I've been going to clubs for a while now and have met amny people either fleetingly or more intimately while there.
I recall chatting to a single lady at one particular club about FAB and clubs. She was saying that on her FAB profile, she had various filters set realting to age etc and that she'd put info in her profile so that if she was contacted by a person/couple that didn't match her criteria she simply wouldn't get involved with them at all. This is not disimilar to may profiles on here that for example say "Not Looking for Single Guys" or "age range 25 to 45" etc.
So, when your in a club either as a couple, a single guy or single woman, do you behave differently based on the mood of the club, your own mood on the night or simply you apply different criteria in a club. For example while the age limits in a club will never be as concrete as a computer programmed filter on FAB, would you play with someone who is obviously older or younger than your normal criteria, or if your a couple whom on FAB only plays with couples, in a club would you play with single guys, or for that matter would a lady or guy introduce bi play into a club whilst not be looking for it on FAB? |
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"I think when your in a club situation you can lose your inhibitions and if the attraction is there with someone who doesn't usually fall into your criteria boundaries can be moved  "
Totally agree with this!  |
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This is loosely similar to something we noticed when we started all this malarkey...;-).... Our preference was for people aged 25-45 for example. Our first meet? Female 22, male 47! 
We decided on our first meet that age and pretty much most other things become insignificant when you click.
Likewise, we've had loads of fun with people in clubs who we've got on really well with, yet when we see their FAB profile think - we'd have never responded - just because it just hadn't done them justice.
We try to keep an open mind now, but generally prefer to meet people and fab after, not the other way around, simply because you can tell pretty quickly face to face if you gel.
Anyway gotta get packing!
D&K |
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Don't think you can apply "filters" in a real people situation like you can in a virtual world.
I've seen people who are in their 30's who look like they are going on 50 and 50-odd year old people who you'd think were under 40. So what do you do?
I notice that some people will stick to their values, like the couples who are religiously "couples only" and who would rather play with another couple where the guy is the only active party, than to play with a "genuine" single guy. Similarly, I see others who profess to have strict guidlines acting like they are in a free-for-all.
Talking to couples, it seems to be that very often the "filters" that they have on FAB are only to keep out huge volumes of approaches, and it isn't necessarily a true reflection of their preferances. I often get approached by what on their profiles look like "couples only" couples who want to come to my parties, which are most definately NOT couples only, and after convincing me that they are "into" single guys, they have a whale of a time playing with the guys as well as the other couples. Basically, the moral of the story is not to take everything that you see on a FAB profile at face value. |
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I mentioned the age thing and how it changes 'in person' in another Thread. Briefly: Messaged a cpl on here and was politely declined. No worries. Went to Chams with a friend and in the jacuzzi when this cpl came in. Said 'Hello' etc and she said 'If I had known you didn't look your age I wouldn't have said no'
I do chnage in a club. Hands up. Generally I don't like quick meets or 'turn up and shag' situations. Just not me. Prefer to get to know people whereas in a club I quite like the spontaneous chemistry that sometimes happens. And the way people readily invite you in to share their fun. Having said that I never go to a club as a single guy so maybe that alters my outlook? |
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"I mentioned the age thing and how it changes 'in person' in another Thread. Briefly: Messaged a cpl on here and was politely declined. No worries. Went to Chams with a friend and in the jacuzzi when this cpl came in. Said 'Hello' etc and she said 'If I had known you didn't look your age I wouldn't have said no'
I do chnage in a club. Hands up. Generally I don't like quick meets or 'turn up and shag' situations. Just not me. Prefer to get to know people whereas in a club I quite like the spontaneous chemistry that sometimes happens. And the way people readily invite you in to share their fun. Having said that I never go to a club as a single guy so maybe that alters my outlook?"
totally agree with this clubs are a more spontaneous reaction cos you dont know everyone there where a private meet is someone youve gotten to know x we are actually beginning to enjoy club/party meets more because of this x |
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I behave complety differnet. At home i have to get to know someone before i invite them over and i go more on personality.
In a club aall the need to be able to do is hold a bit of conversatin and look nice, im also far more vanilla in a club wit people i dont know |
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