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I'm starting to think I'm wasting my time on here, I message couples, I'm polite verified, good looking lol etc but I'm not having much luck, I'm willing to travel, am I doing something wrong??? advice please |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"ok thanks guys, im just wondering what to put now, its not quite as easy as i thought  "
Well the fact that you actually have bisexual on your profile is a good start in our books. Shame you live too far from us ....... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm starting to think I'm wasting my time on here, I message couples, I'm polite verified, good looking lol etc but I'm not having much luck, I'm willing to travel, am I doing something wrong??? advice please"
Any male can say they're bi but how does anybody know for sure? And how can the couple be sure you're not just saying bi, just to get some female action?
Get some action shots taken of you with another guy....all adds to your credibility as a true, genuine bi-male. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm having the same problem!!
Any feedback on my profile would be great!!
Thanks x"
The first thing I would say is no-one is going to message you to find out more. You should put it all on your profile.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm having the same problem!!
Any feedback on my profile would be great!!
Thanks x
The first thing I would say is no-one is going to message you to find out more. You should put it all on your profile. "
Good point!! Thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Could I get some advice also about my profile I don't get any responses to messages I've sent, I'm allways pollite and always send face pic maybe I'm just unattractive lol. I,d like to have a bi MMF but never get responses .
What am I doing wrong , can anybody help? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could I get some advice also about my profile I don't get any responses to messages I've sent, I'm allways pollite and always send face pic maybe I'm just unattractive lol. I,d like to have a bi MMF but never get responses .
What am I doing wrong , can anybody help?"
You list yourself as straight. We never meet guys who describe themselves as straight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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we love bi men but as some men can't accept we can't meet at the drop of a hat they send loads of messages begging/pleading then get nasty when you don't agree to their times ect this i'm affraid does make it harder for singles  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Could I get some advice also about my profile I don't get any responses to messages I've sent, I'm allways pollite and always send face pic maybe I'm just unattractive lol. I,d like to have a bi MMF but never get responses .
What am I doing wrong , can anybody help?
You list yourself as straight. We never meet guys who describe themselves as straight."
We are another bi couple here and agree with the above. Would never meet a guy if he was listed as straight. In fact we don't even respond to the messages off straight guys (it just takes up too much time) 
Take their, and our advice. Change your listing to bi or curious. Otherwise none of us bi couples will take you seriously. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I understand why blokes would want to list themselves as straight even if they are bi. We would only look for someone listed as bi though.
We found a bloke listed as bi but it turned out he wasn't really, he just wanted to have fun with me. Which totally missed the point of the meet. Found a few like that actually, pretending to be bi to get more meets.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand why blokes would want to list themselves as straight even if they are bi. We would only look for someone listed as bi though.
We found a bloke listed as bi but it turned out he wasn't really, he just wanted to have fun with me. Which totally missed the point of the meet. Found a few like that actually, pretending to be bi to get more meets.
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We've changed our profile now to make it even clearer. And Spit will enforce the 'I want to see the guys in action first' rule |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand why blokes would want to list themselves as straight even if they are bi. We would only look for someone listed as bi though.
We found a bloke listed as bi but it turned out he wasn't really, he just wanted to have fun with me. Which totally missed the point of the meet. Found a few like that actually, pretending to be bi to get more meets.
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We've changed our profile now to make it even clearer. And Spit will enforce the 'I want to see the guys in action first' rule |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand why blokes would want to list themselves as straight even if they are bi. We would only look for someone listed as bi though.
We found a bloke listed as bi but it turned out he wasn't really, he just wanted to have fun with me. Which totally missed the point of the meet. Found a few like that actually, pretending to be bi to get more meets.
We've changed our profile now to make it even clearer. And Spit will enforce the 'I want to see the guys in action first' rule"
Good idea, I like that. Hope you don't mind but think I'll add that to my selection process. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand why blokes would want to list themselves as straight even if they are bi. We would only look for someone listed as bi though.
We found a bloke listed as bi but it turned out he wasn't really, he just wanted to have fun with me. Which totally missed the point of the meet. Found a few like that actually, pretending to be bi to get more meets.
