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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why is it ppl are so ignorant in the chatrooms? Every ngt I go in to say hello, introduce myself, chat to knew ppl so I get known to others in there. Usually if I am lucky after 3 hello's and ten minutes I get one hello back. I was brought up with manners and respect to others. So why are ppl so rude in the chat rooms? Is it cause I'm a single male? Do ppl think I'm gonna jump on their case just because they say hi to me? Soz for the moaning ppl but rudeness and ill-manners really iritates me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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no its because as a woman in chat you get 20+ people saying hello and trying to talk, its not a case of bad manners its a case of being hard to keep up replying to everyone
If the tables was turned and women out numbered men on here 200 to 1 and you have dozens all talking at once lets see how well you found keeping up and replying to everyone was
plus all because someones name is in the room dont mean they are sat at the pc and even if they are on cam that dont mean they are reading the room they could be in a PM or two and not see your hello
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no its because as a woman in chat you get 20+ people saying hello and trying to talk, its not a case of bad manners its a case of being hard to keep up replying to everyone
If the tables was turned and women out numbered men on here 200 to 1 and you have dozens all talking at once lets see how well you found keeping up and replying to everyone was
plus all because someones name is in the room dont mean they are sat at the pc and even if they are on cam that dont mean they are reading the room they could be in a PM or two and not see your hello
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The lady is right, I'm afraid. Chat, as in all things on here, is a patience game........Hang on in there, don't get disheartened and Stay for a couple of hours don't just pop in for 5 minutes and bugger off agian.
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its just so busy in the chatrooms at times that a simple hello can be lost in the midst of all those guys telling women to get their tits out/they want to fuck them/they have a huge cock on cam and would they like to see it.
its a wonderous and scintilating place to converse lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I often wonder why, a guy on facebook complains that nobody talks to him.I've yet to see him post on my or other ppls walls/comments.
My advice?...join in the chat, join conversations..people take notice when ur actually in conversations rather than 'Hi''Hi my name is..'-some people think the chatrooms are for chat...its not about tryin to get a meet from the outset.give it time and join in with hopefully good chat and banter(that includes havin a laugh with all sexes) |
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People arnt been ignorant when not ALL reply to a simple hello. Your hello will have been noticed but how would things progress if everybody just replyed to hello all the time each time someone new joined the room.
Chat is hard to follow in the busy rooms Specialy for the one finger look down at keyboard typers. As said in other replys to your post just join in and have some fun and banter. Stay out of the directing rooms till you get the hang of it. Ussual conversation rules don't quite apply in chat . When a single woman or even a woman from a couple is in chat and especially when there on cam for them it's like been a person at a press conference all the men and some women are jostling and shouting for there attention.
When you join in and do finely get on with someone in chat it gets better.
Good luck and remember patience is what it's all about on the site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Chatrooms are great IMHO. I love the immediacy of the banter (as much as I like the slower more considered banter in Forums) and how you can get to know people really quite well.
BUT: (there is always either a 'but' or a 'however')
A chatroom is like a pub. When you first arrive no one knows you, they are all in their own conversations and know each other. So you have to just blend in the chat , add comments (the funnier the better), try and understand the etiquette, don't be a directing fuckwit, be complimentary and just be yourself. And use the block button when necessary.
A chatroom is a great social place. Its not an instant shag factory ...
So go enjoy yourself and stop thinking being a single male is an issue it is SO not! For what its worth 90% of my meets come from chatrooms. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yet more single men moaning. I don't use the chat rooms anymore for prescisely the reason that as soon as you put cam on you get bombarded with men pming me, I think 30 plus last time, all as I tried to chat to a lady on here.
Is there a way to stop being pm'd when in chat rooms?
Advice to moaners who hate to be ignored, don't just say hello, try and join a convo in general chat etc, try and message someone through their profile, see if they want to chat. If I don't want to chat to you on fab, then why would I want to chat on cam in chat?? |
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There are a few things which help you be noticed in chatrooms.
Being on cam and showing your face (for a man) I find something a bit different like fancy dress or a cute puppy will get the ladies attention!
