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Turning 50! Should I fake my age??
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey Fab Hive Mind
I’ve never faked my age, photos, or anything on here .. but I recently turned 50 and suddenly it’s very much harder to engage people in conversation. I’ve been on and off fab for maybe 8 years so I know the place very well. But are there people here who will take someone on their merits rather than the number on their profile?
Ultimately, should I change my age to a fake one, and to what?? All ideas please! Thank you!! Joe xx |
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By *ak4uMan
over a year ago
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"Hey Fab Hive Mind
I’ve never faked my age, photos, or anything on here .. but I recently turned 50 and suddenly it’s very much harder to engage people in conversation. I’ve been on and off fab for maybe 8 years so I know the place very well. But are there people here who will take someone on their merits rather than the number on their profile?
Ultimately, should I change my age to a fake one, and to what?? All ideas please! Thank you!! Joe xx"
You think you have a tough time, just wait lol...... |
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Lie about something to improve your chances of getting sex? Never been done before  , give it a try 
Seriously though it's really easy to tell if someone has knocked off more than about a year and very difficult to maintain the untruth. Often during conversation a reference will be made to something that reveals your true age then you just look silly. Accept that you're growing older and the limitations it places in you as far as fab is concerned and concentrate on the people who will meet men of 50 and older.
Happy birthday |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How would ypu feel if you made a daye with a lady who said she was 30...and it turned out to be a 60 year old bloke...i think youd ne annoyed. Tell the truth"
Yeah, very true! |
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"Hey Fab Hive Mind
I’ve never faked my age, photos, or anything on here .. but I recently turned 50 and suddenly it’s very much harder to engage people in conversation. I’ve been on and off fab for maybe 8 years so I know the place very well. But are there people here who will take someone on their merits rather than the number on their profile?
Ultimately, should I change my age to a fake one, and to what?? All ideas please! Thank you!! Joe xx"
Embrace being in the "50" club  |
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We have had guys message us who are clearly lying about their age. It's an instant block.
Just be yourself. People's age ranges are their own personal choice, lying to get around them shows a huge amount of disrespect. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hey Fab Hive Mind
I’ve never faked my age, photos, or anything on here .. but I recently turned 50 and suddenly it’s very much harder to engage people in conversation. I’ve been on and off fab for maybe 8 years so I know the place very well. But are there people here who will take someone on their merits rather than the number on their profile?
Ultimately, should I change my age to a fake one, and to what?? All ideas please! Thank you!! Joe xxEmbrace being in the "50" club "
I’ll happily do so so long as someone loves embracing 50 yr olds! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pretty much every guy I've met or chatted to on here has shaved a few years off. Doesn't bother me  "
I hadn’t realised til recently how common this is.
Perhaps I should have lied too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Pretty much every guy I've met or chatted to on here has shaved a few years off. Doesn't bother me
I hadn’t realised til recently how common this is.
Perhaps I should have lied too "
When you look like you do, you seriously don’t need to! Xx |
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Age is just a number it's how you look act behave and perform.
We would prefer to meet some who is fit five fit smart confident
Some younger one can be not in shape immature who only think of their own pleasure. So look and behaviour is more important that age for us . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you choose to fake your age forecasting it on a public forum is not the wisest thing to do."
.... is a very good point! But I’m happy everyone here thinks it’s not a good idea anyhow. |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
If it came out, I'd wonder what else you'd faked.
This does remind me, though, I've got to ask a friend of mine, how ten years ago she managed to be older than me, but is now younger than me, according to her profile on here  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not all ladies are wanting younger men. I'm looking for more older men, the dad bods,the men you don't need to tell what you want they have been here for a long while and got the experience and know .
So don't give up op or change your age. Many women are looking for your type of man.
Good luck xxx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not all ladies are wanting younger men. I'm looking for more older men, the dad bods,the men you don't need to tell what you want they have been here for a long while and got the experience and know .
So don't give up op or change your age. Many women are looking for your type of man.
Good luck xxx "
Thank you! I’ll stick to the faith xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Once upon time, I had an incorrect age on my profile. There were reasons for that, but in the end I decided that the real age was best.
It was a lot easier than hiding my my profile, and instantly you will discover that 50 is the cut off for a huge amount of people on here. If those people are not interested in a 50+ person, trying to get their attention by lying isn't a sensible or productive move.
So, you're now playing in a more exclusive / limited club. Concentrating on those who are seeking / are happy with / like a guy who is 50+ while be far more rewarding and more likely to be successful.
Yes, you can probably knock a year or two off and carry it off. I've met ladies who could comfortably knock ten years off and get away with it, but honesty is the best policy, and you will feel a lot better for it in the long run. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it came out, I'd wonder what else you'd faked.
This does remind me, though, I've got to ask a friend of mine, how ten years ago she managed to be older than me, but is now younger than me, according to her profile on here "
Does she drive a DeLorean by any chance? |
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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago
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"Not all ladies are wanting younger men. I'm looking for more older men, the dad bods,the men you don't need to tell what you want they have been here for a long while and got the experience and know .
