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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We have been on Fabs a few months now and have been looking for a couple(s) for initial friendship with a view to a connection to take things further.
To be honest we didn’t think it be too hard to find a couple with a similar humour, interests or the ability to write a message with more than 5 words to it, but we have found it really really difficult.
We were just interested in what other couples experiences were with Fabs and to see if this the norm or is it just us???
A&J xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Finding someone you both click with, find attractive, live close enough and share interests with is difficult... Its the mother of all Venn diagrams... Take your time and be..... Picky... For want of a better word.. It'll be reet in the end |
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We get messages from couples and sometimes the messages flow but usually it slows down after the initial introductions. To be honest, most of the ones that chat frequently tend to be single men pretending to be a couple or just the male half of the couple. We prefer to chat on Kik so all 4 of us can chat together and clearly see who is saying what.
You might get more responses if you have pics of your male half, some couples won’t engage if they can’t see both parties.
Lou x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We get messages from couples and sometimes the messages flow but usually it slows down after the initial introductions. To be honest, most of the ones that chat frequently tend to be single men pretending to be a couple or just the male half of the couple. We prefer to chat on Kik so all 4 of us can chat together and clearly see who is saying what.
You might get more responses if you have pics of your male half, some couples won’t engage if they can’t see both parties.
Lou x "
Yeah, we will be putting some photos of Andy soon.
We have also been caught out with the single guy pretending to be a couple thing so have learnt from that. We have also done the kik chat and we are now insisting on each of the couple having their own kik cos we have been chatting to one account which can get confusing and suspicious with it being just a guy.
It’s basically meeting that couple that puts in the same effort as we do put a lot of effort into all our replies together. I’m sure you know what we mean .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve had lots of lovely chats and then lockdown got in the way. Must admit trying to find a connection and a convenient time for all of us was proving difficult but we hope things will improve once we are all allowed out to play x |
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By *lassy2Couple
over a year ago
sutton Coldfield |
"We have been on Fabs a few months now and have been looking for a couple(s) for initial friendship with a view to a connection to take things further.
To be honest we didn’t think it be too hard to find a couple with a similar humour, interests or the ability to write a message with more than 5 words to it, but we have found it really really difficult.
We were just interested in what other couples experiences were with Fabs and to see if this the norm or is it just us???
A&J xx
I feel you can tell quite a bit by the couples profile, as in life sometimes you gel sometimes you don’t.
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By *atinocoupleCouple
over a year ago
SF, NY, London (in that order) |
Most of our meets have come from finding two different groups of friends who we played with regularly throughout the years. We met them by chance through fab. Only met a couple of separate meets via fab conversations but that’s ok, we are grateful for some lifelong friends and know that’s rare. Frustrating experience a lot of the time but we very casual with this lifestyle so don’t really fret about it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are quite picky with who we meet and the couples we have met have been the ones we’ve had the better connection with so far. Personally think it’s very difficult to find a couple that appeals to both of us, so who I’d think are a nice pair aren’t what C agrees with, but if we do we create a WhatsApp group so all can chat together.
Hopefully you’ll find some stand out candidates soon  |
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Can be difficult making a connection with couples probably your timing in joining hasn't been ideal with clubs being closed and socials are difficult to organise with the various rules across the country difficult to keep a conversation going on here as well |
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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago
East Northamptonshire |
"We have been on Fabs a few months now and have been looking for a couple(s) for initial friendship with a view to a connection to take things further.
To be honest we didn’t think it be too hard to find a couple with a similar humour, interests or the ability to write a message with more than 5 words to it, but we have found it really really difficult.
We were just interested in what other couples experiences were with Fabs and to see if this the norm or is it just us???
A&J xx
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It is very hard to find couples where there is some all round mutual attraction, which is why we have predominantly played with single gents so far. It helps that I (M) really enjoy the opportunity to see S really excited with additional help and also to see other selected gents get turned on by my wife.
We continue to look for the elusive couple where there is a spark all round and that we could enjoy the company of, both sexually and socially. |
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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago
Hertfordshire |
"We’ve had lots of lovely chats and then lockdown got in the way. Must admit trying to find a connection and a convenient time for all of us was proving difficult but we hope things will improve once we are all allowed out to play x"
Lockdown/Covid has ruined everything |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We get messages from couples and sometimes the messages flow but usually it slows down after the initial introductions. To be honest, most of the ones that chat frequently tend to be single men pretending to be a couple or just the male half of the couple. We prefer to chat on Kik so all 4 of us can chat together and clearly see who is saying what.
