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Does anyone else find it frustrating that when talking to a couples profile you have no idea which one you are talking to. Plus I have had experience where it’s clearly the male pretending to be the female!!! Why would they do that? |
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over a year ago
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Generally the message sent will give an immediate idea of who is chatting. Although not always the case you get a feeling of masculine and feminine from it.
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Do you ask OP? Often a first message explains in graphic detail what a guy is going to do to me (Flik) and if its Paul online he will just say "I assume you mean Flik". The responses from that point vary. |
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"Do you ask OP? Often a first message explains in graphic detail what a guy is going to do to me (Flik) and if its Paul online he will just say "I assume you mean Flik". The responses from that point vary."
 we often get similar messages. |
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"Why does it matter? Would you speak differently depending on who you were talking to?
Both of us read and reply. so if anybody messages us all they need to do is chat as they would to anyone. "
It doesn’t make any different to how you talk, but it’s nice to know who you’re actually talking to though as you can’t see or hear who’s replying (if you couldn’t quite recognise someone on the phone you’d check who it was for example)
But also I do think (and have posted about it on the forums before) that there are an increasing number of not single males on here as a couple but the other half of the couple has no idea that fab exists... |
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"Why does it matter? Would you speak differently depending on who you were talking to?
Both of us read and reply. so if anybody messages us all they need to do is chat as they would to anyone.
It doesn’t make any different to how you talk, but it’s nice to know who you’re actually talking to though as you can’t see or hear who’s replying (if you couldn’t quite recognise someone on the phone you’d check who it was for example)
But also I do think (and have posted about it on the forums before) that there are an increasing number of not single males on here as a couple but the other half of the couple has no idea that fab exists..."
And that’s why I alway from the get go say
Both don’t have to play but both have to be there I am fine if one hafe wants to just sit and watch
Normal you find the ones pretending to be a couple
Will come back with ooo em wife’s not in to tv/ts/cd or something along those lines x |
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Most are the men talking.
... and I’ve had a few whose wife is busy / working / sleeping etc etc ... and those whose wives are nervous and want to meet me first!!!! ... yeah right!!
I usually call them out if I smell a rat! Xxx - then they block me or ignore me!
R xx |
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As per our profile I engage with all messages and Carol reads the messages I don’t delete and will chat to anyone that takes her fancy and this works well for us as it takes all pressure off of her and just leaves the possibility of enjoyment.
I sign all my messages with T as my name is Tony and bless her she signs her messages with Carol as she’s not as lazy as me.
But we still get a lot of hi babe xx hey sweetie xx messages because blokes tend to go titblind and loose the power to read which is on them not us!!!!
People approach fab how they want to approach fab so no op we don’t find it frustrating but men thinking with their cocks we do find frustrating but also very funny.
Best of luck op best of luck.
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"Should you not always address them both?? I would of thought that would be the best bet and manners. "
I think most guys hope its the female they are chatting to. Part of the turn on for them i think. |
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"Why does it matter? Would you speak differently depending on who you were talking to?
Both of us read and reply. so if anybody messages us all they need to do is chat as they would to anyone.
It doesn’t make any different to how you talk, but it’s nice to know who you’re actually talking to though as you can’t see or hear who’s replying (if you couldn’t quite recognise someone on the phone you’d check who it was for example)
But also I do think (and have posted about it on the forums before) that there are an increasing number of not single males on here as a couple but the other half of the couple has no idea that fab exists..."
If it's a couples profile you're talking to both unless they make it clear you're not. If it's just a guy you'll soon know because the conversation will very quickly become littered with "mmmmmm" and "I want to ride your big hard cock".
I really hope that if Mr N answered the phone the caller would immediately be able to discern that it wasn't me .
I do understand where you're coming from despite what I say. If we are going to have an ongoing conversation with anyone we always make it clear early on that it will be both of us that they're corresponding with.  |
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"Why does it matter? Would you speak differently depending on who you were talking to?
