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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So having had messages off a particular female who within 2 messages requested my mobile number I became cautious, I've previously had my mobile number distributed of a disgruntled meet I turned away after she cancelled 4 times.
I am not being told I am strange, that I have issues and acting oddly...... all because I am cautious about giving my number.....
As a 47 year old I believe she needs to get a grip, am I being unreasonable? |
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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago
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We don't give out our numbers, but we do have a payg sim especially for Fab. It was meant for if going to a meet and needing to contact the person were meeting, but then COVID got in the way. |
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"So having had messages off a particular female who within 2 messages requested my mobile number I became cautious, I've previously had my mobile number distributed of a disgruntled meet I turned away after she cancelled 4 times.
I am not being told I am strange, that I have issues and acting oddly...... all because I am cautious about giving my number.....
Would never give out a mobile number why do we need to with apps such as kik ?
As a 47 year old I believe she needs to get a grip, am I being unreasonable? "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So having had messages off a particular female who within 2 messages requested my mobile number I became cautious, I've previously had my mobile number distributed of a disgruntled meet I turned away after she cancelled 4 times.
I am not being told I am strange, that I have issues and acting oddly...... all because I am cautious about giving my number.....
As a 47 year old I believe she needs to get a grip, am I being unreasonable? "
No you are not being unreasonable. I don't give out my mobile number until a meet is arranged. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So having had messages off a particular female who within 2 messages requested my mobile number I became cautious, I've previously had my mobile number distributed of a disgruntled meet I turned away after she cancelled 4 times.
I am not being told I am strange, that I have issues and acting oddly...... all because I am cautious about giving my number.....
As a 47 year old I believe she needs to get a grip, am I being unreasonable? "
Not at all, you're being cautious which everyone should be. Yes, some will give out their number pretty much straight away, and that's entirely up to them. As is not giving it out. By her saying you're strange, have issues and are acting oddly, that reaction would be a red flag for us!  |
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No not unreasonable at all. I keep all my chat here until I'm comfortable to give out another messenger name and that takes a while. But I dont give out my personal number.
Other option is to have a fab number if you have a spare phone or duel sim phone.
I'd have been wary too to be asked that quickly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Did this person have her own thread about this the other day? 
I'm with you OP. No one gets my number unless I trust them implicitly. My Fab life and my real life are separate, and the opportunity for one to bleed into the other by giving my number freely is too great. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm glad its not just me who thinks its her thats acting strongly, I've been burnt before and asked for a face pic to make sure it wasn't the same person and apparently that's odd. Oh well the world takes all sorts |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Did this person have her own thread about this the other day?
I'm with you OP. No one gets my number unless I trust them implicitly. My Fab life and my real life are separate, and the opportunity for one to bleed into the other by giving my number freely is too great. "
Not that I had seen but possibly. I won't name and shame although I want to |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So having had messages off a particular female who within 2 messages requested my mobile number I became cautious, I've previously had my mobile number distributed of a disgruntled meet I turned away after she cancelled 4 times.
I am not being told I am strange, that I have issues and acting oddly...... all because I am cautious about giving my number.....
As a 47 year old I believe she needs to get a grip, am I being unreasonable? "
Nope, thats what kik is for. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Are you sure it was a woman OP?
Either way you're right to be cautious until you are comfortable - there are many platforms available to use that don't involve giving out your number but still allow for communication and indeed verification you are genuine.
Ultimately you do Fab, in any respect, how you choose to do it - if others have a problem with that, the problem is certainly not yours |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm glad its not just me who thinks its her thats acting strongly, I've been burnt before and asked for a face pic to make sure it wasn't the same person and apparently that's odd. Oh well the world takes all sorts "
I don't think it's unreasonable to ask for a face pic. You can be attracted to the body, but there has to be an attraction to the face too |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
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Agree with others.
I have given my number out but only for a meet and only after many messages on here. Don't see the need for other messaging mediums, fab works fine. |
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A few have my number and I've happily given it as well but thats purely because I've felt 100% secure with them.