You might get more responses if you have pics of your male half, some couples won’t engage if they can’t see both parties.
Lou x "
We also encourage a group chat on kik and get everyone engaged in the conversation.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can be difficult making a connection with couples probably your timing in joining hasn't been ideal with clubs being closed and socials are difficult to organise with the various rules across the country difficult to keep a conversation going on here as well "
Although we joined Fabs a few months ago we have done the occasional club and socials before covid and really enjoyed them. Hopefully they will be back soon once this vaccine has been rolled out  |
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We must admit it has got a lot harder to engage with other couples in the last few years, We personally think its down to the amount of fakes on here making it hard to see who is real and who is not leading to couples being less open and unsure who they are talking to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have been on Fabs a few months now and have been looking for a couple(s) for initial friendship with a view to a connection to take things further.
To be honest we didn’t think it be too hard to find a couple with a similar humour, interests or the ability to write a message with more than 5 words to it, but we have found it really really difficult.
We were just interested in what other couples experiences were with Fabs and to see if this the norm or is it just us???
A&J xx
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We feel your pain. It's difficult x |
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Personal opinion only....
We find Fab pretty awful to be honest. Our advice is use clubs, meet people in the flesh, have a chat and get a real feel for them. We only use fabs as an intro around our club visits which works well for us.
Obviously that opinion is pre/post Covid |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s bloody difficult and it isn’t just Fab. Matching 4 different but equal personalities with attraction as well has proven to be a lot harder than we thought. Lockdown hasn’t helped where an initial social can be some time off.... it’s hard to keep just a Kik chat going for ages if you can’t take it any further. |
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There is nothing easy about finding 4 or even three people that all get along, wetherthats in clubs or indeed on fab or any other site.
So many different agenda's preferences and tastes in real life its the same.
Set your profile and expect to have to wade through a lot of wonderful individual pebbles that don't match to find a few diamonds that do. Even then we a change and evolve so be nice as you never know it might click in a couple of years! Its happened to us and so glad it did.
Read a profile say hello you can be surprised don't let others put you off!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We’ve had lots of lovely chats and then lockdown got in the way. Must admit trying to find a connection and a convenient time for all of us was proving difficult but we hope things will improve once we are all allowed out to play x
Lockdown/Covid has ruined everything "
Yes that is for sure makes the pre meet social very difficult x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is what we are after, a couple that we get on with for social nights out and are also attracted to. It's harder as there are mor people to consider both sides. |
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We have couples meets before but as been said on here difficult if there isn't an attraction all ways round ,prefer single guys at the moment but have met some great couples at clubs and social meets |
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By *itzimadCouple
over a year ago
harwich |
four is the hardest number to swing with three is easy as some one is getting spoilt five breaks breaks the wife swopping mould where each couple pair of to do the same with a different partner and allows for voyeurism which came be as thrilling as playing
with four if one is getting the attention of two it means someones left out not such a problem if all are bi |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The current climate probably stifles a lot of peoples ability to connect if they are more about the physical side of swinging and are unable to converse for any length of time without meets, we as a couple only started our journey at the beginning of lockdown and so have been unable to go to any clubs or meet any other women or couples, but we have chatted to some nice women and couples on here over the months we have been here, just looking forward to some normality now and getting ourselves into the clubs and socials |
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We find it difficult as well but it’s a numbers game. There are lots of lovely couples on here who are genuine, it just takes time to find them through the fakes and horrible people.
We like the chat rooms for fun and you do get some lovely couples on there having a good laugh which is always a good sign of personality etc. |
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I understand the desire to have a four way Kik convo going, but I, Chris, struggle a little with the concept -
I don’t really like getting too deep into a four way conversation on Kik, or certainly not initiating it, because I might be seen as a pushy bloke, even if it’s a very vanilla chat. It’s so much easier in a club where it’s a given that people are up for a flirt.
I think you’ll find a proper equal four way Kik conversation almost impossible personally. |
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By *iliciousCouple
over a year ago
Sussex/Surrey |
We consider ourselves to have been fortunate in meeting a couple quite a few years ago who are now lifelong friends in vanilla world as well. Sad they moved out of the country due to Brexit....we keep in touch but would be nice if we could meet another couple nearer to us who we could get along with both in and out of the bedroom on a longer term basis.
Share your pain though - it’s difficult as time has to be invested in searching and meetings etc. And it’s impossible at the moment so OP don’t worry about it, wait until things get back to normal. |
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We found are looking for a couple or two for long term fun as we have found this has worked best for us. We are now open to chatting on kik but only if there is genuine interest to meet as we have found issues with cat fishing and men masquerading.