Both of us read and reply. so if anybody messages us all they need to do is chat as they would to anyone.
It doesn’t make any different to how you talk, but it’s nice to know who you’re actually talking to though as you can’t see or hear who’s replying (if you couldn’t quite recognise someone on the phone you’d check who it was for example)
But also I do think (and have posted about it on the forums before) that there are an increasing number of not single males on here as a couple but the other half of the couple has no idea that fab exists..."
Agreed!!!
Ive often said for couples fab should allow a three-way chat, bit like a whats app group, so the people in the couple and the third person or other couple they're speaking to can all input. There’d be less confusion about who is who then and the ‘false’ couples should be easier to pick out. |
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Both of us are on here and both reply to messages. Once we have been chatting a while and have exchanged pics and names we always sign of with our name so who we are talking to knows who it is replying but when finding out if we gel with someone we don’t very often. Hope all that makes sense  |
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I find it slightly annoying that i never know which person I'm talking to in a couple.. So i don't chat as much to couples as i do to singles for mainly that reason
However i'm trialling a fab couples profile at the moment with a view to meeting in clubs when the world is fixed, and we committed to sign off with m or T after every message.. But i noticed that isn't happening lol. So I guess its harder than it sounds
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"If you're out with a couple for the evening do you just address your comments to one of them? Do you change the things you say depending on which partner you're talking to? "
Well yes.. My relationship with them is also as individuals who have their own interests, experiences and hobbies? Along with our shared experiences and memories? I'd also like to think I'm respectful and not stepping on toes.. It just helps to have in your head the mental pic of who you are taking to? |
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"If you're out with a couple for the evening do you just address your comments to one of them? Do you change the things you say depending on which partner you're talking to?
Well yes.. My relationship with them is also as individuals who have their own interests, experiences and hobbies? Along with our shared experiences and memories? I'd also like to think I'm respectful and not stepping on toes.. It just helps to have in your head the mental pic of who you are taking to? "
OK, I take your point but the dynamic on here is a bit different isn't it? |
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I humbly apologize op as personally only myself uses the forums and many many couples post and don’t make it clear which of them is posting.
But then many couples do make it clear who is posting.
I’m confused now!!!!
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"Should you not always address them both?? I would of thought that would be the best bet and manners. "
Someone’s got it right yes address both of them x
Not I’m going to fuck you hard or fancy a shag love .... |
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"Why does it matter? Would you speak differently depending on who you were talking to?
Both of us read and reply. so if anybody messages us all they need to do is chat as they would to anyone.
It doesn’t make any different to how you talk, but it’s nice to know who you’re actually talking to though as you can’t see or hear who’s replying (if you couldn’t quite recognise someone on the phone you’d check who it was for example)
But also I do think (and have posted about it on the forums before) that there are an increasing number of not single males on here as a couple but the other half of the couple has no idea that fab exists...
Agreed!!!
Ive often said for couples fab should allow a three-way chat, bit like a whats app group, so the people in the couple and the third person or other couple they're speaking to can all input. There’d be less confusion about who is who then and the ‘false’ couples should be easier to pick out. "
This would be a really good idea .. |
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"If you're out with a couple for the evening do you just address your comments to one of them? Do you change the things you say depending on which partner you're talking to?
Well yes.. My relationship with them is also as individuals who have their own interests, experiences and hobbies? Along with our shared experiences and memories? I'd also like to think I'm respectful and not stepping on toes.. It just helps to have in your head the mental pic of who you are taking to?
OK, I take your point but the dynamic on here is a bit different isn't it? "
Indeed.. And perhaps as I've not interacted as a couple yet maybe I'm over thinking it.. But from an individuals perspective it's confusing  but i also appreciate I'm not just a fuck kinda girl, i like to get into heads and know the person and have a connection. So maybe it's me |
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"We state on profile it will always be the male half on site .as my wife likes to keep her preferences to club or party’s . But so many just look at pictures and don’t read the profiles "
Ours might state. Who knows. I don’t want to check. |
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"If you're out with a couple for the evening do you just address your comments to one of them? Do you change the things you say depending on which partner you're talking to?