We've changed our profile now to make it even clearer. And Spit will enforce the 'I want to see the guys in action first' rule
Good idea, I like that. Hope you don't mind but think I'll add that to my selection process. "
You're welcome. Should out the fakes. And be fun too  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well interestingly we were at a meet last night with a straight guy, and he says he has the opposite problem, couples where the guy says he is straight but is really bi and wants some mm action.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well interestingly we were at a meet last night with a straight guy, and he says he has the opposite problem, couples where the guy says he is straight but is really bi and wants some mm action.
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Idiots then. Say what you want upfront and stick to it. |
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I can only assume people put incorrect sexuality on their profiles as it must work.
There must be couples out there who once they get to the action, just approach it with well we've invested time etc in getting this far, lets just make the most of it.
But I suppose if you met for a drink first, there is nothing to stop the fella's going off to the gents to make sure everything is on the up and up first.
Same for bi girls, looking for couples with bi women.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand why blokes would want to list themselves as straight even if they are bi. We would only look for someone listed as bi though.
We found a bloke listed as bi but it turned out he wasn't really, he just wanted to have fun with me. Which totally missed the point of the meet. Found a few like that actually, pretending to be bi to get more meets.
We've changed our profile now to make it even clearer. And Spit will enforce the 'I want to see the guys in action first' rule"
That's a good idea and rather naughty making bi guy prove he is bi really horny  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand why blokes would want to list themselves as straight even if they are bi. We would only look for someone listed as bi though.
We found a bloke listed as bi but it turned out he wasn't really, he just wanted to have fun with me. Which totally missed the point of the meet. Found a few like that actually, pretending to be bi to get more meets.
We've changed our profile now to make it even clearer. And Spit will enforce the 'I want to see the guys in action first' rule"
Enforce it !!!! wow how do you force someone
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I understand why blokes would want to list themselves as straight even if they are bi. We would only look for someone listed as bi though.
We found a bloke listed as bi but it turned out he wasn't really, he just wanted to have fun with me. Which totally missed the point of the meet. Found a few like that actually, pretending to be bi to get more meets.
We've changed our profile now to make it even clearer. And Spit will enforce the 'I want to see the guys in action first' rule
Enforce it !!!! wow how do you force someone
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If it doesnt just start naturally Spit says "Get on with the blowjob, bend over and take it or put your clothes back on and go away, your choice" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am never to fed up to respond to this sort on thread even though we see same/similar over and over each week
So surprisingly my reply is similar to most; ie - profile/profile pics/verify/meets/and get stuck in other threads on here get yourself know to us all and be happy 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Enforce it !!!! wow how do you force someone
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We don't force anyone but i often won't play on a first meet and we make that clear from the first message...sorts out the wheat from the wannabes... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Enforce it !!!! wow how do you force someone
We don't force anyone but i often won't play on a first meet and we make that clear from the first message...sorts out the wheat from the wannabes..."
Being a bit pedantic here I know, but I said ENforce, not force. If anyone claims to be bi and meet us on that basis then they play as bi or leave. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ENforce !!!! means the same thing you are forcing someone to do something forcibly !!!!
but I do know what you mean I think, you are just making sure that they are not there just to shag the missus ....
there are a lot of timewasters on here in every shape and form and it isn't narrowed down to just one part of swinging it's across the board !!!!
We all just have to persevere and hopefully meet the right people lol.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hey folks all makes for interesting reading! It's all down to personal taste surely. I love to meet cold that like bi guys but they are just as difficult to contact. A decent profile and good pics help ( I'm told mine are ok) but don't assume every bi cpl will want you because you are bi too. The beautiful ladies and couples still have the power and choice. Have fun all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I understand why blokes would want to list themselves as straight even if they are bi. We would only look for someone listed as bi though.
We found a bloke listed as bi but it turned out he wasn't really, he just wanted to have fun with me. Which totally missed the point of the meet. Found a few like that actually, pretending to be bi to get more meets.
We've changed our profile now to make it even clearer. And Spit will enforce the 'I want to see the guys in action first' rule
Enforce it !!!! wow how do you force someone
If it doesnt just start naturally Spit says "Get on with the blowjob, bend over and take it or put your clothes back on and go away, your choice""
Now that is hot! Hehe  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Still no public photos, no chance.
Some of us have public photos!
It was a reference to the OP."
