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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
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Because they still hold the view that anyone who likes sex with multiple partners is a slag/slut.
The sad reality is all the guys I work with wish their wife was as confident in their sexuality as mine to want to do what we do. |
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"They are the people who think that they should only sleep with one person.
They are the ones who would keep it discrete and cheat on their partners etc. "
exactly. they judge but sleep behind their partners back. |
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"why is swinging still an outrageous conversation to have with people who hasn't taken part"
Because swingers are the small minority.
Everyone’s different and everyone judges. Not everyone wants to have sex with multiple partners.
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I think a lot of people only know (and want) monogamy. Society still teach & preach it, so when people hear about swinging or alternate lifestyle choices, very different to their life long beliefs, they often feel they are being confronted. |
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"why is swinging still an outrageous conversation to have with people who hasn't taken part"
Because many people don't discuss their private lives, or their sex lives let alone any kinks or perversions. |
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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago
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"why is swinging still an outrageous conversation to have with people who hasn't taken part"
It's not the normal, folk are preprogrammed to be monogamous and everything other than a male/female relationships is at odds with them. So many people are not accepting of anything outside the straight male/female monogamous norm, makes me laugh just listening to them knowing (thinking tbh) sexual liberation would be such an awakening for them.
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Because not all the people have very high sex drive and for them having sex with multiple different partners it’s unacceptable and I can understand them, but still judging it’s not right. Knowing the deep subconscious cause (reason) why are we into swinging may enlighten us, in a very positive way. |
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"I think a lot of people only know (and want) monogamy. Society still teach & preach it, so when people hear about swinging or alternate lifestyle choices, very different to their life long beliefs, they often feel they are being confronted. "
Think there’s a healthy dose of envy involved too when people judge. They dream of a life less ordinary.... |
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Wow the judgement is strong in here tonight. Just because people choose a different path doesn't make them bad, boring, losers or any other disparaging remark. They are allowed to choose how to live their lives. Many in here sem to have an attitude like only they are enlightened. Stop judging so much. It's a choice not the only choice |
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"Wow the judgement is strong in here tonight. Just because people choose a different path doesn't make them bad, boring, losers or any other disparaging remark. They are allowed to choose how to live their lives. Many in here sem to have an attitude like only they are enlightened. Stop judging so much. It's a choice not the only choice"
Good answer !!
I met a social worker once and asked her how can she do her job and not want to take ever child out of the home they are in when conditions are awful. Long explaination but in the end she said to me, don't ever judge someone by your standards. What seems terrible to you just might be someone else's best effort.
Some people are vanilla, some are swingers or kinksters. Some are straight monogamous Catholic god loving, others are ....well anything they want to be. Variety is the spice of life but what's personal to you is your business just dont expect everyone else to understand, like, accept or approve. Live your life as you please and don't worry about others opinions. |
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Reminds me of a funny conversation Dirk had with his colleague a while ago.
Dirk was picking him up for work from a different address. His work mate admitted that he was seeing a girl "on a side" of his relationship.
Dirk asked "why would you and your woman just try swinging"
Response was "No way, you people are dirty".
Now who's more dirty - a person who's open and honest, happily exploring with his partner or one who's cheating?  |
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"Reminds me of a funny conversation Dirk had with his colleague a while ago.
Dirk was picking him up for work from a different address. His work mate admitted that he was seeing a girl "on a side" of his relationship.
Dirk asked "why would you and your woman just try swinging"
Response was "No way, you people are dirty".
Now who's more dirty - a person who's open and honest, happily exploring with his partner or one who's cheating? "
I think that there is a difference between dirty and deceitful. I imagine his opinion was that swingers are dirty.
Let’s face it, the more partners that you have, the more risk of infections & sti’s. Maybe that’s what he meant? |
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"why is swinging still an outrageous conversation to have with people who hasn't taken part"
Partly because talking about your sex life is not going to be appropriate with most people. I'm sexually very liberal, but I don't want to know anything about most people's sex lives, especially if it's unusual. Luke |
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"Reminds me of a funny conversation Dirk had with his colleague a while ago.
Dirk was picking him up for work from a different address. His work mate admitted that he was seeing a girl "on a side" of his relationship.
Dirk asked "why would you and your woman just try swinging"
Response was "No way, you people are dirty".
Now who's more dirty - a person who's open and honest, happily exploring with his partner or one who's cheating?
I think that there is a difference between dirty and deceitful. I imagine his opinion was that swingers are dirty.
Let’s face it, the more partners that you have, the more risk of infections & sti’s. Maybe that’s what he meant?"
In theory, yes but in practice - it's usually the type of people who find swingers "dirty" are the ones who are too shy to use protection during their shenanigans and you would most certainly never find them in a gum clinic, no matter how much sneaky unprotected sex they have.
Also very few swingers have sex with a large amount of people on a regular basis. Most limit their adventures to either a small trusted circle or attend an odd party once every 6 months.
It's funny how people judge others completely based on their own behaviours. |
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I think it’s because of the stereotype people have & plus it’s the fact it’s public essentially?
What I don’t get is - the same people judging when perhaps the ‘Swinger’ word gets mentioned are the ones going on POF & Tinder trying time sleep with everyone.
But I’m the kinda of person that couldn’t care what something thinks or says - so is what it is, no problem being open  |
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"Reminds me of a funny conversation Dirk had with his colleague a while ago.
Dirk was picking him up for work from a different address. His work mate admitted that he was seeing a girl "on a side" of his relationship.
Dirk asked "why would you and your woman just try swinging"
Response was "No way, you people are dirty".
Now who's more dirty - a person who's open and honest, happily exploring with his partner or one who's cheating?
I think that there is a difference between dirty and deceitful. I imagine his opinion was that swingers are dirty.
Let’s face it, the more partners that you have, the more risk of infections & sti’s. Maybe that’s what he meant?
In theory, yes but in practice - it's usually the type of people who find swingers "dirty" are the ones who are too shy to use protection during their shenanigans and you would most certainly never find them in a gum clinic, no matter how much sneaky unprotected sex they have.
Also very few swingers have sex with a large amount of people on a regular basis. Most limit their adventures to either a small trusted circle or attend an odd party once every 6 months.
It's funny how people judge others completely based on their own behaviours. "
Well not all swingers behave like you say to be fair. There are unprotected gang bangs a plenty as well as moderate responsible swingers. We are all judged under the same umbrella.
I have no idea what the condom use among the monogamous cheating brigade is so couldn’t comment.
I’d say people would more likely judge others on their perceived behaviours rather than actual facts.
Still, just accept that no matter what anyone does, someone will judge and be outraged. People are just as outraged at cheaters as they are swingers. |
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