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So I know this has been said before but why is it bi females go to the front of everyone’s que, where bi guys are snubbed to the point, that many many guys put they are straight, for fear of being ignored!! Do couples where the guy is straight think the bi guy might try it on with him, or is he worried to show his Mrs a nice cock turns him on lol, I would love to hear from females and couples who say no bi guys WHY they put that, I know it’s each to their own and personal choice but what could be the other reasons? I would love to know. Thank you in advance |
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over a year ago
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I am thinking of setting up a Fab lepper commune
Bi guys and the women that like them
It's free entry
All you have to do is give us a hand every now n then |
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over a year ago
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"I am thinking of setting up a Fab lepper commune
Bi guys and the women that like them
It's free entry
All you have to do is give us a hand every now n then"
I’m in! |
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over a year ago
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ve straight on my profile but I ve played with Men in group suitation - ie meeting cpls
If it happened it happens - bi play
But for me I love meeting people but if I put bi curious it severely limits the amount of messages I get and people I get to meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" ve straight on my profile but I ve played with Men in group suitation - ie meeting cpls
If it happened it happens - bi play
But for me I love meeting people but if I put bi curious it severely limits the amount of messages I get and people I get to meet"
Same happens for us bi cpls it limits who will meet us. But we know what we like and are looking for so if it limits us to meeting only a few bi cpls regularly then so be it. Although we can both play straight and have played with straight people when we were both singles. |
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I think I have good luck with me posting bi-curious on my profile for years now. So I don't know of any unfair action taken against me because of that. I think the opposite actually. I have met and enjoyed alot more couples that would otherwise would have never connected with. Enjoy that person socially and sexually because who they are not his/her sexual orientation.. Thats me... lol |
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"I think I have good luck with me posting bi-curious on my profile for years now. So I don't know of any unfair action taken against me because of that. I think the opposite actually. I have met and enjoyed alot more couples that would otherwise would have never connected with. Enjoy that person socially and sexually because who they are not his/her sexual orientation.. Thats me... lol "
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" ve straight on my profile but I ve played with Men in group suitation - ie meeting cpls
If it happened it happens - bi play
But for me I love meeting people but if I put bi curious it severely limits the amount of messages I get and people I get to meet"
When I get messaged by guys with straight on their profile but they say they’re bi, I usually don’t respond. I get enough messages from men who are openly bi so I’m a bit wary of people who conceal it.
That said I do hate that bi men are treated badly by some. It’s old fashioned biphobia. Yes there are preferences but those aren’t formed in a vacuum; I think it’s partially a hangover from the idea that bi men spread STIs to the straight community; and also the idea that men who like men are less “manly”?? I don’t know really.
I’m straight myself but I love bi men, in the same way many straight men love bi women. |
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It’s not as big a problem as it used to be. Seems most people who don’t want to meet bi guys are generally of the older generation now. And quote that bi guys are more likely to be infected.
And those that worry about me touching up a straight guy when meeting a couple shouldn’t worry, as with most normal people I don’t touch anyone that hasn’t asked to be touched . |
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"It’s not as big a problem as it used to be. Seems most people who don’t want to meet bi guys are generally of the older generation now. And quote that bi guys are more likely to be infected.
And those that worry about me touching up a straight guy when meeting a couple shouldn’t worry, as with most normal people I don’t touch anyone that hasn’t asked to be touched . "
I definitely think that younger millennials and generation Z are more open about bisexuality, pansexuality and general sexual fluidity! Fingers crossed that those attitudes prevail!! |
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I’ve been quite shocked by some attitudes on here, I figure it doesn’t matter; seems to some it does.
For a community that you would think should be open and inclusive, there are some very dated attitudes around. |
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"It’s not as big a problem as it used to be. Seems most people who don’t want to meet bi guys are generally of the older generation now. And quote that bi guys are more likely to be infected.
And those that worry about me touching up a straight guy when meeting a couple shouldn’t worry, as with most normal people I don’t touch anyone that hasn’t asked to be touched .
I definitely think that younger millennials and generation Z are more open about bisexuality, pansexuality and general sexual fluidity! Fingers crossed that those attitudes prevail!! "
It’s common place on TV shows and films now. You only have to go in the gay bars to see that they are full off young happy people of all genders. It’s only 10 years ago that gay bars had blocked out windows and were hidden away . |
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I wouldnt want to be naked and having sex in a room where a person that was sexually interested in me but I wasnt interested in them was involved. So I respect and agree with my Husbands wishes to not meet Bi guys if he is wanting to play on that occasion.
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It happens and will continue but I think there’s a lot more ‘bi friendly’ women and couples on this site than the opposite.
Plenty of Tgirls on this site also trying to meet women but there’s a lot of ignorance over what it would be like to date or meet one of us. As if we spend most of our time mincing around the place dressed up. Just like any hobby, dressing is something I do occasionally not all the time and only show feminine traits when dressed. Luckily I’m not actively seeking women on this site, my preference is for couples but I do feel for the Tgirls who are and would make great FWB’s.
Hopefully things are improving certainly amongst the women and couples, who regularly post on the forums |
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Back in the day when we used to swap with couples we always sought out straight couples like ourselves. This was because we were of the _iew that if our sexual interests were aligned, no-one was going to be disappointed with the absence of bi play. Now that we only look for guys, we'll generally choose a straight guy over a bi guy for the same reason. Nothing to do with fear of bi or homophobia. |
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Because all straight men believe that all straight women are bisexual. Porn has taught them this. The narrow minded have also been convinced that all bisexual men are in fact gay and all gay men are HIV positive. The fact is that can we 100% believe all profiles on here are factual? Just because the profile states straight/bi etc is it true? Are people lying just to get a shag? It’s a minefield. Ultimately everything is a choice. Do we meet or not?
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"I wouldnt want to be naked and having sex in a room where a person that was sexually interested in me but I wasnt interested in them was involved. So I respect and agree with my Husbands wishes to not meet Bi guys if he is wanting to play on that occasion.
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I can totally respect your husband but I think it’s a mistake to think all bi men want to fuck all men. I’m straight and not interested in women at all but I’m willing to be in a room where there are women, assuming (I’m sure correctly!) that they will respect my “no thank you”.
Or maybe your husband is so Smokin hot that all men want to shag him  |
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By *irtyfuxCouple
over a year ago
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We feel it's best to be open. We say we are bi friendly and put our sexuality down as bisexual as we have no prejudice against those that are. We connect and are attracted to the person(s) regardless of age, colour, gender or sexuality. In the past we played with a straight guy from a couple that was so anti bi, saying that bi guys are gay. Lots of people require educating. We didn't let on we had both played bi in many meets. The fact we had dvp he seemed fine with the cock on cock in the pussy action! The fact I played with his wife and he was totally fine with that obviously knowing neither myself or his wife are gay!
People need to just go with the flow be open to same sex fun. Man on man makes you no less of a man. I feel sad for those that narrow their sexuality and experiences x |
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"I wouldnt want to be naked and having sex in a room where a person that was sexually interested in me but I wasnt interested in them was involved. So I respect and agree with my Husbands wishes to not meet Bi guys if he is wanting to play on that occasion.
I can totally respect your husband but I think it’s a mistake to think all bi men want to fuck all men. I’m straight and not interested in women at all but I’m willing to be in a room where there are women, assuming (I’m sure correctly!) that they will respect my “no thank you”.
Or maybe your husband is so Smokin hot that all men want to shag him "
I get what you are saying but we have had a meet where the other guy spent more time looking at my husband than me. He was meant to be straight too!
As with most things on here. A few men on fab spoil it for the rest. |
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By *iewMan
over a year ago
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I am a bi guy and when I was looking to meet I would look for bi couples and females who state they were looking to meet bi guys and leave the others be...
They have their reason and that is personal to them and none of my business.
That being said, I have seen a few that state no bi guys and I have sucked the male in a gay sauna, but again, that is his business, not mine. |
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"I wouldnt want to be naked and having sex in a room where a person that was sexually interested in me but I wasnt interested in them was involved. So I respect and agree with my Husbands wishes to not meet Bi guys if he is wanting to play on that occasion.
I can totally respect your husband but I think it’s a mistake to think all bi men want to fuck all men. I’m straight and not interested in women at all but I’m willing to be in a room where there are women, assuming (I’m sure correctly!) that they will respect my “no thank you”.
Or maybe your husband is so Smokin hot that all men want to shag him
I get what you are saying but we have had a meet where the other guy spent more time looking at my husband than me. He was meant to be straight too!
