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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When meeting up with a couple have you ever got or had feelings for the wife or the husband of the couple and how did you deal with the situation.
Have had this happen once and I walked away doing the right thing x
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope, never.
Have had male halfs of cpls get all stalkerish and try to get me to meet them alone..... This is the main reason I dont meet couples for mff now. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Couple of years ago, my first ever threesome, my first time on fab, my first ever experience with a woman.
Had a great night with her and her ex partner at a club, went back to theirs, everything was fine-we had a great night!
She then suggested that me and him play alone on other occasions. Being open minded and with them being on fab in the first place (both of them having seperate accounts) I presumed that they were fine and very relaxed about these kind of things-that it was normal for them!
He told her he had more feelings for me than just sex, she went crazy, i got the rough end! Having only met the bloke a couple of times and never given any encouragement, it was a bit of a shock!
I suppose it was naive of me and I should have been less surprised, needless to say that was the last time I was in contact with them.
Put me off meeting couples for a LONG time!
Can't keep me off fab for too long though  |
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Odd dynamics between married people is why I no longer play with couples unless I'm with a trusted fb.
It can feel very scary to realise you're in the middle of a domestic 
And there was also the couple I met in a club with a friend... I was getting less and less happy with the m, looked round for support to my friend to see clothes were still on and much conversation going on. My friend also looked perturbed. Turns our it was their first date and he told her he 'knew a club she would love'... |
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ive got friends who im seregate wife to the husband while shes away. She trusts me and him completly. Dont think i could go behind someones back, in fact on the rare occasion i do meet a couple i tend to try and make friends with the female more so so that she wouldnt see me as a threat |
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"Odd dynamics between married people is why I no longer play with couples unless I'm with a trusted fb.
It can feel very scary to realise you're in the middle of a domestic
And there was also the couple I met in a club with a friend... I was getting less and less happy with the m, looked round for support to my friend to see clothes were still on and much conversation going on. My friend also looked perturbed. Turns our it was their first date and he told her he 'knew a club she would love'... "
I've never been in that position but I would walk away. There are plenty more fish in the sea, it's too much aggro and, if things happened to work out with the person long term, how would you explain how you met?
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They knew each other from work, but it was their first date. I would have thought the cinema or a meal would have been more suitable than chameleons on couples night!
No wonder she didn't want to play...
Though I think it was a lucky escape (if a shocking and hard way to find it) as he was a selfish, grabby self-centred and thoughtless lover. And probably the same went for his entire personality.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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have met a couple, not through here hasten to add a few yrs ago who after meeting a few times as a threesome. she then asked to meet alone for some one on ones with his permission so i was told at first (had no reason not to trust them/her) then once had met a couple of times one on one she confessed she didn't like him anymore as he had been having an affair with a much younger woman. and hadn't told him about us meeting and had fallen for me. I was quite shocked and told her i didn't have feelings like that for her, she was a good friend never saw her again for sex as thought it to be wrong and didn't want to get messed up in it.
They did get divorced eventually sometime later, she is a friend now but nothing more, so it does happen.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it happens more than you think..
look at the number of singles profiles thats say
'was on here as a couple. now single looking for fun' a lot of the time its because the other half has gone off with someone else.. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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Are these problems any different from situations you might experience as a couple meeting a couple, though?
Anything outside the 'vanilla' norm of sexual relations has the potential to be emotionally confusing for people. The thing is, people need to be true to themselves about what they want from swinging. And probably they have no idea how they will react until they are in the situation themselves.
Must be awful for everyone involved in a meet if things feel wrong, and our hearts go out to any singles who find themselves in uncomfortable situations like the ones outlined above. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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good question
its happened to me 3 times
wife met someone now both vanilla and we best of mates
last 2 girlfriends who were swingers left for other swingers but since then moved on .... also best of friends
i think it the swinging life style you meet so many people sods law its going to happen
but its your mind set i dont like to row dont do negative thoughts i just move on  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met a couple quite a time ago and they were really good people but she was definitely more into me than her other half.. Made me feel a bit uncomfortable to be honest |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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No... Never to the point where I wanted to meet one half without the other....
When I play with couples I look at them as a joint entity .... If I did find myself getting attached I would walk away.. No buts! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no never
im not looking for anyone and to be honest im quite a cold person when it comes to feelings so its not something that has ever happened to me
I doubt it ever will, be them single or part of a couple |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When meeting up with a couple have you ever got or had feelings for the wife or the husband of the couple and how did you deal with the situation.
Have had this happen once and I walked away doing the right thing x
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No but have talked to a number of men who have been pestered to death by the female half of a couple to meet on their own.
Its made me tend to stick to meeting singles as its far less problematic. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I don't meet couples, so manage to avoid that thorny issue.
I have had a couple of single guys getting a bit possessive, in which case the meetings cease. I'm not looking for a partner, I'm looking for a good, hard shag! |
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I visited the woman in my public photos on-and-off for three years - she was married and playing with his full knowledge (in fact, he arranged all of our meets)....
One afternoon, just as I was filling her pussy, she whispered "I love you" in my ear - flattering, but rather disconcerting, as at that stage we hadn't played together that often, and she knew I was also married....
She then became very affectionate, and even asked if I loved her too - I had to explain that I didn't have feelings for her in that way, and that for me it was simply about the sex....
Not long afterwards, she split from her husband and moved in with a guy she worked with - although a few months later she went back to her husband, and soon after that I started being invited back to play with her again....
I saw her again quite a number of times, but made sure she understood that it was a purely physical relationship, not an emotional one.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Jealousy can be a problem with sum couples if you limited amount of meetings can be ok but we are all human sometimes the grass may look greener but it usually isn't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was on here as part of a couple and was getting treated like the man was my Pimp and a man 'we' met told me I worth more than that and it was just what I needed to walk away and regain my self worth. Still see the man who told me I better than what was happening and I happier now than I can ever remember being. So sometimes its good to talk  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For a bunch of reasons I can't do 'love & commitment' so there is no risk of me going beyond the Swinging relationship that may be established.
I take a long time getting to know people and if I get the whiff of 'issues' I politely walk away before meeting. I see my part in a couple's play as adding something to whatever they already have and I get my buzz from seeing that and adding to it. I will only ever be a Swing friend not a lover.
I have been asked by 2 wives to play alone without the hubbies knowledge and again I have politely declined. I am no cheat. But I do play with a lady now who I first played with as part of a couple but that is at the hubbies request not hers or mine. Still meet for 3some fun as well just he works away most weeks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never have. Don't get me wrong, I've thought 'she's seriously hot' an I've really hit it off with her but I've never looked at swinging in that way at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never have. Don't get me wrong, I've thought 'she's seriously hot' an I've really hit it off with her but I've never looked at swinging in that way at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I never have. Don't get me wrong, I've thought 'she's seriously hot' an I've really hit it off with her but I've never looked at swinging in that way at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I never have. Don't get me wrong, I've thought 'she's seriously hot' an I've really hit it off with her but I've never looked at swinging in that way at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope, never.
Have had male halfs of cpls get all stalkerish and try to get me to meet them alone..... This is the main reason I dont meet couples for mff now. "
This happened to me when i was a single fem!!! Really awkward situation!  |
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