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Spotting the fakes!
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Hi all,
First forum post. Hubby and I are very new to the scene and I think we picked the wrong time to do it (pandemic and all that!) but I thought we were working out what to look for with fake people etc but now we’re not so sure!
What are your piece of advice or things to spot to wheedle out the fakes and time wasters??
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By *igfun911Man
over a year ago
East Lancashire |
You get used to spotting them.
Just joined in last day or two, nothing about them, "will fill in later", no pics at all, asking for pics when they have none, the list goes on....
Stick with it, you will find it gets easier with time to spot the dreamers, fakes and pic collectors.
I hope it doesn't put you off as there are a few of genuine ones on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say taking your time to get to know someone, especially in the current climate
Personally I don't really do sex chat in Fab, in fact I'm probably really vanilla in fab - got stung a few times in my early days with photos.. I thought everyone was genuine lol. Gosh i soon found out
So proceed with caution.. Look how old their photos are, do a check (reverse search).. Do they want to talk dirty /intensely and swap photos
Are they photo verified, meet verified.. Ask them them not
Do they go in chat rooms /cam.. (You could see them then)
Do they use 'we' if you are talking to a single .. And 'i' if you are taking to a couple
So many red flags, but if you keep your head and use your common sense you should be OK.. Always remember if it seems too good to be true, it usually is |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’re really new here and caught out a few “couples” where it was only a guy which at first we thought was a really weird thing to be doing but kinda clicked on that it is actually a thing a lot of these guys do,
We also found that if chatting for a little while, the missus always seems to be work/busy/sleep/ out (ald knows where when we’re locked down)
Like a few of the guys here have said, just go slow and making sure they have at least picture verification is a must for us now, as well a tip somebody gave to us, if somebody asks to speak via Kik, get them to send a live picture of them both if they don’t like that is probably worth avoiding, but definitely stick with it and the forums are pretty good places to chat to real people
Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Welcome to the forum.
Trust your gut. If it feels wrong it probably is.
Don't do sex chat or send any pics until you've actually met them in person. Some men just want to wank about the fantasy of meeting. They pretend to be women/ couples/ hot sexy men to help the wank. |
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if it doesnt sound right
if it sounds vague
if it doesnt sound committed to meeting
if it just feels off in someway
ITS A FAKE
actions to take.
delete messages
block user
move on.
to be honest you get a feeling that something isnt quite right in the world |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Find asking for a direct pic of them with say pulling their ear or rubbing their chin. Doesn't have to show face but shows their real
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Oh thats quite a good idea! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Find asking for a direct pic of them with say pulling their ear or rubbing their chin. Doesn't have to show face but shows their real
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Note to women and couples- don't ever do this. They can use the pic you send to catfish other people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Find asking for a direct pic of them with say pulling their ear or rubbing their chin. Doesn't have to show face but shows their real
Note to women and couples- don't ever do this. They can use the pic you send to catfish other people. "
think if you angle the camera you can capture the selected action without facial features could be pulling your big toe lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Find asking for a direct pic of them with say pulling their ear or rubbing their chin. Doesn't have to show face but shows their real
Note to women and couples- don't ever do this. They can use the pic you send to catfish other people. "
Omg |
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"Find asking for a direct pic of them with say pulling their ear or rubbing their chin. Doesn't have to show face but shows their real
Note to women and couples- don't ever do this. They can use the pic you send to catfish other people.
Omg"
Omg you are such a fake  |
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Good evening and Welcome to fab,as a lot of the previous posts said go with your gut if it feels not right it probably isn't right!!!and believe me when I say this that there are plenty of false couples profiles on here too so thread carefully |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Find asking for a direct pic of them with say pulling their ear or rubbing their chin. Doesn't have to show face but shows their real
Note to women and couples- don't ever do this. They can use the pic you send to catfish other people.
Omg
Omg you are such a fake "
That's why you ask for something very very specific |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That live pic on kik thing doesn't always work, we had a girl who wanted us to do that and we did but for some reason the picture wasn't showing something right on her end, so she didn't believe it was genuine, we offered WhatsApp but of course some people don't want that because it exposes your number |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s a tough one that.
Gut instinct is the only way I can describe it. No pics, empty profile, I generally tend to not bother speaking to. But I’ve seen some truly amazing levels of detail on what turned out to be fake accounts.
