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By *etro1940s OP Couple
over a year ago
Kingston upon Thames |
Just being "vanilla plus". We are very aware that many couples are not straight on their profiles. We respect that. But sometimes we appear to have difficulty meeting couples who are clear about their status or assume that the default must be bi curious. As LGBTQ+ champions in our non-Fab life this is curious in this space. A respectful thought bubble.
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We don’t really understand the question, but think we are grasping at it. Apologies if we’ve misinterpreted.
From our perspective as a bi fem straight male couple, we do generally assume that most other couples or single girls here and in clubs etc are the same, this is based on the experience that in the vast majority of cases they are.
That’s not to say however that we do anything with that assumption other than initially assume it. If we’re attracted to someone we absolutely talk, approach respectfully and see how things play out, same as we would regardless of sex or gender. If we’re not their bag due to attraction, sexuality or play compatibility that’s fine and usually clear very quickly.
To be honest with other girls I’m more cautious and less comfortable than with a guy as I don’t want to offend, and I’m terrible at reading signs!
With regards to group fun with straight couples which I think is the question, we don’t really play like that so it wouldn’t suit us, although on occasion it might. however we would be clear from the get go how we play, and have never had an issue. As everything in this lifestyle it’s all down to communication. |
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By *etro1940s OP Couple
over a year ago
Kingston upon Thames |
"We don’t really understand the question, but think we are grasping at it. Apologies if we’ve misinterpreted.
From our perspective as a bi fem straight male couple, we do generally assume that most other couples or single girls here and in clubs etc are the same, this is based on the experience that in the vast majority of cases they are.
That’s not to say however that we do anything with that assumption other than initially assume it. If we’re attracted to someone we absolutely talk, approach respectfully and see how things play out, same as we would regardless of sex or gender. If we’re not their bag due to attraction, sexuality or play compatibility that’s fine and usually clear very quickly.
To be honest with other girls I’m more cautious and less comfortable than with a guy as I don’t want to offend, and I’m terrible at reading signs!
With regards to group fun with straight couples which I think is the question, we don’t really play like that so it wouldn’t suit us, although on occasion it might. however we would be clear from the get go how we play, and have never had an issue. As everything in this lifestyle it’s all down to communication. "
Thanks for the response. We may have mixed two issues. We have been urged to steer into the bi space for Anne quite a few times, but have been respectful. The group play zone has been a feature of our interest in bukkake and/or gangbang. Appreciate the well written contribution. x A&G
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over a year ago
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I'm actually bi fem. But says straight on my profile. Have couple profile also with my fella. Both profiles used to be bi for myself and straight for J. But I found it to much pressure to play with both fem and male.
So changed to straight, but if we meet couples I go on how I feel at time without the pressure of having to play with the female. Not sure that makes any sense. |
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"I'm actually bi fem. But says straight on my profile. Have couple profile also with my fella. Both profiles used to be bi for myself and straight for J. But I found it to much pressure to play with both fem and male.
So changed to straight, but if we meet couples I go on how I feel at time without the pressure of having to play with the female. Not sure that makes any sense. "
This is exactly how I feel only you put it into words better than I ever could. I went through a period of being straight on our profile because the conversation always seemed to revolve around female play be compulsory.
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Never let people pressure you into feeling one of you has to play bi. There are many straight couples on here and even bi couples that happily play straight and respect other’s boundaries. We are bi but always happy to play with a straight couple and would never expect anything from them that was not previously discussed or agreed upon.
Lily |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm actually bi fem. But says straight on my profile. Have couple profile also with my fella. Both profiles used to be bi for myself and straight for J. But I found it to much pressure to play with both fem and male.
So changed to straight, but if we meet couples I go on how I feel at time without the pressure of having to play with the female. Not sure that makes any sense.
This is exactly how I feel only you put it into words better than I ever could. I went through a period of being straight on our profile because the conversation always seemed to revolve around female play be compulsory.
Lily"
Exactly how I felt. Especially playing as single female. Couples especially can get rather possessive about single female, like they own you. Clubs and group fun bit diff as alot playing together u can join in or not.
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"Just being "vanilla plus". We are very aware that many couples are not straight on their profiles. We respect that. But sometimes we appear to have difficulty meeting couples who are clear about their status or assume that the default must be bi curious. As LGBTQ+ champions in our non-Fab life this is curious in this space. A respectful thought bubble.
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I am a bi female but on our profile i say don’t mind if the Lady does not want that |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Never let people pressure you into feeling one of you has to play bi. There are many straight couples on here and even bi couples that happily play straight and respect other’s boundaries. We are bi but always happy to play with a straight couple and would never expect anything from them that was not previously discussed or agreed upon.
Lily"
This is spot on  |
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By *etro1940s OP Couple
over a year ago
Kingston upon Thames |
"I'm actually bi fem. But says straight on my profile. Have couple profile also with my fella. Both profiles used to be bi for myself and straight for J. But I found it to much pressure to play with both fem and male.
So changed to straight, but if we meet couples I go on how I feel at time without the pressure of having to play with the female. Not sure that makes any sense. "
totally does ... it is very much how things evolve on the day and with the person/s
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By *etro1940s OP Couple
over a year ago
Kingston upon Thames |
"Just being "vanilla plus". We are very aware that many couples are not straight on their profiles. We respect that. But sometimes we appear to have difficulty meeting couples who are clear about their status or assume that the default must be bi curious. As LGBTQ+ champions in our non-Fab life this is curious in this space. A respectful thought bubble.
I am a bi female but on our profile i say don’t mind if the Lady does not want that "
such a sensible and respectful reassurance for some |
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By *etro1940s OP Couple
over a year ago
Kingston upon Thames |
"Never let people pressure you into feeling one of you has to play bi. There are many straight couples on here and even bi couples that happily play straight and respect other’s boundaries. We are bi but always happy to play with a straight couple and would never expect anything from them that was not previously discussed or agreed upon.
Lily"
that little word "respect" that goes such a long way |
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