Having an individual font colour rather than plain text
Being upbeat and writing coherent messages (your post itself and profile are pretty poor)
Ask different questions and start interesting conversations than 'how are u', 'what are your plans today' and 'do you have matching knickers'
It may just be that when you say hello people quickly scan your profile, are not interested and decide not to lead you on by responding to a blanket 'hello room'
People become ignorant as you call them as a defence mechanism against the idiots...
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are a few things which help you be noticed in chatrooms.
Being on cam and showing your face (for a man) I find something a bit different like fancy dress or a cute puppy will get the ladies attention!
Having an individual font colour rather than plain text
Being upbeat and writing coherent messages (your post itself and profile are pretty poor)
Ask different questions and start interesting conversations than 'how are u', 'what are your plans today' and 'do you have matching knickers'
It may just be that when you say hello people quickly scan your profile, are not interested and decide not to lead you on by responding to a blanket 'hello room'
People become ignorant as you call them as a defence mechanism against the idiots...
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I second that. There should be a rule that you can only go in chat room if you have a cam on. This would out the people too hideous to show their face on cam who just wish to perv on people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yet more single men moaning. I don't use the chat rooms anymore for prescisely the reason that as soon as you put cam on you get bombarded with men pming me, I think 30 plus last time, all as I tried to chat to a lady on here.
Is there a way to stop being pm'd when in chat rooms?
Advice to moaners who hate to be ignored, don't just say hello, try and join a convo in general chat etc, try and message someone through their profile, see if they want to chat. If I don't want to chat to you on fab, then why would I want to chat on cam in chat??"
yes there is a way to stop it x
there is a little box above the room names if u click on it u can have pm's from everyone, just friends or nobody x |
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"Why is it ppl are so ignorant in the chatrooms? Every ngt I go in to say hello, introduce myself, chat to knew ppl so I get known to others in there. Usually if I am lucky after 3 hello's and ten minutes I get one hello back. I was brought up with manners and respect to others. So why are ppl so rude in the chat rooms? Is it cause I'm a single male? Do ppl think I'm gonna jump on their case just because they say hi to me? Soz for the moaning ppl but rudeness and ill-manners really iritates me "
Joined a week ago and moaning already,  |
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"Why is it ppl are so ignorant in the chatrooms? Every ngt I go in to say hello, introduce myself, chat to knew ppl so I get known to others in there. Usually if I am lucky after 3 hello's and ten minutes I get one hello back. I was brought up with manners and respect to others. So why are ppl so rude in the chat rooms? Is it cause I'm a single male? Do ppl think I'm gonna jump on their case just because they say hi to me? Soz for the moaning ppl but rudeness and ill-manners really iritates me "
Its not just chat rooms that their ignorant,messages sent and read are never answered back even to just say no thanks.Only takes 2mins to reply but that seems too hard for most on here and im finding that ur right,swingers are ignorant and rude but why i dont know.Im staying alittle longer on here and see if im proven wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The chat rooms are like a huge club/pub, with up to 180 people talking all at once, across each other and from all corners of the room.
Not a good experience and hell of a job to find your 'chat'...I now only go in to perve the cams...
Of course many love it and enjoy it, but they may only be here for the chat, so
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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago
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I second that. There should be a rule that you can only go in chat room if you have a cam on. This would out the people too hideous to show their face on cam who just wish to perv on people."
There is nothing wrong with just perving! And secondly I don't think its right to say people who are "hideous" by your standards are not welcome to cam or just chat. Maybe others think the same and are glad you don't go in the chatrooms any more for that exact reason! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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One or reasons i dont go into the chat rooms is because its is always dead busy and most of times its very "clicky" - so chat room stuff i leave to the another place |
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"an hour later and still no hello back, boo hoo lol"
"HI"
Now the next problem, what to say next.
What was that one that used to do the rounds when chats first started on the internet. Oh Yes a/s/l for those who don't remember it, it stood for age/sex/location to which my standard reply was old enough/yes please/UK
Oh I do miss the days of Excite chat (not), even if I did get a couple of meets off it.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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so many bloody whingers, I mean how dare these women and cpls ignore men they don't fancy at all who have messaged them without any regard for their profile specifications. It's an outrage and should be dealt with! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yet more single men moaning."
Well actually it was one.