So don't give up op or change your age. Many women are looking for your type of man.
Good luck xxx
Thank you! I’ll stick to the faith xxx"
Good man! Mind you, if you weren't in Edinburgh and were therefore presenting competition in my age group and area, I'd say what the heck, knock 10 off and another 5 for luck  |
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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago
Wiltshire and London |
"If it came out, I'd wonder what else you'd faked.
This does remind me, though, I've got to ask a friend of mine, how ten years ago she managed to be older than me, but is now younger than me, according to her profile on here
Does she drive a DeLorean by any chance?"
Or is she in show business? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pretty much every guy I've met or chatted to on here has shaved a few years off. Doesn't bother me
I hadn’t realised til recently how common this is.
Perhaps I should have lied too
When you look like you do, you seriously don’t need to! Xx"
Thank you x |
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"Hey Fab Hive Mind
I’ve never faked my age, photos, or anything on here .. but I recently turned 50 and suddenly it’s very much harder to engage people in conversation. I’ve been on and off fab for maybe 8 years so I know the place very well. But are there people here who will take someone on their merits rather than the number on their profile?
Ultimately, should I change my age to a fake one, and to what?? All ideas please! Thank you!! Joe xx"
Just be yourself mate, and embrace your age. I have met two women from here, who purported they were 51, and they each turned out to be 60+ when we met face to face. I was not impressed to say the least....... 
Point to note; the dates on photos on peoples profiles are the date the image was uploaded to the site, and not necessarily the date the pic was taken! Be wary of this...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We know people who are age liars. It's very common on here and we don't condone it. You are what you are. If you lie about your age, what other lies will you tell?
Although we have an age range set on here, if we talk to people in a club (obvs, pre covid) age doesn't come into it. |
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"Pretty much every guy I've met or chatted to on here has shaved a few years off. Doesn't bother me
That's true, the majority we've met have too. So have the women mind you. "
When the woman who invited me round to hers for a coffee opened her front door, and my first thought was “Is your daughter in?” I was gobsmacked! Being polite (and slightly dazed), I went inside, and realised that I had fallen in to her trap, like a fly stuck in a cobweb, and wondered how many blokes had succumbed to her ‘charms’, because sex was there, on a plate.......  I drank my coffee as quick as I could, and thanked her for her time........
It’s the back of their hands, their décolletage, and the neck (where an Adam’s Apple would be on a bloke), which are the giveaways to their true age...... |
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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago
middle earth |
I am super vigilant for age specifically, the amount of people who have 35 as their age then 39 in their bio.. why bother. People like what they like, if you would like to get into someone's pants your not someone I'd want to be fucking |
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Don’t put a fake age, unless you want to watch every woman that turns up for a social, turn around and walk back out. As I did when I arrived for a social to find the man sitting there was at least 5 years older than his age on here, and 10 years older than his photos. (I did go back in, after spending several minutes bracing myself, just to be polite. But there was no way I was willing to meet him after that.) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you genuinely look younger then adjust it. I've met people who are late 20's that looked closer to 40 and vice versa, ladies in their 50's that could get away with 30's. If you've looked after yourself and I do realise much of this is genetic and some people just age quicker and can't help it, then put the age you look. This isn't the battleground to fight ageism as it's hard enough for guys to get meets as it is. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
We met a couple, we were a little unsure whether to meet because of their age but both looked in great shape, sports people looking amazing for their age. When we met and got chatting the chemistry was strong and they admitted they lied about their ages on fab, quite significantly, as they don’t want to meet people there own age and they have very high sex drives and stamina. We were shocked but really liked them and had some memorable meets , among the best, but if we had known thier ages when messaging..... no way would we have met. Most people simply are ageist including us.
So if you are good for your age and aiming younger , do it to get messaging , there’s worse crimes, most people we’ve met admit to but not soon enough, tell them very early, don’t get to intimacy or feelings on a lie. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The, actual person is much more important than any number. "
I absolutely wholeheartedly agree with you, and would add the same regarding so many other attributes.
But so many discard immediately using age filters that they will never get to find out. |
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My logic is that upper range is probably an absolute “that’s too old” in their head and they’re probably only really interested in 5-10 years below that.
It’s an exceptional upper limit, so they’re definitely not interested.
Don’t overthink it. Just take it as it comes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Never understood this. Let's say you change it to 42..
Why would you want to look like a 42 year old that looks 50? Arent you better to be 50 and look 50? "
I’m actually not sure how old I look. I suppose it depends massively on what you’re here for. If you’re here “playing a role” of someone just wanting sex, then pretend to be 21 and wear a mask.
If you’re here genuinely looking for likemindedly sexy souls, and you’re being yourself, then be your age, I guess.
I’m genuinely regarding myself in the latter category! Xx |
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A couple of years off might work but in reality, we get a lot of guys saying they’re “48 and a few months”.
