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"I use bi curious (rightly ot wrongly) as really I think of myself as flexible. If it feels good in the moment I like to be with women as part of group play but I would never want to meet a woman one on one and don't class myself as Bisexual xx" ^ similar to this. I think some people want to be free to 'try' stuff with the same sex, but might not want to go the full way. I went through a stage that I loved to kiss and caress another woman, but didn't want to go further. | |||
"I use bi curious (rightly ot wrongly) as really I think of myself as flexible. If it feels good in the moment I like to be with women as part of group play but I would never want to meet a woman one on one and don't class myself as Bisexual xx" thanks for commenting and just to clarify I'm not saying its right or wrong I'm just offering a view and wondering what opinion others held. I myself started on Fab as bi-curious had a couple of meets with guys that I enjoyed and changed it to bisexual  | |||
"I use bi curious (rightly ot wrongly) as really I think of myself as flexible. If it feels good in the moment I like to be with women as part of group play but I would never want to meet a woman one on one and don't class myself as Bisexual xx ^ similar to this. I think some people want to be free to 'try' stuff with the same sex, but might not want to go the full way. I went through a stage that I loved to kiss and caress another woman, but didn't want to go further." thanks for taking the time to comment. Yet you put your bisexual on your profile | |||
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"Hetro-flexible might be better perhaps? " you may be right there | |||
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"Tricky one that. I have no interest in guys as potential BF or going out with a guy in a relationship. I never look at a guy coming into a pub and think "ooo he's hot", like I do all the time with girls. However, put a nice cock in front of my face and I'll MORE than likely suck it til the spunk shoots over me. Answers on a postcard what I should be called ??" Bisexual | |||
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"I don't fancy guys but love sucking cock I am bi something but not sure what !" Cock friendly like myself or am I bi something like you | |||
"I don't fancy guys but love sucking cock I am bi something but not sure what !" Bi curious - flexible perhaps? So someone clicking on your profile would see the male half is open to bi play and a conversation will find out what? | |||
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Not out and out bi sexual, but willing to play that way if its whats wanted at the time. | |||
"Tricky one that. I have no interest in guys as potential BF or going out with a guy in a relationship. I never look at a guy coming into a pub and think "ooo he's hot", like I do all the time with girls. However, put a nice cock in front of my face and I'll MORE than likely suck it til the spunk shoots over me. Answers on a postcard what I should be called ??" Bisexual | |||
"My profile states straight most of the time but would love a nice cock to play with but only if was part of mmf don’t want to meet men 1.1 I only into good looking cocks as I consider mine to be ,I consider myself more cock friendly than bi -sexual / curious or am I wrong ? " I'd suggest you block single guys, that will tell anyone looking at your profile you are not into 1:1 with males to start with. It sounds like a bi - oral only category would be of benefit. | |||
"I don't fancy guys but love sucking cock I am bi something but not sure what ! Cock friendly like myself or am I bi something like you " | |||
"My profile states straight most of the time but would love a nice cock to play with but only if was part of mmf don’t want to meet men 1.1 I only into good looking cocks as I consider mine to be ,I consider myself more cock friendly than bi -sexual / curious or am I wrong ? I'd suggest you block single guys, that will tell anyone looking at your profile you are not into 1:1 with males to start with. It sounds like a bi - oral only category would be of benefit. " | |||
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"How about: Bi curious - oral only Bi curious - top Bi curious - bottom Bi curious - flexible Bicurious = not yet had any bi fun but curious about trying their stated preference. Bisexual - oral only Bisexual - top Bisexual - bottom Bisexual - flexible Bisexual = have tried bi fun and wants more of their stated preference. " Or you could just say on your profile | |||
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"Tricky one that. I have no interest in guys as potential BF or going out with a guy in a relationship. I never look at a guy coming into a pub and think "ooo he's hot", like I do all the time with girls. However, put a nice cock in front of my face and I'll MORE than likely suck it til the spunk shoots over me. Answers on a postcard what I should be called ?? Bisexual" | |||
