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No, not the usual one about what comes out.
Is it something you have any control over? I mean, if you didn't want to, can you just not do it? Does it only happen when your lover does something specific, and if he/she doesn't then it doesn't happen?
The reason I ask is that both of us find it really unpleasant and don't understand why so many people are so into it. We pass on anybody who says she is a squirter. We even passed on a particularly gorgeous woman we both fancied physically, who said she was up for meetinguus, purely because she said she was a squirter.
Are we too judicious? Is there any way squirting is simply optional? Or is it inevitable if the sex is good? |
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I was a squirter and had no control over it, it just kept coming and coming. Its tiring.
However, since ive been through the menapause i havent gushed once and its with the same people so nothing has changed apart from my body |
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I'm a squirter, and most of the time I have no control over it. If the feeling builds to a certain point it's game over.
I have however stopped someone from getting me to that point if it's not been appropriate for me to do it wherever I am.
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It's the same as having an orgasm really, if someone hits the right spot there's no stopping it. If you cum from clit stimulation and someone touches your clit the right way, can you stop?
Also, just because someone CAN squirt, doesn't always mean they will so I wouldn't discount anyone that says they're a squirter because you're afraid of getting wet!
For me, I squirt when I'm fingered in a particular position and it has to be pretty hard to then make me squirt. Only once have I squirted from having sex and again I think that was largely down to the position we were in.
Just curious but what is it about squirting that you don't like? |
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For me, if the sex is even half way good I'm going to squirt. I have no real control over it. It's not for everyone that's why I prefer to choose partners who really got off on it. I put up with enough shaming about it when I was younger and there was less awareness around squirting. |
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I squirt but not easily. It's kinda like a next level orgasm so I have to be really turned on for it too happen.
I've only had a couple of meets from here that had me squirting non stop, they knew what they were doing for it to happen like that. |
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I squirt and have no control over it. It can happen from sex, oral, or fingering and over and over again sometimes. I think it also depends on how turned on I am feeling as someone could do the same thing to me twice but I wouldn't neccersarily squirt both times. It used to be quite rare and something I was embarrassed about but since starting swinging it happens frequently and I've realised that a lot of people love it. I do always warn people though as I know some people might not like it x |
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Everyone has things they like and dislike. You're not wrong in any way for liking what you do.
I am a sqiirter but can't control it. Its all down to technique for me. And I only enjoy it on occasion. Sometimes I am not in the mood for messy fun. |
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I’ve only squirted twice and that’s with two different men including my current fwb.
I squirted because I was touched in a certain way and in my mind very very horny.
Not happened since and I’m not fussed. |
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"It's the same as having an orgasm really, if someone hits the right spot there's no stopping it. If you cum from clit stimulation and someone touches your clit the right way, can you stop?
Also, just because someone CAN squirt, doesn't always mean they will so I wouldn't discount anyone that says they're a squirter because you're afraid of getting wet!
For me, I squirt when I'm fingered in a particular position and it has to be pretty hard to then make me squirt. Only once have I squirted from having sex and again I think that was largely down to the position we were in.
Just curious but what is it about squirting that you don't like? "
This ^^^
I’m a squirter but I don’t always squirt when it happens it’s uncontrollable but there are things that can be done to me that will ensure I will squirt. If your with someone who likes it they usually know how to me me do it. If I’m with someone who doesn’t like it I know how to avoid doing it. Hope that makes sense lol  |
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"It's the same as having an orgasm really, if someone hits the right spot there's no stopping it. If you cum from clit stimulation and someone touches your clit the right way, can you stop?
Also, just because someone CAN squirt, doesn't always mean they will so I wouldn't discount anyone that says they're a squirter because you're afraid of getting wet!
For me, I squirt when I'm fingered in a particular position and it has to be pretty hard to then make me squirt. Only once have I squirted from having sex and again I think that was largely down to the position we were in.
Just curious but what is it about squirting that you don't like? "
To answer your question at the end there, we don't have any great love of body fluids. Squirting involves lots of body fluid coming out that we have no interest in. It looks to me like it would soak the bed. The quantity means it could soak into the mattress, and they are a bugger to clean and dry. It can also go on us, and by all accounts at least some of what comes out is urine (yes I know not all of it is) which I'm sure you can understand is not something we want. To us it just seems messy for no benefit.
It may look spectacular and it may feel good to the squirter, but we can only see downsides for us.
Please don't take this as a criticism of those that do it. We're just saying it's not for us. Those that do it and/or enjoy it then you go right ahead. We just prefer sex without squirting.
It sounds like not many women who have responded have any control over it, so we'll stick with our policy of ruling out squirters for us.
Thank you all for your responses. |
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"Isn't there a chance you wouldn't be able to make them squirt anyway? Seems a shame to pass up an opportunity to meet someone you really liked "
That's precisely what I am asking.
We don't want to rely on chance though. We don't want there to be a chance that it doesn't happen. We want there to be no chance that it does. |
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"Isn't there a chance you wouldn't be able to make them squirt anyway? Seems a shame to pass up an opportunity to meet someone you really liked
That's precisely what I am asking.
We don't want to rely on chance though. We don't want there to be a chance that it doesn't happen. We want there to be no chance that it does. "
Sex with anyone is a chance |
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"Isn't there a chance you wouldn't be able to make them squirt anyway? Seems a shame to pass up an opportunity to meet someone you really liked
That's precisely what I am asking.
We don't want to rely on chance though. We don't want there to be a chance that it doesn't happen. We want there to be no chance that it does.