If I had any doubts whatsoever then they won't get my number and its unlikely they would even get my kik. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So having had messages off a particular female who within 2 messages requested my mobile number I became cautious, I've previously had my mobile number distributed of a disgruntled meet I turned away after she cancelled 4 times.
I am not being told I am strange, that I have issues and acting oddly...... all because I am cautious about giving my number.....
As a 47 year old I believe she needs to get a grip, am I being unreasonable? "
Absolutely not.
I've been stung before by giving my number out. Just not worth it before you have met and trust someone, in my book  |
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By *irldnCouple
over a year ago
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Interesting thread but a view from other side - we will never meet anyone who is not prepared to give us their mobile number. For us refusal to do so is a red flag. Same goes for Kik. Just encourages fakes. |
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"So having had messages off a particular female who within 2 messages requested my mobile number I became cautious, I've previously had my mobile number distributed of a disgruntled meet I turned away after she cancelled 4 times.
I am not being told I am strange, that I have issues and acting oddly...... all because I am cautious about giving my number.....
As a 47 year old I believe she needs to get a grip, am I being unreasonable? "
I'm a "each to their own" kinda girl but ... in normal time I would expect to meet within a couple of weeks and exchange phone numbers within a few days of mailing. If that's an issue then I guess it's a no go .
This does not apply to the current situation of course as not meeting...so no rush
Oh and I'm no bunny boiler  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We absolutely don’t mind giving our number if asked. HOWEVER, only after a bit of a chat, some time on kik and a video chat confirming we are all legit. Kik does everything we want to anyway - make sure everyone is legit. It’s more than enough to begin with and don’t think OP is being unreasonable x |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
No you're not unresponsible at all I won't give outy phone number until after I have met someone and usually only if I have met someone more than once. I made that mistake before and won't again. |
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At the end of the day everyone to their own choices like everything in life. To me its a sign of the impatient non proper swingers on the site that think its just a free fuck site not knowing swinging is about more then just sex and sex is about more then just bumping uglies or rubbing knuckles whatever your prefered way of putting it is. Haters will hate, women seem to have this illusion they hold all the power wwhen getting sex but i love saying no to a woman |
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"So having had messages off a particular female who within 2 messages requested my mobile number I became cautious, I've previously had my mobile number distributed of a disgruntled meet I turned away after she cancelled 4 times.
I am not being told I am strange, that I have issues and acting oddly...... all because I am cautious about giving my number.....
As a 47 year old I believe she needs to get a grip, am I being unreasonable?
I'm a "each to their own" kinda girl but ... in normal time I would expect to meet within a couple of weeks and exchange phone numbers within a few days of mailing. If that's an issue then I guess it's a no go .
This does not apply to the current situation of course as not meeting...so no rush
Oh and I'm no bunny boiler "
are you the one hes on about lol |
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"So having had messages off a particular female who within 2 messages requested my mobile number I became cautious, I've previously had my mobile number distributed of a disgruntled meet I turned away after she cancelled 4 times.
I am not being told I am strange, that I have issues and acting oddly...... all because I am cautious about giving my number.....
As a 47 year old I believe she needs to get a grip, am I being unreasonable?
I'm a "each to their own" kinda girl but ... in normal time I would expect to meet within a couple of weeks and exchange phone numbers within a few days of mailing. If that's an issue then I guess it's a no go .
This does not apply to the current situation of course as not meeting...so no rush
Oh and I'm no bunny boiler are you the one hes on about lol"
lol I wish I was only 47 |
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"At the end of the day everyone to their own choices like everything in life. To me its a sign of the impatient non proper swingers on the site that think its just a free fuck site not knowing swinging is about more then just sex and sex is about more then just bumping uglies or rubbing knuckles whatever your prefered way of putting it is. Haters will hate, women seem to have this illusion they hold all the power wwhen getting sex but i love saying no to a woman"
Withholding your phone number is not about "power"
Some men won't give out theirs! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So having had messages off a particular female who within 2 messages requested my mobile number I became cautious, I've previously had my mobile number distributed of a disgruntled meet I turned away after she cancelled 4 times.
