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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A couple posts a new topic and asks men not to answer.
And quelle surprise, two men blunder in and simply cannot resist.
Is it any wonder men are slated? Just can’t help themselves
Woman: “Will you respect me?”
Man: “yes (but actually no, I can’t control myself to respect your wishes)”
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tbh asking someone not to post on a public forum is not really why men get slated.
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Well, not completely I’m sure.
Speaking of which who wants unsolicited dock pics?
They’re like dick pics but have more water and some boats, so more interesting... if you’re into docks water and boats that is, lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You know what I think it's worse. The "it's all the other men" crowd, can't resist waiding in to say how awful OTHER mens behaviour is... but never them of course they are different.
A whole thread dedicated to it though...  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You know what I think it's worse. The "it's all the other men" crowd, can't resist waiding in to say how awful OTHER mens behaviour is... but never them of course they are different.
A whole thread dedicated to it though... "
Nope. Wrong take. I’m talking about that specific thread and using it as an example. It highlights how a lot of men can’t help themselves. I haven’t commented on any man who holds himself to decent standards. And those men don’t therefore feel the need to get defensive.
A lot of the time, those who don’t like my original type of comment have a reason they feel defensive.
Those with no worries wouldn’t feel feel targeted by this thread  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Without knowing what thread you are talking about it's difficult to comment but I'm with _etcpl in that if you post something on a public forum you're effectively inviting comment regardless of gender.
And saying "you can't post" is a bit of a red rag to a bull to an extent - it happens regularly when you get "women only" threads - guys inevitably turn up with a comment like "sneaking in unnoticed" or "I'll be your naked barman" etc - and the same happens when a "men only" thread pops up.
It is all a little ridiculous though when the people that are apparently "not allowed" to post can view it and may in some instances have very relevant points to make on the subject.
Now as I said without knowing the thread it's difficult to comment on specifics but I can understand the frustration if it was a topic that men couldn't possibly have a relevant view on and were just derailing for the sake of it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Without knowing what thread you are talking about it's difficult to comment but I'm with _etcpl in that if you post something on a public forum you're effectively inviting comment regardless of gender.
And saying "you can't post" is a bit of a red rag to a bull to an extent - it happens regularly when you get "women only" threads - guys inevitably turn up with a comment like "sneaking in unnoticed" or "I'll be your naked barman" etc - and the same happens when a "men only" thread pops up.
It is all a little ridiculous though when the people that are apparently "not allowed" to post can view it and may in some instances have very relevant points to make on the subject.
Now as I said without knowing the thread it's difficult to comment on specifics but I can understand the frustration if it was a topic that men couldn't possibly have a relevant view on and were just derailing for the sake of it."
We don’t always need to comment on a specific thread. This is my very point. Men feel entitled or aggrieved and put out by shit. “Woe is my type shit”. Talk about easily bruised egos.
And really it’s not necessary to know the specific thread to know the context. That’s just looking for an out or an excuse.
But I’ll bite. It was a post asking women where they would like a guys cum to end up on them.
How the hell could a guys input be relevant?? It’s literally asking women where they’d like it. Where is the men possibly entitled to have a say in this? It’s ridiculous. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Without knowing what thread you are talking about it's difficult to comment but I'm with _etcpl in that if you post something on a public forum you're effectively inviting comment regardless of gender.
And saying "you can't post" is a bit of a red rag to a bull to an extent - it happens regularly when you get "women only" threads - guys inevitably turn up with a comment like "sneaking in unnoticed" or "I'll be your naked barman" etc - and the same happens when a "men only" thread pops up.
It is all a little ridiculous though when the people that are apparently "not allowed" to post can view it and may in some instances have very relevant points to make on the subject.
Now as I said without knowing the thread it's difficult to comment on specifics but I can understand the frustration if it was a topic that men couldn't possibly have a relevant view on and were just derailing for the sake of it.
We don’t always need to comment on a specific thread. This is my very point. Men feel entitled or aggrieved and put out by shit. “Woe is my type shit”. Talk about easily bruised egos.
And really it’s not necessary to know the specific thread to know the context. That’s just looking for an out or an excuse.
But I’ll bite. It was a post asking women where they would like a guys cum to end up on them.