Hehe i know but then also wanted to point out that some of us have our pics public, well..... some of the pics hehe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"any one got any suggestions on how i could improve my chances of getting a meet?"
Get rid of the massive block of text, telling us your life history...nobody really cares about your first bi experience.
Tell us more about your likes and dislikes, what you are looking for, then couples will be able to judge if you're what they're looking for. |
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By *hynottsCouple
over a year ago
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Was only friday night we was talking about haveing a bi male but its how far and what we want out of it done mr with my strapon he loves it now its got to the point of we wanting to see mr with a male in a 3 sum but he not keen on the idea of sum bi play  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Was only friday night we was talking about haveing a bi male but its how far and what we want out of it done mr with my strapon he loves it now its got to the point of we wanting to see mr with a male in a 3 sum but he not keen on the idea of sum bi play "
You'll have to just wait and see if he changes his mind. He'll be unsure about it at first and in the meantime keep having fun with your strap on.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Was only friday night we was talking about haveing a bi male but its how far and what we want out of it done mr with my strapon he loves it now its got to the point of we wanting to see mr with a male in a 3 sum but he not keen on the idea of sum bi play "
Then surely that's his preference and best left to the imagination? We can't make people do something they don't want to. Well I suppose we can force them. Not for me though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Was only friday night we was talking about haveing a bi male but its how far and what we want out of it done mr with my strapon he loves it now its got to the point of we wanting to see mr with a male in a 3 sum but he not keen on the idea of sum bi play
Then surely that's his preference and best left to the imagination? We can't make people do something they don't want to. Well I suppose we can force them. Not for me though. "
Stick with what you are comfortable with, don't push your limits to the next level til you feel ready |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting thread and something I've struggled with too. I think maybe "bi-curious" puts people off but I'm not into m/m penetration so am wary of putting fully bi in case is seen as dishonest.
As with all things on here, I'm putting it down to time and patience. I also think I need to take a trip out of London soon too and see some other areas (and fabbers !) around the country |
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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago
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"I'm starting to think I'm wasting my time on here, I message couples, I'm polite verified, good looking lol etc but I'm not having much luck, I'm willing to travel, am I doing something wrong??? advice please
Any male can say they're bi but how does anybody know for sure? And how can the couple be sure you're not just saying bi, just to get some female action?
Get some action shots taken of you with another guy....all adds to your credibility as a true, genuine bi-male."
Arranging that isn't exactly trivial as I have found out. A lot of men don't want to be photographed or if they do they want to hang on to the pictures not share them. |
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My profile works, and has many times thankfully.
HOWEVER
I find MF couples and MM couples 98% reliable,
I find single men who want to meet 23% reliable,
most I feel, fantasise about guy on guy stuff but bottle it when it comes to the actually meeting part, that's been my experience.
How much worse that ratio must be for couples when the guy they hope to meet is not actually bi !!!!
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By *odjamMan
over a year ago
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I have no problem putting that I am bi on my profile as I think you should be truthful with your sexuality so that who ever you meet are aware and are happy with what will happen particularly the male partner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am surprised that straight guys put themselves in the situation of saying they're bi to get a meet.
Maybe an email prior to meeting should go like this:
My wife/girlfriend etc. can only get horny by watching the 2 guys play together for a while, she loves to watch them sucking, playing, kissing and enjoying themselves, before she will join in.
I don't think any truly straight guy could face that prospect |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ther is guys who havi bi curious or bisexual on ther profile lookin for couples but you jus get bombarded wif message from guys then when.you say no they make up.a fake mf couple profile and try to say something come up. My otha half cnz make it it jus.me so bein a single guy ya fooked jus about on here,,, be good if i could find a female fb but ya never know always xpect unexpected |
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Different strokes for different folks. My profile says straight because I've never had a bi experience. I'm actually interested to try, but I'd rather my first time be with a couple than a single guy. Switching my profile to bi gets me bombarded with messages from single guys, who, right now, I'm not looking for. |
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"Different strokes for different folks. My profile says straight because I've never had a bi experience. I'm actually interested to try, but I'd rather my first time be with a couple than a single guy. Switching my profile to bi gets me bombarded with messages from single guys, who, right now, I'm not looking for. "
The problem with that approach is hat a lot of bi couples like us won't meet you in the first place because we've had SO many problems with 'straight' single males |
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