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"How about: Bi curious - oral only Bi curious - top Bi curious - bottom Bi curious - flexible Bicurious = not yet had any bi fun but curious about trying their stated preference. Bisexual - oral only Bisexual - top Bisexual - bottom Bisexual - flexible Bisexual = have tried bi fun and wants more of their stated preference. Or you could just say on your profile " Exactly the thread was purely about the drop down box options when you fill in your profile. I think some people haven't really understood my original post that started the thread | |||
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"I still use bi curious as a woman as I have only had limited experiences with women. I still feel curious about it x Mrs N" that seems a perfectly reasonable course of action in your circumstances. How about your partner as I see he is also bi curious, maybe I can help there  | |||
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"How about: Bi curious - oral only Bi curious - top Bi curious - bottom Bi curious - flexible Bicurious = not yet had any bi fun but curious about trying their stated preference. Bisexual - oral only Bisexual - top Bisexual - bottom Bisexual - flexible Bisexual = have tried bi fun and wants more of their stated preference. " “Top” and “bottom” are pretty meaningless for the majority of women. | |||
"I don't fancy guys but love sucking cock I am bi something but not sure what !" Most likely hetero-flexible if you aren’t attracted to men. | |||
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"Tricky one that. I have no interest in guys as potential BF or going out with a guy in a relationship. I never look at a guy coming into a pub and think "ooo he's hot", like I do all the time with girls. However, put a nice cock in front of my face and I'll MORE than likely suck it til the spunk shoots over me. Answers on a postcard what I should be called ??" Lucky and happy | |||
"Hetro-flexible might be better perhaps? " Or 'unsure'? | |||
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"How about: Bi curious - oral only Bi curious - top Bi curious - bottom Bi curious - flexible Bicurious = not yet had any bi fun but curious about trying their stated preference. Bisexual - oral only Bisexual - top Bisexual - bottom Bisexual - flexible Bisexual = have tried bi fun and wants more of their stated preference. “Top” and “bottom” are pretty meaningless for the majority of women." Then you would pick flexible? | |||
"How about: Bi curious - oral only Bi curious - top Bi curious - bottom Bi curious - flexible Bicurious = not yet had any bi fun but curious about trying their stated preference. Bisexual - oral only Bisexual - top Bisexual - bottom Bisexual - flexible Bisexual = have tried bi fun and wants more of their stated preference. “Top” and “bottom” are pretty meaningless for the majority of women.Then you would pick flexible?" It’s a moot point, because it’ll never be added to the options, but why should we? Anyway, “flexible” isn’t the word, it’s either “vers” or less commonly “switch”, but either way why should we use male labels to describe ourselves? | |||
"How about: Bi curious - oral only Bi curious - top Bi curious - bottom Bi curious - flexible Bicurious = not yet had any bi fun but curious about trying their stated preference. Bisexual - oral only Bisexual - top Bisexual - bottom Bisexual - flexible Bisexual = have tried bi fun and wants more of their stated preference. “Top” and “bottom” are pretty meaningless for the majority of women.Then you would pick flexible? It’s a moot point, because it’ll never be added to the options, but why should we? Anyway, “flexible” isn’t the word, it’s either “vers” or less commonly “switch”, but either way why should we use male labels to describe ourselves?" I hadn't seen them as male labels to be honest. | |||
"I use bi curious (rightly ot wrongly) as really I think of myself as flexible. If it feels good in the moment I like to be with women as part of group play but I would never want to meet a woman one on one and don't class myself as Bisexual xx ^ similar to this. I think some people want to be free to 'try' stuff with the same sex, but might not want to go the full way. I went through a stage that I loved to kiss and caress another woman, but didn't want to go further. thanks for taking the time to comment. Yet you put your bisexual on your profile" Yes, like I said I went through a stage where I was only bi curious. At that 'stage' my profile had bi-curious on it. | |||
