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Tips on finding a domme to submit to
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Hi guys, I’m looking for advice. I am very keen to find a lady who wishes to dominate me. I’m usually a confident guy but have a deep desire to be ruled, controlled and used for another’s pleasure.
I’m open to discussion and tips on best places to find a domme arrangement.
Any help would be appreciated.
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"Hi guys, I’m looking for advice. I am very keen to find a lady who wishes to dominate me. I’m usually a confident guy but have a deep desire to be ruled, controlled and used for another’s pleasure.
I’m open to discussion and tips on best places to find a domme arrangement.
Any help would be appreciated.
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Personally I’d be very open to testing my limits. I’m very open minded and would want to serve them well and not disappoint. I get so much pleasure from pleasing that I think my limits would exceed their requirements. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most dommes on here are now just looking for subscribers to of or similar and probably aren't actually looking to meet unless it's paid for "
That is probably true. but not necessarily the case! |
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Why don't you try finding a lady who is open minded and willing to try things with you or who already has experience if you're lucky rather than specifically looking for a 'domme'. People aren't defined by their roles, and there are also sooooo many different types of domme it also depends what you want. Somewhere like fetlife is probably better than fab as at the very least you know if they're on there then they're a little bit kinky. Try joining a local munch (alot are being ran virtually ATM) and actually meeting people and it may help you. |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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It depends on what OP means by submission and domination.
First most dommes would want to know that the sub is not topping from the bottom and insisting on the domme providing the sub's requirements, rather than the sub fulfilling the domme's requirements.
Second if the sub's requirements are sexual then it would be better to look on here under pegging rather than on FL.
Third if OP genuinely wish to submit to a domme OP should be aware that male subs are plentiful on the scene and have a frustrating time meeting dommes. However in London and most larger cities pre Covid there were Mistresses nights where submissive men could serve dommes and wannabee dommes. But there is no guarantee of anything further but it is a taster, Google is your friend post covid.
I have heard that out of frustration some sub men visit pro dommes. These services from reputable pro dommes are not sexual.
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Thanks everyone for your in depth guidance and tips.
I have a lot to learn and I guess my desire is for mutual fun whereas I am the subject of use for another’s pleasure.
My limits currently are to be determined but hopefully I can start my journey and with a partner whom is happy to join me for the ride.
I’ll check some sites and research “munches” haha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I posted this awhile ago on the Scotland forums but you may find it useful....
What kind of domme are you looking for? A paid one? Someone to Top you? D/s relationship? FLR?
What you are looking for will depend on how you can go about looking for one.
A paid dominatrix - there are dungeons in Edinburgh and Glasgow with a variety of paid dommes working out of them. There are also Kik groups with paid dommes if you are more into control over pain
Someone to Top - this means BDSM play without the D/s or control aspects. Make friends on Fet or try the BDSM discord groups. Best is to go to munches (non-kinky kink meets) but those aren’t happening right now so it will be harder than usual
A D/s relationship- you have to be valuable to us. And think if you are being more self-centred than domme-centred. Serve and you may receive. Also I meet my partner on Tinder and he helped flick the Domme switch. It can happen! There are also code words to use in dating profiles (eg 5’11” or 3’2” on my knees)
Female Led Relationship (FLR) - D/s in and out of the bedroom - sometimes does not involve BDSM. Much harder to achieve but there are forums, discords devoted to this you can post on |
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Wow I honestly can’t thank you enough for the time and effort you have put in to your post. Thank you! This site is so go for helping others.
Based on what you have said... I think I like the idea of a relationship where I’m controlled and told to arrive somewhere and provide pleasure in any way they desire even if it is at my expense. I like the idea of water sports, face sitting, etc. But I’m very keen to train and push my boundaries as I’m sure the ones I have listed above are quite tame.
Thank you once again. Your partner is a very lucky man.
Seriously thank you for the education and the leads for starting my journey.
"I posted this awhile ago on the Scotland forums but you may find it useful....
What kind of domme are you looking for? A paid one? Someone to Top you? D/s relationship? FLR?
What you are looking for will depend on how you can go about looking for one.
A paid dominatrix - there are dungeons in Edinburgh and Glasgow with a variety of paid dommes working out of them. There are also Kik groups with paid dommes if you are more into control over pain
Someone to Top - this means BDSM play without the D/s or control aspects. Make friends on Fet or try the BDSM discord groups. Best is to go to munches (non-kinky kink meets) but those aren’t happening right now so it will be harder than usual
A D/s relationship- you have to be valuable to us. And think if you are being more self-centred than domme-centred. Serve and you may receive. Also I meet my partner on Tinder and he helped flick the Domme switch. It can happen! There are also code words to use in dating profiles (eg 5’11” or 3’2” on my knees)
Female Led Relationship (FLR) - D/s in and out of the bedroom - sometimes does not involve BDSM. Much harder to achieve but there are forums, discords devoted to this you can post on"
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To find a Dominant woman , one must find a woman first ...
She will have no doubt had a thousand offers of subservience this week alone if she has let slip in anyway her desire to Dominate on such a site as this or any other ..
Truly if your just looking for an experience .. find a pro Dom .. a session can be tailored around your needs ..
My partner is a Dominant sexual sadist and I am not a masochist.. Go figure how that works ..
It’s not a bad thing in fact we love each other for it ..
I would never try to put anyone of trying . I would just say , it’s as much about the mental side than merely getting ones rocks off .
Just my opinion
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By *arah_11TV/TS
over a year ago
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"Most dommes on here are now just looking for subscribers to of or similar and probably aren't actually looking to meet unless it's paid for
That’s against site rules. "
Doesn't mean that it's not done. Profile on my near me has reappeared after one week with another new profile promoting herself |
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