How the hell could a guys input be relevant?? It’s literally asking women where they’d like it. Where is the men possibly entitled to have a say in this? It’s ridiculous. "
Not looking for an out or an excuse at all - as I said some threads of that ilk almost invite it, which is why I was curious to know the type of thread. Agree that in that instance a guy may not have a great deal of input, but at the end of the day does it really matter that much? It's been put on a public forum so inevitably will attract some who the OP hasn't invited - just the same as when a guy post a "men only" thread and women join, or vice versa.
To be honest there are no end of threads that end up with comments that aren't particularly relevant or useful to that thread - I usually just roll my eyes and move on when I spot it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A couple posts a new topic and asks men not to answer.
And quelle surprise, two men blunder in and simply cannot resist.
Is it any wonder men are slated? Just can’t help themselves
Woman: “Will you respect me?”
Man: “yes (but actually no, I can’t control myself to respect your wishes)”
Sad "
Good reverse psychology, impressed  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You know what I think it's worse. The "it's all the other men" crowd, can't resist waiding in to say how awful OTHER mens behaviour is... but never them of course they are different.
A whole thread dedicated to it though...
Nope. Wrong take. I’m talking about that specific thread and using it as an example. It highlights how a lot of men can’t help themselves. I haven’t commented on any man who holds himself to decent standards. And those men don’t therefore feel the need to get defensive.
A lot of the time, those who don’t like my original type of comment have a reason they feel defensive.
Those with no worries wouldn’t feel feel targeted by this thread "
It's a public forum. If I posted a thread and said no guys or no whites... I'm sure people would have an opinion. We aren't in primary school "no boys allowed".
I don't feel defensive... most people see through these kind of posts. You're implying you're "one of those other guys" you've just done it again "decent standards"... you're trying to look good by distancing yourself from these "other guys who make us look bad" you literally did it four times in your last reply... In every sentence. |
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I'm going to disagree.
As a couple of people have stated, it's a public forum for starters. There are no "rules" as such, whatever an OP may like to think.
That being said, it very much depends on how the "interjection" is done.
I think someone cropping up on that type of thread, in an intelligent and humorous way would not cause an issue. It's not after all a particularly serious subject. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I'm going to disagree.
As a couple of people have stated, it's a public forum for starters. There are no "rules" as such, whatever an OP may like to think.
That being said, it very much depends on how the "interjection" is done.
I think someone cropping up on that type of thread, in an intelligent and humorous way would not cause an issue. It's not after all a particularly serious subject. "
Exactly and it was two men who posted - one of whom simply asked why men couldn't post - hardly crime of the century!!
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"I'm going to disagree.
As a couple of people have stated, it's a public forum for starters. There are no "rules" as such, whatever an OP may like to think.
That being said, it very much depends on how the "interjection" is done.
I think someone cropping up on that type of thread, in an intelligent and humorous way would not cause an issue. It's not after all a particularly serious subject.
Exactly and it was two men who posted - one of whom simply asked why men couldn't post - hardly crime of the century!!
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Actually, thinking about it. If a guy is bi or gay, he would have an opinion on that anyway. Not a uniquely female experience.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can see both perspectives here. On the one hand the word ‘Don’t’ doesn’t compute in the brain without the opposite happening.
If I say “Don’t think of your front door.” Too late you already have. Or “Don’t look down” when you are walking across a tightrope. The brain computes the positive first and feels compelled to do it.
On the other hand it is also about respect for boundaries. There are frequently threads posted by women and men, that only ask for the opposite sex to input. However it is inevitable on both that men will post on ‘women only’ threads and women will post on ‘men only’ threads. So in this case it is always worth questioning myself on “how well do I respect other’s boundaries and wishes?” Sadly I haven’t done well on that in the past, but I’m getting better. I’m in the process of reforming..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A couple posts a new topic and asks men not to answer.
And quelle surprise, two men blunder in and simply cannot resist.
Is it any wonder men are slated? Just can’t help themselves
Woman: “Will you respect me?”
Man: “yes (but actually no, I can’t control myself to respect your wishes)”
Sad "
I can pretty much guarantee that any thread that doesn't want a certain demographic to post on it will have posts from those people. It's not just men that do it... And I don't think it's ever been that that gives them a bad name. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Without knowing what thread you are talking about it's difficult to comment but I'm with _etcpl in that if you post something on a public forum you're effectively inviting comment regardless of gender.