"How about: Bi curious - oral only Bi curious - top Bi curious - bottom Bi curious - flexible Bicurious = not yet had any bi fun but curious about trying their stated preference. Bisexual - oral only Bisexual - top Bisexual - bottom Bisexual - flexible Bisexual = have tried bi fun and wants more of their stated preference. “Top” and “bottom” are pretty meaningless for the majority of women. Then you would pick flexible? It’s a moot point, because it’ll never be added to the options, but why should we? Anyway, “flexible” isn’t the word, it’s either “vers” or less commonly “switch”, but either way why should we use male labels to describe ourselves? I hadn't seen them as male labels to be honest." Some women might use them, but it’s pretty uncommon. They’re usually only used about men who have sex with men. | |||
"Bisexual means you are ATTRACTED to more than one gender. It has nothing to do with whether you’ve had sex with certain genders, or how often you’ve done so. It simply means that you are attracted to more than one gender. I was just as bi before my first experience with a woman, as I was after it. Because I have always been attracted to women, men, and non-binary people. If you aren’t attracted to people of your own gender, but you play with them when in the right mood, you are probably hetero-flexible. But you’re not bisexual. Personally, if I see bi-curious on a woman’s profile (or the woman in a couple), I’m wary. She might be genuinely bi but has fallen into the mistake of thinking she’s only allowed to call herself “curious” because she hasn’t had sex with a woman yet. Or she might be straight but willing to play in a very limited way with a woman, and that doesn’t appeal to me at all, because I only want to play with people who fancy me (just like I don’t want to play with people I don’t fancy). Honestly I don’t think threads like this are helpful to people who might be unsure what they’re “allowed” to call themselves." Well thanks for expressing an opinion but if I might say this you seem to have totally misunderstood my original post that started this thread. It was about the options under sexuality when filling out the personal details on your profile and I stated a viewpoint, just as you have done, however, for you to say a thread like that isn't helpful is tantamount to you being presumptuous that only your stand point on this is valid and no one else's opinion or observation matters | |||
"How about: Bi curious - oral only Bi curious - top Bi curious - bottom Bi curious - flexible Bicurious = not yet had any bi fun but curious about trying their stated preference. Bisexual - oral only Bisexual - top Bisexual - bottom Bisexual - flexible Bisexual = have tried bi fun and wants more of their stated preference. “Top” and “bottom” are pretty meaningless for the majority of women." | |||
"A lot of gay guys here use 'bi-curious' - they are curious about women, not men - but, of course, that's not how most people will read it The other 'upside' for them is that the supposed curiosity attracts guys who wouldn't be comfortable meeting a gay guy - and there are plenty of them" A valid point well put | |||
"I think you can only use the term ‘curious’ until you have experienced something, after you have your no longer curious. It’s like thinking I wonder what’s inside the box, once you open it you know, curiosity is gone. " That's my opinion too | |||
"I use bi curious (rightly ot wrongly) as really I think of myself as flexible. If it feels good in the moment I like to be with women as part of group play but I would never want to meet a woman one on one and don't class myself as Bisexual xx ^ similar to this. I think some people want to be free to 'try' stuff with the same sex, but might not want to go the full way. I went through a stage that I loved to kiss and caress another woman, but didn't want to go further. thanks for taking the time to comment. Yet you put your bisexual on your profile Yes, like I said I went through a stage where I was only bi curious. At that 'stage' my profile had bi-curious on it." thanks for clarifying, I was just the same  | |||
"Bisexual means you are ATTRACTED to more than one gender. It has nothing to do with whether you’ve had sex with certain genders, or how often you’ve done so. It simply means that you are attracted to more than one gender. I was just as bi before my first experience with a woman, as I was after it. Because I have always been attracted to women, men, and non-binary people. If you aren’t attracted to people of your own gender, but you play with them when in the right mood, you are probably hetero-flexible. But you’re not bisexual. Personally, if I see bi-curious on a woman’s profile (or the woman in a couple), I’m wary. She might be genuinely bi but has fallen into the mistake of thinking she’s only allowed to call herself “curious” because she hasn’t had sex with a woman yet. Or she might be straight but willing to play in a very limited way with a woman, and that doesn’t appeal to me at all, because I only want to play with people who fancy me (just like I don’t want to play with people I don’t fancy). Honestly I don’t think threads like this are helpful to people who might be unsure what they’re “allowed” to call