I am not being told I am strange, that I have issues and acting oddly...... all because I am cautious about giving my number.....
As a 47 year old I believe she needs to get a grip, am I being unreasonable? "
No you’re definitely not being unreasonable. I don’t give my number out until I’m about to meet someone. |
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See we are a couple & much prefer What's App because we can all be part of a group chat to see if we get on. Messages on here mean you don't know which part of a couple you are speaking with. Never used kik, can you do group chat on there the same? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never give my number out. Kik and Snapchat do the job fine. If someone can't download an app then that's their problem.
Gave my number out once to someone online in the past and that person ended up stalking me. So never doing that ever again. |
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"back in the day.. 10 pound pay as you go phone.. just for kinky contacts lol.. simples.. that way you can just switch it off"
I've had a "naughty phone" almost as long as a non naughty one.
Only since lock down has that SIM card been in a smart phone and that's only so I can tether laptops to the data allowance. Nothing like an old style Nokia with Talk and text only for keeping private life uncomplicated.
Bugger apps, social media and all the trouble that comes with them. I'm on Fab with a laptop when it suits me. wouldn't dream of having it on a phone. That way I stay out of trouble! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would accept a call from a withheld number only after face pic exchange and a bit of banter. Leaving fab to send more ping pong messages is pointless when we have Fab chat for free.
FYI WhatsApp just updated the T&C worth a read |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks all for your responses. I don't have an issue giving my number after a good conversation and some face pics but not after 2 messages. Since this thread has been going I have been told I am weird and not for her based on the fact I am cautions and have been blocked. Absolutely no skin off my nose.
Wishing you all good safe fab fun when possibly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Meh I give mine out .. easily blocked. I hate messaging on here and kik usually means they have something to hide. "
I don't disagree with you but the previous idiot who stood me up on several occasions and/or cancelled last minute decided to put my phone number on some forum and I received hundreds of calls and messages from guys, mostly explicit. Its for that reason I am now cautious with who I give it to but definitely not after 2 messages |
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"Thanks all for your responses. I don't have an issue giving my number after a good conversation and some face pics but not after 2 messages. Since this thread has been going I have been told I am weird and not for her based on the fact I am cautions and have been blocked. Absolutely no skin off my nose.
Wishing you all good safe fab fun when possibly."
Some people want it all and in the first 2 minutes.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What is the problem with giving out a number ?
A mobile number doesn’t show whereabouts you are, and if somebody becomes a phone pest you can just block them.
Very different to a land line.
I’ve had some people who won’t give a number yet they still expect me to give them my home address over the internet so they can come to me.
I bin them when that happens
It’s got to be reciprocal.
Got to be give and take here.
No mobile number = no address = no meet. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What is the problem with giving out a number ?
A mobile number doesn’t show whereabouts you are, and if somebody becomes a phone pest you can just block them.
Very different to a land line.
I’ve had some people who won’t give a number yet they still expect me to give them my home address over the internet so they can come to me.
I bin them when that happens
It’s got to be reciprocal.
Got to be give and take here.
No mobile number = no address = no meet. "
I'll go ahead and assume you've read non of my responses and the reasons why i am cautious then |
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"What is the problem with giving out a number ?
A mobile number doesn’t show whereabouts you are, and if somebody becomes a phone pest you can just block them.
Very different to a land line.
I’ve had some people who won’t give a number yet they still expect me to give them my home address over the internet so they can come to me.
I bin them when that happens
It’s got to be reciprocal.
Got to be give and take here.
No mobile number = no address = no meet. "
And what happens with a disgruntled party plasters your number all over the place? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So you people are happy to give out your address over the internet to somebody who hasn't even given a number ?
What happens when they plaster that all over the net ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Interesting thread but a view from other side - we will never meet anyone who is not prepared to give us their mobile number. For us refusal to do so is a red flag. Same goes for Kik. Just encourages fakes. "
Agreed. I no longer use kik, but then I rarely reply or even chat to anyone anyway! Prefer to use WhatsApp |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Kik is just another way for people to stay anonymous
Apart from it being a great place for time wasters to lurk, why would anybody give their actual physical address out to someone on kik who could be anybody anywhere ?