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Although we aren't looking for couples to play with on here, we often chat to the same 2 or 3 couples and the conversation always flows with them very easily but I guess it that can't be put down to the fact that we just friendly chat with each other knowing it's nothing more so there's no pressure to impress |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Given how difficult it can often be for 1 person to click with 1 other person, I'm often quite surprised that couples wonder why it's difficult for them to click with another couple |
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"Given how difficult it can often be for 1 person to click with 1 other person, I'm often quite surprised that couples wonder why it's difficult for them to click with another couple "
Yeah, me too.
It's a delicate balance. Do I want to have sex with my opposite number? Does my opposite number want to have sex with me? Do the woman on the couple and I get along or will we clash? Do they both want the same things we want?
That times 4. It's amazing swinging ever got off the ground  |
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria |
Trying to find a couple where you all connect with personality and attraction is difficult, we have been lucky over the years and usually become good friends with those we have met, although in fairness most have been couples we have met at clubs or party’s than on here, usually because those we have clicked with on here live a zillion miles away lol |
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"I understand the desire to have a four way Kik convo going, but I, Chris, struggle a little with the concept -
I don’t really like getting too deep into a four way conversation on Kik, or certainly not initiating it, because I might be seen as a pushy bloke, even if it’s a very vanilla chat. It’s so much easier in a club where it’s a given that people are up for a flirt.
I think you’ll find a proper equal four way Kik conversation almost impossible personally. "
weve a whattsapp and a kik 4 way group set up, and thankfully, we all get on with the couples in each group. It's a blessing when you find a couple on your level.. |
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"I understand the desire to have a four way Kik convo going, but I, Chris, struggle a little with the concept -
I don’t really like getting too deep into a four way conversation on Kik, or certainly not initiating it, because I might be seen as a pushy bloke, even if it’s a very vanilla chat. It’s so much easier in a club where it’s a given that people are up for a flirt.
I think you’ll find a proper equal four way Kik conversation almost impossible personally. weve a whattsapp and a kik 4 way group set up, and thankfully, we all get on with the couples in each group. It's a blessing when you find a couple on your level.. "
Well we have group chats setup with people we already know from the clubs. Starting it from scratch with people you’ve not met seems like it would be very difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just wish that they had some good, clear photos of the male in a couple!
So far we have had to ask for photos, nearly every single time. They seem to be pitched towards attracting just single males,yet state they want couples?
I also find the chat is rationed ,in comparison to single male and females? |
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"We are always up for a chat x "
You'll never know until you've got past the first hurdle of chatting. Pictures and profile texts don't always give a full picture. I'll always chat. You never know what will come of it. Could be the best thing since sliced bread, you'll not know until doing so. Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have found that it isn't easy to find a couple where all four of us click. Also where everyone is free at the same time. Our free time is week day daytime, and many lovely couples are only free at weekends.
Maintaing a fun chat over a few weeks can be difficult, maybe it shouldn't be with the right couple. X |
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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago
Gapping Fanny |
I tend to do all the talking on here as the Mrs is usually doing her own thing, and ai get bored easily.
She has her own kik and will reply to messages if there is a need.
Conversation on here can be difficult, as it can slow down due to a lack of interest or connections.
I do get tired of carrying conversations though where replies are limited to single lines. |
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"We have been on Fabs a few months now and have been looking for a couple(s) for initial friendship with a view to a connection to take things further.
To be honest we didn’t think it be too hard to find a couple with a similar humour, interests or the ability to write a message with more than 5 words to it, but we have found it really really difficult.
We were just interested in what other couples experiences were with Fabs and to see if this the norm or is it just us???
A&J xx
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Like all connections the more individuals you add the more complicated it becomes. This is especially true if your individual needs become more complicated. But patience helps. |
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Always found the club scene is best for us
No false photos and nice to have a chat first to see how we all get on
If neither party is interested then nobody's time is wasted as there are always a few couples that catch the eye |
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We’ve met some lovely people & chatted on here & kik. Have also met people at clubs. Finding out if you “click” is really important.
This thread is also full of EXACTLY the kind of people we like to look for!
(Hot list MUCH large now, for the next time we’re on a naughty high & looking for playmates!).
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"We’ve met some lovely people & chatted on here & kik. Have also met people at clubs. Finding out if you “click” is really important.
This thread is also full of EXACTLY the kind of people we like to look for!
(Hot list MUCH large now, for the next time we’re on a naughty high & looking for playmates!).
