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What would your best bit of advice be to couples new to swinging
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Yes communication is number one.
I'd say also stick to your guns. People will tell you there's only one way to swing but there isn't. I
Don't ever do anything because you're too polite to say no and if you're rejecting someone do it politely but leave no room for argument. |
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Do what you both feel happy, if you are at a club or party and feel somewhat overwhelmed, go home, have a chat and you live to fight another day.
Best advice we got many years ago.
Meet for a drink and chat first.
You'll have some brilliant social meets that may turn to play meets at a later date.
Don't get frustrated with time wasters, the number of time wasters is incredible, that's why we only meet initially for a drink and chat.
Never had any problems since.
Just have fun.  |
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over a year ago
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Don't trust anyone it's all lies, every single person is fake and always bag it up before you slap it up because althou they say they always play safe they really don't. |
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By *allnlongMan
over a year ago
Torpoint & Stonehouse |
Look out for each other no matter what and be the ones calling the shots
There are some truly amazing people in this community, but most are selfish fucks who cant even look at themselves in a mirror  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes communication is number one.
I'd say also stick to your guns. People will tell you there's only one way to swing but there isn't. I
Don't ever do anything because you're too polite to say no and if you're rejecting someone do it politely but leave no room for argument."
best advice there . The how do u know u won’t like it unless u try one ! But sound advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Take your time and don’t feel rushed into anything. We made some stupid mistakes just by giving in to the initial excitement and thrill x"
This exactly! We were like kids in a sweet shop at first which now looking back we made some questionable choices  haha |
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Communication and honesty. Make sure you are doing this for the right reasons and that your relationship is completely solid. So many try this thinking it will save a marriage/relationship when all it does is make things worse. Always have each other’s back and never let your partner “take one for the team”
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
Never do anything both of you aren't completely and utterly comfortable with. Never push anyones boundaries and be wary of pushing your own too far. It's important to share the enjoyment and excitement. |
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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago
Doncaster |
"Take your time and choose carefully - your first experience could define your swinging career! "
Funny story but ours did.
We hooked up with a random couple at Quest in Leeds. Left feeling used and abused. Didn’t get what we wanted from the experience and panicked about risks afterwards.
Now to be clear they didn’t do anything wrong, we just didn’t discuss things first to find we were a bad match. It taught us a lesson. |
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"Take your time and choose carefully - your first experience could define your swinging career!
Funny story but ours did.
We hooked up with a random couple at Quest in Leeds. Left feeling used and abused. Didn’t get what we wanted from the experience and panicked about risks afterwards.
Now to be clear they didn’t do anything wrong, we just didn’t discuss things first to find we were a bad match. It taught us a lesson. "
This
Communication is key. |
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"Never do anything both of you aren't completely and utterly comfortable with. Never push anyones boundaries and be wary of pushing your own too far. It's important to share the enjoyment and excitement."
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After meeting quite a few couples, my advice would be to make sure you both want it as much as your partner does ..
On a few occasions you can feel that one party isn’t into it as much as the other..
Do it for yourself and not to please your partner |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Being open for sure, communication and boundaries and trust,
But before all that making sure your relationship is absolutely solid, I don’t think a relationship that isn’t absolute would survive  |
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