"I don't use the chat rooms anymore for prescisely the reason that as soon as you put cam on you get bombarded with men pming me, I think 30 plus last time, all as I tried to chat to a lady on here.
Is there a way to stop being pm'd when in chat rooms?
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Read the room help and you wouldn't have a problem. And we get accused of not reading profiles ...?
" I second that. There should be a rule that you can only go in chat room if you have a cam on. This would out the people too hideous to show their face on cam who just wish to perv on people. "
Ah so only beautiful people can use the chatrooms. Madam: So who decides who is 'hideous'? And because I don't go on cam don't be so presumptuous as to infer I am only 'perving' on people.
"So many men believe they have a right to be spoken to by women and cpls, it is just their right. The post by this chap in here is very revealing as to what sort of man he must be to meet. Would a woman meet him now? even if he had decent pics and something other than non descript profile? I wouldn't, I prefer men who have a bit about them, who are not cranky about this site because they may just be on for some fun and extra sex, like me, not because it's plugging a yawning chasm in their lives."
I can't speak for the OP but I find this comment particularly offensive. You make bland assumptions about blokes attitudes based on one OP. You then go on to rubbish the man personally and alledge he has problems in his personal life.
More than a tad out of order IMHO. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh if only single men on heer took as much effort to create likeable profiles, pics and chat room techniques rather than moaning, then defending the moaners etc you'd all do a lot lot better. Thankfully there are some lovely men and women who do make the effort, thank god. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no its because as a woman in chat you get 20+ people saying hello and trying to talk, its not a case of bad manners its a case of being hard to keep up replying to everyone
If the tables was turned and women out numbered men on here 200 to 1 and you have dozens all talking at once lets see how well you found keeping up and replying to everyone was
plus all because someones name is in the room dont mean they are sat at the pc and even if they are on cam that dont mean they are reading the room they could be in a PM or two and not see your hello
Plus if Im on cam Im usually teasing so dont always read as it stops me teasing
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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For those who mentioned the drop down bar on the right, I have ticked 2 be msg'd or poked by anyone. No I did not give up after one hour, I was actually on the other ngt for 3, yes 3 hrs and did try on a few attempts to join in a few conversations.I am usually on for at least 2 hrs every ngt. I ALWAYS put my cam on so anyone can see me. I do not just say hi or hello or try to chat only to single women or cpls but to everyone. And so my profile is a bit basic? Did it ever cross ur mind that I am still learning here? And as for "ugly" ppl? That was a disgusting thing to say.. If ur so perfect y r u here?? |
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I would suggest that you actually show up for a social or other organised event, that way you start to build up a bank of people that know you, so that when you come into the room they recognise your name and are more likely to respond, |
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".. If ur so perfect y r u here?? "
So don't you think perfect people can be swingers??  . Oh dear....
I'm sure nobody would claim to be perfect, but we're certainly not all fucked up or missing something, we just enjoy great sex.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have to come to learn that alot of single males use this site for the following reason.
They cannot obtain Sex in the normal way in which society dictates OR They cannot form relationships in the normal way in which society dictates.
But rather than go and see a Prostitute and give some more disadvantaged woman abuse for £ X amount a time they come in here giving them abuse thinking that they are up for it.....
Women like Men do not really fancy every person there eyes catch it just doesnt work that way and Women especially do not like to be objectified by Single Males who come in here treating them likes Sex Robots on a Shelf waiting to be used by them...
All of the above still goes on!
Regards Mark of Mark and Jayne
Ps, Rise above everything be different and better than your peer's and other competitors and you might stand a chance! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" We have to come to learn that alot of single males use this site for the following reason.
They cannot obtain Sex in the normal way in which society dictates OR They cannot form relationships in the normal way in which society dictates.
But rather than go and see a Prostitute and give some more disadvantaged woman abuse for £ X amount a time they come in here giving them abuse thinking that they are up for it.....
Women like Men do not really fancy every person there eyes catch it just doesnt work that way and Women especially do not like to be objectified by Single Males who come in here treating them likes Sex Robots on a Shelf waiting to be used by them...
All of the above still goes on!