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Very true re:people on this thread and hotlist |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
We thought it'd be easy to find couples as Char is totally bi and I (Bry) don't play with other girls so thought that we'd be knocking off 25% of the attraction issue. Seems there's few couples that only want to play with the F half of another couple and those that do seem to end up as the guy messaging and it going very quiet after a short while.....almost as if his other half didn't know.... |
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As many other posts above have echoed, finding four people that are all equally attracted to each other is difficult and challenging most of the time.
When it does happen though, the friendship is a lovely by product if it can happen.
We’ve met some amazing people who have become great friends.
Even been to a Fab wedding. Great feeling knowing that you’ve previously shared them in the bedroom and they trust you enough to be with their families on such a day.
We always talk with each other about prospective couples, it’s important right from the start.
Single guys, don’t lose heart, we also have several single guy friends who are respectful and good friends as well.
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Many have already said that it’s difficult to find other couples that click four ways. It seems quite often that one person from the four will be willing to ‘take one for the team’.
We’ve met and stayed friends with three other couples but obviously no new foursomes found in the last 10 months!
Be careful of chatting to a ‘couple’ only to finally realise that the lady of the couple hasn’t been actively part of the conversation. |
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"I just wish that they had some good, clear photos of the male in a couple!
So far we have had to ask for photos, nearly every single time. They seem to be pitched towards attracting just single males,yet state they want couples?
I also find the chat is rationed ,in comparison to single male and females?"
We do like to see couples profiles with photographs of both. Far too many couples seeking couples have 100’s of photos of the lady. Okay, so I think ours is short of both but that’s only because we’re currently not looking to meet up and we do normally make our first connection at clubs which are obviously currently closed. |
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It's the wrong time to judge at present as nobody is meeting.
Unfortunately, it's a brilliant time for the people who talk about meeting but never do, Covid is a godsend to them
Once things get to some form of normality try a social, club or party that way you are meeting people who make the effort to meet, not just talk about it.
I have no issue with couples or singles who wish to use the site just for chat but that's not for us.
Have fun when things get better.  |
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Finding a four way attraction & connection is really difficult. As someone already mentioned, the absence of photos of your male half can be really off-putting. For a lot of couples, us included, it feels like the element of attraction required for their own female half is at worst irrelevant, and at best an afterthought |
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"It’s very difficult to find a four way attraction. Clubs seem to be a better environment but are obviously out of bounds at the moment."
We found it difficult because of the distance. Basically, when checking the profiles, most time we see the couples from north or west coast.
Or east London, which is basically the same distance than from our place to Manchester (in the meaning of the time and not mileage) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Finding a four way attraction & connection is really difficult. As someone already mentioned, the absence of photos of your male half can be really off-putting. For a lot of couples, us included, it feels like the element of attraction required for their own female half is at worst irrelevant, and at best an afterthought "
Can also be they have jobs where being a swinger could be detrimental. We have sent face pics to cpls we are chatting to on here, but putting them on general show is a no no for us. |
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"We get messages from couples and sometimes the messages flow but usually it slows down after the initial introductions. To be honest, most of the ones that chat frequently tend to be single men pretending to be a couple or just the male half of the couple. We prefer to chat on Kik so all 4 of us can chat together and clearly see who is saying what.
You might get more responses if you have pics of your male half, some couples won’t engage if they can’t see both parties.
Lou x "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We get messages from couples and sometimes the messages flow but usually it slows down after the initial introductions. To be honest, most of the ones that chat frequently tend to be single men pretending to be a couple or just the male half of the couple. We prefer to chat on Kik so all 4 of us can chat together and clearly see who is saying what.
You might get more responses if you have pics of your male half, some couples won’t engage if they can’t see both parties.
Lou x this "
Couldn’t agree more with this!
The guys pretending to be couples is a huge annoyance! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Finding a four way attraction & connection is really difficult. As someone already mentioned, the absence of photos of your male half can be really off-putting. For a lot of couples, us included, it feels like the element of attraction required for their own female half is at worst irrelevant, and at best an afterthought
Can also be they have jobs where being a swinger could be detrimental. We have sent face pics to cpls we are chatting to on here, but putting them on general show is a no no for us. "
I'm not talking about face photos, just photos in general. It's perfectly possible to add photos without compromising one's identity |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Bump"
You keep bumping this...is there something you're expecting to hear in the replies? And the one piece of advice given that you can actually do something about you haven't taken *shrug* |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Bump
You keep bumping this...is there something you're expecting to hear in the replies? And the one piece of advice given that you can actually do something about you haven't taken *shrug*"
Not at all, we are just intrigued in different experiences. We are definitely taking on board the difference experiences and the advice. |
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