As with most things on here. A few men on fab spoil it for the rest."
Genuine bi guys wouldn’t try and touch your husband up if you had said not to before hand. Your problem lies with someone who has already lied to you by saying they were straight.
I’ve met hundreds of times and never once felt the need to touch up a straight guy |
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"I wouldnt want to be naked and having sex in a room where a person that was sexually interested in me but I wasnt interested in them was involved. So I respect and agree with my Husbands wishes to not meet Bi guys if he is wanting to play on that occasion.
I can totally respect your husband but I think it’s a mistake to think all bi men want to fuck all men. I’m straight and not interested in women at all but I’m willing to be in a room where there are women, assuming (I’m sure correctly!) that they will respect my “no thank you”.
Or maybe your husband is so Smokin hot that all men want to shag him
I get what you are saying but we have had a meet where the other guy spent more time looking at my husband than me. He was meant to be straight too!
As with most things on here. A few men on fab spoil it for the rest."
Not all bi guys are like that. I have loads of straight mates and i never eye then up at all. Also as a single i hsve played with straight cpls and did not eye up the guy at all. If people are straight then you respect that and just help the guy out pleasing his mrs as thats why they invited you there in the first place. I can understand though as most of us have found out ourselves that some people have no idea when it comes to boundries. Its always the few who spoil it for the rest. |
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"I think I have good luck with me posting bi-curious on my profile for years now. So I don't know of any unfair action taken against me because of that. I think the opposite actually. I have met and enjoyed alot more couples that would otherwise would have never connected with. Enjoy that person socially and sexually because who they are not his/her sexual orientation.. Thats me... lol
Very well thought out reply. "
Thanks but that is truly how I feel. If people like what they read/_iew on a profile. Start up a conversation and see where it goes.. Most of the time no where but when it goes right, it goes right.. lol Now don't forget to write me all you openminded couples and singles...  |
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Sometimes they don't help themselves.
If you're Bi or Gay, say it. Dont piss around hiding behind the "Oh im straight Bullshit" and then start asking straight men would they like to be sucked off.
That seriously annoys the crap out of me |
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"I wouldnt want to be naked and having sex in a room where a person that was sexually interested in me but I wasnt interested in them was involved. So I respect and agree with my Husbands wishes to not meet Bi guys if he is wanting to play on that occasion.
I can totally respect your husband but I think it’s a mistake to think all bi men want to fuck all men. I’m straight and not interested in women at all but I’m willing to be in a room where there are women, assuming (I’m sure correctly!) that they will respect my “no thank you”.
Or maybe your husband is so Smokin hot that all men want to shag him
I get what you are saying but we have had a meet where the other guy spent more time looking at my husband than me. He was meant to be straight too!
As with most things on here. A few men on fab spoil it for the rest."
If he was meant to be straight then that’s definitely more of a problem than him being openly bi but playing straight!
I’m not super comfortable with the idea of women staring at me but as long as people are respectful and don’t cross boundaries I’m willing to dea with it (I’m going to have a terrible time in clubs if I can’t  ) |
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"I am a bi guy and when I was looking to meet I would look for bi couples and females who state they were looking to meet bi guys and leave the others be...
They have their reason and that is personal to them and none of my business.
That being said, I have seen a few that state no bi guys and I have sucked the male in a gay sauna, but again, that is his business, not mine."
There are a lot of cpls who have straight where the female does mot know her man is meeting other guys for bi sex fun. Met a cpl where the female said i had to play straight as her man was. When i got there the look of horror on his face as i recognised him from a threesome with another guy i had only 2mths before i met them. She did not have a clue about his bisexuality. There must be thousands of women out there who do not know their men play with guys behind their back. Me and jenny are both bisexual and we opened up to each other about this early on in the relationship. Id never play with a guy behind her back as she would rather watch it herself . Dont tar all us bi guys with the same brush. Most are open about it with their partners and dont cheat with guys behind their wives/partners backs!!! |
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"I wouldnt want to be naked and having sex in a room where a person that was sexually interested in me but I wasnt interested in them was involved. So I respect and agree with my Husbands wishes to not meet Bi guys if he is wanting to play on that occasion.
I can totally respect your husband but I think it’s a mistake to think all bi men want to fuck all men. I’m straight and not interested in women at all but I’m willing to be in a room where there are women, assuming (I’m sure correctly!) that they will respect my “no thank you”.
Or maybe your husband is so Smokin hot that all men want to shag him
I get what you are saying but we have had a meet where the other guy spent more time looking at my husband than me. He was meant to be straight too!
As with most things on here. A few men on fab spoil it for the rest.
Genuine bi guys wouldn’t try and touch your husband up if you had said not to before hand. Your problem lies with someone who has already lied to you by saying they were straight.
I’ve met hundreds of times and never once felt the need to touch up a straight guy "
Sane here. I hace never eyed up or tried to touch a straight male partner of the cpl. |
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As one poster already said it is generally the older generation that goes against bi guys, when you was raised in a culture and society that was very anti gay/bi among the males its hard at times to accept them especially in a sexual scenario when you aren't attracted to men especially. There is always that fear or nervousness the guy is there for the male not female. We socialise regularly with gay and bi males but don't play with them. No problem being naked or near naked in the same room in a social dress down club area either and have some good male friends who are gay/bi . Just male on male does nothing sexually for us so generally will not look or interact with bi males in a sexual way even for mfm. |
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"It happens and will continue but I think there’s a lot more ‘bi friendly’ women and couples on this site than the opposite.
Plenty of Tgirls on this site also trying to meet women but there’s a lot of ignorance over what it would be like to date or meet one of us. As if we spend most of our time mincing around the place dressed up. Just like any hobby, dressing is something I do occasionally not all the time and only show feminine traits when dressed. Luckily I’m not actively seeking women on this site, my preference is for couples but I do feel for the Tgirls who are and would make great FWB’s.
Hopefully things are improving certainly amongst the women and couples, who regularly post on the forums "
Nothing wrong with tv/ts girls. I met a few in my time. And if we decide to meet a guy for a threesome it will be a tv the first time for us both to enjoy. |
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"It happens and will continue but I think there’s a lot more ‘bi friendly’ women and couples on this site than the opposite.
Plenty of Tgirls on this site also trying to meet women but there’s a lot of ignorance over what it would be like to date or meet one of us. As if we spend most of our time mincing around the place dressed up. Just like any hobby, dressing is something I do occasionally not all the time and only show feminine traits when dressed. Luckily I’m not actively seeking women on this site, my preference is for couples but I do feel for the Tgirls who are and would make great FWB’s.
Hopefully things are improving certainly amongst the women and couples, who regularly post on the forums "
As I’m straight I’d happily meet a Tboy Not gonna lie I’ve never considered dating a Tgirl as I’m not interested in women or feminine-ness. But maybe I’d change my mind if I met a Tgirl in a club? |
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"We feel it's best to be open. We say we are bi friendly and put our sexuality down as bisexual as we have no prejudice against those that are. We connect and are attracted to the person(s) regardless of age, colour, gender or sexuality. In the past we played with a straight guy from a couple that was so anti bi, saying that bi guys are gay. Lots of people require educating. We didn't let on we had both played bi in many meets. The fact we had dvp he seemed fine with the cock on cock in the pussy action! The fact I played with his wife and he was totally fine with that obviously knowing neither myself or his wife are gay!
People need to just go with the flow be open to same sex fun. Man on man makes you no less of a man. I feel sad for those that narrow their sexuality and experiences x"
Could not of put a better reply myself. John |
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My opinion is women are more relaxed about men being bi for me if it says bi then I ain't interested no matter if you play straight what ever that means your still bi you could turn up wrapped in a massive condom your still bi so not for me and I ain't interested if she's smoking hot she's still with a big guy as said just be honest and you will find more are interested in you yes it might limit some things but opens doors to others. |
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"As one poster already said it is generally the older generation that goes against bi guys, when you was raised in a culture and society that was very anti gay/bi among the males its hard at times to accept them especially in a sexual scenario when you aren't attracted to men especially. There is always that fear or nervousness the guy is there for the male not female. We socialise regularly with gay and bi males but don't play with them. No problem being naked or near naked in the same room in a social dress down club area either and have some good male friends who are gay/bi . Just male on male does nothing sexually for us so generally will not look or interact with bi males in a sexual way even for mfm."