Regards Mark of Mark and Jayne
Ps, Rise above everything be different and better than your peer's and other competitors and you might stand a chance! "
Can I just say I find your comments totally irrelevant to the OP and the Thread as it has developed.
I do defend your right to have any preference you like in your profile (which includes no single males) but I find your summary judgment about people like me on this site ill founded, in very poor taste and personally offensive and I hope a Mod will see your post for what it is.
And you have just proved my reasons for blocking you in the chatrooms some weeks ago was very well founded indeed! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have to come to learn that alot of single males use this site for the following reason.
They cannot obtain Sex in the normal way in which society dictates OR They cannot form relationships in the normal way in which society dictates.
But rather than go and see a Prostitute and give some more disadvantaged woman abuse for £ X amount a time they come in here giving them abuse thinking that they are up for it.....
Women like Men do not really fancy every person there eyes catch it just doesnt work that way and Women especially do not like to be objectified by Single Males who come in here treating them likes Sex Robots on a Shelf waiting to be used by them...
All of the above still goes on!
Regards Mark of Mark and Jayne
Ps, Rise above everything be different and better than your peer's and other competitors and you might stand a chance!"
Hi MARK
Im somewhat confused about your reply - from which do i gather that YOU are only here because JAYNE no longer fucks and you need to USE women for your satisfaction ?
Only that how it looks to me; because im pretty darn sure you not on the SEX DATING SWINGERS site to play chess are you ?
People whether single or attached use this site for a variety of reasons and the most common ones being they are oversexed - please do not assume all on here are horrid nasty people the way you present them
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By (user no longer on site)
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Agrees with the 2 aboves comments!! The word sanctimonious comes to mind!! Can't get sex in the normal world, don't want to pay prostitutes?? Fuck me does Jayne do you up the arse with the daily mail?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have to come to learn that alot of single males use this site for the following reason.
They cannot obtain Sex in the normal way in which society dictates OR They cannot form relationships in the normal way in which society dictates.
But rather than go and see a Prostitute and give some more disadvantaged woman abuse for £ X amount a time they come in here giving them abuse thinking that they are up for it.....
Women like Men do not really fancy every person there eyes catch it just doesnt work that way and Women especially do not like to be objectified by Single Males who come in here treating them likes Sex Robots on a Shelf waiting to be used by them...
All of the above still goes on!
Regards Mark of Mark and Jayne
Ps, Rise above everything be different and better than your peer's and other competitors and you might stand a chance!"
Well said fellow Coventrians (I moved away for love lol) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP i find the same as a female when i go for a wonder into other rooms. Its a new bunch of people who are already having conversations with established friends.
I find if i don't have my cam on i'm near invisible, soon as it goes on i'm more approachable and people speak to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A cam on does imply a certain willingness to be part of a chat I find, nothing to hide, not just perving, but willing to show your smile etc. It is a bit disconcerting to always see wanking going on lol, although there are some beautiful men with nice looking cocks so it ain't all bad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try and say hi to all fems or couples who come into any room I'm in, don't to the guys (unless bantered with them before) as I'm straight and can give off the wrong impression, sometimes people don't put on cams for various reasons too, lough rough, kids about, not gonna be on long etc |
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We have to come to learn that alot of single males use this site for the following reason.
They cannot obtain Sex in the normal way in which society dictates OR They cannot form relationships in the normal way in which society dictates.
But rather than go and see a Prostitute and give some more disadvantaged woman abuse for £ X amount a time they come in here giving them abuse thinking that they are up for it.....
Women like Men do not really fancy every person there eyes catch it just doesnt work that way and Women especially do not like to be objectified by Single Males who come in here treating them likes Sex Robots on a Shelf waiting to be used by them...
All of the above still goes on!
Regards Mark of Mark and Jayne
Ps, Rise above everything be different and better than your peer's and other competitors and you might stand a chance!"
I have painstakingly analysed this post and may I suggest that you moderate the severity of the querulous and begrudging nature of your crux idée fixe, lest it lax your fingertip grip on reality and send you plunging into an abyss of irreversible lunacy.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" We have to come to learn that alot of single males use this site for the following reason.
They cannot obtain Sex in the normal way in which society dictates OR They cannot form relationships in the normal way in which society dictates.