And saying "you can't post" is a bit of a red rag to a bull to an extent - it happens regularly when you get "women only" threads - guys inevitably turn up with a comment like "sneaking in unnoticed" or "I'll be your naked barman" etc - and the same happens when a "men only" thread pops up.
It is all a little ridiculous though when the people that are apparently "not allowed" to post can view it and may in some instances have very relevant points to make on the subject.
Now as I said without knowing the thread it's difficult to comment on specifics but I can understand the frustration if it was a topic that men couldn't possibly have a relevant view on and were just derailing for the sake of it.
We don’t always need to comment on a specific thread. This is my very point. Men feel entitled or aggrieved and put out by shit. “Woe is my type shit”. Talk about easily bruised egos.
And really it’s not necessary to know the specific thread to know the context. That’s just looking for an out or an excuse.
But I’ll bite. It was a post asking women where they would like a guys cum to end up on them.
How the hell could a guys input be relevant?? It’s literally asking women where they’d like it. Where is the men possibly entitled to have a say in this? It’s ridiculous.
Not looking for an out or an excuse at all - as I said some threads of that ilk almost invite it, which is why I was curious to know the type of thread. Agree that in that instance a guy may not have a great deal of input, but at the end of the day does it really matter that much? It's been put on a public forum so inevitably will attract some who the OP hasn't invited - just the same as when a guy post a "men only" thread and women join, or vice versa.
To be honest there are no end of threads that end up with comments that aren't particularly relevant or useful to that thread - I usually just roll my eyes and move on when I spot it."
Of course yea I get that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You know what I think it's worse. The "it's all the other men" crowd, can't resist waiding in to say how awful OTHER mens behaviour is... but never them of course they are different.
A whole thread dedicated to it though...
Nope. Wrong take. I’m talking about that specific thread and using it as an example. It highlights how a lot of men can’t help themselves. I haven’t commented on any man who holds himself to decent standards. And those men don’t therefore feel the need to get defensive.
A lot of the time, those who don’t like my original type of comment have a reason they feel defensive.
Those with no worries wouldn’t feel feel targeted by this thread
It's a public forum. If I posted a thread and said no guys or no whites... I'm sure people would have an opinion. We aren't in primary school "no boys allowed".
I don't feel defensive... most people see through these kind of posts. You're implying you're "one of those other guys" you've just done it again "decent standards"... you're trying to look good by distancing yourself from these "other guys who make us look bad" you literally did it four times in your last reply... In every sentence."
I’m not trying to do anything because I don’t feel any need to impress people o don’t know or will never meet.
And also don’t need to prove I’m “one of these other guys”
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm going to disagree.
As a couple of people have stated, it's a public forum for starters. There are no "rules" as such, whatever an OP may like to think.
That being said, it very much depends on how the "interjection" is done.
I think someone cropping up on that type of thread, in an intelligent and humorous way would not cause an issue. It's not after all a particularly serious subject. "
Agree it’s not “rules”. It’s people’s wishes and relevance and some people can’t help themselves needing attention |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm going to disagree.
As a couple of people have stated, it's a public forum for starters. There are no "rules" as such, whatever an OP may like to think.
That being said, it very much depends on how the "interjection" is done.
I think someone cropping up on that type of thread, in an intelligent and humorous way would not cause an issue. It's not after all a particularly serious subject.
Exactly and it was two men who posted - one of whom simply asked why men couldn't post - hardly crime of the century!!
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Yes no crimes were committed 
However that was stupid and petulant and needy looking |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm going to disagree.
As a couple of people have stated, it's a public forum for starters. There are no "rules" as such, whatever an OP may like to think.
That being said, it very much depends on how the "interjection" is done.
I think someone cropping up on that type of thread, in an intelligent and humorous way would not cause an issue. It's not after all a particularly serious subject.
Exactly and it was two men who posted - one of whom simply asked why men couldn't post - hardly crime of the century!!
Actually, thinking about it. If a guy is bi or gay, he would have an opinion on that anyway. Not a uniquely female experience.
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Yes true  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I can see both perspectives here. On the one hand the word ‘Don’t’ doesn’t compute in the brain without the opposite happening.
If I say “Don’t think of your front door.” Too late you already have. Or “Don’t look down” when you are walking across a tightrope. The brain computes the positive first and feels compelled to do it.
