if we met you there . That place was one of a kind and will be missed"
Don't think we crossed paths would have liked to though. |
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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago
Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me |
Walked in stomach churning not knowing anything about the club lifestyle , turned out best trip I ever made ended up being offered a job on my second visit never looked back 4 years later still there ha ha missed it loads these days can't wait to get back  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would love to have someone to go with as a friend. Preferably female x"
Hubby and I attend Hu9...we would be more than happy if you wanted to join us when it reopens xx |
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By *essiCouple
over a year ago
suffolk |
Our first club was destiny's ( no longer open)
A small and friendly place where we met some lovely people and made some good friends also..were shown around and made to feel relaxed and welcome..it was the first of many visits there and to others also.. club Lick,eurekas and kestrals/abfabs..fun times  |
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"I work next door to one in sunbury
Any one been there "
The one you work next door to is our favourite.
We’ve been there more times than we can count and have some fabulous memories.
Been to many others and a few are close but that’s our favourite
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First time was much better than I expected, it was just like going to a real grown ups night out. Non judgemental people, smart, clean. Lots of varied tastes and clothing, funx, friendly and very exciting. Miss the clubs at the moment it was my escape from the real world x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Best experience I've ever had. I went with a couple I know with the intention of just seeing what it was all about. I had a message en route from a guy I'd met on here a few days previously and he followed us up. We only had eyes for each other the whole time we were there but it was so hot watching others and being watched. We didn't involve anyone else that night, but we went back together about a month later and got involved in group play. Can't wait for clubs to reopen so I can visit again! I'd happily go as a single female, but a chaperone is always nice |
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aberdeen club, now closed down.
It was not the most hygenic in term of the toilets or the hot tub.
it was a couples masquerade night.
it was pretty good but the people werent very welcoming to strangers.
just like the rest of the city folk so not entriely surprising.
put on a show in the vouyer room to great reception, then had a woman almost smash the dooe in asking to lick Mrs foo.
all in all it was a good sexual experience but not as welcomingnas expected.
No real surprise it closed down. |
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By *edGrayCouple
over a year ago
Swindon |
We were nervous and had to have a couple of drinks at the pub across the road before going in. When we got in we sat in the lounge area and chatted for a while, then got changed and had a stroll around the facilities. They had a sauna which we took advantage of and chatted to a few couples. Are fears of being mauled or made to have sex with people where pleasantly unfounded. It was just like any normal social interaction. We did not play with any one else, but had lots of fun in the Jacuzzi and a private play room. Unfortunately the club closed down a few years ago. |
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I’ve been to a few different clubs, numerous times over the last few years ..
Only once as a single guy and never again..
So different if you go with a swing buddy ..
Everyone just accepts you more ..
But single blokes have themselves to blame..
Some behaviour I've witnessed over the years is unbelievable..
Couples are very clique, and some single fems waltz round like mother hen, basking in the attention..
but look through all that and they are fun ..
I expected dirty tacky places, but these clubs are far from it..
I’d also recommend ones with proper licensed bars.. |
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"I’ve been to a few different clubs, numerous times over the last few years ..
Only once as a single guy and never again..
So different if you go with a swing buddy ..
Everyone just accepts you more ..
But single blokes have themselves to blame..
Some behaviour I've witnessed over the years is unbelievable..
Couples are very clique, and some single fems waltz round like mother hen, basking in the attention..
but look through all that and they are fun ..
I expected dirty tacky places, but these clubs are far from it..
I’d also recommend ones with proper licensed bars.."
I'd agree with you there mate
I go quite often as a single male, if you act properly smile and say hello and strike up a conversation it works, but with a swing budie it's more fluid and less threatening to most. Ofcourse, like a pub night. Your not going to click with everyone |
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"I’ve been to a few different clubs, numerous times over the last few years ..
Only once as a single guy and never again..
So different if you go with a swing buddy ..
Everyone just accepts you more ..
But single blokes have themselves to blame..
Some behaviour I've witnessed over the years is unbelievable..
Couples are very clique, and some single fems waltz round like mother hen, basking in the attention..
but look through all that and they are fun ..
I expected dirty tacky places, but these clubs are far from it..
I’d also recommend ones with proper licensed bars..
I'd agree with you there mate
I go quite often as a single male, if you act properly smile and say hello and strike up a conversation it works, but with a swing budie it's more fluid and less threatening to most. Ofcourse, like a pub night. Your not going to click with everyone "
Exactly my point ..
I’ve been in play room and guys just start wanking.. right in your personal space ..
Some guys act so differently around sex as to how they act in professional life |
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I sat in a jacuzzi with some lovely, friendly people.
I had a very strange shag with a stranger I have never seen since.
I won a bottle of champagne without even realising I had entered a competition. Unfortunately I don't like alcohol so I gave it away. Luke |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Id like to try for first time, do they all have a lounge/bar area you can go in fully clothed and just have a drink and chill?