But rather than go and see a Prostitute and give some more disadvantaged woman abuse for £ X amount a time they come in here giving them abuse thinking that they are up for it.....
Women like Men do not really fancy every person there eyes catch it just doesnt work that way and Women especially do not like to be objectified by Single Males who come in here treating them likes Sex Robots on a Shelf waiting to be used by them...
All of the above still goes on!
Regards Mark of Mark and Jayne
Ps, Rise above everything be different and better than your peer's and other competitors and you might stand a chance!
Can I just say I find your comments totally irrelevant to the OP and the Thread as it has developed.
I do defend your right to have any preference you like in your profile (which includes no single males) but I find your summary judgment about people like me on this site ill founded, in very poor taste and personally offensive and I hope a Mod will see your post for what it is.
And you have just proved my reasons for blocking you in the chatrooms some weeks ago was very well founded indeed!"
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By (user no longer on site)
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People are entitle to use the chat rooms for whatever they see fit...if thats "perving" so be it...there is a little thing called a block button if you find anyones behaviour so abhorrent. That said if a couple of the posters on here were to use their block buttons for anyone who didn't match up to their ideal of what people should be like in a chat room they would end up sitting there talking to themselves. Personally i like watching the chat go by, but don't always feel the need to join in, despite the fact that i have a number of friends in chat. I sometimes have my cam on, sometimes i don't. And i couldn;'t give two hoots if someone thinks im hideous, ugly, or ignorant! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think Fab needs a new rule...
You post a complaining thread about not being offered a fuck or messages back from every message you send then the Fab Police come round and give you a rogering up the arse with a cactus and chop your internet cable in 2.
People really need to sit back and think things through and look at things from other people point of view and try and work out why you don't get instant attention before hitting the keyboard about the whole injustice you're suffering through everyone elses ignorance
Men on here for the most part "in my opinion" are desperate for sex with any woman they can lay their grubby little hands on while out numbering women by over 100 to 1 in many locations.
Women get bombarded by messages every single step they take on this site and saying it only takes 2 mins to reply back saying thanks but no thanks isn't an option with 200 messages waiting for you in the inbox, that's a lot of 2 minutes, and jesus, when men see women online the messages go through the roof, if it wasn't bad enough already.
So as a single guy you need to be extreamly attractive, funny and or interesting and catch the right woman at the right time to get a message back, and just saying you're available for sex WILL NOT GET YOU ANYWHERE.
Also in the chat, do people not consider the chance that the women might be having 60 odd private messages flying at them every 30 seconds and bombarded with chat invites from guys begging them to view their cam as they cum their pants wanking.
Wake up guys and please stop bitching and moaning if you don't get instant attention as for many of you will never get a message back never mind a shag.
Fab Police are watching you
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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If I was a single male reading this thread I would be very offended by all the generalisations and downright insults.
Please , if you are going to post, do it with respect for other posters, no matter what gender they are.  |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"Why is it ppl are so ignorant in the chatrooms? Every ngt I go in to say hello, introduce myself, chat to knew ppl so I get known to others in there. Usually if I am lucky after 3 hello's and ten minutes I get one hello back. I was brought up with manners and respect to others. So why are ppl so rude in the chat rooms? Is it cause I'm a single male? Do ppl think I'm gonna jump on their case just because they say hi to me? Soz for the moaning ppl but rudeness and ill-manners really iritates me "
What you have to realise in any chat room is the chat normally moves very fast, so "hello's" get missed. After you have said hello and it does get missed, just butt into conversations (not forgetting to put the name of the person you are speaking to at the beginning of the sentance) and everntually if what you are saying is interesting to someone then you will get answers.
Yes, as you can see from just this thread alone, some people don't think much of single men so don't even bother speaking at all to them, but the rest of us are quite happy to actually chat in chat rooms with people who join in.
You just have to not be a wallflower as no one will notice you.
