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Mine is bi and told me when we first dated to which i replied so am i. She was excited i was bi as i am the first bi guy she been with. But yours is a different position to mine so id tread wisely. Some women might react with disgust others might embrace it. Id hint rather than come out with the comment you are bi as she might think you lied to her from the start. Id start with asking her does she have any bi fantasies. If she replies yes there is your opener to say so do you. Thats just a suggestion. John |
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"Should i tell my lady i am Bi ?"
Well if you hide it then you will either have to deny yourself which could hurt you.
Or not deny yourself which could hurt her?
At least by being honest with her if she does not accept it then you can look to be with someone who can.
Being bi does not always mean being a swinger though. Bi people can also be monogamous, so the question really is more about whether you are telling her you are bi to share your feelings and life or because you want to swing?
She may accept you being bi, but she may not want to swing with men or women. |
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It is indeed a hard choice i made choice 5 years ago, needless to say i was called sick a perv she left me dragged my name in the mud and my kids against me and now costing me a fortune other wise she will let people in my company know just putting that out there be care full be prepared for every thing I was not x |
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"It is indeed a hard choice i made choice 5 years ago, needless to say i was called sick a perv she left me dragged my name in the mud and my kids against me and now costing me a fortune other wise she will let people in my company know just putting that out there be care full be prepared for every thing I was not x"
Very true thats why i said to ask her if she has/had any bi fantasies first. |
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Some women do seem to have a problem with bi guys, on their profiles wanting to meet single guys, (yes I do read them fully!) they can be bi themselves, do anal, go dogging etc, & then put will not meet bi or bi curious guys.
Its their preference which they are fully entitled to, but I've no idea what puts them off. |
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"Some women do seem to have a problem with bi guys, on their profiles wanting to meet single guys, (yes I do read them fully!) they can be bi themselves, do anal, go dogging etc, & then put will not meet bi or bi curious guys.
Its their preference which they are fully entitled to, but I've no idea what puts them off."
They cam catch hiv just as much off a straight guy as a bi/gay guy. Maybe they dont like the throught of two guys playing but its ok for them to lick another women out ect. Who knows  |
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"Some women do seem to have a problem with bi guys, on their profiles wanting to meet single guys, (yes I do read them fully!) they can be bi themselves, do anal, go dogging etc, & then put will not meet bi or bi curious guys.
Its their preference which they are fully entitled to, but I've no idea what puts them off.
They cam catch hiv just as much off a straight guy as a bi/gay guy. Maybe they dont like the throught of two guys playing but its ok for them to lick another women out ect. Who knows "
That is not strictly true.
If a man has hiv then yes what ever their sexual preference the odds of catching it are the same.
However,
“people from some groups or parts of the world are more likely to be affected. In particular, men who have sex with men and black African people are disproportionately affected.“
https://www.tht.org.uk/hiv-and-sexual-health/about-hiv/hiv-statistics
Therefore, if you can see that when people make their own risk assessments on who to meet, this will be a factor for some.
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I came out to a girlfriend as bisexual in late December once, with the idea to start a New Year with a clean slate. It went OK, but I think the way to do it is to come out gradually. I'd suggest watching some bisex porn videos with your partner and discuss what you're seeing. You can talk about who you fancy in them, then lead to whether she'd ever enjoy being in a threesome, and would it turn her on to see the other man be bi - that kind of thing. Some women need to take some time to get their mind round the concept of bi men even where they have accepted the concept of bi women. |
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