Giving a number offers something to the other party, and without that nobody is getting my home address.
I wouldn't trust anyone who refused.
And I would expect anybody else who accommodates to ask the same of me.
Without the people who do accommodate we would all be nowhere.
It's the least anyone can offer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is the problem with giving out a number ?
A mobile number doesn’t show whereabouts you are, and if somebody becomes a phone pest you can just block them.
Very different to a land line.
I’ve had some people who won’t give a number yet they still expect me to give them my home address over the internet so they can come to me.
I bin them when that happens
It’s got to be reciprocal.
Got to be give and take here.
No mobile number = no address = no meet.
And what happens with a disgruntled party plasters your number all over the place?"
So you would prefer to have your home address plastered all over the internet instead ?
Far better if that happens for it to be a number which can be changed rather than your address.
But then of course you don't accommodate and rely on others to do that. |
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We arrange all our meets via fab messenger and have never had a problem. We use kik occasionally but prefer everything being on here. Have had people ask for our number but it’s a firm no from us.
Lily |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone you was speaking sends you their number and said its okay to call using withheld number would you call? Redial option isn't available after you hang up.
"We arrange all our meets via fab messenger and have never had a problem. We use kik occasionally but prefer everything being on here. Have had people ask for our number but it’s a firm no from us.
Lily "
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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago
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I gave out my number once and it was the biggest mistake I ever made
Within days photo's were sent to me of my parents my kids and my brothers and sisters from my fb account
I forgot to unlink it and they wanted money or they'd send my private pics to my family
So no keep your number private if you want to |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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"Kik is just another way for people to stay anonymous
Apart from it being a great place for time wasters to lurk, why would anybody give their actual physical address out to someone on kik who could be anybody anywhere ?
Giving a number offers something to the other party, and without that nobody is getting my home address.
I wouldn't trust anyone who refused.
And I would expect anybody else who accommodates to ask the same of me.
Without the people who do accommodate we would all be nowhere.
It's the least anyone can offer."
I don't give out my number as I said previously. I can accommodate if I want but I choose not to especially when I meet anyone new. I have had 2 people to where I live because I had met them several times and trust them. I would also never go to anyones house for a first meet. I did that once and never again will I.
There are plenty of ways to meet without one having to accomadate.
Run your profile the way you want of others don't suit then pass them by. |
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"What is the problem with giving out a number ?
A mobile number doesn’t show whereabouts you are, and if somebody becomes a phone pest you can just block them.
Very different to a land line.
I’ve had some people who won’t give a number yet they still expect me to give them my home address over the internet so they can come to me.
I bin them when that happens
It’s got to be reciprocal.
Got to be give and take here.
No mobile number = no address = no meet.
And what happens with a disgruntled party plasters your number all over the place?
So you would prefer to have your home address plastered all over the internet instead ?
Far better if that happens for it to be a number which can be changed rather than your address.
But then of course you don't accommodate and rely on others to do that."
How very presumptuous and judgemental of you. Yes you are correct, I do not accommodate but I certainly DO NOT rely on others to do so. I am more than happy to pay for a hotel if the occasion arises. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Kik is just another way for people to stay anonymous
Apart from it being a great place for time wasters to lurk, why would anybody give their actual physical address out to someone on kik who could be anybody anywhere ?
Giving a number offers something to the other party, and without that nobody is getting my home address.
I wouldn't trust anyone who refused.
And I would expect anybody else who accommodates to ask the same of me.
Without the people who do accommodate we would all be nowhere.
It's the least anyone can offer."
Not sure how Kik would be any more anonymous than a cheap "Fab" PAYG phone to be honest - could still be anyone, anywhere too!!
Truth is you can never 100% trust anyone you've not met before to be who they say they are regardless of the media they choose to use or not.
