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By *edeWoman
over a year ago
the abyss |
In response to OP, it is definitely not an easy thing to find. I myself am naturally submissive but finding a true Dom up this way can be like a needle in haystack. This is possibly not the best site for such a specific kink but I find the other not as user friendly so never stayed  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In response to OP, it is definitely not an easy thing to find. I myself am naturally submissive but finding a true Dom up this way can be like a needle in haystack. This is possibly not the best site for such a specific kink but I find the other not as user friendly so never stayed "
Exactly this 
Luckily J and I are both rather switchy so worked out perfectly for us  
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"In response to OP, it is definitely not an easy thing to find. I myself am naturally submissive but finding a true Dom up this way can be like a needle in haystack. This is possibly not the best site for such a specific kink but I find the other not as user friendly so never stayed "
Echo about the other site, although it appears to work for others and has some great forums.
This site works well, it just takes a little tiptoeing through porn fanatics |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
First things first, do some soul searching.
What is it you are actually looking for?
Are you just looking for what some consider an easy way of finding fun, or are you triely looking to serve?
If you are wanting to serve someone then how do you see that panning out?
Masochism? Service orientated? 1950’s? Sexual servitude?
What is it you are willing to offer up? Total Power Exchange (TPE), or just certain bits?
Will you let them shave your head? Will you let them control your finances? Are you happy to spend tome together not doing anything sexual, such as cleaning, cooking, being a foot stool? Do you want to be involved in forced feminisation or bisexuality?
You meed to educate yourself to avoid being taken advantage of by those that would.
Anyone you engage with should want to know about you, your medical history, triggers, boundaries, limits (hard and soft), what you enjoy, what you don’t enjoy etc.
You need to communicate, negotiate and consent to the things you will engage in.
Or you can just offer yourself up to someone in the hope they will use you as a sexual object and trust to fate nothing bad happens.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
Agree with everything _etcpl have said - it really is about knowing yourself and your wants and desires as much as it is simply saying "I want to find a Domme"
In fact Dommes looking for male submissives are the unicorns of the kink world so aren't easily found - in fact I'd go as far as to say you don't look for a Domme (unless a professional is your thing but that's a whole other conversation) more they either find you, or the dynamic develops over time with someone you talk to that didn't necessarily start off from a D/s angle.
Once you do start talking to a Domme though they will want to know boundaries and limits and interests and the type of dynamic you are looking for so it's key you can answer those things clearly and honestly - and will expect you to be asking similar of them.
Joining in conversations on the topic in forums (not just here) is a way to get noticed, so again it's key to be clear and show your knowledge of the subject. |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
"Thanks for the feedback. Hopefully I will find a domme. The other site is not as user friendly as here x"
The other site does have more groups to join where you can post classified adds looking for someone, but it is not really set up as a dating type site it is instead many things to many people.
As Gemini Man has mentioned, Dommes looking for male subs - outside of Findoms and pay pigs - are not so common. The dynamic’s tend to form from meeting people.
Getting out to munches and clubs when they can open is a better way of meeting people.
Online is just hit or miss.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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research is definitely key tho... When i was first asked about limits, i didn't know myself and foolishly said i didn't think i had any.. To which the first response was great we'll shave your hair when we meet. After a sleepless night, i started to think about my limits |
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