Well yes.. My relationship with them is also as individuals who have their own interests, experiences and hobbies? Along with our shared experiences and memories? I'd also like to think I'm respectful and not stepping on toes.. It just helps to have in your head the mental pic of who you are taking to?
OK, I take your point but the dynamic on here is a bit different isn't it?
Indeed.. And perhaps as I've not interacted as a couple yet maybe I'm over thinking it.. But from an individuals perspective it's confusing but i also appreciate I'm not just a fuck kinda girl, i like to get into heads and know the person and have a connection. So maybe it's me "
It's difficult for singles communicating with couples, I can understand that. In our experience which is with men only, certain guys want to know who it is so they can tailor their messages so "does she take it in both holes?" becomes "do you take it in both holes? You sexy, horny slut. Mmmmmm" depending on who they're talking to. Hence our telling guys from the start that they will always be talking to us both. We have some great conversations with men who get that |
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I haven't had any issues. Often, it is quite clear from the message who I'm talking to. If not, I assume I am communicating to both of them.
The only annoyance is with fake couples who are single men in disguise but you can usually tell. For example, if they get back to you and say the wife is poorly but hubby is happy to see you right now. |
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"Does anyone else find it frustrating that when talking to a couples profile you have no idea which one you are talking to. Plus I have had experience where it’s clearly the male pretending to be the female!!! Why would they do that? "
You could just ask? I know not everyone is honest but it's a good starting point.
I've done my fair share of talking to couples, half the time managing to talk to both, but not always. |
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"Most are the men talking.
... and I’ve had a few whose wife is busy / working / sleeping etc etc ... and those whose wives are nervous and want to meet me first!!!! ... yeah right!!
I usually call them out if I smell a rat! Xxx - then they block me or ignore me!
R xx"
This |
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95% it is me (Mrs) replying to mail but I do normally make that clear and it also says in our bio it will more than likely myself they are speaking to 
I don't however get the way you say that you almost know for a 'FACT' that's its the Mr pretending to be the Mrs.... How do you know this? Myself and my Mr have very much the same personality, sense of humour and tend to speak and write things very similar to eachother... That doesn't mean that one of us pretends to be the other  and if it's that much of a concern then wouldn't it be appropriate to ask to who you are speaking to on the first message? |
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"If you're out with a couple for the evening do you just address your comments to one of them? Do you change the things you say depending on which partner you're talking to?
Well yes.. My relationship with them is also as individuals who have their own interests, experiences and hobbies? Along with our shared experiences and memories? I'd also like to think I'm respectful and not stepping on toes.. It just helps to have in your head the mental pic of who you are taking to?
OK, I take your point but the dynamic on here is a bit different isn't it?
Indeed.. And perhaps as I've not interacted as a couple yet maybe I'm over thinking it.. But from an individuals perspective it's confusing but i also appreciate I'm not just a fuck kinda girl, i like to get into heads and know the person and have a connection. So maybe it's me
It's difficult for singles communicating with couples, I can understand that. In our experience which is with men only, certain guys want to know who it is so they can tailor their messages so "does she take it in both holes?" becomes "do you take it in both holes? You sexy, horny slut. Mmmmmm" depending on who they're talking to. Hence our telling guys from the start that they will always be talking to us both. We have some great conversations with men who get that "
Oh Christ  haha gotcha now.. Oh man! The fun of Fab.. Have hole will fill lol |
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"We always finish our comment with whoever wrote it. It's simple when you know how! 