Ultimately it comes down to individual risk assessment and levels of comfort - and I certainly wouldn't be comfortable giving my number to someone I didn't have a level of trust with, and certainly not someone where I didn't have that who "insisted" I give it and if that meant I potentially missed out then so be it - would rather trust my own instincts and be safe than risk it for the sake of a meet.
Truth be known I do give my number to people I trust and have built that level of trust with over a period of time, and in fact insist on giving it to people I am meeting for their own security, regardless of whether they give me their number in return.
There are however many reliable means of verifying if someone is genuine that do not involve giving out your number - so just because someone is not comfortable doing so doesn't mean they are untrustworthy.
There is no single "right" way to this though, only what each individual sees as their "way" and that should be respected - if their way doesn't match yours then you either find a compromise or move on - it really is that simple. |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Meh I give mine out .. easily blocked. I hate messaging on here and kik usually means they have something to hide. "
I'm with you on that one... I give out my number quite freely. In fact I insist on speaking on phone before a meet so their number registers on my phone. This is in case they turn out to be an axe murderer! Police won't be able to trace Kik... |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Everyone has an old phone and PAYG sims are free and rally cheap so whats the issue in reality?  "
I think in the vast majority of cases there is no issue - but boils down to levels of comfort as to when/who you give your number to someone, as well as levels of expectation of others that you'll hand it out.
Would I give my number to someone I just started chatting to? Not at all.
Would I give it to someone I've spent a degree of time chatting to and will potentially meet at some point? Maybe, but would depend on an individual basis as to my level of comfort with doing so.
Would I give it to someone I have arranged to meet? I actually insist on doing so for their own security.
Although to turn your point around - a number messaging apps allow video calling and voice calling without the need for a number so what's the issue with them instead of giving out a number? |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
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It's not being unreasonable but at times you notice the genuine ones don't know if it's just myself but something that can get picked up pretty quickly I've been fortunate enough to receive or send without any further issues and I feel grateful with those who agreed and it shows not everyone is unhinged |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Meh I give mine out .. easily blocked. I hate messaging on here and kik usually means they have something to hide.
I'm with you on that one... I give out my number quite freely. In fact I insist on speaking on phone before a meet so their number registers on my phone. This is in case they turn out to be an axe murderer! Police won't be able to trace Kik..."
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A very good point if you accommodate.
Lunatics can be traced by a number even a PAYG one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is the problem with giving out a number ?
A mobile number doesn’t show whereabouts you are, and if somebody becomes a phone pest you can just block them.
Very different to a land line.
I’ve had some people who won’t give a number yet they still expect me to give them my home address over the internet so they can come to me.
I bin them when that happens
It’s got to be reciprocal.
Got to be give and take here.
No mobile number = no address = no meet.
And what happens with a disgruntled party plasters your number all over the place?
So you would prefer to have your home address plastered all over the internet instead ?
Far better if that happens for it to be a number which can be changed rather than your address.
But then of course you don't accommodate and rely on others to do that.
How very presumptuous and judgemental of you. Yes you are correct, I do not accommodate but I certainly DO NOT rely on others to do so. I am more than happy to pay for a hotel if the occasion arises. "
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Sure you are
Never met a woman yet who would pay for a hotel room.
That's always the man's job. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I am more than happy to pay for a hotel if the occasion arises.
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Sure you are
Never met a woman yet who would pay for a hotel room.
That's always the man's job."
"Always the man's job"? I beg to differ, I certainly don't see it as my job, and every single meet I have had that has involved a hotel (and there have been a few) costs have been split evenly down the middle. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Meh I give mine out .. easily blocked. I hate messaging on here and kik usually means they have something to hide.
I'm with you on that one... I give out my number quite freely. In fact I insist on speaking on phone before a meet so their number registers on my phone. This is in case they turn out to be an axe murderer! Police won't be able to trace Kik...
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A very good point if you accommodate.
Lunatics can be traced by a number even a PAYG one."
They can also be traced via an IP address which is what the likes of Kik etc use to make the connection |
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Nope. Perfectly fine to keep it private for now.
Why does she need it so desperately anyway, I'm sure there are plenty of other ways to contact you.
