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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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interesting take on the too old to swing thread the other day.
generally speaking swingers tend to be older people. say 35 upwards as a guess. woudl be good to know the average age of members on here.
now, when i was younger married, right through to my mid 30s i never had any desire to swing. We were still finding new things together in our sex life and it was very fulfilling.
Now a lot of people turn to swinging because its an alternative to married sex and to spice up their lives, yet we now see more and more younger couples, some as young as 18,19 ,20 yrs old.
is that too young to start a swinging lifestyle???
surely they should be out there pulling girls and guys in pubs and clubs. or is that just teh same thing really?
When i was that age i didnt have time to swing cos i was too busy experimenting with my g/f and then wife.
just interested in opinions..... |
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the world changes.
its fluid, and as such, whereas when you were that age, the thing to do was go to the pub and pick up a woman, now, the thing to do is trawl the internet and do the same.
suppose it takes the face to face rejection out of the situation.
we have come to the conclusion it is mostly for people in their second, or even 3rd, proper big relationship.
when people are much more comfortable with who they are, both personally, and socially. otherwise, its for people that are bored with their relationship with each other and dont want to lose all they have worked for together, so instead of going out and finding someone new, they tend to find new people together.
again, before people jump and moan 'thats not us.....blah blah' these are generalisations, and there will always be people that arent in with these views. |
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Theres no such thing as being too young, aslong as your over 18 obviously. Its all about peoples preferences instead but that subject has been done to death and works both ways for old people and young people & the part about how everyone thinks younger people should be out on the pull, being young myself i can say i do that and lead a normal teenage life i just use a site like this for that little bit extra and something different, i dont see nothing wrong with that  |
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Really I suppose it just comes down to a more sexualised society, internet porn being the norm etc. For me I have fantastic sex with my Mr but he, the same as many on here, is also turned on by sharing me with other men. That feeling isn't defined by age. The implication that there's something wrong with under 35s on here is incorrect in my opinion - I think we're just a more sexually liberated generation  |
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"Theres no such thing as being too young, aslong as your over 18 obviously. Its all about peoples preferences instead but that subject has been done to death and works both ways for old people and young people & the part about how everyone thinks younger people should be out on the pull, being young myself i can say i do that and lead a normal teenage life i just use a site like this for that little bit extra and something different, i dont see nothing wrong with that "
i think a massive difference is, its grand to be a single guy/woman, going to pubs or clubs and pulling someone, but if you are a couple, or want to join a couple, then that way of doing things would lead to eiher some VERY sticky situation (involving punch ups or insults) or some very strange looks and finger pointing.
everything has its place in society, and these places are great for what they are used for. |
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We're fairly young but I wouldn't say we're too young at all! We've done a lot of experimenting over the last few years, that's how we ended up on here! Lol and since being here we've realised there's a lot more the we want to try out.
Question to the op- if, while you were experimenting with your wife, she'd suggested a threesome with another lady would you have been interested at that age?
That's pretty much how it started for us and we Havnt looked back!  |
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Also if this website had been available 10, 20, 30 years ago would it have been something that more young people might have done? I suppose the internet has really opened doors and opportunities that otherwise would not have been readily available. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"interesting take on the too old to swing thread the other day.
generally speaking swingers tend to be older people. say 35 upwards as a guess. woudl be good to know the average age of members on here.
now, when i was younger married, right through to my mid 30s i never had any desire to swing. We were still finding new things together in our sex life and it was very fulfilling.
Now a lot of people turn to swinging because its an alternative to married sex and to spice up their lives, yet we now see more and more younger couples, some as young as 18,19 ,20 yrs old.
is that too young to start a swinging lifestyle???
surely they should be out there pulling girls and guys in pubs and clubs. or is that just teh same thing really?
When i was that age i didnt have time to swing cos i was too busy experimenting with my g/f and then wife.
just interested in opinions....."