I think the older one gets the more openminded one gets, at least in this lifestyle... I enjoy both sexes in a 3sum as well.. |
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I have been openly bi since my teens and the one assumption I face over and over again is that I must want to fuck all men.
Strangely enough, I need there to be an attraction, I don’t swoon over every phallus I see.
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"I have been openly bi since my teens and the one assumption I face over and over again is that I must want to fuck all men.
Strangely enough, I need there to be an attraction, I don’t swoon over every phallus I see.
Mr. "
Totally agree, there’s very few guys I fancy . And just seeing a Dick does nothing for me. |
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"I have been openly bi since my teens and the one assumption I face over and over again is that I must want to fuck all men.
Strangely enough, I need there to be an attraction, I don’t swoon over every phallus I see.
Mr.
Totally agree, there’s very few guys I fancy . And just seeing a Dick does nothing for me. "
Agree. I have mostly straight mates. Not once have i thought id love to play with any of them. Attaction has to be there the same as if you want sex with a woman. |
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"It’s the opposite for us if it says straight on a guy’s profile we are not interested
But this is only for MMF fun, when we meet couples if the guy is straight then Ben will play straight "
Same for us |
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"I wouldnt want to be naked and having sex in a room where a person that was sexually interested in me but I wasnt interested in them was involved. So I respect and agree with my Husbands wishes to not meet Bi guys if he is wanting to play on that occasion.
I can totally respect your husband but I think it’s a mistake to think all bi men want to fuck all men. I’m straight and not interested in women at all but I’m willing to be in a room where there are women, assuming (I’m sure correctly!) that they will respect my “no thank you”.
Or maybe your husband is so Smokin hot that all men want to shag him "
I’m straight and don’t expect all women to want to jump my bones 
And in the same vain... despite being straight I don’t necessarily want to shag every men in the room either
Still happy to get naked amongst everyone
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over a year ago
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"I am thinking of setting up a Fab lepper commune
Bi guys and the women that like them
It's free entry
All you have to do is give us a hand every now n then"
I’m in! |
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In real life I've found it really turns women on seeing two men play with eachother. I only see it a little bit on here really stating 'no bi men ew gross,' as if all bi men shag other men unprotected and carry every disease possible.
Funny thing is, there are a lot more secretly bi men on this site that genuine straight men, so the people who have only met 'straight' men have most likely unknowingly slept with a bi man.
Anyway, no limits all round bi play is great. |
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Not anti bi men or women but we are straight and have had 3 messages from men today wanting to play with us both. When we say we are straight all of the answers were along the lines of "thats ok I just want to suck his cock" or "you have to try it you'll never be straight again". This is why we avoid bi men. |
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over a year ago
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We have found that when we talk to couples/single guys they are listed as straight but once chatting say the at bi/curious.
We would like a regular bi guy/couple for friendship and fun. |
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"We feel it's best to be open. We say we are bi friendly and put our sexuality down as bisexual as we have no prejudice against those that are. We connect and are attracted to the person(s) regardless of age, colour, gender or sexuality. In the past we played with a straight guy from a couple that was so anti bi, saying that bi guys are gay. Lots of people require educating. We didn't let on we had both played bi in many meets. The fact we had dvp he seemed fine with the cock on cock in the pussy action! The fact I played with his wife and he was totally fine with that obviously knowing neither myself or his wife are gay!
People need to just go with the flow be open to same sex fun. Man on man makes you no less of a man. I feel sad for those that narrow their sexuality and experiences x"
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"There is always that fear or nervousness the guy is there for the male not female."
The irony of that of course is that if the guy was after man-on-man fun, he could almost certainly get it with ease.
If he’s managed to find a couple, chances are he’s mainly going to be interested in her! |
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I have an interest in bi guys so I personally don't understand the point made in this thread.
I love nothing more than playing with a man or men who enjoy each others company and aren't afraid to show it. |
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Wow I didn’t expect that many replies lots of reading done, just to confirm if the Male half is totally straight I would have no intention of doing anything with them, we all have boundaries and they should be respected by all parties |
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By *elshyXOMan
over a year ago
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As an openly bi-curious male I can honestly say ive had a mixture of responses on here from being fetishised to rejected instantly. At first it stings but after a while it becomes water off a ducks back |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its unlikely that any one above the age of 30 will have that type of open mind set...but we keep trying breaking new ground.
Funny thing is....most the guys that I have played with have been straight married men ...who dont admit it .
As I said ...the new generation will be more open...
Its always good to be truthful rather than mislead . |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"So I know this has been said before but why is it bi females go to the front of everyone’s que, where bi guys are snubbed to the point, that many many guys put they are straight, for fear of being ignored!! Do couples where the guy is straight think the bi guy might try it on with him, or is he worried to show his Mrs a nice cock turns him on lol, I would love to hear from females and couples who say no bi guys WHY they put that, I know it’s each to their own and personal choice but what could be the other reasons? I would love to know. Thank you in advance"
We're happy to play with a bi guy as long as he's willing to play totally straight. However in clubs we have had a several experiences of guys grabbing at my partner's cock despite knowing our boundaries. It's an immediate end to any play: it's a betrayal of trust, it's a total turn off for both of us, and there is nothing that is guaranteed to kill my partners erection faster. If couples are wary of bi guys it might well be that they have had similar experiences. Perhaps ask the bi guys why they do this. |
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over a year ago
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"So I know this has been said before but why is it bi females go to the front of everyone’s que, where bi guys are snubbed to the point, that many many guys put they are straight, for fear of being ignored!! Do couples where the guy is straight think the bi guy might try it on with him, or is he worried to show his Mrs a nice cock turns him on lol, I would love to hear from females and couples who say no bi guys WHY they put that, I know it’s each to their own and personal choice but what could be the other reasons? I would love to know. Thank you in advance
We're happy to play with a bi guy as long as he's willing to play totally straight. However in clubs we have had a several experiences of guys grabbing at my partner's cock despite knowing our boundaries. It's an immediate end to any play: it's a betrayal of trust, it's a total turn off for both of us, and there is nothing that is guaranteed to kill my partners erection faster. If couples are wary of bi guys it might well be that they have had similar experiences. Perhaps ask the bi guys why they do this."
Your partner does have a yummy cock
Oops sorry ...stone the bi guy x |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"In real life I've found it really turns women on seeing two men play with eachother. I only see it a little bit on here really stating 'no bi men ew gross,' as if all bi men shag other men unprotected and carry every disease possible.
Funny thing is, there are a lot more secretly bi men on this site that genuine straight men, so the people who have only met 'straight' men have most likely unknowingly slept with a bi man.
Anyway, no limits all round bi play is great."
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I meet bi people but I do understand and have some _iews as to why others may avoid.
When you go to the gum clinic to get tested they ask you if you've had sexual contact with bisexual men. They then inform you that bi men have higher risk of hep (can't remember which letter it is) and offer you the jab.
I've had two courses of the jab and I couldn't retain antibodies either time.
Anywho, just the increased risk may be enough to put people off, and that's fine. It's their choice.
What I don't think is OK is putting straight on your profile if you do engage in bi play. That's a cunt move as it's removing peoples choice.
That really isn't fair whether you agree with their preferences/choices or not. It's selfish as fuck actually. |
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"So I know this has been said before but why is it bi females go to the front of everyone’s que, where bi guys are snubbed to the point, that many many guys put they are straight, for fear of being ignored!! Do couples where the guy is straight think the bi guy might try it on with him, or is he worried to show his Mrs a nice cock turns him on lol, I would love to hear from females and couples who say no bi guys WHY they put that, I know it’s each to their own and personal choice but what could be the other reasons? I would love to know. Thank you in advance
We're happy to play with a bi guy as long as he's willing to play totally straight. However in clubs we have had a several experiences of guys grabbing at my partner's cock despite knowing our boundaries. It's an immediate end to any play: it's a betrayal of trust, it's a total turn off for both of us, and there is nothing that is guaranteed to kill my partners erection faster. If couples are wary of bi guys it might well be that they have had similar experiences. Perhaps ask the bi guys why they do this."
I’m all the years I’ve been going to clubs alone and with my partner I’ve never experienced guys groping other guys when it wasn’t asked for. It’s very very rare (except in no clubs ) that any man on man action ever occurs. |
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over a year ago
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"I meet bi people but I do understand and have some _iews as to why others may avoid.