If it bothers her that much, I'd have to wonder why, and it's probably be a red flag. |
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"Agree with using kiksame thing requires number no chance
Kik doesn't need a number - works off usernames "
Yep, that is the 'only' good thing about kik.
I like to use that, till I've got to know someone, then I'm happy to move to a decent platform. |
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"What is the problem with giving out a number ?
A mobile number doesn’t show whereabouts you are, and if somebody becomes a phone pest you can just block them.
Very different to a land line.
I’ve had some people who won’t give a number yet they still expect me to give them my home address over the internet so they can come to me.
I bin them when that happens
It’s got to be reciprocal.
Got to be give and take here.
No mobile number = no address = no meet.
And what happens with a disgruntled party plasters your number all over the place?
So you would prefer to have your home address plastered all over the internet instead ?
Far better if that happens for it to be a number which can be changed rather than your address.
But then of course you don't accommodate and rely on others to do that.
How very presumptuous and judgemental of you. Yes you are correct, I do not accommodate but I certainly DO NOT rely on others to do so. I am more than happy to pay for a hotel if the occasion arises.
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Never met a woman yet who would pay for a hotel room.
That's always the man's job."
I disagree! I've paid for hotels in the past. Sometimes I pay or we share the costs.
Everyone has their ways of doing things in this site.
Given some of the messages that I receive from some men continuously on a daily basis, I can only imagine what it would be like if I gave out my mobile number.
We are very discreet about swinging. Our friends and family have no idea about our lifestyle and that's our choice. That is how we choose to do things.
I don't send face pics either! Again I have my reasons for that. If people don't like the way I run my profile they can just walk on by. |
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over a year ago
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"Everyone has an old phone and PAYG sims are free and rally cheap so whats the issue in reality? "
What's more hassle? Downloading a chat app or purchasing a second sim just for fab?
Seriously, the end result is the same. This whole "I don't do chat apps" nonsense comes from people who probably still use AOL internet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So you people are happy to give out your address over the internet to somebody who hasn't even given a number ?
What happens when they plaster that all over the net ?"
Nope. We never meet others at home |
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"So having had messages off a particular female who within 2 messages requested my mobile number I became cautious, I've previously had my mobile number distributed of a disgruntled meet I turned away after she cancelled 4 times.
I am not being told I am strange, that I have issues and acting oddly...... all because I am cautious about giving my number.....
As a 47 year old I believe she needs to get a grip, am I being unreasonable? "
Definitely not unreasonable, we never give our mobile numbers out. We did it naively when we first started on fab and had a very bad experience. |
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"So having had messages off a particular female who within 2 messages requested my mobile number I became cautious, I've previously had my mobile number distributed of a disgruntled meet I turned away after she cancelled 4 times.
I am not being told I am strange, that I have issues and acting oddly...... all because I am cautious about giving my number.....
As a 47 year old I believe she needs to get a grip, am I being unreasonable? "
Separate phone for swinging fun, best way. |
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"What is the problem with giving out a number ?
A mobile number doesn’t show whereabouts you are, and if somebody becomes a phone pest you can just block them.
Very different to a land line.
I’ve had some people who won’t give a number yet they still expect me to give them my home address over the internet so they can come to me.
I bin them when that happens
It’s got to be reciprocal.
Got to be give and take here.
No mobile number = no address = no meet.
And what happens with a disgruntled party plasters your number all over the place?
So you would prefer to have your home address plastered all over the internet instead ?
Far better if that happens for it to be a number which can be changed rather than your address.
But then of course you don't accommodate and rely on others to do that.
How very presumptuous and judgemental of you. Yes you are correct, I do not accommodate but I certainly DO NOT rely on others to do so. I am more than happy to pay for a hotel if the occasion arises.
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Never met a woman yet who would pay for a hotel room.
That's always the man's job."
Seriously......