If you then decide to explore then would understand changing to towel or shorts would be required. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Went to cupids, thing I always remember is people in various states of undress sitting on sofa drinking tea, whilst various activities went on around them |
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"Id like to try for first time, do they all have a lounge/bar area you can go in fully clothed and just have a drink and chill?
If you then decide to explore then would understand changing to towel or shorts would be required."
Yes the ones I’ve been to did ..
Then a bit later on people wander off and change, then return..
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"I’ve been to a few different clubs, numerous times over the last few years ..
Only once as a single guy and never again..
So different if you go with a swing buddy ..
Everyone just accepts you more ..
But single blokes have themselves to blame..
Some behaviour I've witnessed over the years is unbelievable..
Couples are very clique, and some single fems waltz round like mother hen, basking in the attention..
but look through all that and they are fun ..
I expected dirty tacky places, but these clubs are far from it..
I’d also recommend ones with proper licensed bars.."
We much prefer take your own drink. That way you can't drink too much and it's a cheaper night. It's only some couples who are clique, many will happily have a chat with anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Id like to try for first time, do they all have a lounge/bar area you can go in fully clothed and just have a drink and chill?
If you then decide to explore then would understand changing to towel or shorts would be required.
Yes the ones I’ve been to did ..
Then a bit later on people wander off and change, then return..
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Sounds ideal for my first visit, like the idea of fully clothed drink and relaxed chat to then decide if for me or not |
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"Id like to try for first time, do they all have a lounge/bar area you can go in fully clothed and just have a drink and chill?
If you then decide to explore then would understand changing to towel or shorts would be required.
Yes the ones I’ve been to did ..
Then a bit later on people wander off and change, then return..
Sounds ideal for my first visit, like the idea of fully clothed drink and relaxed chat to then decide if for me or not"
We're the same, we don't go to dress down clubs. |
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"I’ve been to a few different clubs, numerous times over the last few years ..
Only once as a single guy and never again..
So different if you go with a swing buddy ..
Everyone just accepts you more ..
But single blokes have themselves to blame..
Some behaviour I've witnessed over the years is unbelievable..
Couples are very clique, and some single fems waltz round like mother hen, basking in the attention..
but look through all that and they are fun ..
I expected dirty tacky places, but these clubs are far from it..
I’d also recommend ones with proper licensed bars..
We much prefer take your own drink. That way you can't drink too much and it's a cheaper night. It's only some couples who are clique, many will happily have a chat with anyone."
Apologies.. I wasn’t implying all couples..
Most were brilliant..
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We love em, especially when there's a social on at one. However me (Apey) papped my load first time, but was fine after I'd had a wander around (with my now wife )
Well worth a trip if you haven't tried one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Id like to try for first time, do they all have a lounge/bar area you can go in fully clothed and just have a drink and chill?
If you then decide to explore then would understand changing to towel or shorts would be required.
Yes the ones I’ve been to did ..
Then a bit later on people wander off and change, then return..
Sounds ideal for my first visit, like the idea of fully clothed drink and relaxed chat to then decide if for me or not
We're the same, we don't go to dress down clubs."
Sounds weird as happy to get naked to play, but just sat at bar half dressed would feel more uncomfortable |
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"I like to know what you thought when you first went to a swingers club and was it all you wanted
I watch a program the other week on a swingers club
And like to know what happened
We went to a well known Kent club with another couple a few years ago. Glad we went but it wasn't for us at all and although the club and people were fine, we won't be trying any more. Just not our thing.
I went to Eurekas on a hot summer's day with a fwb to meet another f from fab. There were caravans everywhere, some old dears were walking from their car to the entrance totally naked except for a towel on their arm with their packed lunch. Another old bloke sat on a bench and was eating a bbq hot dog in the nude. It was all very pleasant. Maybe a bit like going to Butlins, with some of the patrons akin to your aunt and uncle when you were a teenager as your parents had to work during the summer holidays. You know the sort of aunt and uncle you're not that familiar with as they moved to somewhere like Clacton or Yarmouth years go. The aunt and uncle try to ensure you have a good time but you just feel a tad out of place. In the evening your aunt and uncle ask if you fancy a cheeky wine to help you get into the party vibe. You accept and try to get shit faced and make the most of it. Then the DJ plays Peter Andre Mysterious Girl and the aunt and uncle think, right, let's have it large! They leap off their seats and uncle or Bazza as he likes to be called, unbuttons his shirt entirely and starts to mimic Peter Andre in the music video, sans six pack, sans rhythm, sans coordination... But you can't knock his enthusiasm. Aunt Janine meanwhile starts to grind her arse against Bazza. She gives his nob a cheeky grab and winks in my general direction whilst waving for me to get up and dance. Meanwhile another chap who also resembles an uncle comes up to Bazza and high fives him. Bazza whispers into Janine's ear who then spins around to greet uncle Paul from down the road in Maidstone. Suspecting this is all heading in a certain direction I head to the bar in search of a stiff drink. I go deaf as Hit Me Baby One More Time blasts out from the speaker. I grab my double smirnoff and find that the trio have disappeared. I'm not sure whether I'm relieved or horrified ar this point.