Good luck for next time, stay happy, no moaning that no one is not talking and type lots, you might find it fun in the end |
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"Why is it ppl are so ignorant in the chatrooms? Every ngt I go in to say hello, introduce myself, chat to knew ppl so I get known to others in there. Usually if I am lucky after 3 hello's and ten minutes I get one hello back. I was brought up with manners and respect to others. So why are ppl so rude in the chat rooms? Is it cause I'm a single male? Do ppl think I'm gonna jump on their case just because they say hi to me? Soz for the moaning ppl but rudeness and ill-manners really iritates me
What you have to realise in any chat room is the chat normally moves very fast, so "hello's" get missed. After you have said hello and it does get missed, just butt into conversations (not forgetting to put the name of the person you are speaking to at the beginning of the sentance) and everntually if what you are saying is interesting to someone then you will get answers.
Yes, as you can see from just this thread alone, some people don't think much of single men so don't even bother speaking at all to them, but the rest of us are quite happy to actually chat in chat rooms with people who join in.
You just have to not be a wallflower as no one will notice you.
Good luck for next time, stay happy, no moaning that no one is not talking and type lots, you might find it fun in the end "
Then again he might not..... |
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As ive not been on here long,ive found alot of swingers seem to think they can offend others just cos their turning them down and its alittle bigheaded of them thinking their so great until it happens to them.Just say thanks but no thanks and that would be good enough for who ever. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just say thanks but no thanks and that would be good enough for who ever."
Oh if only that were the case
but that's another tale for another thread repeated a billion trillion times over on here...
Anyway, I find the chatrooms very inclusive. I understand this is probably largely down to me having a set of boobies however I don't often see people being outright ignored and often I see new people coming in and becoming part of the gang, Scotland swingers is in my opinion a very inclusive room for those who have something interesting to say and aren't just trying to direct in all capital letters or sleazing on every girl in the room. When I'm on cam (same as every other female) I get many guys saying hello to me and if the room is full I am bound to miss some but I do always try to acknowledge. I may stop doing this even because I know it halts the enjoyment of the room to see one persons name again and again and the same stupid questions being asked ("where u from babe" - don't ask me anything that is on my profile please!).
Basically we are all on there to speak to interesting people so just make yourself interesting and before you know it you'll make pals! |
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"Why is it ppl are so ignorant in the chatrooms? Every ngt I go in to say hello, introduce myself, chat to knew ppl so I get known to others in there. Usually if I am lucky after 3 hello's and ten minutes I get one hello back. I was brought up with manners and respect to others. So why are ppl so rude in the chat rooms? Is it cause I'm a single male? Do ppl think I'm gonna jump on their case just because they say hi to me? Soz for the moaning ppl but rudeness and ill-manners really iritates me
What you have to realise in any chat room is the chat normally moves very fast, so "hello's" get missed. After you have said hello and it does get missed, just butt into conversations (not forgetting to put the name of the person you are speaking to at the beginning of the sentance) and everntually if what you are saying is interesting to someone then you will get answers.
Yes, as you can see from just this thread alone, some people don't think much of single men so don't even bother speaking at all to them, but the rest of us are quite happy to actually chat in chat rooms with people who join in.
You just have to not be a wallflower as no one will notice you.
Good luck for next time, stay happy, no moaning that no one is not talking and type lots, you might find it fun in the end "
have no problem talking to anyone in chat rooms, its just very difficult to find a conversation going on that isnt revolved around a pack of animals circling a lone female. |
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have no problem talking to anyone in chat rooms, its just very difficult to find a conversation going on that isnt revolved around a pack of animals circling a lone female."
There are lots of men about who will chat...the ones who like to appreciate women on cam and say so can easily be blocked if it isn't someones thing |
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I don't like the chatrooms at all and I find that it is difficult to get involved in the conversations.
If I put my cam on and sat topless I'm sure I'd get responses, but as I don't then I don't get replied to either. I can never be arsed with it and prefer the forums anyway |
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I'm glad some people have some constructive criticism.
I also think the OP's 'moan' was very BADLY overreacted to.
The OP's final response wasn't very good..but when a barrage of generalizations and insults come previous, I believe it can be hard to think and say the right thing.