My advice is try and stick to club meets or socials, and always have a back up plan if your set on meeting. |
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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago
Wolverhampton |
Short profile, no or only a couple of pics, no verifications - esp if been on over a year. Asking fir your face pics immediately. Jumping straight into sex chat.
Ask for a direct pic with them doing something strange that they won’t already have - hand on shoulder type thing & if a couple must be of both together abs not separate.
Saying all that you will get a feel for it fairly quickly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they call you 'hun' every single one who has called me hun has been a fake
I call my hubby "hun", no wonder he's always doubted me!  "
Does he keep asking for live pics? |
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"If they call you 'hun' every single one who has called me hun has been a fake
I call my hubby "hun", no wonder he's always doubted me!
Does he keep asking for live pics?"
Your name gives you away as a fake.....no guy on here is both polite and normal! More often than not they're neither |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they call you 'hun' every single one who has called me hun has been a fake
I call my hubby "hun", no wonder he's always doubted me!
Does he keep asking for live pics?
Your name gives you away as a fake.....no guy on here is both polite and normal! More often than not they're neither "
You've seen through my lies ..hun |
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"If they call you 'hun' every single one who has called me hun has been a fake
I call my hubby "hun", no wonder he's always doubted me!
Does he keep asking for live pics?"
YES!
(usually of his dinner being cooked) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they call you 'hun' every single one who has called me hun has been a fake
I call my hubby "hun", no wonder he's always doubted me!
Does he keep asking for live pics?
YES!
(usually of his dinner being cooked) "
That's proper perverted 
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
Do an image search on anything they send you post.
Profiles without photo or meet veris - doesn't mean they are fake but proceed with caution.
Moving to kik or another platform quickly
Wanting you to send them photos yet they only keep sending the ones on their profile
Profiles that message either sporadically or at certain times of the day (i.e.: late at night when the wife is asleep) |
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Asking for feiend requests to see all your pics when they have none or only one. I often feel these people are only looking for wank material.
I have nothing against people having fun, but I'm more likely to chat if they're actually honest. Tell me you are looking for dirty chat only... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Asking for feiend requests to see all your pics when they have none or only one. I often feel these people are only looking for wank material.
I have nothing against people having fun, but I'm more likely to chat if they're actually honest. Tell me you are looking for dirty chat only..."
Ask them to hold a written sign up with both names or singular name in a pic. Then there is your answer |
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Thanks for everyone’s input and comments! They are all really helpful. When we first joined the site we had no idea about the ‘rules and etiquette’ of swinging and admitted probably went in all guns blazing so to speak, so learning all of this has been helpful for us to know who isn’t genuine and how also to respect everyone on here while everyone looks and finds what they are looking for. Roll on clubs opening! |
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We always get the females to chat over the phone, not only proves that there is a female but also she's game for a meet.
A while ago we were staying at a hotel and fancied a a bit of fun so put up a meet on here.
Three couples replied, all three couldn't get their female half to the phone as she away or ill or whatever.
But he could come along.... |
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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago
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"Asking for feiend requests to see all your pics when they have none or only one. I often feel these people are only looking for wank material.
I have nothing against people having fun, but I'm more likely to chat if they're actually honest. Tell me you are looking for dirty chat only...
Ask them to hold a written sign up with both names or singular name in a pic. Then there is your answer "
And the date also, for me.
I met one couple years back, via another site, that I chatted to on the phone. I was convinced she was a guy because of her deep voice. Turned out she wasn't. But had a fun laugh about it with them. Broke the ice at least. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is it just me that isn't convinced that reverse image search doesn't always work? There are definitely fake profiles on here whose pics don't show up when you R.I.S it. That Google Lens that comes up when you "right click" a photo on here is crap as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably not infallible... But it's caught a few for me... Including one in my inbox this week...
Also guys if you are sending your LinkedIn profile be aware its very easy to find out a lot of information that you might not want a stranger on a swinging site to know! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably not infallible... But it's caught a few for me... Including one in my inbox this week...
Also guys if you are sending your LinkedIn profile be aware its very easy to find out a lot of information that you might not want a stranger on a swinging site to know! "
Who the fuck is stupid enough to send a LinkedIn/Facebook link on here?! Jesus wept... talk about setting yourself up for a fall. |
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"Probably not infallible... But it's caught a few for me... Including one in my inbox this week...