When you go to the gum clinic to get tested they ask you if you've had sexual contact with bisexual men. They then inform you that bi men have higher risk of hep (can't remember which letter it is) and offer you the jab.
I've had two courses of the jab and I couldn't retain antibodies either time.
Anywho, just the increased risk may be enough to put people off, and that's fine. It's their choice.
What I don't think is OK is putting straight on your profile if you do engage in bi play. That's a cunt move as it's removing peoples choice.
That really isn't fair whether you agree with their preferences/choices or not. It's selfish as fuck actually."
Yup agree.. so many straight married men suck cock just ask any gay guy..
I prefer to be honest and then at least you can make up your mind ...its all about informed choices |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"I meet bi people but I do understand and have some _iews as to why others may avoid.
When you go to the gum clinic to get tested they ask you if you've had sexual contact with bisexual men. They then inform you that bi men have higher risk of hep (can't remember which letter it is) and offer you the jab.
I've had two courses of the jab and I couldn't retain antibodies either time.
Anywho, just the increased risk may be enough to put people off, and that's fine. It's their choice.
What I don't think is OK is putting straight on your profile if you do engage in bi play. That's a cunt move as it's removing peoples choice.
That really isn't fair whether you agree with their preferences/choices or not. It's selfish as fuck actually.
Yup agree.. so many straight married men suck cock just ask any gay guy..
I prefer to be honest and then at least you can make up your mind ...its all about informed choices "
Agree completely... to be honest is best |
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"I meet bi people but I do understand and have some _iews as to why others may avoid.
When you go to the gum clinic to get tested they ask you if you've had sexual contact with bisexual men. They then inform you that bi men have higher risk of hep (can't remember which letter it is) and offer you the jab.
I've had two courses of the jab and I couldn't retain antibodies either time.
Anywho, just the increased risk may be enough to put people off, and that's fine. It's their choice.
What I don't think is OK is putting straight on your profile if you do engage in bi play. That's a cunt move as it's removing peoples choice.
That really isn't fair whether you agree with their preferences/choices or not. It's selfish as fuck actually.
Yup agree.. so many straight married men suck cock just ask any gay guy..
I prefer to be honest and then at least you can make up your mind ...its all about informed choices "
Exactly. Anything else is a betrayal of trust and that shit fucks me off.
If you know someone won't meet ya if you tell the truth then you ain't compatible! It really is that simple. Lying to get them into bed is something manipulators do, ESPECIALLY when it comes as a hard line no. That's low and bang out of order. That's the kind of thing that will have people leaving the scene as their trust in others to be decent humans gets destroyed and they ain't prepared to take another chance.
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"So I know this has been said before but why is it bi females go to the front of everyone’s que, where bi guys are snubbed to the point, that many many guys put they are straight, for fear of being ignored!! Do couples where the guy is straight think the bi guy might try it on with him, or is he worried to show his Mrs a nice cock turns him on lol, I would love to hear from females and couples who say no bi guys WHY they put that, I know it’s each to their own and personal choice but what could be the other reasons? I would love to know. Thank you in advance
We're happy to play with a bi guy as long as he's willing to play totally straight. However in clubs we have had a several experiences of guys grabbing at my partner's cock despite knowing our boundaries. It's an immediate end to any play: it's a betrayal of trust, it's a total turn off for both of us, and there is nothing that is guaranteed to kill my partners erection faster. If couples are wary of bi guys it might well be that they have had similar experiences. Perhaps ask the bi guys why they do this.
I’m all the years I’ve been going to clubs alone and with my partner I’ve never experienced guys groping other guys when it wasn’t asked for. It’s very very rare (except in no clubs ) that any man on man action ever occurs. "
should have said except in bi clubs ** |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
Central Portugal |
"I meet bi people but I do understand and have some _iews as to why others may avoid.
When you go to the gum clinic to get tested they ask you if you've had sexual contact with bisexual men. They then inform you that bi men have higher risk of hep (can't remember which letter it is) and offer you the jab.
I've had two courses of the jab and I couldn't retain antibodies either time.
Anywho, just the increased risk may be enough to put people off, and that's fine. It's their choice.
What I don't think is OK is putting straight on your profile if you do engage in bi play. That's a cunt move as it's removing peoples choice.
That really isn't fair whether you agree with their preferences/choices or not. It's selfish as fuck actually.
Yup agree.. so many straight married men suck cock just ask any gay guy..
I prefer to be honest and then at least you can make up your mind ...its all about informed choices
Exactly. Anything else is a betrayal of trust and that shit fucks me off.
If you know someone won't meet ya if you tell the truth then you ain't compatible! It really is that simple. Lying to get them into bed is something manipulators do, ESPECIALLY when it comes as a hard line no. That's low and bang out of order. That's the kind of thing that will have people leaving the scene as their trust in others to be decent humans gets destroyed and they ain't prepared to take another chance.
People have their own personal reasons and it ain't for us to question, merely for us to accept."
Nice to be nice i think... best way |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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bi guys were a rarity on the scene 30 years ago and were sought after now it seems every guy is bi so as with normal swinging guys bi or str8 are out there a plenty therefor alot of guys are going to lose out bi or str8... |
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"bi guys were a rarity on the scene 30 years ago and were sought after now it seems every guy is bi so as with normal swinging guys bi or str8 are out there a plenty therefor alot of guys are going to lose out bi or str8... "
I agree there is a lot of competition amoungst guys that are seeking couplesand females whether bi or straight. So good profiles/verifications are paramount, But advertising honesty is most important especially about your sexuality. Orally bi here and love it.. |
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Since Rob listed himself as Bi, we've noticed we've been unfriended by two couples who we've met and had great nights with. Nothing bi has ever been hinted at between the guys and we don't full swap so it's an odd one. |
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"Since Rob listed himself as Bi, we've noticed we've been unfriended by two couples who we've met and had great nights with. Nothing bi has ever been hinted at between the guys and we don't full swap so it's an odd one. "
That happens sadly, but in the long run you will find more sexy people like yourselves. You can be yourselves with them and not hide anything. I have found the same thing when I put bi curious. Love the orally bi side of things tbh..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not anti bi men or women but we are straight and have had 3 messages from men today wanting to play with us both. When we say we are straight all of the answers were along the lines of "thats ok I just want to suck his cock" or "you have to try it you'll never be straight again". This is why we avoid bi men."
I don’t think it’s just bi guys that pressure people I think that’s just desperate guys in general , just so happens the desperate ones on this day was bi guys . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My perfect relationship would be as a male female bisexual couple... its not easy to find...
My ex (female)was bi and we played but was not into me exploring with guys.
Go figure hence is now why shes my ex .
I swear the younger generations (under 30s) will not have the same hang ups.
But for now we have to deal with judgement which pushes people underground ...not something you expect from a swingers community.
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over a year ago
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"So I know this has been said before but why is it bi females go to the front of everyone’s que, where bi guys are snubbed to the point, that many many guys put they are straight, for fear of being ignored!! Do couples where the guy is straight think the bi guy might try it on with him, or is he worried to show his Mrs a nice cock turns him on lol, I would love to hear from females and couples who say no bi guys WHY they put that, I know it’s each to their own and personal choice but what could be the other reasons? I would love to know. Thank you in advance"
People can't donate blood if they recently fucked a gay or bi man.
Bi men are statistically more likely to have sti's.
Bi men fuck around.
People don't like the thought of 2 men having sex.
People aren't attracted to bi men.
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" ve straight on my profile but I ve played with Men in group suitation - ie meeting cpls
If it happened it happens - bi play
But for me I love meeting people but if I put bi curious it severely limits the amount of messages I get and people I get to meet"
Definitely limits meets and messages but rather leave it on honestly and not have a surprise!what bothers more is those pretending to be bi or bi-courios and when there to take action all they want to get the female that's a no no for us we are on it together for what we like |
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over a year ago
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" ve straight on my profile but I ve played with Men in group suitation - ie meeting cpls
If it happened it happens - bi play
But for me I love meeting people but if I put bi curious it severely limits the amount of messages I get and people I get to meet
Definitely limits meets and messages but rather leave it on honestly and not have a surprise!what bothers more is those pretending to be bi or bi-courios and when there to take action all they want to get the female that's a no no for us we are on it together for what we like "
Just tell them the men will play first while the woman watches. That puts off the straight ones. |
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over a year ago
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"I’m bi but I don’t have it on my profile , I know some of my friends are on here but they don’t know I am and I wouldn't want them to know.