Jo.Xx "
It is that simple. But many don't do that... And I'm sure they have their reasons. In my experience it's invariably the male half who "manages" the account, but were I to message a couple I'd address it to both and were I to get a reply, I'd assume it would be from the guy unless it said otherwise. No great stress in that. The best meets I've had have been when the guys connect well, as well as the centre of attention, the lady of course. |
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"Does anyone else find it frustrating that when talking to a couples profile you have no idea which one you are talking to. Plus I have had experience where it’s clearly the male pretending to be the female!!! Why would they do that? "
The English language is a wonderful thing... Have you tried asking? |
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We would usually say who is messaging x if we move to kik, we both have an account so that it’s clear who is chatting - and a three or more way chat is often a lot of fun. I think it also reassures the other person/couple that we are a genuine couple.
Faith xx |
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Not saying that this would work every time, but on internet chat sites there used to be a suggestion that if you wanted to test whether it was a genuine woman you were talking to or a guy faking, you should ask them what size knickers/panties they take. Some guys would be completely discombobulated at this point. |
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"Not saying that this would work every time, but on internet chat sites there used to be a suggestion that if you wanted to test whether it was a genuine woman you were talking to or a guy faking, you should ask them what size knickers/panties they take. Some guys would be completely discombobulated at this point. "
She is a size 14! Not all guys are oblivious to their mrs clothes size buddy. John |
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I think the safest option for single guys messaging couples is to always address messages to both halves, but keep in mind it's most likely the male half doing the typing, even if they tell you it's not. This will save the straight single guy from telling hubby how hard he wants to fuck him  |
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"Not saying that this would work every time, but on internet chat sites there used to be a suggestion that if you wanted to test whether it was a genuine woman you were talking to or a guy faking, you should ask them what size knickers/panties they take. Some guys would be completely discombobulated at this point.
She is a size 14! Not all guys are oblivious to their mrs clothes size buddy. John"
I know! That's why I said it wouldn't work every time. And the suggestion could also apply to sussing out single guys pretending to be single women. |
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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago
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Our profile is pretty much always me (female) replying, Mr works all day, I'm a student so it makes sense. He's also not a big social media person but I have my phone strapped to me most of the time. I never thought about men pretending to be women on their couples profile, that's crazy to me |
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"Not saying that this would work every time, but on internet chat sites there used to be a suggestion that if you wanted to test whether it was a genuine woman you were talking to or a guy faking, you should ask them what size knickers/panties they take. Some guys would be completely discombobulated at this point.
She is a size 14! Not all guys are oblivious to their mrs clothes size buddy. John
I know! That's why I said it wouldn't work every time. And the suggestion could also apply to sussing out single guys pretending to be single women."
There's a flaw on that plan if it actually turns out to be the woman who's chatting |
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"Why does it matter? Would you speak differently depending on who you were talking to?
Both of us read and reply. so if anybody messages us all they need to do is chat as they would to anyone. "
this why would it matter unless yo talk differently to females etc |
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"Does anyone else find it frustrating that when talking to a couples profile you have no idea which one you are talking to. Plus I have had experience where it’s clearly the male pretending to be the female!!! Why would they do that? "
We both converse, and always let the person know which one of us by saying at the end of the message. As a couple we get lots of men pretending to be couples! As they can say they are either, we have recent pics that we also send x |
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"95% it is me (Mrs) replying to mail but I do normally make that clear and it also says in our bio it will more than likely myself they are speaking to
I don't however get the way you say that you almost know for a 'FACT' that's its the Mr pretending to be the Mrs.... How do you know this? Myself and my Mr have very much the same personality, sense of humour and tend to speak and write things very similar to eachother... That doesn't mean that one of us pretends to be the other and if it's that much of a concern then wouldn't it be appropriate to ask to who you are speaking to on the first message? "
If I ask that question at the outset how do you know for sure you are speaking to which partner. I’m just saying it’s open to abuse. |
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"95% it is me (Mrs) replying to mail but I do normally make that clear and it also says in our bio it will more than likely myself they are speaking to
I don't however get the way you say that you almost know for a 'FACT' that's its the Mr pretending to be the Mrs.... How do you know this? Myself and my Mr have very much the same personality, sense of humour and tend to speak and write things very similar to eachother... That doesn't mean that one of us pretends to be the other and if it's that much of a concern then wouldn't it be appropriate to ask to who you are speaking to on the first message?