Sex with anyone is a chance "
It can be a messy business... Apparently... My memory doesn't go back that far.. |
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"Isn't there a chance you wouldn't be able to make them squirt anyway? Seems a shame to pass up an opportunity to meet someone you really liked
We all have preferences! "
Of course we do. If you really like someone there's usually a workaround for most things sexual |
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I tend to hold it back for consideration of the mess or with someone new, but there are certain depths and angles that I have no control , so if I want to avoid squirting I avoid them positions. it has to be done specifically for me to squirt, I don’t squirt of just vaginal sex more of a small hot gush. |
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"Isn't there a chance you wouldn't be able to make them squirt anyway? Seems a shame to pass up an opportunity to meet someone you really liked
We all have preferences!
Of course we do. If you really like someone there's usually a workaround for most things sexual "
Not usually on Fab. Why go against what you prefer? |
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"Isn't there a chance you wouldn't be able to make them squirt anyway? Seems a shame to pass up an opportunity to meet someone you really liked
We all have preferences!
Of course we do. If you really like someone there's usually a workaround for most things sexual
Not usually on Fab. Why go against what you prefer? "
I'm not suggesting that |
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I'm obviously not a squirter but have met lots of women who are.
The typical story I hear is that they didn't squirt in the beginning. Then, something happened that triggered it and ever since they have been able to squirt. Sometimes, the ability goes down again with age, probably hormonal as others have said.
Although I'm oversimplifying, the squirters I've met are usually of two types-
1. Women who squirt only in response to being stimulated a certain way. You probably wouldn't have an issue meeting them as to some extent they are in control and are not squirting large volumes.
2. Women who squirt copiously and regularly. I know some who squirt whether I'm playing with their clit, fingering their pussy, penetrating them vaginally or anally. Seems to make no difference what I do, the only sure thing is the sheets quickly getting soaked. Based on your preferences, you'd probably not enjoy meeting heavy squirters.
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"Isn't there a chance you wouldn't be able to make them squirt anyway? Seems a shame to pass up an opportunity to meet someone you really liked
We all have preferences!
Of course we do. If you really like someone there's usually a workaround for most things sexual
Not usually on Fab. Why go against what you prefer?
I'm not suggesting that "
Sounds like it. ‘There is usually a workaround’. We have preferences end of.
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"It's the same as having an orgasm really, if someone hits the right spot there's no stopping it. If you cum from clit stimulation and someone touches your clit the right way, can you stop?
Also, just because someone CAN squirt, doesn't always mean they will so I wouldn't discount anyone that says they're a squirter because you're afraid of getting wet!
For me, I squirt when I'm fingered in a particular position and it has to be pretty hard to then make me squirt. Only once have I squirted from having sex and again I think that was largely down to the position we were in.
Just curious but what is it about squirting that you don't like?
To answer your question at the end there, we don't have any great love of body fluids. Squirting involves lots of body fluid coming out that we have no interest in. It looks to me like it would soak the bed. The quantity means it could soak into the mattress, and they are a bugger to clean and dry. It can also go on us, and by all accounts at least some of what comes out is urine (yes I know not all of it is) which I'm sure you can understand is not something we want. To us it just seems messy for no benefit.
It may look spectacular and it may feel good to the squirter, but we can only see downsides for us.
Please don't take this as a criticism of those that do it. We're just saying it's not for us. Those that do it and/or enjoy it then you go right ahead. We just prefer sex without squirting.
It sounds like not many women who have responded have any control over it, so we'll stick with our policy of ruling out squirters for us.
Thank you all for your responses."
I feel exactly the same so I avoid squirters too. It's not worth the risk. Not fair for either me or them to feel uncomfortable. |
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I met a women once and I literally just had to finger her and she was like a waterfall, it was horny at first but you’d have to plan every encounter with extra towels/sheets etc, certainly no car sex!  |
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I have learnt to resist through orgasm denial, but there is definitely a point of no return. Of course this makes things very frustrating for me, but is good when I do not have my clean up.
When I do/am allowed to eventually squirt it is usually far more intense. |
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I either do or I don't... I don't gush much with the guy I live with but I orgasm alot... With my other fwb, he pretty much just has to put his cock in me a the flood gates open and I have no control... Especially with anal sex   |
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My first proper girlfriend when I was a teenager was a squirter. It was amazing and I loved it. When we first started having sex she was really embarrassed about it but when she realised I did actually love it she was fine and happy about it. |
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We particularly enjoy this. With ladies who display good feminine hygenie (which should be a given anyway) we enjoy gushing/squirting fun. It’s even better/wetter if the lady is well hydrated (had lots of Water or halves of lager etc). X
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"No, not the usual one about what comes out.
Is it something you have any control over? I mean, if you didn't want to, can you just not do it? Does it only happen when your lover does something specific, and if he/she doesn't then it doesn't happen?
The reason I ask is that both of us find it really unpleasant and don't understand why so many people are so into it. We pass on anybody who says she is a squirter. We even passed on a particularly gorgeous woman we both fancied physically, who said she was up for meetinguus, purely because she said she was a squirter.
Are we too judicious? Is there any way squirting is simply optional? Or is it inevitable if the sex is good? "
I have no control over when I squirt or how much. My partner knows how to make it happen more often than not but even then it’s not really a given that I’ll squirt. If it’s not for you it’s not for you, don’t feel bad about having preferences  |
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What did you think that little towel was for on the bathroom floor? Surely you didn’t think it was to stand on when you’ve just gotten out of the bath/shower?it’s for dragging round with your foot to clean the bathroom floor after you have wet it! |
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