What if they read the forums "
They don’t know I’m on here but I know they are on here, it’s only if we are in close quarters they might look to see who is near, if they notice me then it will just show me as they know me straight. Confident they are not on here for the forums lol |
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"I’m bi but I don’t have it on my profile , I know some of my friends are on here but they don’t know I am and I wouldn't want them to know.
What if they read the forums
They don’t know I’m on here but I know they are on here, it’s only if we are in close quarters they might look to see who is near, if they notice me then it will just show me as they know me straight. Confident they are not on here for the forums lol "
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https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-poster/ and then the username to see what they have posted about. It’s always good to check when messaging someone what they have put in the forums. It’s a very good filter |
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"So I know this has been said before but why is it bi females go to the front of everyone’s que, where bi guys are snubbed to the point, that many many guys put they are straight, for fear of being ignored!! Do couples where the guy is straight think the bi guy might try it on with him, or is he worried to show his Mrs a nice cock turns him on lol, I would love to hear from females and couples who say no bi guys WHY they put that, I know it’s each to their own and personal choice but what could be the other reasons? I would love to know. Thank you in advance
People can't donate blood if they recently fucked a gay or bi man.
Bi men are statistically more likely to have sti's.
Bi men fuck around.
People don't like the thought of 2 men having sex.
People aren't attracted to bi men.
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How very open and enlighted you are |
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"So I know this has been said before but why is it bi females go to the front of everyone’s que, where bi guys are snubbed to the point, that many many guys put they are straight, for fear of being ignored!! Do couples where the guy is straight think the bi guy might try it on with him, or is he worried to show his Mrs a nice cock turns him on lol, I would love to hear from females and couples who say no bi guys WHY they put that, I know it’s each to their own and personal choice but what could be the other reasons? I would love to know. Thank you in advance
People can't donate blood if they recently fucked a gay or bi man.
Bi men are statistically more likely to have sti's.
Bi men fuck around.
People don't like the thought of 2 men having sex.
People aren't attracted to bi men.
"
Not sure if your just putting reasons why some people don’t like bi men or staying your reasons but just some info on what you have put.
Bi and gay men can give blood after 3 months. And if you look into the rules they are classed in the same group as active swingers with multiple sexual partners and prostitutes .
Gay men do have a higher rate of stis but on the government site it says that gay men are more likely to go to clinics so the data is slightly biased . It also says bisexual women who identity as straight but have casual relationships with other women are the highest growing percentage.
Nearly All men fuck around . As do women Regardless of sexual orientation.
People do like to watch two bi men
And people are attracted to bi men |
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"So I know this has been said before but why is it bi females go to the front of everyone’s que, where bi guys are snubbed to the point, that many many guys put they are straight, for fear of being ignored!! Do couples where the guy is straight think the bi guy might try it on with him, or is he worried to show his Mrs a nice cock turns him on lol, I would love to hear from females and couples who say no bi guys WHY they put that, I know it’s each to their own and personal choice but what could be the other reasons? I would love to know. Thank you in advance
People can't donate blood if they recently fucked a gay or bi man.
Bi men are statistically more likely to have sti's.
Bi men fuck around.
People don't like the thought of 2 men having sex.
People aren't attracted to bi men.
Not sure if your just putting reasons why some people don’t like bi men or staying your reasons but just some info on what you have put.
Bi and gay men can give blood after 3 months. And if you look into the rules they are classed in the same group as active swingers with multiple sexual partners and prostitutes .
Gay men do have a higher rate of stis but on the government site it says that gay men are more likely to go to clinics so the data is slightly biased . It also says bisexual women who identity as straight but have casual relationships with other women are the highest growing percentage.
Nearly All men fuck around . As do women Regardless of sexual orientation.
People do like to watch two bi men
And people are attracted to bi men "
The question was what could be other reasons?
They were other reasons. |
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"bi guys were a rarity on the scene 30 years ago and were sought after now it seems every guy is bi so as with normal swinging guys bi or str8 are out there a plenty therefor alot of guys are going to lose out bi or str8... "
I’ve been chatting with a solo female, and she asked me “Are you straight, or Fab straight?” This caught me out slightly, as I’ve never actually been asked this before, but I guess it’s an indication of just how many secretly bi men there are out there? She doesn’t want to play with a guy who meets other guys..... |
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over a year ago
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"I’m bi but I don’t have it on my profile , I know some of my friends are on here but they don’t know I am and I wouldn't want them to know.
What if they read the forums
They don’t know I’m on here but I know they are on here, it’s only if we are in close quarters they might look to see who is near, if they notice me then it will just show me as they know me straight. Confident they are not on here for the forums lol
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I had know idea thanks bro appreciate it |
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"So I know this has been said before but why is it bi females go to the front of everyone’s que, where bi guys are snubbed to the point, that many many guys put they are straight, for fear of being ignored!! Do couples where the guy is straight think the bi guy might try it on with him, or is he worried to show his Mrs a nice cock turns him on lol, I would love to hear from females and couples who say no bi guys WHY they put that, I know it’s each to their own and personal choice but what could be the other reasons? I would love to know. Thank you in advance
People can't donate blood if they recently fucked a gay or bi man.
Bi men are statistically more likely to have sti's.
Bi men fuck around.
People don't like the thought of 2 men having sex.
People aren't attracted to bi men.
Not sure if your just putting reasons why some people don’t like bi men or staying your reasons but just some info on what you have put.
Bi and gay men can give blood after 3 months. And if you look into the rules they are classed in the same group as active swingers with multiple sexual partners and prostitutes .
Gay men do have a higher rate of stis but on the government site it says that gay men are more likely to go to clinics so the data is slightly biased . It also says bisexual women who identity as straight but have casual relationships with other women are the highest growing percentage.
Nearly All men fuck around . As do women Regardless of sexual orientation.
People do like to watch two bi men
And people are attracted to bi men "
I think you should start a new thread with this information I think it would be awesome for me people to know real facts like this rather then just sigma type outdated facts. |
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over a year ago
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"I am thinking of setting up a Fab lepper commune
Bi guys and the women that like them
It's free entry
All you have to do is give us a hand every now n then"
We're in |
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"I am thinking of setting up a Fab lepper commune
Bi guys and the women that like them
It's free entry
All you have to do is give us a hand every now n then
We're in "
Yes I would like to admit myself to the bisexual lepper commune .
Started a forum thread called- bisexual fuck fest orgy - on here where you will find others
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"So I know this has been said before but why is it bi females go to the front of everyone’s que, where bi guys are snubbed to the point, that many many guys put they are straight, for fear of being ignored!! Do couples where the guy is straight think the bi guy might try it on with him, or is he worried to show his Mrs a nice cock turns him on lol, I would love to hear from females and couples who say no bi guys WHY they put that, I know it’s each to their own and personal choice but what could be the other reasons? I would love to know. Thank you in advance
People can't donate blood if they recently fucked a gay or bi man.
Bi men are statistically more likely to have sti's.
Bi men fuck around.
People don't like the thought of 2 men having sex.
People aren't attracted to bi men.
Not sure if your just putting reasons why some people don’t like bi men or staying your reasons but just some info on what you have put.
Bi and gay men can give blood after 3 months. And if you look into the rules they are classed in the same group as active swingers with multiple sexual partners and prostitutes .
Gay men do have a higher rate of stis but on the government site it says that gay men are more likely to go to clinics so the data is slightly biased . It also says bisexual women who identity as straight but have casual relationships with other women are the highest growing percentage.
Nearly All men fuck around . As do women Regardless of sexual orientation.
People do like to watch two bi men
And people are attracted to bi men "
The OP asked for reasons, I just listed some. They aren't my reasons. One of my fave things is bi MMF.
The reasons are why people don't want to meet bi men, they aren't necessarily fact. I just respect that they can have their opinions.  |
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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago
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"People can't donate blood if they recently fucked a gay or bi man.
Bi men are statistically more likely to have sti's.
Bi men fuck around.
People don't like the thought of 2 men having sex.
People aren't attracted to bi men.
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Here's your answer OP.
Bi and homo phobia is alive and kicking ... |
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"People can't donate blood if they recently fucked a gay or bi man.
Bi men are statistically more likely to have sti's.
Bi men fuck around.
People don't like the thought of 2 men having sex.
People aren't attracted to bi men.
Here's your answer OP.
Bi and homo phobia is alive and kicking ..."