On the other hand it is also about respect for boundaries. There are frequently threads posted by women and men, that only ask for the opposite sex to input. However it is inevitable on both that men will post on ‘women only’ threads and women will post on ‘men only’ threads. So in this case it is always worth questioning myself on “how well do I respect other’s boundaries and wishes?” Sadly I haven’t done well on that in the past, but I’m getting better. I’m in the process of reforming....."
Great insight. I like that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A couple posts a new topic and asks men not to answer.
And quelle surprise, two men blunder in and simply cannot resist.
Is it any wonder men are slated? Just can’t help themselves
Woman: “Will you respect me?”
Man: “yes (but actually no, I can’t control myself to respect your wishes)”
Sad
I can pretty much guarantee that any thread that doesn't want a certain demographic to post on it will have posts from those people. It's not just men that do it... And I don't think it's ever been that that gives them a bad name. "
Agree too! Like I said, silly people can’t help themselves unless as pointed out before its humorous |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"A couple posts a new topic and asks men not to answer.
And quelle surprise, two men blunder in and simply cannot resist.
Is it any wonder men are slated? Just can’t help themselves
Woman: “Will you respect me?”
Man: “yes (but actually no, I can’t control myself to respect your wishes)”
Sad
I can pretty much guarantee that any thread that doesn't want a certain demographic to post on it will have posts from those people. It's not just men that do it... And I don't think it's ever been that that gives them a bad name.
Agree too! Like I said, silly people can’t help themselves unless as pointed out before its humorous "
That last comment brought the phrase , “ last thing to discover water would be fish”. to mind, OP. |
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You are also insinuating that it is only men who are incapable of sitting on their hands or of being needy and/or attention seeking.
That particular thread may have been aimed at women only but I've seen numerous threads asking men to describe their perfect blowjob or about manscaping and half the replies are from women claiming to have given the perfect BJ or giving advice on hair removal so what's the difference? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You are also insinuating that it is only men who are incapable of sitting on their hands or of being needy and/or attention seeking.
That particular thread may have been aimed at women only but I've seen numerous threads asking men to describe their perfect blowjob or about manscaping and half the replies are from women claiming to have given the perfect BJ or giving advice on hair removal so what's the difference? "
Show where I insinuated that.
Your post seems to want to say that “it’s not only men who can be dicks” and nowhere in my OP did I say otherwise
There’s no need to be looking for reasons to get butt hurt about stuff. This discussion can be had on its own merits and stand on its own two feet without the need to bring in other bad behaviours.
Like, “they’re a bad person cause they committed robbery” and someone else says “but this other asshole assaulted someone”
Like, yea, both are shitty but there’s no need for the “but” at all to take the focus away from the first problem.
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You started it mate so apparently your butt is hurting more than most.
You said that it's no wonder men are slated simply because they couldn't resist posting on a thread but I'd say that it's well down the list of reasons for slating men.
My point is that by highlighting something that men do you are leaving yourself open to be told that it's not gender specific.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tbh asking someone not to post on a public forum is not really why men get slated.
Well, not completely I’m sure.
Speaking of which who wants unsolicited dock pics?
They’re like dick pics but have more water and some boats, so more interesting... if you’re into docks water and boats that is, lol."
Ive seen a few docks.....Id rather have unsolicited tit pics tbh |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Ive also seen a few of the 'this is for women only' threads started by men lol.
They often come across as attention seeking & trying to get women to communicate with me posts.
Its no wonder people (and not just men) can't resist having a bit of fun with them. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
In this instance though I'm not really sure there *is* a problem, or if there *is* it's an incredibly minor and trifling one, especially considering that it was just two people that broke the thread "rules" and one of them was just querying the reason only women had been asked to respond.
Honestly? Mountains and mole hills spring to mind.
It also *is* relevant that *all* genders/categories of user are known to do what you describe, particularly as a counter to your assertion "Is it any wonder men are slated? Just can’t help themselves"
As for the intent of your OP - while it may not have been *intended* to be a "look at what other men do that I don't" type thing - surely you can see how that could be the perception that some will take from it, even if it wasn't the intent?
As has been said, it's a public forum and as such people will post on whatever threads they like with irrelevant comments that don't particularly match the OP.