Then they send you a pic of Grandad Trotter and you think fucking hell, how many months? 240?
On the flip side we see guys in their mid 60s who look 40.
It’s your choice but it has to be believable. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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Keep your age as it is op
There's a few on my updates who seem to get younger rather than older and I'd never meet them, based on them lying.
I always think if someone lies about their age, what else will they lie about. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Keep your age as it is op
There's a few on my updates who seem to get younger rather than older and I'd never meet them, based on them lying.
I always think if someone lies about their age, what else will they lie about. "
Well quite. Catastrophe ensues! xx |
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Lol reached 50 a while ago now. It’s just a number. True your ability to communicate with members are restricted but its their loss. If you’ve been on a while you will have nice friends who you have met / chatted to over the past while. No need to fake anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I could of lied about my age I don't look 40 but I am and my fb and people I've met before know this and my driving license doesn't lie but lots don't believe im 40 but that's not my problem im always honest I don't need to lie or hide anything on here |
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"Hey Fab Hive Mind
I’ve never faked my age, photos, or anything on here .. but I recently turned 50 and suddenly it’s very much harder to engage people in conversation. I’ve been on and off fab for maybe 8 years so I know the place very well. But are there people here who will take someone on their merits rather than the number on their profile?
Ultimately, should I change my age to a fake one, and to what?? All ideas please! Thank you!! Joe xx"
I honestly believe for everyone not looking for someone of a particular age there's someone else who is.
We're both passed the 'dreaded' 50 and when we played as a couple found the interest did reduce, but those who did engage tended to be more serious about the lifestyle if that makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hey Fab Hive Mind
I’ve never faked my age, photos, or anything on here .. but I recently turned 50 and suddenly it’s very much harder to engage people in conversation. I’ve been on and off fab for maybe 8 years so I know the place very well. But are there people here who will take someone on their merits rather than the number on their profile?
Ultimately, should I change my age to a fake one, and to what?? All ideas please! Thank you!! Joe xx
I honestly believe for everyone not looking for someone of a particular age there's someone else who is.
We're both passed the 'dreaded' 50 and when we played as a couple found the interest did reduce, but those who did engage tended to be more serious about the lifestyle if that makes sense."
It totally does. Thank you xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met somebody who lied about their age. I didn't care about their age - I'd met them because I liked them, but I couldn't stop wondering what else they might lie about and never met them again. |
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"Lie about something to improve your chances of getting sex? Never been done before , give it a try
Seriously though it's really easy to tell if someone has knocked off more than about a year and very difficult to maintain the untruth. Often during conversation a reference will be made to something that reveals your true age then you just look silly. Accept that you're growing older and the limitations it places in you as far as fab is concerned and concentrate on the people who will meet men of 50 and older.
Happy birthday "
"Is your profile age your actual age? would be a great question to throw in to conversation.......
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am 71 and have NO intention of faking my age. I am who I am, we all are who we are, why would anyone pretend to be other than who they are, other than to dupe someone and then what ? |
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Why fake your age ?? Someone will be expecting a young man and a grey haired old man will turn up,lol,joking,stay as you are,I'm 58 and get on with loads of couples plus I think people see us older ones as more reliable |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
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I genuinely don't understand why people fake their ages pics etc on here. 2 guys I had socials with had obviously lied about their ages and neither got farther than a coffee meet with me.
Lying just to get through peoples filters is a turn off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey Fab Hive Mind
I’ve never faked my age, photos, or anything on here .. but I recently turned 50 and suddenly it’s very much harder to engage people in conversation. I’ve been on and off fab for maybe 8 years so I know the place very well. But are there people here who will take someone on their merits rather than the number on their profile?
Ultimately, should I change my age to a fake one, and to what?? All ideas please! Thank you!! Joe xx"
NO!!!!!!!!! I'd rather people be honest about everything including their age. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just be you.
I turned 50 this year.
Hasn’t made any difference, it’s just a number.
J"
Absolutely..I find that since reaching 50 it's an age that most won't want to engage in although I've been on and off since 47 and still nothing...love window shopping though |
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By *BC AndyMan
over a year ago
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OP don't fake your age i'm 59 pushing 60 told i look much younger for my years. As one poster has said when at clubs or at a party something will crop up in a conversation which will back fire on you. I've always been up front about my age if asked which i think is the best policy, and had some great fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP don't fake your age i'm 59 pushing 60 told i look much younger for my years. As one poster has said when at clubs or at a party something will crop up in a conversation which will back fire on you. I've always been up front about my age if asked which i think is the best policy, and had some great fun."
You certainly do not look 59. You're hot!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In a trust-based community it's far better to be honest from the start. A month here and there isn't a problem - never use your exact birthdate as it's a dead giveaway to your unsuspecting wife/husband, and a gift to phishers. But as I've "matured" past 60 I've been surprised how many youngsters have become interested |
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