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"So I know this has been said before but why is it bi females go to the front of everyone’s que, where bi guys are snubbed to the point, that many many guys put they are straight, for fear of being ignored!! Do couples where the guy is straight think the bi guy might try it on with him, or is he worried to show his Mrs a nice cock turns him on lol, I would love to hear from females and couples who say no bi guys WHY they put that, I know it’s each to their own and personal choice but what could be the other reasons? I would love to know. Thank you in advance"
I've never found it a problem, but then my gf and I meet most of our friends through club nights and socials. Just using fab to keep in touch and have a laugh on the forums at this point! |
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Of course some bi phobia exists on fab. That's undeniable.
However there are perfectly valid reasons for couples not being interested in inviting bi guys into their sex lives.
I am not talking about the irrational belief of the added sti risk or the even more irrational belief that a bi guy will be unable to restrain himself and pounce on the nearest cock.
In our case we are on fab to pursue our fantasies. Involving a bi guy does not add anything at all to our fantasies. When there is an almost unlimited pool of straight guys who are more on our wavelength then why opt for a bi guy?
Call that bi phobia if you wish but it doesn't change anyone's mind. Being taunted or even abused by bi guys for saying no thanks achieves nothing.
Sadly I feel that often this accusation of bi phobia is hurled about too much. This is an insult to those people who are on the receiving end of genuine homophobic behaviour.
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"When there is an almost unlimited pool of straight guys who are more on our wavelength then why opt for a bi guy?
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why *not* opt for a bi guy?
A lot of people seem to be under the impression that bi men must play with both male and female participants in a threesome, or they'll evaporate, or something.
Shockingly, this is not the case.
Some women even say 'I don't have sex with bi men because bi male play doesn't do anything for me', as if that's at all relevant for M-F only sex.
If you want a straight MFM, bi guys can do this. If you want M-F only sex, a bi guy can do this.
So it is indeed bi phobic to reject people purely because they're bi.
You look at them differently to straight guys, even when there is no m-m sex involved.
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"If you want a straight MFM, bi guys can do this. If you want M-F only sex, a bi guy can do this. "
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
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"Of course some bi phobia exists on fab. That's undeniable.
However there are perfectly valid reasons for couples not being interested in inviting bi guys into their sex lives.
I am not talking about the irrational belief of the added sti risk or the even more irrational belief that a bi guy will be unable to restrain himself and pounce on the nearest cock.
In our case we are on fab to pursue our fantasies. Involving a bi guy does not add anything at all to our fantasies. When there is an almost unlimited pool of straight guys who are more on our wavelength then why opt for a bi guy?
Call that bi phobia if you wish but it doesn't change anyone's mind. Being taunted or even abused by bi guys for saying no thanks achieves nothing.
Sadly I feel that often this accusation of bi phobia is hurled about too much. This is an insult to those people who are on the receiving end of genuine homophobic behaviour.
A no is not homophobic. Live with it."
I get what you say and understand completely but on the flip side lots of ‘straight’ guys constantly message other guys, tv’s, bi’s etc..
I prefer to be honest but I am sure many others are not which can lead to bigger issues tbh |
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"When there is an almost unlimited pool of straight guys who are more on our wavelength then why opt for a bi guy?
why *not* opt for a bi guy?
A lot of people seem to be under the impression that bi men must play with both male and female participants in a threesome, or they'll evaporate, or something.
Shockingly, this is not the case.
Some women even say 'I don't have sex with bi men because bi male play doesn't do anything for me', as if that's at all relevant for M-F only sex.
If you want a straight MFM, bi guys can do this. If you want M-F only sex, a bi guy can do this.
So it is indeed bi phobic to reject people purely because they're bi.
You look at them differently to straight guys, even when there is no m-m sex involved.
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It ain't always phobia or bad. Sometimes it really is just a pissing preference and that's ok!
A smoker can fuck the same as anyone else, but people are allowed to choose not to fuck smokers, regardless of whether they choose to refrain from smoking on a meet. Does it mean the same people won't be mates with smokers? No, literally just means they don't wanna get jiggy with those that DO smoke.
People need to accept that yeah, some will be phobic shit heads.... other people really do have choices.
As much as we may want to be perfect people we ARE human. I couldn't shag someone who's banged my sister. No offence to them as a human but I couldn't and don't want to. Would people call me phobic for that? I'd not be able to get past the fact they've shagged someone who's image I'd struggle to get outta my head and it'd creep me out.
If something doesn't turn others on and those thoughts can pop into their heads, well, it happens. |
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"When there is an almost unlimited pool of straight guys who are more on our wavelength then why opt for a bi guy?
why *not* opt for a bi guy?
A lot of people seem to be under the impression that bi men must play with both male and female participants in a threesome, or they'll evaporate, or something.
Shockingly, this is not the case.
Some women even say 'I don't have sex with bi men because bi male play doesn't do anything for me', as if that's at all relevant for M-F only sex.
If you want a straight MFM, bi guys can do this. If you want M-F only sex, a bi guy can do this.
So it is indeed bi phobic to reject people purely because they're bi.
You look at them differently to straight guys, even when there is no m-m sex involved.
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Why are you so keen to claim to be a victim of homophobia?
I am neither 21 years old nor 6'3". There are whole swathes of women and couples out there who are simply not interested in me. That is a preference. I would be happier if they didn't feel that way but they do.
I recognise however that I simply do not feature as a part of their fantasy.
And that is what both my wife and I feel about bi guys. If you want a word that describes our opinion of bi guys it would be indifference. Not hatred. No contempt.
I appreciate you prefer to dress this up as bi phobia because that's easier in a way to deal with than indifference but trý to be a bit more sensible.
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
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"When there is an almost unlimited pool of straight guys who are more on our wavelength then why opt for a bi guy?
why *not* opt for a bi guy?
A lot of people seem to be under the impression that bi men must play with both male and female participants in a threesome, or they'll evaporate, or something.
Shockingly, this is not the case.
Some women even say 'I don't have sex with bi men because bi male play doesn't do anything for me', as if that's at all relevant for M-F only sex.
If you want a straight MFM, bi guys can do this. If you want M-F only sex, a bi guy can do this.
So it is indeed bi phobic to reject people purely because they're bi.
You look at them differently to straight guys, even when there is no m-m sex involved.
Why are you so keen to claim to be a victim of homophobia?
I am neither 21 years old nor 6'3". There are whole swathes of women and couples out there who are simply not interested in me. That is a preference. I would be happier if they didn't feel that way but they do.
I recognise however that I simply do not feature as a part of their fantasy.
And that is what both my wife and I feel about bi guys. If you want a word that describes our opinion of bi guys it would be indifference. Not hatred. No contempt.
I appreciate you prefer to dress this up as bi phobia because that's easier in a way to deal with than indifference but trý to be a bit more sensible.
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Just depends on your perspective. You look at it one way because you have a different _iew than i do. There are many _iewpoints so each to their own i guess. |
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Also gonna interject that I've been turned down because I like and play with TVs.
I didn't throw a wobbly.
I didn't call phobia.
I simply accepted that their choice is their choice and they have their reasons. |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
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"Also gonna interject that I've been turned down because I like and play with TVs.
I didn't throw a wobbly.
I didn't call phobia.
I simply accepted that their choice is their choice and they have their reasons."
Yup, no point throwing toys lol |
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"Also gonna interject that I've been turned down because I like and play with TVs.
I didn't throw a wobbly.
I didn't call phobia.
I simply accepted that their choice is their choice and they have their reasons."
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"When there is an almost unlimited pool of straight guys who are more on our wavelength then why opt for a bi guy?
why *not* opt for a bi guy?
A lot of people seem to be under the impression that bi men must play with both male and female participants in a threesome, or they'll evaporate, or something.
Shockingly, this is not the case.
Some women even say 'I don't have sex with bi men because bi male play doesn't do anything for me', as if that's at all relevant for M-F only sex.
If you want a straight MFM, bi guys can do this. If you want M-F only sex, a bi guy can do this.
So it is indeed bi phobic to reject people purely because they're bi.
You look at them differently to straight guys, even when there is no m-m sex involved.
It ain't always phobia or bad. Sometimes it really is just a pissing preference and that's ok!
A smoker can fuck the same as anyone else, but people are allowed to choose not to fuck smokers, regardless of whether they choose to refrain from smoking on a meet. Does it mean the same people won't be mates with smokers? No, literally just means they don't wanna get jiggy with those that DO smoke.
People need to accept that yeah, some will be phobic shit heads.... other people really do have choices.