If I ask that question at the outset how do you know for sure you are speaking to which partner. I’m just saying it’s open to abuse. "
when asked we always put both as we both read messages |
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"We always finish our comment with whoever wrote it. It's simple when you know how!
Jo.Xx
Yeah you guys are very disciplined! Forum and inbox "
We do try!
I think you would still be able to tell who wrote something though even without signing our names off.
Jo.Xx |
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"We always finish our comment with whoever wrote it. It's simple when you know how!
Jo.Xx
Yeah you guys are very disciplined! Forum and inbox
We do try!
I think you would still be able to tell who wrote something though even without signing our names off.
Jo.Xx "
Sometimes i sign off as Dave, as he is so popular |
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I tend to ask - there's no harm in doing so if we're all being open & honest with one another.
Most couples on here have zero chat about them anyway - it's all "come fuck my wife" or "send cock pics"
Zzzzzzzz |
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"I tend to ask - there's no harm in doing so if we're all being open & honest with one another.
Most couples on here have zero chat about them anyway - it's all "come fuck my wife" or "send cock pics"
Zzzzzzzz"
Yeah, sorry, we weren't very sociable that day |
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"I tend to ask - there's no harm in doing so if we're all being open & honest with one another.
Most couples on here have zero chat about them anyway - it's all "come fuck my wife" or "send cock pics"
Zzzzzzzz
Yeah, sorry, we weren't very sociable that day "
Oh you two.....don't make me come over there.... |
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"Does anyone else find it frustrating that when talking to a couples profile you have no idea which one you are talking to. Plus I have had experience where it’s clearly the male pretending to be the female!!! Why would they do that? "
I am not sure but if both have the same profile for sure the woman must see his messages? If something is not appropriate she will reply to you directly from the same profile ? |
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"We always finish our comment with whoever wrote it. It's simple when you know how!
Jo.Xx
Yeah you guys are very disciplined! Forum and inbox
We do try!
I think you would still be able to tell who wrote something though even without signing our names off.
Jo.Xx
Sometimes i sign off as Dave, as he is so popular "
Was that the carrots name?! 
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We always sign of any message with either C or Mr so there is no confusion. But we both jump in and out of a conversation whenever we feel the need to join in. Sometimes it's just a hello yes I'm real and here moment to help ease minds we are actually a couple.
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It really doesn't matter. You won't be meeting us unless we're both happy. Being decent and having a good profile with nice pictures should be more of a concern. You don't get a meeting by being a dick or showing one ! |
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
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I would always address a mail to both and assume I'm talking to the male.
I don't use graphic detail of what I'd like to do anyway. Certainly not in an opening message or few. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We dont mind being asked who is talking, I usually do the talking but hubby sees all messages. what is annoying for us is when we dont get addressed as a couple, and the messages are just addressed to me happens 9 times out of ten. We just delete them now |
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I always address both in my opening massage, then if it’s not made clear i ask, and over the next few days if it’s only the male that’s online (which it usually is) then I move on. It’s actually quite hide to find a genuine couple which is why I have removed couples from my “looking for” now. |
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"We always finish our comment with whoever wrote it. It's simple when you know how!
Jo.Xx
Yeah you guys are very disciplined! Forum and inbox
We do try!
I think you would still be able to tell who wrote something though even without signing our names off.
Jo.Xx
Sometimes i sign off as Dave, as he is so popular
Was that the carrots name?!
D."
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It’s clear from my profile who’s talking. Makes it easier to ignore when they ask who is speaking or they say something like ‘lucky man’ or ‘I love her tattoos’. Immediately tells me they haven’t read my profile so gets deleted. |
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