And to us it's not a "lifestyle", we just enjoy the odd naughty evening with like minded people!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Theres no such thing as being too young, aslong as your over 18 obviously. Its all about peoples preferences instead but that subject has been done to death and works both ways for old people and young people & the part about how everyone thinks younger people should be out on the pull, being young myself i can say i do that and lead a normal teenage life i just use a site like this for that little bit extra and something different, i dont see nothing wrong with that
i think a massive difference is, its grand to be a single guy/woman, going to pubs or clubs and pulling someone, but if you are a couple, or want to join a couple, then that way of doing things would lead to eiher some VERY sticky situation (involving punch ups or insults) or some very strange looks and finger pointing.
everything has its place in society, and these places are great for what they are used for."
Of course, i agree it probably wouldnt end well so obviously a site like this is good for couples but either way whether its a single female, male or couple i see young people get slated for being on here from time to time and thats what annoys me but then everyone is entitled to their opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Really I suppose it just comes down to a more sexualised society, internet porn being the norm etc. For me I have fantastic sex with my Mr but he, the same as many on here, is also turned on by sharing me with other men. That feeling isn't defined by age. The implication that there's something wrong with under 35s on here is incorrect in my opinion - I think we're just a more sexually liberated generation "
i certainly havent suggested its wrong for any age to swing. i just asked the opinion of others and yes i think its down to a more liberated generation. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We're fairly young but I wouldn't say we're too young at all! We've done a lot of experimenting over the last few years, that's how we ended up on here! Lol and since being here we've realised there's a lot more the we want to try out.
Question to the op- if, while you were experimenting with your wife, she'd suggested a threesome with another lady would you have been interested at that age?
That's pretty much how it started for us and we Havnt looked back! "
cant really answer that cos it never happened. i was no prude and we enjoyed a great sex life so it never came up.
I dont think we felt any need to do anything different to be honest, but every couple is different. i am not knocking anyone i just think the world has changed. |
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see, i see it all the time. in em's kids and their friends.
now, when i was a kid we had secret lust over our friends mothers (or fathers for the girls) but this was never spoken of. yet now, it seems to be wierd if you dont tell your mate you fancy his mum lol.
the clothes kids wear now, and their attitude to sex is light years ahead of it was when i was 12/15/17, and galaxies away from where it was when my parents were the same age.
i agree, the oversexualisation of the younger generation has made things that we find should be kept secret are more the norm now.
things like bisexuality and gayness are openly accepted now, as opposed to shunned years ago, and it really is quite refreshing to see.
although i feel it may be going a little TOO far (with parents of really young children actively encouraging them to wear hotpants or crop tops, imo because of the kind of people out there should be discouraged) i have to admit to being a little jealous of the attitudes around sex and sexuality of todays youth. |
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i wish there was sites like this when i was 18, i know id have been on it 
Imagine being a 18 year old single girl on here, they must be fightionmg them off  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i wish there was sites like this when i was 18, i know id have been on it
Imagine being a 18 year old single girl on here, they must be fightionmg them off "
Lol what and your not!!!!!!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP, you suggest some reasons why younger people are less likely to swing - it's not exactly controversial that the longer you've been around, the more things you've probabpy done. But there's nothing in that to say that younger people *shouldn't* swing, and that's a whole different claim.
To be honest I wonder how much of a new thing it really is. Sure, the internet makes it easier and more visible but is it really a new thing for, say, students to experiment with swapping? Hard to imagine it just not happening 30 years ago. Or more. |
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"see, i see it all the time. in em's kids and their friends.
now, when i was a kid we had secret lust over our friends mothers (or fathers for the girls) but this was never spoken of. yet now, it seems to be wierd if you dont tell your mate you fancy his mum lol.
the clothes kids wear now, and their attitude to sex is light years ahead of it was when i was 12/15/17, and galaxies away from where it was when my parents were the same age.
i agree, the oversexualisation of the younger generation has made things that we find should be kept secret are more the norm now.
things like bisexuality and gayness are openly accepted now, as opposed to shunned years ago, and it really is quite refreshing to see.
although i feel it may be going a little TOO far (with parents of really young children actively encouraging them to wear hotpants or crop tops, imo because of the kind of people out there should be discouraged) i have to admit to being a little jealous of the attitudes around sex and sexuality of todays youth."
AAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR i wrote loads of really deep shit then the internet dropped out and it all went away and it was really really good  |
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