As much as we may want to be perfect people we ARE human. I couldn't shag someone who's banged my sister. No offence to them as a human but I couldn't and don't want to. Would people call me phobic for that? I'd not be able to get past the fact they've shagged someone who's image I'd struggle to get outta my head and it'd creep me out.
If something doesn't turn others on and those thoughts can pop into their heads, well, it happens."
Very well put... I sometimes don't meet people because of their political leanings. Nothing against that person, I just don't want to hang around with or fuck them. |
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IMHO it’s not biphobia to turn down a bi guy because you’re not into MM play.
It IS biphobia to turn down bi guys because they “carry disease” or are “less manly” or “I can’t trust them not to look at my hubby”
Please note I am NOT accusing anyone anyone of the above. But these are excuses some people use. And they are biphobic because they are the result of unfair stereotyping of bi and gay men. |
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"That doesn’t apply for everyone, I love a bi guy  "
.... Omg...so sexy in your photos Angel, but sadly I couldn't message you to tell you privately cos I'm outside your age preferred range . Xxxx so let me publicly declare my lust for you Xxx ?????? |
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"IMHO it’s not biphobia to turn down a bi guy because you’re not into MM play.
It IS biphobia to turn down bi guys because they “carry disease” or are “less manly” or “I can’t trust them not to look at my hubby”
Please note I am NOT accusing anyone anyone of the above. But these are excuses some people use. And they are biphobic because they are the result of unfair stereotyping of bi and gay men. "
If you ask most bi guys on here, do they actually fancy men I’m sure the answer would be NO, most bi guys like me just enjoy playing with a cock, guys am I correct?? |
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"IMHO it’s not biphobia to turn down a bi guy because you’re not into MM play.
It IS biphobia to turn down bi guys because they “carry disease” or are “less manly” or “I can’t trust them not to look at my hubby”
Please note I am NOT accusing anyone anyone of the above. But these are excuses some people use. And they are biphobic because they are the result of unfair stereotyping of bi and gay men.
If you ask most bi guys on here, do they actually fancy men I’m sure the answer would be NO, most bi guys like me just enjoy playing with a cock, guys am I correct?? "
That 100% me...I domt see me having a relationship with a guy but I do like cock but prefer relationships with women ...
It's common just takes finding the right people like most things |
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"IMHO it’s not biphobia to turn down a bi guy because you’re not into MM play.
It IS biphobia to turn down bi guys because they “carry disease” or are “less manly” or “I can’t trust them not to look at my hubby”
Please note I am NOT accusing anyone anyone of the above. But these are excuses some people use. And they are biphobic because they are the result of unfair stereotyping of bi and gay men.
If you ask most bi guys on here, do they actually fancy men I’m sure the answer would be NO, most bi guys like me just enjoy playing with a cock, guys am I correct?? "
Not in my case I have to have some sort of attention, for me that is desperate and like you would just play with anyone! massively off putting , Id like to add I’d be just as put off if a woman would just play with any cock or pussy it’s the characteristic I don’t find attractive. |
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we ONLY want a bi guy if we meet a guy but the guy MUST be open about it and not telling lies on his info/profile and must have real mm experience.if it makes other couples not want to meet us because mr is openly bi on our profile then it is no loss to us.if they think mr is going to lunge or grab at the other guys cock then they are deluded fools.
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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago
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"IMHO it’s not biphobia to turn down a bi guy because you’re not into MM play.
It IS biphobia to turn down bi guys because they “carry disease” or are “less manly” or “I can’t trust them not to look at my hubby”
Please note I am NOT accusing anyone anyone of the above. But these are excuses some people use. And they are biphobic because they are the result of unfair stereotyping of bi and gay men.
If you ask most bi guys on here, do they actually fancy men I’m sure the answer would be NO, most bi guys like me just enjoy playing with a cock, guys am I correct??
Not in my case I have to have some sort of attention, for me that is desperate and like you would just play with anyone! massively off putting , Id like to add I’d be just as put off if a woman would just play with any cock or pussy it’s the characteristic I don’t find attractive."
just liking to play with a cock doesn’t necessarily mean liking to play with *any* cock. |
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"IMHO it’s not biphobia to turn down a bi guy because you’re not into MM play.
It IS biphobia to turn down bi guys because they “carry disease” or are “less manly” or “I can’t trust them not to look at my hubby”
Please note I am NOT accusing anyone anyone of the above. But these are excuses some people use. And they are biphobic because they are the result of unfair stereotyping of bi and gay men.
If you ask most bi guys on here, do they actually fancy men I’m sure the answer would be NO, most bi guys like me just enjoy playing with a cock, guys am I correct??
Not in my case I have to have some sort of attention, for me that is desperate and like you would just play with anyone! massively off putting , Id like to add I’d be just as put off if a woman would just play with any cock or pussy it’s the characteristic I don’t find attractive.
just liking to play with a cock doesn’t necessarily mean liking to play with *any* cock. "
Oh god that's so true...am fussy about a cock ...and have not played with a guy in a while so not required.
I like thick girthy cocks
But being bi I love women
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"IMHO it’s not biphobia to turn down a bi guy because you’re not into MM play.
It IS biphobia to turn down bi guys because they “carry disease” or are “less manly” or “I can’t trust them not to look at my hubby”
Please note I am NOT accusing anyone anyone of the above. But these are excuses some people use. And they are biphobic because they are the result of unfair stereotyping of bi and gay men.
If you ask most bi guys on here, do they actually fancy men I’m sure the answer would be NO, most bi guys like me just enjoy playing with a cock, guys am I correct??
Not in my case I have to have some sort of attention, for me that is desperate and like you would just play with anyone! massively off putting , Id like to add I’d be just as put off if a woman would just play with any cock or pussy it’s the characteristic I don’t find attractive.
just liking to play with a cock doesn’t necessarily mean liking to play with *any* cock. "
I only like smooth clean and a guy in shape, so def not any cock |
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If you ask most bi guys on here, do they actually fancy men I’m sure the answer would be NO, most bi guys like me just enjoy playing with a cock, guys am I correct?? "
Not sure what this has to do with what I wrote but okay! But “just enjoying playing with cock” doesn’t mean you’d play with any cock. And honestly you’re not helping your case here, you’re making it sound like you wouldn’t be able to help yourself, which is something people find very offputting (male or female)
I think outside fab there are plenty of bi guys who are attracted to the whole man. In my 20s I had a MMF with a bi/gay couple and I’d love to find that again. I was really disappointed when I found out that so many MM “couples” on here are just two mates  |
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If you ask most bi guys on here, do they actually fancy men I’m sure the answer would be NO, most bi guys like me just enjoy playing with a cock, guys am I correct??
Not sure what this has to do with what I wrote but okay! But “just enjoying playing with cock” doesn’t mean you’d play with any cock. And honestly you’re not helping your case here, you’re making it sound like you wouldn’t be able to help yourself, which is something people find very offputting (male or female)
I think outside fab there are plenty of bi guys who are attracted to the whole man. In my 20s I had a MMF with a bi/gay couple and I’d love to find that again. I was really disappointed when I found out that so many MM “couples” on here are just two mates "
Live at let be beautiful
Like any online social website you will find people you like and people you dont.
I'm looking for an attractive, independent, bisexual ,openminded,emotionally mature female partner ....can I find one...nope.. |
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If you ask most bi guys on here, do they actually fancy men I’m sure the answer would be NO, most bi guys like me just enjoy playing with a cock, guys am I correct??
Not sure what this has to do with what I wrote but okay! But “just enjoying playing with cock” doesn’t mean you’d play with any cock. And honestly you’re not helping your case here, you’re making it sound like you wouldn’t be able to help yourself, which is something people find very offputting (male or female)
I think outside fab there are plenty of bi guys who are attracted to the whole man. In my 20s I had a MMF with a bi/gay couple and I’d love to find that again. I was really disappointed when I found out that so many MM “couples” on here are just two mates
Live at let be beautiful
Like any online social website you will find people you like and people you dont.
I'm looking for an attractive, independent, bisexual ,openminded,emotionally mature female partner ....can I find one...nope.. "
Okay odd answer, I wasn’t complaining, I was expressing confusion and disappointment. I thought couples on the site would be, you know, couples. Not a pair of straight mates! Yes I was naive, but most MF couples on here are couples so I thought MM couples would be couples too! When my first MM couple messaged me I was really confused that they were straight! |
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"IMHO it’s not biphobia to turn down a bi guy because you’re not into MM play.