I am more than able to pay for myself....never have and never will expect a man to do so. |
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"Just have a burner phone for fab / random stuff. Throw it in a draw when not needing it. "
As above its not the fact that I wouldn't give out my number its just the manner in which it was demanded after 2 messages and then to get told its me thats acting strange and like a jerk because I'm cautious was the original point. X |
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By *eeavWoman
over a year ago
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Had a few tell me I’m strange if I don’t give number I’ve said I do a social meet first and if goes okay and feel comfortable then swap numbers but have had the odd ones question if I’m real then because of it I’m just careful as things have happened in the past and you learn from it |
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By *olly_AmberTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Just delete message block user as an idiot Is what I do . "
Feels a very sensible things to do. But then if you gave out your number think of all the random calls you would get and the unsolicited dick pics |
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"So having had messages off a particular female who within 2 messages requested my mobile number I became cautious, I've previously had my mobile number distributed of a disgruntled meet I turned away after she cancelled 4 times.
I am not being told I am strange, that I have issues and acting oddly...... all because I am cautious about giving my number.....
As a 47 year old I believe she needs to get a grip, am I being unreasonable? "
I don't give my phone number out until I've met someone and they are a friend, i have to have known them a while and met them lots of times, socially aswell as a swinging meet.
There's one exception to that but it's someone I've chatted to a lot and they are a trusted friend. |
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Do what is right for you. Some people feel more trusting if they have a number or are perhaps wary of cheats, who lie - there are many reasons.
It's worth getting a dual SIM phone when we renew them, so we can have a PAYG sim just for fab, where you can't be traced etc.
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There are apps that are reasonable instead of using a number |
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over a year ago
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Seems to be frowned at with online dating . No different to giving a number at the end of night in a pub /club . Probably even better because if video chat , no filters or hiding behind a great set of chebs |
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Sometimes I'll hand out my number but equally often suggest a lady withholds hers if shes going to call me until we meet or she want to do so. Creating a bit more safety having seen the Mrs get abuse. (Her number seldom gets handed over before meeting to single guys) |
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"What is the problem with giving out a number ?
A mobile number doesn’t show whereabouts you are, and if somebody becomes a phone pest you can just block them.
Very different to a land line.
I’ve had some people who won’t give a number yet they still expect me to give them my home address over the internet so they can come to me.
I bin them when that happens
It’s got to be reciprocal.
Got to be give and take here.
No mobile number = no address = no meet.
And what happens with a disgruntled party plasters your number all over the place?
So you would prefer to have your home address plastered all over the internet instead ?
Far better if that happens for it to be a number which can be changed rather than your address.
But then of course you don't accommodate and rely on others to do that.
How very presumptuous and judgemental of you. Yes you are correct, I do not accommodate but I certainly DO NOT rely on others to do so. I am more than happy to pay for a hotel if the occasion arises.
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Never met a woman yet who would pay for a hotel room.
That's always the man's job.
Seriously......
I am more than able to pay for myself....never have and never will expect a man to do so."
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I had to delete my kik as some cock jockey kept pinging all day which I’d said not to as I was with my children. I didn’t dare open the messages incase there was any nudes. Blocked him first but then he made a new account and tried again. I give up with apps and definitely not be giving out my number to any Tom, dick or Harry. Like I’ve said to people I’d sooner meet at a club anyway so they don’t need to have it! We just need it to be safe so that clubs can open their doors again |
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"Just have a burner phone for fab / random stuff. Throw it in a draw when not needing it. "
I have an old mobile kept solely for use as my 'fun phone' - tucked away in a cupboard, it sits in its box with the battery taken out until needed...
....obviously, it's not been needed for quite a while now - fortunately, last month I remembered to switch it on and send a text to my 'normal' phone so the PAYG SIM didn't get deactivated... |
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"So having had messages off a particular female who within 2 messages requested my mobile number I became cautious, I've previously had my mobile number distributed of a disgruntled meet I turned away after she cancelled 4 times.
I am not being told I am strange, that I have issues and acting oddly...... all because I am cautious about giving my number.....
As a 47 year old I believe she needs to get a grip, am I being unreasonable? "
I never give out my number to a meet on fab. They have to be someone I see as a friend. And never ever would I give my number to a potential meet |
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