This is why, the forums are annoying me despite being a great part of FAB, but the keyboard warriorness of some of the threads appear to have only one agenda, getting a rise out of people.I offended some a few days ago by saying they appeared to be acting like fuckwits from their behavior..maybe I should downgrade my responses this time. |
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"no its because as a woman in chat you get 20+ people saying hello and trying to talk, its not a case of bad manners its a case of being hard to keep up replying to everyone
If the tables was turned and women out numbered men on here 200 to 1 and you have dozens all talking at once lets see how well you found keeping up and replying to everyone was
plus all because someones name is in the room dont mean they are sat at the pc and even if they are on cam that dont mean they are reading the room they could be in a PM or two and not see your hello
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id listen to this woman.
if youve every seen her on cam youd know shes worn out more living room carpets than a spotty teenage salesman at allied.
makes you go
stuff the burns. |
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We have noticed when nik goes on cam with her clothes on people are none stop asking her things.as soon as th clothes come off,people dont say anything to her.apart from the odd "can I join you" if you said yeah they sudenly shut up |
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"We have noticed when nik goes on cam with her clothes on people are none stop asking her things.as soon as th clothes come off,people dont say anything to her.apart from the odd "can I join you" if you said yeah they sudenly shut up "
its hard to type back when uve just spent ur load tho |
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"We have noticed when nik goes on cam with her clothes on people are none stop asking her things.as soon as th clothes come off,people dont say anything to her.apart from the odd "can I join you" if you said yeah they sudenly shut up
its hard to type back when uve just spent ur load tho"
yeah, most of them have just stuck the keys on their computer lol |
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"We have noticed when nik goes on cam with her clothes on people are none stop asking her things.as soon as th clothes come off,people dont say anything to her.apart from the odd "can I join you" if you said yeah they sudenly shut up
its hard to type back when uve just spent ur load tho
yeah, most of them have just stuck the keys on their computer lol"
Ive an external keyboard to my lappy...are u insinuating something??????????!!!!????? |
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"I don't like the chatrooms at all and I find that it is difficult to get involved in the conversations.
If I put my cam on and sat topless I'm sure I'd get responses, but as I don't then I don't get replied to either. I can never be arsed with it and prefer the forums anyway "
Yeh agree. I tend to find no one wants to chat they all just wanna look at cams. So even us fems get ignored too unless sitting with our tits hanging out x |
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"I don't like the chatrooms at all and I find that it is difficult to get involved in the conversations.
If I put my cam on and sat topless I'm sure I'd get responses, but as I don't then I don't get replied to either. I can never be arsed with it and prefer the forums anyway
Yeh agree. I tend to find no one wants to chat they all just wanna look at cams. So even us fems get ignored too unless sitting with our tits hanging out x"
geez a ride of those diddies |
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Its not just single men that gets ignored. We are fairly new to the chat rooms and if we say hello we don't always get an answer.
Many in the rooms have got to know each other, holding conversations and like in a pub, its bad manners to just butt in.
If we put our cam on, we sometimes get people chatting to us,mainly if Hels is on.However if Hels gets her boobs out, or starts on me, we get loads of people wanting to be our best mates 99% single guys.
we dont mind this at all, as we except that until we get to know regulars in chat, we might not always be involved in the room.
Until then, we will keep going in, chatting as much as we can and try and make new friends |
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I never had any problem in the chat room. Just go there when you are bored. Say hello. And just jump in any conversation not just with the girls. In fact try to talk with guys there and some ladies will join in also. Cam???? There is no point looking at them as some people are so ugly that you wonder whtf they are doing on the cam |
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"I don't like the chatrooms at all and I find that it is difficult to get involved in the conversations.
If I put my cam on and sat topless I'm sure I'd get responses, but as I don't then I don't get replied to either. I can never be arsed with it and prefer the forums anyway
Yeh agree. I tend to find no one wants to chat they all just wanna look at cams. So even us fems get ignored too unless sitting with our tits hanging out x
geez a ride of those diddies"
Anytime big boy))))
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"no its because as a woman in chat you get 20+ people saying hello and trying to talk, its not a case of bad manners its a case of being hard to keep up replying to everyone
If the tables was turned and women out numbered men on here 200 to 1 and you have dozens all talking at once lets see how well you found keeping up and replying to everyone was
plus all because someones name is in the room dont mean they are sat at the pc and even if they are on cam that dont mean they are reading the room they could be in a PM or two and not see your hello
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That's why I gave up trying to use the chat rooms |
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"There are a few things which help you be noticed in chatrooms.