Also guys if you are sending your LinkedIn profile be aware its very easy to find out a lot of information that you might not want a stranger on a swinging site to know!
Who the fuck is stupid enough to send a LinkedIn/Facebook link on here?! Jesus wept... talk about setting yourself up for a fall. "
I guess it's if you use your LinkedIn/Facebook profile pic, reverse search will include the link to your profile |
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As mentioned before, follow your gut instinct and you won’t go far wrong. Beware of the desperate and impatient messages, where they leap into dirty talk immediately and want to ‘friend’ you straight away. Chances are they are using you as wank fodder. You’ll figure it out.
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"Hi all,
First forum post. Hubby and I are very new to the scene and I think we picked the wrong time to do it (pandemic and all that!) but I thought we were working out what to look for with fake people etc but now we’re not so sure!
What are your piece of advice or things to spot to wheedle out the fakes and time wasters??
Thanks all x "
Check verifications read to see if they have actually ever meet ,if they have plenty from different people even better bet they are real |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably not infallible... But it's caught a few for me... Including one in my inbox this week...
Also guys if you are sending your LinkedIn profile be aware its very easy to find out a lot of information that you might not want a stranger on a swinging site to know!
Who the fuck is stupid enough to send a LinkedIn/Facebook link on here?! Jesus wept... talk about setting yourself up for a fall.
I guess it's if you use your LinkedIn/Facebook profile pic, reverse search will include the link to your profile "
Yes exactly this...very easy to get full name, employment details, circle etc! I've come across a few |
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By *p4u69Man
over a year ago
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Unfortunately being based in the channel islands there is a lack of choice and people tend to be extremely reserved with sending any pictures whatsoever. There is always the added risk of you knowing them or somehow being connected through a mutual friend, I can't wait for the borders to finally open again and start having some proper meets with like minded people in the UK.
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Top Signs
1. Beginning of the message starts with Hi Hun or Babe.
2. Proceeds to ask for pics when they have none on their profile.
3. Profile is new with no veri, pics or friends.
4. Profile is a couples profile and its the husband messaging.
5. Requests to meet up but does not send any offline contact information i.e Mobile number.
6. Tells you that there mobile phone camera does not work or does not have a camera on their phone.??
7. Avoids answering the question "Do you have a face pic"
8. Couples - Male partner or Husbands messages 'my wife/gf has never had ....' or 'my wife/gf has always wanted to try....'
9. Profile name ends in a long series of numbers i.e 'profilename345534668'
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Flags we look for
Account is old but still not photo verified.
Account is old no verified meets.
Account has no face pics (public or private).
No new photo's for a year.
Couples account but male plays alone.
Account description is one sentence. |
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"I don’t have face pics, never have and never will so not always an indicator of being fake  "
True.
No face pic not always an indicator. Some, dont want to show face pic straight away because of their job/careers/position or self confidence. Understandable to me.
At least have some pics though  |
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By *napppaMan
over a year ago
London |
"I don’t have face pics, never have and never will so not always an indicator of being fake "
Spot on, not an indicator at all.
Rather go on lack of verifications (making sure they're from other, well verified accounts). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you have a android phone hold your finger on there pic and it says search lense . It will search Google and majority of sites where you don't need to be a member I.e pornsites etc 9 times out of 10 pics ive thought r fake have come back with results . Hope this helps |
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By *lowhands7Man
over a year ago
South Leicestershire (willing to travel) |
It's a sad fact that it takes time to sift through the time wasters and fakes. My general rule of thumb is not to bother with those without pics, those who don't have much to say in their profile and if I'm being really picky I only message with those who are members.
That all said, there are some fabulous people on here.. it's worth sticking with. |
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When you have been on here a long time you develop a sixth sense. The one thing that does piss me off is couples contacting me and the male half pretending it’s the female doing the talking. Pathetic |
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"When you have been on here a long time you develop a sixth sense. The one thing that does piss me off is couples contacting me and the male half pretending it’s the female doing the talking. Pathetic "
That happens a lot. Asking them to both cam briefly to show they're a couple tends to sort the genuine from the fantasist. |
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