To use an example, there's a thread asking about "swinging wives who no-one would suspect because their public life is respectable" that you've commented on with what, in my opinion, are largely irrelevant comments to the thread topic - now in that instance the OP had not specifically asked for a particular group not to comment, and I am NOT saying you shouldn't have commented, but given the "implication" of any OP is that only those with something relevant to add should comment - by not adding to the conversation in a relevant way, have you not effectively done the same thing as you are suggesting others do in your OP?
Ultimately on a public forum people *will* comment where they see fit, good and bad, and I tend to take the view of letting them do so and others can draw their own conclusions. |
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"Ive also seen a few of the 'this is for women only' threads started by men lol.
They often come across as attention seeking & trying to get women to communicate with me posts.
Its no wonder people (and not just men) can't resist having a bit of fun with them. "
I am guilty of posting in such threads.
It's the forum.
Everybody can post, can't they?
If people have problems with the post, they can always report it. |
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"A couple posts a new topic and asks men not to answer.
And quelle surprise, two men blunder in and simply cannot resist.
Is it any wonder men are slated? Just can’t help themselves
Woman: “Will you respect me?”
Man: “yes (but actually no, I can’t control myself to respect your wishes)”
Sad "
If ANYONE posted a thread and said I couldn’t post on it - I’d want to - that’s human nature isn’t it?
All forum threads can be posted on by anyone who wants to - even if they’re intended for a specific group - unless I got the rules wrong?
Also I don’t go for generic male bashing.
There are just as many women and couples (proportionally) on here who are tossers as there are males.
I still think *most fabbers are nice though - whatever their gender! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Without knowing what thread you are talking about it's difficult to comment but I'm with _etcpl in that if you post something on a public forum you're effectively inviting comment regardless of gender.
And saying "you can't post" is a bit of a red rag to a bull to an extent - it happens regularly when you get "women only" threads - guys inevitably turn up with a comment like "sneaking in unnoticed" or "I'll be your naked barman" etc - and the same happens when a "men only" thread pops up.
It is all a little ridiculous though when the people that are apparently "not allowed" to post can view it and may in some instances have very relevant points to make on the subject.
Now as I said without knowing the thread it's difficult to comment on specifics but I can understand the frustration if it was a topic that men couldn't possibly have a relevant view on and were just derailing for the sake of it.
We don’t always need to comment on a specific thread. This is my very point. Men feel entitled or aggrieved and put out by shit. “Woe is my type shit”. Talk about easily bruised egos.
And really it’s not necessary to know the specific thread to know the context. That’s just looking for an out or an excuse.
But I’ll bite. It was a post asking women where they would like a guys cum to end up on them.
How the hell could a guys input be relevant?? It’s literally asking women where they’d like it. Where is the men possibly entitled to have a say in this? It’s ridiculous. "
Men know how women think. Women need to be told - how else would they know how to be?
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I don't see the issue with guys posting on that thread or any thread . It's no big deal it's a public forum of course people are going to post.
Men get slated on here quite a lot and quite often wrongly as well. Yes you get some guys who are pure dicks but you get just as many women who are the same and who think because they are on here guys should jump through hoops tp meet them and throw some ridiculous abuse when they refuse. Plenty of women don't read profiles either. I know that from some messages I've gotten.Both gendres are as bad as each other for it. But there are as many if not more decent people on here than bad it's what makes it worth staying here.
And guys who come on saying how bad other guys are and how they would never do that actually make me roll my eyes. I mean does anyone actually think their actions are bad. Bar the actual trolls most will have excuses ready for rudeness etc. Usually blaming the other gendre and past experiences.
I take everyone on their own merits. If I don't like them I don't interact with them. Makes fablife easier in the long run. |
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I think some people take Fab far too seriously.
I honestly don't care who posts on threads and often quite enjoy the way they can wander off track.
If those who agree with the OP chilled a bit, they might find their Fab experience improves no end. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Without knowing what thread you are talking about it's difficult to comment but I'm with _etcpl in that if you post something on a public forum you're effectively inviting comment regardless of gender.
And saying "you can't post" is a bit of a red rag to a bull to an extent - it happens regularly when you get "women only" threads - guys inevitably turn up with a comment like "sneaking in unnoticed" or "I'll be your naked barman" etc - and the same happens when a "men only" thread pops up.