themselves. Well thanks for expressing an opinion but if I might say this you seem to have totally misunderstood my original post that started this thread. It was about the options under sexuality when filling out the personal details on your profile and I stated a viewpoint, just as you have done, however, for you to say a thread like that isn't helpful is tantamount to you being presumptuous that only your stand point on this is valid and no one else's opinion or observation matters" Your OP said this: “Just an observation really but I wondered what others opinions might be. On the personal details part of a profile one of the options under sexuality is bi-curious, surely you are only curious till the moment you try a bi experience and then you are either straight because its not for you or bisexual because you enjoyed it and want more.Anyone else have an opinion on this, it just seems strange when you see profiles that state bi- curious yet they have verifications that show they have had a few bi experiences over quite a period of time.” Which wasn’t about the profile options as such, it was stating that someone can only be bi-curious until the point they have a bi experience, and basically said that you think people shouldn’t put bi-curious if they’ve had a few bi experiences. The rest of the thread turned into people stating as fact what people should call themselves, which is the part I find unhelpful to anyone questioning. If you go and look up any bi resources elsewhere on the internet, you’ll find that they say much the same as I did - sexuality labels are based on attraction, not on action. | |||
"Bisexual means you are ATTRACTED to more than one gender. It has nothing to do with whether you’ve had sex with certain genders, or how often you’ve done so. It simply means that you are attracted to more than one gender. I was just as bi before my first experience with a woman, as I was after it. Because I have always been attracted to women, men, and non-binary people. If you aren’t attracted to people of your own gender, but you play with them when in the right mood, you are probably hetero-flexible. But you’re not bisexual. Personally, if I see bi-curious on a woman’s profile (or the woman in a couple), I’m wary. She might be genuinely bi but has fallen into the mistake of thinking she’s only allowed to call herself “curious” because she hasn’t had sex with a woman yet. Or she might be straight but willing to play in a very limited way with a woman, and that doesn’t appeal to me at all, because I only want to play with people who fancy me (just like I don’t want to play with people I don’t fancy). Honestly I don’t think threads like this are helpful to people who might be unsure what they’re “allowed” to call themselves. Well thanks for expressing an opinion but if I might say this you seem to have totally misunderstood my original post that started this thread. It was about the options under sexuality when filling out the personal details on your profile and I stated a viewpoint, just as you have done, however, for you to say a thread like that isn't helpful is tantamount to you being presumptuous that only your stand point on this is valid and no one else's opinion or observation matters Your OP said this: “Just an observation really but I wondered what others opinions might be. On the personal details part of a profile one of the options under sexuality is bi-curious, surely you are only curious till the moment you try a bi experience and then you are either straight because its not for you or bisexual because you enjoyed it and want more.Anyone else have an opinion on this, it just seems strange when you see profiles that state bi- curious yet they have verifications that show they have had a few bi experiences over quite a period of time.” Which wasn’t about the profile options as such, it was stating that someone can only be bi-curious until the point they have a bi experience, and basically said that you think people shouldn’t put bi-curious if they’ve had a few bi experiences. The rest of the thread turned into people stating as fact what people should call themselves, which is the part I find unhelpful to anyone questioning. If you go and look up any bi resources elsewhere on the internet, you’ll find that they say much the same as I did - sexuality labels are based on attraction, not on action." Well I will have to agree to disagree there, I think you can only maintain a state of curiosity temporarily and in the short term. Once you have experienced something, especially several times, then you have made a conscious decision so you aren't any longer in a state of curiosity. Sexual attraction is not always about physical attraction either. | |||