Being on cam and showing your face (for a man) I find something a bit different like fancy dress or a cute puppy will get the ladies attention!
Having an individual font colour rather than plain text
Being upbeat and writing coherent messages (your post itself and profile are pretty poor)
Ask different questions and start interesting conversations than 'how are u', 'what are your plans today' and 'do you have matching knickers'
It may just be that when you say hello people quickly scan your profile, are not interested and decide not to lead you on by responding to a blanket 'hello room'
People become ignorant as you call them as a defence mechanism against the idiots...
I second that. There should be a rule that you can only go in chat room if you have a cam on. This would out the people too hideous to show their face on cam who just wish to perv on people."
But if i went on Cam it would just scare everyone off the room and they would never return. Better that im your fantasy male perving unseen. |
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That's why I gave up trying to use the chat rooms"
Well that is always a shame when people feel like something isn't worth the effort. And speaking as a regular 'chatter' its our loss in your case.
Reading this Thread (which has moved on somewhat from the OP but thats OK) can I suggest people avoid the Directing rooms for their first few visits and try your 'local' room?
Firstly non-directing rooms tend not to attract the sort of single guy who is just in for a wank and the ones that home in like a laser beam on the first available bit of nakedness. And dthen proceed to trot out waht is just brainless crap at whoever's turn it is. While they may have every right to be on the site they are not Swingers IMHO.
Which is sad because genuine people do go into Directing Rooms and the crap can overpower the real chat. Non-Directing rooms are a bit slower, more personal and people seem to respect each other more. So again I say avoid the directing rooms until you have meore confidence in chatroom ways. |
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That's why I gave up trying to use the chat rooms
Well that is always a shame when people feel like something isn't worth the effort. And speaking as a regular 'chatter' its our loss in your case.
Reading this Thread (which has moved on somewhat from the OP but thats OK) can I suggest people avoid the Directing rooms for their first few visits and try your 'local' room?
Firstly non-directing rooms tend not to attract the sort of single guy who is just in for a wank and the ones that home in like a laser beam on the first available bit of nakedness. And dthen proceed to trot out waht is just brainless crap at whoever's turn it is. While they may have every right to be on the site they are not Swingers IMHO.
Which is sad because genuine people do go into Directing Rooms and the crap can overpower the real chat. Non-Directing rooms are a bit slower, more personal and people seem to respect each other more. So again I say avoid the directing rooms until you have meore confidence in chatroom ways."
I second this. Another Golden rule should be that if you put your cam on, don't, whatever you do, have it on your cock. Wank if you like, but be seruptitious about it.
From personal experience and from what the ladies have said in the rooms, no one looks at cock strokers and no one talks to them. Don't ever do it if you want to be noticed (people do remember, you know).
To the guy who felt he was too ugly to show his face on cam, u'd be suprised. Everyone would rather talk to an ugly decent bloke than a gorgeous idiot. Besides, I bet you aren't as bad as you think you are, we are our own worst critics and rarely the most accurate in our opinions. Let other people make the decision, I guarantee you will have better luck.
Treat the Chat Rooms like your local pub. Go in for a couple of hours a night, say hello to people. I disagree with the comment not to ask peole how they are, it's a very easy way to start a convo and perhaps the first time you say it ull be ignored, but after a fortnight or so people will ask you back.
Say hello to people who say 'hello room' or whatever. this shows that you are willing to engage and they may be in exactly the same boat as you are.
Don't ignore the men to speak to women only, remember, it's like a pub, it's possible to pull in pairs and it's not a competition to cop off tonight.......
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"I don't like the chatrooms at all and I find that it is difficult to get involved in the conversations.
If I put my cam on and sat topless I'm sure I'd get responses, but as I don't then I don't get replied to either. I can never be arsed with it and prefer the forums anyway
Yeh agree. I tend to find no one wants to chat they all just wanna look at cams. So even us fems get ignored too unless sitting with our tits hanging out x"
You've been going into the wrong chat rooms, a pretty face will always get more conversation from me than a pair of tits. Once u have seen one pair............ |
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l wasn't actually defending the OP l was criticising your comments because you seemed to be talking increasingly out of your avatar. 