It is all a little ridiculous though when the people that are apparently "not allowed" to post can view it and may in some instances have very relevant points to make on the subject.
Now as I said without knowing the thread it's difficult to comment on specifics but I can understand the frustration if it was a topic that men couldn't possibly have a relevant view on and were just derailing for the sake of it.
We don’t always need to comment on a specific thread. This is my very point. Men feel entitled or aggrieved and put out by shit. “Woe is my type shit”. Talk about easily bruised egos.
And really it’s not necessary to know the specific thread to know the context. That’s just looking for an out or an excuse.
But I’ll bite. It was a post asking women where they would like a guys cum to end up on them.
How the hell could a guys input be relevant?? It’s literally asking women where they’d like it. Where is the men possibly entitled to have a say in this? It’s ridiculous.
Men know how women think. Women need to be told - how else would they know how to be?
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over a year ago
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"You started it mate so apparently your butt is hurting more than most.
You said that it's no wonder men are slated simply because they couldn't resist posting on a thread but I'd say that it's well down the list of reasons for slating men.
My point is that by highlighting something that men do you are leaving yourself open to be told that it's not gender specific.
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Not at all annoyed myself. It just seems pointless to try edge in on every post. It’s like the person down the pub who buts in on conversations with people he’s not there with and doesn’t know - no one wants that. Especially if they didn’t ask them to get involved. Unless they’re a really funny person
You’re right and I agree it would be well well down the list. I wouldn’t and haven’t claimed otherwise. I just suggest that it’s indicative of people who can’t help themselves |
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"In this instance though I'm not really sure there *is* a problem, or if there *is* it's an incredibly minor and trifling one, especially considering that it was just two people that broke the thread "rules" and one of them was just querying the reason only women had been asked to respond.
Honestly? Mountains and mole hills spring to mind.
It also *is* relevant that *all* genders/categories of user are known to do what you describe, particularly as a counter to your assertion "Is it any wonder men are slated? Just can’t help themselves"
As for the intent of your OP - while it may not have been *intended* to be a "look at what other men do that I don't" type thing - surely you can see how that could be the perception that some will take from it, even if it wasn't the intent?
As has been said, it's a public forum and as such people will post on whatever threads they like with irrelevant comments that don't particularly match the OP.
To use an example, there's a thread asking about "swinging wives who no-one would suspect because their public life is respectable" that you've commented on with what, in my opinion, are largely irrelevant comments to the thread topic - now in that instance the OP had not specifically asked for a particular group not to comment, and I am NOT saying you shouldn't have commented, but given the "implication" of any OP is that only those with something relevant to add should comment - by not adding to the conversation in a relevant way, have you not effectively done the same thing as you are suggesting others do in your OP?
Ultimately on a public forum people *will* comment where they see fit, good and bad, and I tend to take the view of letting them do so and others can draw their own conclusions."
Yep, I take a lot of your points on board and I’m not the type of person to get annoyed with debate. I like it actually and think it’s a chance to see others view points. I think you’ll find my responses here open and reasonable looking back through them.
Your point about the thread I commented in - yes, there was no one asking men or non married women not to post in it and therefore I felt I wasn’t pushing in on a situation where I was specifically asked not to get involved in. That’s my thinking on that.
And I take your point about what this OP has the potential to look like. Ultimately people will decide for themselves what they think my intentions were and I’m happy knowing that my motives were for open debate and my attitude on some men just not having self discipline and respect sometimes
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over a year ago
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"A couple posts a new topic and asks men not to answer.
And quelle surprise, two men blunder in and simply cannot resist.
Is it any wonder men are slated? Just can’t help themselves
Woman: “Will you respect me?”
Man: “yes (but actually no, I can’t control myself to respect your wishes)”
Sad
If ANYONE posted a thread and said I couldn’t post on it - I’d want to - that’s human nature isn’t it?
All forum threads can be posted on by anyone who wants to - even if they’re intended for a specific group - unless I got the rules wrong?
Also I don’t go for generic male bashing.
There are just as many women and couples (proportionally) on here who are tossers as there are males.
I still think *most fabbers are nice though - whatever their gender! "
Yea it’s human nature to want to do something we’re told not to do I agree. Just sometimes we can exercise self control.
I have t said all men here at all so I don’t think it’s right to claim I’m gender bashing at all.