"Bisexual means you are ATTRACTED to more than one gender. It has nothing to do with whether you’ve had sex with certain genders, or how often you’ve done so. It simply means that you are attracted to more than one gender. I was just as bi before my first experience with a woman, as I was after it. Because I have always been attracted to women, men, and non-binary people. If you aren’t attracted to people of your own gender, but you play with them when in the right mood, you are probably hetero-flexible. But you’re not bisexual. Personally, if I see bi-curious on a woman’s profile (or the woman in a couple), I’m wary. She might be genuinely bi but has fallen into the mistake of thinking she’s only allowed to call herself “curious” because she hasn’t had sex with a woman yet. Or she might be straight but willing to play in a very limited way with a woman, and that doesn’t appeal to me at all, because I only want to play with people who fancy me (just like I don’t want to play with people I don’t fancy). Honestly I don’t think threads like this are helpful to people who might be unsure what they’re “allowed” to call themselves. Well thanks for expressing an opinion but if I might say this you seem to have totally misunderstood my original post that started this thread. It was about the options under sexuality when filling out the personal details on your profile and I stated a viewpoint, just as you have done, however, for you to say a thread like that isn't helpful is tantamount to you being presumptuous that only your stand point on this is valid and no one else's opinion or observation matters Your OP said this: “Just an observation really but I wondered what others opinions might be. On the personal details part of a profile one of the options under sexuality is bi-curious, surely you are only curious till the moment you try a bi experience and then you are either straight because its not for you or bisexual because you enjoyed it and want more.Anyone else have an opinion on this, it just seems strange when you see profiles that state bi- curious yet they have verifications that show they have had a few bi experiences over quite a period of time.” Which wasn’t about the profile options as such, it was stating that someone can only be bi-curious until the point they have a bi experience, and basically said that you think people shouldn’t put bi-curious if they’ve had a few bi experiences. The rest of the thread turned into people stating as fact what people should call themselves, which is the part I find unhelpful to anyone questioning. If you go and look up any bi resources elsewhere on the internet, you’ll find that they say much the same as I did - sexuality labels are based on attraction, not on action. Well I will have to agree to disagree there, I think you can only maintain a state of curiosity temporarily and in the short term. Once you have experienced something, especially several times, then you have made a conscious decision so you aren't any longer in a state of curiosity. Sexual attraction is not always about physical attraction either." Now who’s misunderstanding posts? I personally think bi-curious is a somewhat meaningless label, as you’re either attracted to more than one gender, or you’re not. I don’t know what you want to “agree to disagree” about, because all I said about “bi-curious” was in quoting you. Sexuality isn’t a matter of making “a conscious decision”, one can’t decide not to be gay for example. Equally one can’t decide to be bi. And sexual attraction is almost always about physical attraction, I’m curious as to what else you think it’s about? As I somehow don’t think you mean becoming sexually attracted to someone because you find their personality attractive. | |||
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"Well someone can be sexually attractive to someone without being blown away by their physical aspects. Some are Drawn to confident people, some by those in a position of power and status. Sometimes those with all the supposed sexual attributes think having what is perceived as a sexy body are not actually that sexy other than visually appealing at first but lacking any kind of sexual spark" But it’s all attraction, regardless of exactly why. It still equals being attracted either to one gender, or to more than one gender. | |||
"Well someone can be sexually attractive to someone without being blown away by their physical aspects. Some are Drawn to confident people, some by those in a position of power and status. Sometimes those with all the supposed sexual attributes think having what is perceived as a sexy body are not actually that sexy other than visually appealing at first but lacking any kind of sexual spark But it’s all attraction, regardless of exactly why. It still equals being attracted either to one gender, or to more than one gender." I'm sorry but you are going completely off track from the topic of my original post and as much as I enjoy reading your particular perspective on things I think this thread has run its course. Perhaps you would like to start a new topic for discussion? | |||
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