It IS biphobia to turn down bi guys because they “carry disease” or are “less manly” or “I can’t trust them not to look at my hubby”
Please note I am NOT accusing anyone anyone of the above. But these are excuses some people use. And they are biphobic because they are the result of unfair stereotyping of bi and gay men.
If you ask most bi guys on here, do they actually fancy men I’m sure the answer would be NO, most bi guys like me just enjoy playing with a cock, guys am I correct??
Not in my case I have to have some sort of attention, for me that is desperate and like you would just play with anyone! massively off putting , Id like to add I’d be just as put off if a woman would just play with any cock or pussy it’s the characteristic I don’t find attractive."
A lot of people feel the same. They also find 'swingers' offputting as they think swingers fuck around with anyone who offers.
The more people get defensive and entitled about it, just reinforces their feelings. |
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"IMHO it’s not biphobia to turn down a bi guy because you’re not into MM play.
It IS biphobia to turn down bi guys because they “carry disease” or are “less manly” or “I can’t trust them not to look at my hubby”
Please note I am NOT accusing anyone anyone of the above. But these are excuses some people use. And they are biphobic because they are the result of unfair stereotyping of bi and gay men.
If you ask most bi guys on here, do they actually fancy men I’m sure the answer would be NO, most bi guys like me just enjoy playing with a cock, guys am I correct?? "
Many say that here to get fucks
Many will suck on a cock to get a flick of a clit
That, to me, isn't bi-sexuality
Bi-sexuality, for me, involves a sexual attraction towards both sexes
There is bi and there is playing bi
I fancy men and women and have had relationships with both
I don't play straight and I don't play at bi
If I go into a meet with a couple, it is if I find them both attractive
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
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"When there is an almost unlimited pool of straight guys who are more on our wavelength then why opt for a bi guy?
why *not* opt for a bi guy?
A lot of people seem to be under the impression that bi men must play with both male and female participants in a threesome, or they'll evaporate, or something.
Shockingly, this is not the case.
Some women even say 'I don't have sex with bi men because bi male play doesn't do anything for me', as if that's at all relevant for M-F only sex.
If you want a straight MFM, bi guys can do this. If you want M-F only sex, a bi guy can do this.
So it is indeed bi phobic to reject people purely because they're bi.
You look at them differently to straight guys, even when there is no m-m sex involved.
It ain't always phobia or bad. Sometimes it really is just a pissing preference and that's ok!
A smoker can fuck the same as anyone else, but people are allowed to choose not to fuck smokers, regardless of whether they choose to refrain from smoking on a meet. Does it mean the same people won't be mates with smokers? No, literally just means they don't wanna get jiggy with those that DO smoke.
People need to accept that yeah, some will be phobic shit heads.... other people really do have choices.
As much as we may want to be perfect people we ARE human. I couldn't shag someone who's banged my sister. No offence to them as a human but I couldn't and don't want to. Would people call me phobic for that? I'd not be able to get past the fact they've shagged someone who's image I'd struggle to get outta my head and it'd creep me out.
If something doesn't turn others on and those thoughts can pop into their heads, well, it happens.
Very well put... I sometimes don't meet people because of their political leanings. Nothing against that person, I just don't want to hang around with or fuck them. "
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"It’s the opposite for us if it says straight on a guy’s profile we are not interested
But this is only for MMF fun, when we meet couples if the guy is straight then Ben will play straight "
Yes if they want to play straight I'm quite happy with that. I'm not going to suddenly start trying to start sticking my cock in a straight guys mouth. However I have known quite a few "straight" men start to take an interest in my cock and it's ended up with me having mine in their mouth or vice versa. Maybe they're just afraid of the temptation? |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
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"It’s the opposite for us if it says straight on a guy’s profile we are not interested
But this is only for MMF fun, when we meet couples if the guy is straight then Ben will play straight
Yes if they want to play straight I'm quite happy with that. I'm not going to suddenly start trying to start sticking my cock in a straight guys mouth. However I have known quite a few "straight" men start to take an interest in my cock and it's ended up with me having mine in their mouth or vice versa. Maybe they're just afraid of the temptation?"
We can but plod on, be careful where you thread but fully understand what you are saying x |
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There's still a lot of biphobia particularly aimed at men, but my experience tells me that there's less of it than there used to be. But the "no bisexuals" crowd should know that bi guys play straight when they're with a straight couple.
How people define themselves is their business of course, though I do think it's a bit sad when I receive messages on this site from attractive guys who post as "Straight" who clearly think putting "bi-curious" or "bisexual" might mess up their changes with women on here. |
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Some people talk absolute shite on these forums. No matter how you colour it, if you bring bi-sexuality into it as a reason not to include that person, then it's bi-phobic.
Not wanting to play with someone who smokes is fair enough, smoking is a choice.
Bi-sexuality is NOT a choice and it absolutely shouldn't be a reason to refuse to play with someone.
On the other hand, we're all just here for sex anyway so picking and choosing is the name of the game in this case isn't it?
It's a delicate line to tread but show some kindness. X |
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There is a distinction between bi men who are ok with all forms of sex with other guys and can be attracted to men as men as well as in a sexual way but otherwise straight men who have a fetish for hard cock are quite differnent Hence the many married guys who want to play with cock |
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In my experience it’s older male driven couples that are cold to bi guys ..
They’re from an era where touching or being around another male sexually makes them uncomfortable..
People under 40 are so much more sexually confident and happy being more open..
Most people don’t have a problem.. |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
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I don't think it has anything to do with confidence, it, like everything else is a preference. Men do not interest me sexually. If you look at a thread in lounge there is another discussion there about straight men using other men as a sexual outlet because they are unable to find straight sex. Bs. Someone pointed out that this belief that straight men will 'turn' if they are presented with a bi guy may well be the reason straight couples don't wish to play with a bi guy. |
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By *iliciousCouple
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"In my experience it’s older male driven couples that are cold to bi guys ..
They’re from an era where touching or being around another male sexually makes them uncomfortable..
People under 40 are so much more sexually confident and happy being more open..
Most people don’t have a problem.."
Brilliant. Defend one prejudice by starting another. |
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"In my experience it’s older male driven couples that are cold to bi guys ..
They’re from an era where touching or being around another male sexually makes them uncomfortable..
People under 40 are so much more sexually confident and happy being more open..
Most people don’t have a problem..
Brilliant. Defend one prejudice by starting another. "
It’s starts “ in my experience “ stating an experience is not a prejudice.. |
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"I don't think it has anything to do with confidence, it, like everything else is a preference. Men do not interest me sexually. If you look at a thread in lounge there is another discussion there about straight men using other men as a sexual outlet because they are unable to find straight sex. Bs. Someone pointed out that this belief that straight men will 'turn' if they are presented with a bi guy may well be the reason straight couples don't wish to play with a bi guy. "
Good point. I have been told to my face by a bi guy that there is no such thing as straight. Only a repressed guy needing to free his mind and enjoy another bloke sucking him!! The arrogance of the twit was astonishing. He was actually telling me what my sexuality was.
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"I don't think it has anything to do with confidence, it, like everything else is a preference. Men do not interest me sexually. If you look at a thread in lounge there is another discussion there about straight men using other men as a sexual outlet because they are unable to find straight sex. Bs. Someone pointed out that this belief that straight men will 'turn' if they are presented with a bi guy may well be the reason straight couples don't wish to play with a bi guy.
Good point. I have been told to my face by a bi guy that there is no such thing as straight. Only a repressed guy needing to free his mind and enjoy another bloke sucking him!! The arrogance of the twit was astonishing. He was actually telling me what my sexuality was.
If the conversation was reversed and I insisted he was straight I would rightly be accused of bullying and homophobia."
Absolutely agree I consistently argue on the forums about this subject, others making claims about people’s sexualities.
A sex act doesn’t decide your sexuality you decide that and nobody else tells you the opposite. Met plenty of truly straight people in my life who could never imagine their own sexuality to be fluid in anyway, but also the opposite, people who go through phases in their lives of being straight, bi or even gay for some period.
You should be proud to be straight and aware of it, as much as I am proud of my bisexuality (or these days pan sexuality) |
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The funny thing is any bi or gay guy will tell you ,is nearly all of the meets they have are with married "straight" men.
I'm bisexual but dont meet men for one on one ...its my choice...I have in the past but I prefer couple fun.
I found clubs are best to meet like minded people .
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