And I don’t think there are forum rules or have I stated that either. I’m open to being corrected on that though
I agree that there certainly are likely plenty of couples or single women’s profiles here too who could do with some nicer ways of going about themselves too. I was merely bringing up a point about a thing I saw in a particular forum and it happened that it was about men.
And yes, I’d say in general, people on here are really nice |
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"I don't see the issue with guys posting on that thread or any thread . It's no big deal it's a public forum of course people are going to post.
Men get slated on here quite a lot and quite often wrongly as well. Yes you get some guys who are pure dicks but you get just as many women who are the same and who think because they are on here guys should jump through hoops tp meet them and throw some ridiculous abuse when they refuse. Plenty of women don't read profiles either. I know that from some messages I've gotten.Both gendres are as bad as each other for it. But there are as many if not more decent people on here than bad it's what makes it worth staying here.
And guys who come on saying how bad other guys are and how they would never do that actually make me roll my eyes. I mean does anyone actually think their actions are bad. Bar the actual trolls most will have excuses ready for rudeness etc. Usually blaming the other gendre and past experiences.
I take everyone on their own merits. If I don't like them I don't interact with them. Makes fablife easier in the long run. "
I agree that there are lots of times here men get way too hard a time of it. Hey, I am one sure. But I don’t complain about it either because that’s the way it is here and some people are just really rude people. You can make your experience of the lifestyle whatever you want it to be if you really want and I I’ve already made some great connections.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think some people take Fab far too seriously.
I honestly don't care who posts on threads and often quite enjoy the way they can wander off track.
If those who agree with the OP chilled a bit, they might find their Fab experience improves no end."
I take some posts seriously and some light heartedly -just as I do in life. It’s a balance
But I’m having a great time on fab and have had a few meets with couples and talking to a few really nice, friendly and fine looking women and couples. So it’s certainly all good that way |
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"In this instance though I'm not really sure there *is* a problem, or if there *is* it's an incredibly minor and trifling one, especially considering that it was just two people that broke the thread "rules" and one of them was just querying the reason only women had been asked to respond.
Honestly? Mountains and mole hills spring to mind.
It also *is* relevant that *all* genders/categories of user are known to do what you describe, particularly as a counter to your assertion "Is it any wonder men are slated? Just can’t help themselves"
As for the intent of your OP - while it may not have been *intended* to be a "look at what other men do that I don't" type thing - surely you can see how that could be the perception that some will take from it, even if it wasn't the intent?
As has been said, it's a public forum and as such people will post on whatever threads they like with irrelevant comments that don't particularly match the OP.
To use an example, there's a thread asking about "swinging wives who no-one would suspect because their public life is respectable" that you've commented on with what, in my opinion, are largely irrelevant comments to the thread topic - now in that instance the OP had not specifically asked for a particular group not to comment, and I am NOT saying you shouldn't have commented, but given the "implication" of any OP is that only those with something relevant to add should comment - by not adding to the conversation in a relevant way, have you not effectively done the same thing as you are suggesting others do in your OP?
Ultimately on a public forum people *will* comment where they see fit, good and bad, and I tend to take the view of letting them do so and others can draw their own conclusions.
Yep, I take a lot of your points on board and I’m not the type of person to get annoyed with debate. I like it actually and think it’s a chance to see others view points. I think you’ll find my responses here open and reasonable looking back through them.
Your point about the thread I commented in - yes, there was no one asking men or non married women not to post in it and therefore I felt I wasn’t pushing in on a situation where I was specifically asked not to get involved in. That’s my thinking on that.
And I take your point about what this OP has the potential to look like. Ultimately people will decide for themselves what they think my intentions were and I’m happy knowing that my motives were for open debate and my attitude on some men just not having self discipline and respect sometimes
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I thought your OP was reasonable and your intentions were good.
I didn't see the thread but if it was asking women what they like, it's rude if men answer for them. |
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I thought your OP was reasonable and your intentions were good.
I didn't see the thread but if it was asking women what they like, it's rude if men answer for them. "
Thanks for that. It’s nice to have a reasonable back and forth about something without it turning into a shit slinging event |
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You are right in that it was my partner who posted the initial thread.
He did ask my opinion which I gave him personally and then posted a funny reply. ( brats gotta brat)
Wouldn't say its null and void he is just a curious cat |
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