Anyway, not sure where this is going... This is not a factual account but is inspired by real events. The names and identities of the persons involved have been changed to ensure their privacy.
To sum up 8/10...I liked sunbathing naked and they played Justin Bieber. "
Look forward to seeing the film (provided it's not too long) |
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Our first club was in Amsterdam! Bit of a baptism of fire but still enjoyable experience x we didn’t swing but just people watched x next was Quest in Leeds x and it was fantastic and so relaxed x definitely our favourite place to be xx so nice to find people who think the same x |
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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago
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Ours was Arousal at its original location in Northampton. We stayed at a decent hotel a few miles away, caused a bit of commotion when Mrs waked through the busy reception with a see through micro dress and leather jacket
Jumped in a taxi, bit self conscious as we have the address and the driver either was playing with us or genuinely didn’t know, but he asked us loads of questions about what/where etc as it was in an otherwise deserted trading estate.
He dropped us outside this nondescript building with just a single door - we pressed the doorbell several times and waited for what seemed like an age before it opened, but in the meantime the taxi had disappeared. This was quite a while ago and we didn’t have phones on us for some reason. probably because we thought they would be lost or something.
Once we were in the nerves gradually faded and we were made to feel welcome. Played with a few people in a crowded voyeur room abd had a good time. When it came to hometown we asked reception to call a taxi but they couldn’t get one anywhere. Happily some lovely people gave us a (very squashed) ride back to the hotel otherwise don’t know what we would have done!
Still remains one of the better club nights we’ve had. |
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over a year ago
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First visit was to Chams....several years back with a lady from Droitwich. We were taken and showed around by another lady friend of mine and a random guy she invited to make up the numbers. Shown the roman/round room as the hub of action. ..but it was empty as still early....went back 10 mins later and still empty...so the four of us kicked things off....within 5 mins must have been 20 people in there!....much fun!! |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
My first visit was to la chambre in Sheffield
Much better than I expected
I felt really welcome and under no pressure at all,
We got a great tour round too and chatted to some lovely people in the tub.
Definitely want to try some more when it's safe to do so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First time going to a club in London by myself, super nervous but ended up having a real good time.
Met some wonderful people, just made me realise in life you just have to go for it. |
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Yes, they exceeded my expectations. Great nights out, good vibe, lovely people and had a lot of interest from people, plus the action was a bonus there and elsewhere afterwards.
Some people have perhaps had sheltered lives, without enough adventure or pushing limits. To really live, it's worth going outside of our comfort zones, having possibly some mistakes, though learning. It's a mix of social and sexual, you're not going in and auctioned for sex to any bidder that fancies you - even if it could make for a good night out  |
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Well, I was pretty nervous. Went on my own, not knowing anyone. Was wandering round the place checking it out and got dragged into a room by the most attractive couple in the place for some DP and then a play with the wife while hubby (and about 10 other people who suddenly appeared) watched. I then had to tap out because I'd run out of energy - I'd been pretty nervous all day before going so hadn't eaten then spent way too long in the sauna so I wasn't in peak condition haha
Went back to the same place a few weeks later and had a good time too but more social and less sexual.
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over a year ago
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Nervous, very nervous, what to wear and getting dressed up, drive there had butterfly’s, after being shown around and had a few drinks finally met a couple we liked..great atmosphere and everyone’s so friendly (Normally!) xx |
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Rosie has never been but Paul here has been going with ex partners for years since the 90s with fetish clubs and then swingers clubs. Preferred the old abfabs although could be clicky but overall as a couple had and will have again great fun except certain foreign pushy single males can spoil it in recent times. |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
Filthy Fuckeryville |
Not been on here much of late and just had a read of this thread....
Having worked in a couple of the North Wests busiest swingers clubs in the last few years, it's been lovely to welcome many of you to either or both those establishments - and I have seen a few faces on this thread who I remember their first time
I feel honoured and old at the same time ha ha ha |
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"For swingers events etc. Is it invite only? How do you get in the circles etc if you are new "
Most I think you just need to message and get your name down on the numbers list.
Just keep an eye on their pages/calendar of events. |
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Our first visit around 5 years ago was club f, was very nervous but the staff were excellent and really put us at ease, since then we’ve made a lot of trips to various clubs around the UK and further afield, made some good friends along the way too.
We love clubs especially the theme nights and can’t wait to get back to them again. |
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Our first visit to a club we sat in the car for 20 minutes and bottled it then drove for 2 hours to Utopia, walked it and had a great night with loads of friendly people and some fun with our first couple.
More recently we have been to Infusion for daytime fun and had some amazing experiences and can't wait to go clubbing again soon. |
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